Two times a week and still unhappy? We unpack a Reddit case where a husband pushes porn “training,” demands replies while she’s with their kid, and even threatens to find someone else. We explain why that nukes trust and desire—and what actually builds a great sex life: enthusiasm, not obligation. You’ll learn how porn scripts sabotage connection, how to get her out of “mom mode,” why taking stress off her plate matters, and how to express desire for her (not just sex). We offer clean, practical scripts, a simple foreplay framework, and a quick detox plan if porn is dulling your attraction. Plus: intensity vs. frequency, why threats are relationship napalm, and how to turn “meh” encounters into memorable experiences—for both of you.⸻Timestamps (approx.)0:00 Cold open: Men’s “3 vs 6” pleasure idea2:10 The Reddit scenario & the giant red flags6:00 Why porn-based demands destroy desire9:40 Enthusiasm is greater than obligation (what men actually want)12:30 Getting her out of mom mode (stress & setup)15:10 Desire for her vs. “I need sex”18:00 Texting that seduces (not spams)21:00 Intensity beats frequency (experience over quota)24:30 If porn is the driver: detox & re-sensitize27:00 The “threat to cheat” = trust killer30:00 Practical scripts + weekly intimacy ritual34:00 When to seek help / when to walk away36:30 Wrap & takeaways