In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the importance of moving away from a goal-oriented, all-or-nothing approach to sex. She explains how this mindset can be a barrier for partners with "reactive" desire, and offers alternative metaphors like viewing sex as a playground or a tapas bar, where the focus is on enjoyment and exploration rather than completion. Jessa emphasizes that this shift can help reduce the pressure and improve intimacy within relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:49 The All-or-Nothing Approach to Sex
03:36 Changing the Perspective: Metaphors for Better Intimacy
05:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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