Today’s episode is a special one — because instead of just hearing from me, you’ll get to hear directly from one of the women inside The Well Made Woman program.She’s going to pull back the curtain on what really happens when you commit to your own growth — the fears that come up, the shifts that surprised her, the internal upgrades she didn’t even know she needed, and how she now thinks, feels, and moves through her life differently.We talk about…* What made coaching finally work for her after multiple attempts in other programs* The mindset blocks she had around investing in herself again — and what pushed her over the line* How the tools received inside The Well Made Woman made this work finally stick* How she followed through, even when she doubted she would* What it actually feels like to become the Well Made Woman in your own life — not just in your journal, but in your marriage, your decisions, and your self-conceptIf you’ve been curious about The Well Made Woman, or you’ve felt the nudge to invest in your growth but haven’t fully said yes yet… this episode will either confirm what you're already feeling — or shift something inside you that you didn’t even realize was blocking you.And for more information on The Well Made Woman and how you can join for 2026, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/ (https://drchavonne.com/wmw/)

In this episode, we’re exploring what I call The Way of the Well-Made Woman —the mindset, energy, and emotional maturity that separate the woman who’s constantly reacting to life from the woman who leads herself through it with peace, power, and grace.This episode is for the woman, who has a voice inside saying: “I don’t want to keep living this way.”Not because everything is falling apart — but because how she feels inside no longer matches the woman she knows she’s meant to be.The Way of the Well-Made Woman is how you bridge that gap.It’s how you start experiencing your life — and yourself — differently.In this conversation, I’ll share three distinctions that define a self-led woman — the ways she thinks, chooses, and responds that change everything.You’ll walk away with reflection questions and practices to help you live with more gratitude, confidence, and grounded calm — starting today.If you’re ready to stop running on autopilot and start leading yourself with intention, this is your invitation.And to learn more about my signature program, The Well Made Woman, visit my website here: https://drchavonne.com/wmw/ (https://drchavonne.com/wmw/)

In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation no one else in your life probably will — about the subtle, everyday ways we create our own suffering, and how to gently pull yourself out of that negative spiral.You’ll learn how to:* Spot the stories your mind automatically tells you — and understand where they really come from* Choose thoughts that open the door to growth, self-love, and peace* And rewire your reactions so you stop repeating old emotional patterns that keep you stuckThis isn’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything’s fine.It’s about reclaiming your emotional power — learning to see yourself and your life through a lens that brings healing instead of hurt.If you’re ready to feel lighter, calmer, and more in charge of how you experience your life, this one’s for you.Also mentioned in this episode: The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life Masterclass Series. We start October 21 and you'll have lifetime access to the recordings if you cannot join us live each day. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/ (https://drchavonne.com/lyl/)

In this episode, we’re exploring the idea of Emotional Wealth — treating YOU as the primary asset in your life.Just like investing in property or stocks for long-term gain, emotional wealth is built by consistently investing in how you think, how you feel, and how you choose to respond… no matter what’s happening around you.We’ll talk about:* Why emotional maturity is a long-game investment, not a quick emotional hit* What it means to see yourself as an asset that increases in value over time* How to stay steady when life throws disruptions, disappointments, or emotional storms* And why building emotional wealth is legacy work — something your children will inherit through the way you live, feel, and handle lifeThis isn’t about being positive all the time.It’s about becoming emotionally abundant — able to feel deeply, recover quickly, and move through life with grounded confidence.If you've ever wanted to feel unshakeable, more at peace, and truly proud of who you're becoming — this conversation will shift the way you see emotional growth forever.Mentioned in this Episode: The Well Made Woman Lead Your Life Masterclass --> Learn More Here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/ (https://drchavonne.com/lyl/)

Do you ever feel like you’re always on edge—snapping quicker than usual, running on fumes, or just carrying a quiet sense of tension that never seems to go away?In this episode, we’re breaking down what’s really happening beneath the surface when you feel like you’re at your limit. You’ll learn how to:* Identify what’s actually fueling your reactivity (and why your mind keeps spinning there)* Reclaim your focus and calm by auditing where your attention is going* Ground yourself through simple, embodied self-care—so you’re not just managing stress but truly restoring your peace* Shift from constant problem-solving to genuine problem-healingIf you’ve been feeling stretched too thin, reactive, or stuck in survival mode—this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and finally exhale.And if this resonated with you, I want to invite you to my private workshop, The Well Made Woman: Lead Your Life. Here we will go deep into how to live more authentically, feel fulfilled, and rise resilient without losing yourself. You can learn more and apply to join us here: https://drchavonne.com/lyl/ (https://drchavonne.com/lyl/)

In this episode, we’re exploring a different way of looking at your life and your marriage: the belief that it all works out for you.We’ll dive into:* Why releasing timelines and deadlines might be the key to more patience and peace* How every obstacle can become an opportunity to grow into the version of yourself who can have what you want* And how learning to loosen control and open yourself up creates the space for more joy, more ease, and even more of God’s presence in your lifeIf you’ve been tired of forcing things, rushing things, or stressing over why it hasn’t happened yet—this conversation will help you see your challenges through a whole new lens.For more help and support making this perspective your way of LIVING, I invite you to consider working with me directly in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, go to: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

