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Welcome back I'm so excited that you're here this season I'm posing some questions to you throughout my podcast and I'm excited to ask this question because well let me ask it who are you trying to please

Who are you trying to please?

This is a question that I ask because it is part of beautification rituals that I teach to my wellness clients.

And the reason it's part of beautification rituals is that if you are trying to please people, you are doing harm to your beauty.

When we try to please people, it puts us in a subservient role, even in the smallest of ways.

Sometimes pleasing people can come out of a love.

You know, you see what needs to happen and you want to make someone happy.

You know, that's beautiful actually. That's quite, quite beautiful.

Is it easier to please others than assert yourself?

If it is a part of your being where you it's easier to please people than to assert yourself, that is hindering your own personal development which isn't that's not pretty, right? That's tough. That's hard for you to carry on and I share this because I have been a people pleaser for a really long time and in all honesty I think I just aged out of it. I do a lot of self-love work… a lot of personal development work. So I may have developed out of it like I may have done the work. But honestly, there was actually a day, I can't tell you what day it was, but it was back in the fall where I was just like you know what?

I don't do this anymore.

I don't try to please people anymore.

It's just I've grown out of it.

I can't do it anymore.

I respectfully acknowledge that you may want something.

But if I'm not able to give it to you I'm not going to go out of my way to cause harm to myself to please another person.

I'm not going to hinder that no matter your stature or no matter your place in the hierarchical situation because I guess the reality is I don't see a hierarchy with anyone anymore. I am just as important as anyone on this planet and I really feel that way. Sometimes I'm in the presence of others who don't agree with me

How do make it known that they might see me in a different light than I see myself and the thing about that is I can respectfully interact with that person but it is just not true. I don't live within their framework of reality so that's on them to sort out I'm not here to please anyone in a way that, whatever their standards are… I don't know what they are I don't have any awareness of that. What I do know is that I am a part of whatever I want to be a part of I can hold a conversation with individuals of any standard and I know that I can relate to them on some level.

I can even relate to them in understanding how they might feel that my place is lesser than them I can relate to that I can understand it and I can let them know what's actually happening and help them come to a place of recognition.

Personal Development vs. Aging

So, all of this has come about over years of personal development, aging, and honestly I think it has more to do with age than personal development.

Personal development is definitely a wonderful gift, but like a therapeutic tool, sometimes you can go around and around until you actually simply develop out of whatever it is that you are developing so maybe I did do it through personal development but I honestly think I did wake up one day and just thought you know what I don't do this anymore I'm not gonna be

I've worked for other people.

I'm currently an entrepreneur and I think that offers a lot of confidence in who I am as well.

I think when you really have to put yourself out there to earn a living, you completely change the game on your personal development because

You have to relate to other people of all different backgrounds if you have a public business you are relating to many people different backgrounds and it's so fun I love it. I wanted to put out there in this question if you are interested in becoming an entrepreneur and you don't even know where to start maybe you've tried in the past and it just didn't work I want to tell you that I do part of my business is around network marketing.

I love it it's it's part of any entrepreneurial business honestly to network and market within your network so if that is something that you're interested in learning more about I would love to share this with you so you can beautify from the inside out.

It's amazing so if you're interested in that kind of stewardship for your business if you have a small business like I have an online business and I do this other business.

So if you're interested in that, let me know.

You can message me on Instagram. My handle is @beautifyfaceyoga.

Angela Rosoff holds certifications in yoga, face yoga, and Ayurveda Digestive Health. Holistic support for women is her focus. She is also a content creator for local and international media outlets and has been featured in the Sun.uk, Sun.us, and The New York Post. Angela teaches weekly yoga and face yoga classes, as well has hosts online courses to help women and yoga teachers beautify from the inside out! As a Healthstyle Emporium Wellness Coach, Angela shares an affordable way to work 1:1 to bring more health into the world. Check out her website: Beautify Face Yoga to learn more!

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