In this insightful episode of Becoming Sound, Krista Zaft sits down with psychologist Vanessa Iceton to explore the deep, layered work of healing from grief, childhood wounds, and emotional dysregulation. Vanessa shares her journey into psychology and how a desire to help others evolved into a career focused on nervous system healing, inner child work, and self-empowerment. Together, they unpack the many faces of grief—beyond death—and explore how lost dreams, unmet needs, and emotional pain from childhood can quietly shape our adult lives.

This raw and real conversation touches on nervous system regulation, the power of mindfulness, how to know when you're ready for therapy, and why self-responsibility isn’t about blame—it’s about freedom. If you've ever struggled with emotions you can’t quite name, or feel like you're carrying grief that doesn't “make sense,” this one’s for you.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Vanessa’s entry into psychology stemmed from a deep desire to support others through their pain.
• Grief isn’t just about death—it includes lost hopes, childhood unmet needs, and unlived versions of ourselves.
• Owning your mistakes and taking responsibility is a powerful form of self-leadership.
• Your nervous system plays a critical role in how you process emotions, triggers, and stress.
• The body stores unresolved emotional pain—and it can show up as physical symptoms.
• Inner child work helps us reconnect with core wounds and unmet needs with compassion.
• Mindfulness isn’t about being calm all the time—it’s about being aware and present.

- And so much more!

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Connect with Vanessa:

🔗 Website: https://pearlpsychological.com/

🔗 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pearlpsychological/

🔗 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-iceton-468a6432/?originalSubdomain=ca

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Please Note: The views, information and opinions expressed during the Becoming Sound podcast series are solely those of the individuals involved. The content of this podcast is to educate, inform and for entertainment purposes only. This podcast series  and the content presented does not constitute for medical or other professional advice or services. If you are in crisis or in need of help, please contact your medical or professional provider.