Welcome back to Grits Meets Grace — where real life and real faith come to the same table.

I’m your host, and today we’re talking about something that makes a lot of us uncomfortable… silence.

Silence can be good — the peace we crave in a noisy world.

It can be bad — when it feels like God’s gone quiet or people don’t understand our pain.

And it can get ugly — when we fill the quiet with fear, assumptions, or noise just to feel something.

But what if silence isn’t punishment?

What if it’s protection — a sacred pause where God is doing His best work behind the scenes?

So grab your coffee — or your grits — and let’s talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, and the God found in the silence.

Today, we’re talking about patience — that quiet strength we all think we have… until life decides to test it. Patience shows up in the waiting, in the not-yet, and in the moments when nothing seems to be moving but us. It’s not just about sitting still — it’s about trusting that time is doing its work, even when we can’t see it.

So take a deep breath. Whether you’re waiting for clarity, healing, or just the weekend — this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the art of patience — and how it just might be the most powerful thing we can practice in a world that moves too fast.

Hey everyone, welcome back — or welcome in if you’re tuning in for the first time. Today’s episode is one that’s really close to my heart. We talk a lot about women’s healing, about strength, about love — but today, I want to take a moment to talk about the men.

Because men need love too.They need support.They need a safe place to heal.

Too often, men are taught to carry the world on their shoulders without ever letting anyone see when it gets heavy. They’re told to be strong, to hold it together, to never show pain — and somewhere in all that, they forget that they’re human too.

This episode isn’t about blame — it’s about understanding. It’s about shining light on the quiet struggles, the unspoken wounds, and the love that men often give but rarely receive in return.

So today, we’re going to talk about it — with honesty, compassion, and hope. Because healing doesn’t belong to one gender. It belongs to all of us.

Let’s get into it. 💭

“Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: “but whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.”

‭‭How many times have you been lots wife? How long have you held on to what you’ve been shown time and time again isn’t for you? Would you be able to walk away as Lot did? No questions, no fear, just obedience, because how many more times is God going to have to show you?

**Forgiving What You Can’t Forget**

Forgiveness isn’t about forgetting the pain — it’s about choosing faith over bitterness. When the memories linger and the wounds still ache, trust that God can heal what feels too deep for you to reach.

*“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”* — 1 Peter 5:7

Through faith, God gives us the strength to release what weighs us down. Forgiveness is not forgetting — it’s trusting God to carry what we can’t.

We’re diving into a powerful question that can shift the course of your relationships and your walk with God: *Are you truly repentant, or just remorseful?* It's easy to feel bad after a mistake—to cry, apologize, and express guilt. But if nothing changes, if the behavior continues, was it really repentance—or just emotion? Remorse feels, but repentance transforms. So ask yourself: Is my sorrow leading me to God and lasting change, or just temporary relief? Let’s unpack the difference—and why it matters more than we often realize.

Role with me, just a rainy day talk session..

Today, we’re talking about something our souls crave but the world often misunderstands—true love. Not the kind built on conditions or feelings, but the kind that starts with God.

Because real love begins in Him—it’s patient, sacrificial, and unwavering. And to truly know that love, we have to do something bold: surrender. Let go of control, let go of fear, and trust that the One who created us also knows how to love us best.

So wherever you are—heartbroken, hopeful, or just searching—this episode is for you. Let’s lean in and discover what it really means to be fully known, fully loved, and fully surrendered to God.

This week I’ve received a word that I’ve questioned over and over again. What if what you want isn’t what God wants for you?

The story of Jacob, Leah and Rachel will be discussed. My personal relevance to it as well.

Let’s jump in..

At a certain point when we’ve taken too much we reach a point of exhaustion, we need peace, we need peace, we need separation. Let’s talk about it.

The **Refiner’s fire** is a powerful image of how God uses trials and pain to **purify and strengthen** us. Just as a metalworker uses intense heat to burn away impurities from gold or silver, God allows us to walk through difficult seasons—not to destroy us, but to **refine us**. In the fire, our pride, fear, and false comforts are stripped away, revealing a deeper faith and a more authentic character. Growth through pain isn’t easy, but it's often where the most transformation happens. It’s in the crushing that new strength is born, and in the breaking that God shapes us into who we’re truly meant to be. The process may hurt, but the purpose is holy.

Red flags are warning signs that can indicate potential problems in various areas of life. We often miss red flags in relationships because of psychological factors like wanting the relationship to work, denial, low self-esteem, a desire to overlook flaws, being blinded by initial attraction, or simply not recognizing unhealthy behaviors as red flags, leading individuals to rationalize or minimize concerning actions from others. Let’s talk about it.

Intro to season 4- Going into 2025 refreshed and rest e for more stretching with God at my center I’m going to just catch you up on where I’m at.

Part 2

If you were to ask anyone why do generations fail: the answer would look like : Relationships often fail due to a combination of factors like poor communication, lack of trust, incompatibility, differing priorities, lack of respect, inadequate intimacy, financial issues, personal insecurities, and sometimes, unresolved past traumas; essentially, when partners struggle to meet each other's needs and maintain healthy communication and emotional connection over time.

But I’m going to tackle this from a spiritual standpoint, so let’s lock in, I’ll talk you listen.

If you were to ask anyone why do generations fail: the answer would look like : Relationships often fail due to a combination of factors like poor communication, lack of trust, incompatibility, differing priorities, lack of respect, inadequate intimacy, financial issues, personal insecurities, and sometimes, unresolved past traumas; essentially, when partners struggle to meet each other's needs and maintain healthy communication and emotional connection over time.

But I’m going to tackle this from a spiritual standpoint, so let’s lock in, I’ll talk you listen.

Are You Missing the Signs from God?

Have you ever wondered if God is trying to speak to you but aren’t sure how to recognize His voice? In this episode, we dive deep into the ways God communicates with us—through scripture, circumstances, people, and even that quiet nudge in your spirit.

We’ll explore questions like: *What do signs from God look like? How do I know if it's truly Him or just coincidence?* Join us as we unpack practical ways to discern His guidance and find peace in knowing He’s walking alongside you. Whether you're seeking direction, comfort, or reassurance, this conversation will help you tune in to God’s presence in your daily life.

Don’t miss this inspiring discussion on recognizing the divine signs that may already be around you!

Surrendering to the art of letting go is a transformative journey that invites us to release what no longer serves us, whether it's unfulfilling relationships, outdated beliefs, or lingering regrets. Embracing this process reveals a profound beauty in moving on, as it creates space for new opportunities and growth. Each release is an act of courage, allowing us to reclaim our energy and focus on what truly matters. So, take a moment to reflect: what are you holding on to that’s due for release?

In this episode, we explore and talk about relationships in today's society, from what is needed for them to thrive, to the issues that stem from your upbringing to what we see in society. We tackle everything.

Letting go and surrendering to God involves trusting in God's plan for your life, even when the future is uncertain. It means relinquishing your own wants, rights, and expectations, and relying on God's power.