Hey folks, this is another episode of ADHD in a HURRY! I am your host, Dustin Horvath.
Today's episode is about learning things the hard way. Listen in to learn about something I’ve struggled with for most of my life: I tend to learn things the hard way. Whether it’s ignoring advice, waiting until the very last minute, or shutting down after hearing criticism—I’ve been there more times than I can count. And as someone with ADHD, I’ve realized there are real neurological reasons behind these patterns.
I talk about why things like time blindness, emotional sensitivity, and impulsivity make it so hard to follow through in the way we’re "supposed to." But I also share how I’m learning to build systems that actually work for my brain—ways to start tasks without waiting for panic, how to create urgency without burnout, and how to take feedback without spiraling into shame.
Also, I share an embarrassing but important moment in my time as an undergraduate -- it helps to frame a lot of my talking points and strategies.
This isn’t about fixing myself—it’s about finally understanding myself. If you’ve ever felt like you only grow through trial and error, or that traditional productivity advice just doesn’t work for you, this episode is for you. I’m sharing hard-earned lessons, small wins, and new perspectives that are helping me embrace executive functioning in a way that actually fits.
Select Music Featured in the Episode is from Ben Backus.
The music featured during "My Embarrassing Story" and other pieces come from Pixabay
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Timestamps:
0:00 Why The Hard Way?
2:53 The Reasons Why We Prefer the Hard Way to Learning
4:40 Shame and Judgment Play a Crucial Role 5:53 My Embarrassing Story [Important]
15:20 Strategies to Avoid The Hard Way
18:12 Artificial Urgency Can be a Blessing
19:12 Becoming Open to Feedback [Combating RSD]
25:27 Engaging in Executive Functioning in ADHD-friendly Ways
29:44 Outro