Popular culture is a complex and ever-evolving phenomenon that encompasses a wide range of cultural expressions, including music, film, television, fashion, literature, and more. While it can be a source of entertainment, identity, and community for many people, it is not without its excesses and potential drawbacks. My guests and I spoke about how to remain disciplined no matter the level of exposure one has.
Outgrowing and navigating relationships are common aspects of personal growth and development. As we evolve and change over time, our relationships also experience shifts.
In this episode, my friends and I discussed handling outgrowing relationships and navigating these changes.
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."- Reinhold Niebuhr. Life has its different uncertainties which mostly come at unexpected times in life. Do we throw in the towel when they come? No! We live life being positive and optimistic that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord, knowing fully well that Christ in us is the hope of glory.
I had a great moment five amazing people who were vulnerable enough to share some of the uncertainties they've faced over time.
Every conversation with Coach Wale is always deep!
We had a mindblowing conversation about imposter syndrome, how to manage it and everything in between.
“When you are in Limbo, it is sending you a message, pay attention.”
Have you ever felt stuck and uncertain of what to do? You should listen to this episode.
I had a great conversation in a subtle way with these great people
People experience all kinds of adversity in life. There are personal experiences, such as illness, loss of a loved one, abuse, bullying, job loss, and financial instability. There is the shared reality of tragic events in the news, such as terrorist attacks, mass shootings, and natural disasters.
Being resilient does not mean that people don’t experience stress, emotional upheaval, and suffering. Some people equate resilience with mental toughness, but demonstrating resilience includes working through emotional pain and suffering.
In this episode, Coach Wale and I had a conversation on how to go through all of these with grace.
There is no doubt that life is filled with a variety of experiences. Depending on the circumstances, these experiences can either positively or negatively affect the trajectory of our lives. At some point in your life, did you lose a loved one, and the effect of the loss altered your perception of life? Whatever your experience was or is be careful not to let it turn you into a tyrant or a mean person.
The psychological effect of brokenness can include rage, anger, low self-esteem, insecurity, perpetual sadness, over-explaining, validation dependence, and unusual over-analysis.
In this episode, my friends and I shared different experiences at some phase in life that broke us.
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds...
- James 1:2
Being a single parent isn't easy, especially when you're still dealing with the pain of the experience. In this episode, my guest talked about the good and bad of her journey as a single parent.
As a single parent, you will experience various challenges, but time and the right people around will help you overcome them all. The reality of single parenting will gradually dawn on you as you adjust to your new circumstances. There are times when they gently ease into your life and other times when they strike you.
There will be significant differences in how four individuals with different temperaments perceive, process, prioritize, and respond to the same reality due to temperament-driven differences. As a result, current approaches to understanding these differences focus more on choice than on nature.
In the event that these differences lead to a disagreement over whose point of view is correct, each assumes that the other is wrong when they aren't. It is easy to get caught up in never-ending debates that threaten relationships because neither party is aware that they have natural differences.
In this episode, we had a conversation about understanding our temperamental differences and how to manage our relationships.
Vulnerability provides a sense of closeness to another person, and you to them. In order to connect with someone through emotion, care, love, or even trust it happens to us differently because our journeys are different.
It becomes a problem when people try to use it against you. The breaking of trust, the betrayal. This can lead to issues.
In this episode, my guests and I had a conversation about what vulnerability means to us differently, the power of vulnerability and the seeming problems of letting one’s guard down to the wrong person, sometimes unknowingly.
In the absence of a motherhood manual, it might seem like a stereotype already creates pressure on women.
The purpose of this episode is to discuss the joy, pain, and other parts of being a mother, including balancing it with work, family, and other obligations.
When I was younger, I couldn’t wait to be living the grown-up life — a life without curfews, when I could live in my own apartment and bring home big paychecks that would let me buy endless clothes and pizza deliveries with no one there to tell me any differently. Of course, the realities are somewhat different from all the expectations I had growing up, and now that I'm face to face with adulting, I realize that everything I envisioned can be achieved but at certain prices.
In this episode, I had a conversation with my friends about their different realities of adulting.
Regardless of whether a parent has been absent for six months or six years, the bottom line is that the expectations of both the mother and the father in relation to their parental responsibility do not change. In most cases, contact is the primary, and the most contentious, issue.
In this episode, I had a conversation with my friends in regards to parental consent for a child among separated partners (parents).
Most importantly, perhaps, being street smart comes from different experiences. It means you've learned how to take what has happened to you, good or bad, think about it, and improve. The primary distinction between street smarts and book smarts is who is at the centre of the knowledge. In this episode, I talked with some of my friends about what they think about being street smart and being book smart.
In popular psychology, a quarter-life crisis is a crisis "involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one's life" which is most commonly experienced in a period ranging from a person's early twenties up to their mid-thirties (although a quarter-life crisis can begin as early as 18). It is defined by clinical psychologist Alex Fowke as "a period of insecurity, doubt and disappointment surrounding your career, relationships and financial situation. In this episode, Adeyinka and I had a conversation about going through the toughness of a quarter-life crisis.
One of the beautiful things about marrying your friend is that your vulnerability won’t be used against you. It is a beautiful thing to genuinely be committed to a person and grow through life together, one step at a time. In this episode, my guests shared their stories with me, how they have been able to grow together and the realities of what is keeping them on track.
Relationships are dynamic based on the parties involved. Workplace or organizational politics involves the use of power and social networking within a workplace to achieve changes that benefit the organization or individuals within it, which could be positive or negative. Because we are human beings, we absorb information in different ways. To make sure that the information conveyed is understood by all, the method used for communication must be simple, clear, and precise.
In this episode, my guest and I had a conversation about the dynamics in the office space.
I shared the major lessons I learnt in 2021, my growth journey kind of episode. The good thing about this episode is that some of my friends also shared some lessons they learned in 2021.
I want to say thank you to everyone for being a major part of this podcast this year. It’s really been an amazing journey so far.
No matter what your religion is, you probably would have had to grief at one point or the other, or you’ve experienced other people grief. In some cases, the residue of grief is anger, disbelief, guilt, profound sadness and intense rage, which sometimes lies subtly in the heart of the one grieving. The middle line between grief and rage is dissatisfaction in regards to a particular loss or thing. Whatever type of loss you’ve suffered, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. In this episode, my guest and I had a conversation about grief, rage and disappointment.
Emotional manipulators often use mind games to seize power in a relationship. The ultimate goal is to use that power to control the other person. A healthy relationship should be based on trust, understanding, and mutual respect. This is true of personal relationships, as well as professional ones. You can learn to recognize the manipulation and stop it. You can also learn to protect your self-esteem and sanity, too. In this episode, my guest and I reviewed common forms of emotional manipulation, how to recognize them, and what to do about it.