Over the past week, I released a special video series called The Mindsets for a Happier, More Connected Marriage. And in case you missed it — or just prefer to listen on the go — I’m bringing the full series to you here on the podcast.In this series, I walk you through 5 powerful mindsets that can completely change the way you and your spouse communicate and connect.Because the truth is, it’s not just about what you say. It’s about the mindset you bring into every conversation.These 5 mindsets will help you:* Break out of the same old arguments* Reignite your closeness and intimacy* Build communication that feels safe, kind, and productiveSo whether you’ve been following along with the videos or this is your first time hearing the series, I know you’ll walk away with practical shifts you can start using right now in your marriage.And...Early Enrollment for The Marriage UpGrade is open NOW. See what bonuses and special incentives I have for you by joining the VIP list here: https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/ (https://drchavonne.com/tmu-waitlist/)

Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We’re just stuck in the same patterns”?Maybe you’re tired of the arguments that go nowhere…Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don’t really connect anymore.You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.” You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners.In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage. After listening, you’ll walk away with::: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what’s not working):: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently:: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner’s (and what that looks like in real life):: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easierThis episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in.Also mentioned in this Episode: The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/ (https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/)

You’ve built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside.But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you’re just roommates passing in the night.In this episode, I’m breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again.If you’ve ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you’ll want to listen in.And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/ (https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/)Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.You’ll learn:How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage. You’ll learn:* Why emotions are physical sensations that will pass—and how to ride that wave instead of getting pulled under.* How to see emotions as signals guiding you to something important.* What it looks like to truly take responsibility for your own feelings—without blaming or offloading them onto your partner.* Why “you can’t heal what you won’t feel” (and how to practice that in a safe, grounded way).* And how staying centered in your emotions actually makes it more likely that your partner will hear you.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward.And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.I’ll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want.By the end of this episode, you’ll know:* How to recognize the kinds of thoughts that keep you stuck in overwhelm, disconnection, or resentment.* A simple way to reframe your thinking so it actually supports what you want in your marriage.* Why “choosing a better thought” isn’t fake positivity—it’s a skill that can change the emotional climate of your relationship.* What to do when your negative thoughts feel true and how to shift without dismissing your reality.This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too.And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

Staying out of that negative cycle isn’t just about avoiding another argument. It’s about giving your relationship the stability it needs so you can actually enjoy your time together… … and so you have the runway to address the deeper issues that have been wearing on you both.In this episode, I’m sharing the key shifts that help you:* Spot the patterns that predictably trip you up.* Calm your own triggers so they stop running the show.* And create moments of heartfelt connection, even when things feel tense.This is how you break the cycle and start building a relationship that feels good to be in.And for more personalized support to help you and your partner keep your marriage feeling better for longer more sustained periods of time, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. You can learn more about becoming Better Together by booking a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder.You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you’re stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it.That’s the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting.In today’s episode, I’m walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle. You’ll learn how to:* Recognize what’s actually driving your disconnection (it’s not just the surface argument)* Reflect on your own patterns with compassion and ownership* Get clear on what you really want—and how to create it* Self-soothe in moments where your partner isn’t able to meet you* And take meaningful steps—internally or together—to reconnect without pride or resentment getting in the way* This episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you’ve been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap.And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship.Skills like:* Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I’m wrong about this?* Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner’s experience.* And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default.* In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools.And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

So many of the ways we show up in our relationships—how we communicate, how we love, how we cope—aren’t actually conscious choices.They’re inherited. Programmed. Conditioned from what we saw, experienced, or learned growing up.In this episode, we’re talking about three ways of being you may have learned that are quietly wrecking the quality of your relationships—and your own personal peace.You’ll hear how these patterns show up:-When you’re constantly blaming others but feeling stuck-When love becomes a reward instead of a reflection of who you want to be-When avoiding your emotions becomes your way of coping—but keeps you disconnected from your own lifeThis is about unlearning the old survival strategies and stepping into a more grounded, emotionally resilient, and soul-aligned version of yourself.It’s not easy work, but it’s the kind of work that changes everything.If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, irritated, or just tired of the way things feel in your marriage or within yourself—this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for.You’ll learn:* What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface* Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle* And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of itWe’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware...And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness...We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern.You’ll hear:* Why anxious partners can feel like they’re always solving the relationship alone* Why avoidant partners often feel like they’re being treated as a project instead of a person* And how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel better* But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected.If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you.And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm.If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it… Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail… You’re in the right place.We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions:* Why anxious partners often feel like they can’t handle big emotions alone* Why avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failure* And how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each otherThis episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it.Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn’t seem to meet you there?Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down.If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you’re likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic.In this episode, we’re unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart.You’ll learn:* Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they’re too much and not enough at the same time* Why the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they’re not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of self* What it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful way* And the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something betterThis is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.