Digging into this quote from Brene Brown today, especially some specific ways being unclear with others and ourselves is unkind.
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Last week, we talked about three things the nervous system needs to feel safe, and this week, I'm briefly explaining the five trauma responses of the nervous system when it DOESN'T feel safe.
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Our nervous system needs three main things in order to feel safe according to Polyvagal Theory. In this episode, we're talking about all three!
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These two don't need to be at war with each other. They're on the same side. Let's talk more about what it can look like to have some compassion for ourselves and for others.
You don't have to keep apologizing for who you are and how you show up in the world. You don't have to become small to not make waves. You can take up space because you matter.
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Grief shows up in so many forms., but it can be complicated to grieve someone who is still alive.
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Not all relationships last forever. Sometimes, that's relieving. And sometimes? It sucks. Sometimes it hurts so much you can barely breathe. I'm sharing some of my story today, and I hope it reminds you that you aren't alone. That I have broken relationships, too. It was hard to come back to this podcast space, but I'm thankful to be here. So come on in and sit awhile.
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Because they won't sometimes. Sometimes they'll try and still not understand. Sometimes they won't try to understand at all and makes all kinds of assumptions about your boundaries.
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We're all different and unique, but there are some things that connect us all.
At our core, all humans have many of the same longings and needs.
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Let's talk about a simple empathy statement that can be so helpful to diffuse tension in hard conversations and moments.
Resources and Links:
Episode 24: Practice Active Listening
Episode 85: Practicing Empathy
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Originally published as Episode 6, let's talk about boundaries in relation to closeness and distance in relationships with one of my favorite metaphors-- houses with picket fences.
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This is the second part of a two-part mini series on forgiveness. Today, we're talking about what forgiveness entails and why it's so hard sometimes.
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Resources and Links Mentioned:
Lysa TerKeurst's Forgiving What You Can't Forget
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Forgiveness is a really tough topic, because though it is something that is good for us all to learn and to practice, it is nuanced and complicated and so, so hard.
Here's more of what I've learned about forgiveness over the years.
Resources and Links mentioned:
Grace Vs. Enabling, Episode 60
When You Can't Forget, Episode 44
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There is usually a more generous interpretation of how someone is acting than what we see on the surface. This concept is from Dr. Becky of Good Inside, and I've shared it with you to help be able to apply to your relationships.
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After a long break, the podcast is back!
Sometimes we can be in seasons where we are more seen, and others where we need to be unseen. And sometimes that unseen season lasts longer than we expect it to. But it's just what I needed.
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For the final episode of the year, I love to go back and reflect.
I hope you can hear your story in some of mine.
I'll see you in the New Year.
We've all had to survive. And that in of itself is extremely hard. So it seems like it's time to honor what it's taken for us to survive.
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How many of us have been conditioned to believe that our wants and desires don't matter or that they're inherently wrong? So we don't really ever get acquainted with or acknowledge our wants.
But we do have permission to want. And we have permission to name what we want.
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Resources mentioned and links:
The Soul of Desire by Curt Thompson
Let's talk about things we must remember when talking with someone about something hard, like something they've done to hurt us, something we've done to hurt them, or something they've done that's caused emotional distress in some way.
There are ways to go about these kind of moments, so let's all do our best.
There is so much pain. So much trauma. So much sorrow. So much grief. Too much knowledge of good and evil.
The world is longing for the light. For life instead.
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