Whether you realize it or not, your spouse cannot make you orgasm. Your spouse can make you a priority, learn about what works for you, and encourage you, but they cannot make it happen. And... putting responsiblity where it does not belong is not fair and will add all kinds of unhelpful pressure.
So, I want to share what I have learned about taking responsibility for myself.
Jane's story of going throug a really hard time with her husband will inspire you to hang onto God. His confession of a porn struggle led Jane to reach out for help, pray for her husband and grow herself. Her transformation inspired his faith that he could be different too. Yearts later, they have created a marriage that is honest, real, intimate and filled with passion.
Playing games is not just something that is fun to do during sex. Playing games during sex actually helps you to grow, get unstuck, and creates a level playing field. Check out the Intimately Us App.
From growing up as a pastors kid and having lots of unanswered questions, Amber made some choices that filled her with shame. But today she lives in freedom because she has received God's gift of redemption and knows that regardless of her past, God chose her.
During sex we always have meanings running through our mind. Sometimes they are lies about our husband and other times they are lies about ourselves. But we must become aware of what we are telling ourselves during sex, quesion whether it is true, and if it is not, decide what truth to tell ourselves. It is by taking our minds captive, and our body experiencing the truth, that we change what we believe.
This young bride knew enough to keep asking questions and be patient with herself as she figured out sex in marriage. There is a lot to be learned from her example of looking for other Christians for guidance, and challenging the silence around sex that exists in church.
Your thoughts about sex, not only impact whether you are open to connecting with your spouse. Your thoughts about sex impact your physical response during sex. Start paying attention to the meanings that you put to sex and you will have greater understanding about why your body does or does not respond during sex.
Are you so busy keeping track of life that sex feels like just one more thing you need to do? Hear how one wife's life and marriage changed when she took the time figure out what God really wanted for her sex life.
Could sex be a way to comfort each other in marriage? What holds you back, and what can you discover. Also, on May 16th from 6:30-8:00 pm Ruth will host an online workshop on How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex. For more information go to Awaken-Love.net
Seeing yourself in others stories is a pathway towards healing. Join me as Hannah shares her powerful story of recognizing herself in the stories of other women and finally letting go of what God had already forgiven her for. Forgiving herself has helped Hannah become more courageous, stopped the negative interpretations of her husband and allowed her to experience more joy in life. Through God's healing touch, Hannah has never felt more like herself.
If you are interested in taking an Awaken Love class, then email Ruth.awakenlove@gmail.com for more information or pick up a copy of my Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage.
Others often define women's sexuality in terms of men. Have we bought into this framing and made our sexuality dependent on our husbands and what they do to get in the mood. LIke anything else, maybe we are supposed to rely on our husband for our identity. What if our husband is not responsible for getting us in the mood. Maybe we are supposed to figure out, what makes us feel sexy.
Married almost 50 years, Gail knows what it means to have fun during sex. But she has also learned to enjoy the simple pleasures of vanilla sex. Though Gail readily made sex a priority in her marriage, she gained even more freedom when a prayer session led to healing of past baggage. For more information abuot the healing prayer go to https://www.restoringthefoundations.org/ or email makeusone1@gmail.com
Most of us love that idea that sex can make us into one within marriage - as long as it is on our time table, or when we feel close to our husband. But what if God created sex to make us into one when we feel disconnected, angry at our spouse, or don't agree? Do we have a spouse that we trust and do we trust God enough to step into the uncomfortable and that which does not come naturally?
For this mom of 5, embracing sex for herself has been a journey of ups and downs. But leaning into intimacy, vulnerably sharing and letting herself be known, both with God and with her husband has been a key. When she pushes herself to talk about sex, or her struggles with sex, then she moves towards greater freedom.
Many of us struggle to freely share our bodies with our husband, and you might think that’s normal or no big deal. Or maybe you’ve convinced yourself that if you just stopped comparing yourself to photoshopped images, the problem would go away.
But learning to share your body during sex requires a radical self-acceptance. Embracing the undeniable truth that YOU are God's creation - absolutely unique, made in the image of God, and stunningly beautiful, inside and out, will set you free – not just in the marriage bed but as a way of understanding God’s radical love.
I hope you enjoy the beginning of my story of reclaiming sexuality. My awakening began when I embraced the truth that God created me beautiful.
Find out more about me at Awaken-Love.net
Listen to the story of Charlie, a Christian wife that wanted more unity and intimacy in her marriage. Learn the importance of recognizing the negative messages of the past and learning how to receive the good things that God wants us to enjoy.