Being invisible isn’t always about being alone. Sometimes it’s about being around people who never really see you. What happens when nobody asks how you are?
This episode dives into the kind of loneliness that hides in plain sight; when you’re surrounded by people but still feel invisible. Through real stories from Reddit, we explore how neglect, silence, and emotional invisibility shape people with BPD, and why being unseen can hurt more than being left.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Intro
01:02 None of my friends checked up on me.. https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/hdfqfi/none_of_my_friends_checked_up_on_me/
05:17 I don’t think anyone sees me, it makes me feel lost. https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/1374g8c/i_dont_think_anyone_sees_me_it_makes_me_feel_lost/
05:56 Everyone always leaves. https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/1gq22rz/everyone_always_leaves/
08:23 Can you survive BPD without a support system https://www.reddit.com/r/BorderlinePDisorder/comments/1irwxyz/can_you_survive_bpd_without_a_support_system/
12:58 You CAN support someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) in a healthy way. https://www.reddit.com/r/BorderlinePDisorder/comments/a717fp/you_can_support_someone_with_borderline/
Why do we push people away when we’re desperate not to be alone? This episode dives into the cycle of self-isolation in BPD; the shame, the spiral, and the crushing silence that follows. From Reddit confessions about ghosting friends to the raw loneliness of living with BPD as a man, we talk about what it means to retreat into yourself and how damn hard it is to find a way back out.
If you’ve ever locked yourself in your room and hated yourself for it, this one’s for you.
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Intro
00:56 Is it common for BPD people to isolate themselves?
09:22 Sinking into absolute isolation
16:34 Why do people with BPD self isolate?
22:54 The Lonely Reality of BPD as a Man
Borderline doesn’t come out of nowhere. It’s shaped, often in childhood, by sensitivity, unmet needs, and the wrong lessons learned too early. In this episode, I read stories from people reflecting on how their upbringing carved paths straight into borderline patterns. Not every wound was intentional, but every wound left a mark.
This is an important topic, and it's not about blame, but understanding where the cracks start, and why they run so deep.
Join the conversation at r/bpdbitchespod
TIMESTAMPS:
01:18 I have BPD because of the emotional neglect I suffered as a child
07:03 Signs of BPD as a young child
15:22 What was it in your childhood that triggered you BPD?18:26 In what ways have your family caused/contributed to your bpd
23:40 Should we have children?
30:05 is childhood loneliness common in ppl w/ bpd?
This one’s about love, the stories we tell ourselves and the ones other people tell about us.
Many questions arise: Are we the red flags, or do we just keep falling for them? Is it wise to generalize an entire group of people based on individuals? What do you need in a partner? And most importantly and productively: What kind of partner do YOU want to be?
It’s a shorter episode than usual (life is life-ing), but this is a topic we can come back to. Because love is complicated, and the way we show up in it matters — no matter if a diagnoses is in the mix.
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Timestamps:
00:48 Are relationships possible?
04:39 what I want in a relationship
12:02 People with BPD should fix themselves first before going to dating market, your partner isn’t your unpaid psychiatrist
22:44 Will we find healthy love?
This week's theme is loneliness. Let’s talk about the quiet ways we push people away, cut them off, or shut down before they get the chance to leave us first.
We’ll also look at the other side: what it’s like when people take space from us — because of the disorder, because we fucked up or because they don’t know how to stay.
What can we do to show up better for ourselves, and for those we love?Join the reflection on loss, loneliness and the tension between wanting closeness and fearing it, at r/bpdbitchespod.
Timestamps:
00:37 bpd/c-ptsd, I can't feel close to anyone
06:28 Why does it feel like BPD people wait until the worst possible times to have an episode?
12:29 coping with loneliness
17:19 Crippling loneliness and BPD
23:36 Have you ever lost a friend because of your mental health?
27:27 Self-discovery: a lack of emotional connection resulting in BPD behavior
In this episode we dive into the intense, confusing flips in how we see other people and ourselves. It’s not just black-and-white thinking — it’s a struggle to know what’s real when your perception keeps switching. We break down this brutal experience honestly and talk about owning our actions, even when the line between truth and confusion blurs.
Join the conversation at r/bpdbitchespod.
Timestamps:
00:40 How Often Do Borderlines Split? / Discussion about BPD Splitting
08:22 Is 'splitting' specific/unique only to BPD?
09:28 how does splitting look for those of you with quiet bpd?
13:12 what takes you out of a split?
24:16 My guide to splitting
28:22 Have you even been physically abused/attacked by a BPD woman during a splitting episode?
This one’s heavy. We’re getting into the messy space between pain and behavior—the times we lash out, beg for closeness, or lose control, and then wonder: was that manipulation… or was I just hurting?
I read posts that don’t sugarcoat the damage BPD can cause—to others and to ourselves—and talk honestly about what it means to take responsibility without drowning in shame.
Featuring 🛋️ Validation Station, 🔥 Hot Take of the Week, and a lot of spiraling thoughts about adulthood, accountability, and why “it’s not your fault” isn’t the same as “you don’t have to deal with it.”
Trigger warnings are very much in effect, but so is compassion.
Join the reckoning (and the support) at r/bpdbitchespod.
Timestamps:
01:03 Is it emotional manipulation If I truly believed it in the moment?
09:10 People that don’t have BPD have no clue how painful this disorder is
24:45 Girlfriend w/ BPD
Welcome to the first official episode of BPD Bitches—where we talk about what it’s like to reach out for help and feel like no one wants to catch you.
This week, we dig into what happens when therapy isn’t built for people like us. From being dismissed or misunderstood, to working with therapists who are doing their best with no real roadmap for BPD, we unpack the layers of pain that come from trying to heal in a system that’s not designed for us.
Featuring our weekly segments:
🛋️ Validation Station – because your experience makes sense, even if no one told you that.
🔥 Hot Take of the Week – therapy isn’t always the safe space it’s advertised to be.
If you’ve ever walked out of a session feeling worse than when you walked in, this one’s for you. Join the conversation on r/bpdbitchespod.
Timestamps:
00:35 Therapist refuses to diagnose me
10:22 My therapist says that my uBPD mom did the best she could with what she knew at the time. I feel conflicted.
16:22 ChatGPT has helped me more than 15 years of therapy. No joke.
Welcome to BPD Bitches—a podcast about what it’s actually like to live with borderline personality disorder, hosted by someone who’s deep in it and not pretending otherwise.
What's the show about? Reading the wildest, most painfully relatable BPD posts from Reddit, spiraling out loud, and trying to find meaning in the mess. It’s honest, raw, sometimes funny, sometimes devastating—but always real.
Stick around for the weekly segments:
🛋️ Validation Station – because yeah, your meltdown made sense.
🔥 Hot Take of the Week – because someone has to say what we’re all thinking.
If you’ve ever felt too much, not enough, or like no one gets it—you're not alone. Subscribe and submit your shit to the community at r/bpdbitchespod.
