TV writer Lauren Ashley Smith (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Smith Sisters Live) joins Nicole to talk about how she met her wife the old-fashioned way - through Time Out New York’s Singles issue. Lauren reveals the strange public response to being a “bachelor” in a magazine, how her wife was one of the only white women working at BET, and the complications that came with planning an interracial lesbian wedding. She also recalls a bizarre school Valentine’s Day test that matched students based on compatibility, and she and Nicole discuss who gets to keep the friends after a breakup. Plus, Nicole gets a magical hot massage and somehow walks away being fluent in Greek. And Lauren shares one big piece of dating advice: why straight people should try dating more like lesbians -letting go of the gender roles getting in the way. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: » OneSkin: OneSkin is redefining the aging process with their proprietary OS-01 peptide. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code DATEME at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod » EarnIn: Make Any Day Payday! When you download the EarnIn app, type in Why Won't You Date Me under PODCAST when you sign up – it’ll really help the show.  » Booking.com: Book now at Booking.com! » Wayfair: Wayfair. Every Style, Every Home. View all of our sponsors and discounts codes at wwydm.notion.site/sponsors. Follow: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod  Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.