Oh, the sweet chaos of burning it all down to start over.
This ultimate guide to navigating your new queer dating life covers:
-The mindset shift that is crucial to finding queer love
-Why your dating skills with men don't transfer to women, and how to get lesbians to know you're gay too (without wrapping yourself in the rainbow flag)
-the key to great lesbian sex (it's not what you think)
I earned my late bloomer scars, and I'm passing the lessons on to you, friend. Here is everything I wish someone would have told me.
The aftermath of leaving a high control group as a queer person is something we don't talk about enough. I shed light on:
-the control tactics that infiltrated my sex and relationships
-why I once said, "I would have sex with a woman but I could never be in a relationship with one"
-exploring thought crime
-What is self monitoring and why its a harmful habit
-and how I finally found self acceptance and joy in my body and in my queer intimacy
This is my favorite episode yet! Share your experiences with religious dogma below so we can normalize our experiences.
Links:
QUIZ: https://sapphicsexologist.myflodesk.com/pdf
Work with me: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/immersion
What does it mean when you want to submit in the bedroom, but not in your daily life? Are you enacting the patriarchy? Can you choose what turns you on? I challenge you to listen with curiosity and leave the judgement at the door.
When you love your partner so much but the sex is non existent, does it mean you're with the wrong person?
Why do you get along so well but when it comes to sex it feels... forced?
Listen for why improving the relationship doesn't usually fix your sex life, and how to begin bridging the gap between love and desire.
What happens when you're SO into her and you enjoy the way she touches you, but your orgasm feels elusive? Why can you cum on your own but not with a partner?
Listen to find out:
>the hidden meaning of struggling to orgasm
>the wrong goal most people chase that makes orgasm more difficult and what to focus on instead
>how to talk about it without your partner feeling blamed
Links mentioned
Masterclass:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/freebie
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More about my work:
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If you've ever googled how to look more gay, this is for you. Learn how to stop pressuring yourself to fit into a box, where that pressure comes from, and how to accept yourself as queer enough no matter what you look like or how much makeup you wear. book your intimacy check up: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
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How do you keep your mind from wandering to work or if you smell weird? Is there a way to refocus or are you doomed to enduring distracted sex to keep your partner satisfied? Listen to find out ~the number one thing that makes focusing more difficult ~why forcing yourself to meditate isn't the answer to more mindful sex ~the exact steps i used to get present and stop worrying if I'm taking too long book your intimacy check up: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
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How can you feel satisfied when your libido is higher than your partner's? What do you do when the tension of your sex life is affecting the rest of your relationship? How do you stop feeling like your high sex drive is a burden to your partner?Listen to this week's episode to learn: ✨Stop the cycle- how to stop feeling rejected and actually feel closer to your partner✨Understanding desire: Learn how to collaborate with your partner instead of feeling like enemies on separate sides of the room.✨Making intimacy appealing: How to initiate sexual connection in a way that feels pressure free and fun for both of you.
LINKS MENTIONED:
Get your Intimacy Check-Up:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
Tell me how you navigate mismatched libidos:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/contact
How do you fix low libido? What do you do when your partner wants sex more often (or a lot more often) than you?
How do you stop feeling like 'the problem'?
Listen to this week's episode to learn:
✨The Real Path to Desire- how to activate your desire whenever you want, without needing to be on vacation to feel it
✨Debunking Myths: Why what you're experiencing as ‘low libido’ is actual just a simple misunderstanding of how desire really works
✨Stop pointing the finger: How to stop blaming yourself and create a thriving sex life, no pressure required.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
Get your Intimacy Check-Up:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
Sapphic Newsletter
https://sapphicsexologist.myflodesk.com/newletter
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When the body positive affirmations fail, what do you do next? How do you close the gap between knowing you're 'supposed' to love your body and all the judgements and not good enough-ness that gets in the way?
In this episode, you'll learn:
-why affirmations don't work
-the unique challenge of body acceptance queer people face
-how to ACTUALLY love your body.
LINKS MENTIONED:
newsletter:
https://sapphicsexologist.myflodesk.com/newletter
get your intimacy check-up:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions
What do you do when your partner tells you they have sexual trauma? You love them, but are scared of making it worse by doing something wrong. How do you help them feel safe?
In this episode, I share the common, harmful dynamic couples fall into when one of them has experienced sexual trauma, and how to create a thriving relationship using a proven framework that helps your partner feel supported without losing yourself in the relationship.
NOTE: if your partner's sexual trauma is interfering with their quality of life, encourage them to get support from a qualified professional, whether that's me or someone else.
Book an intimacy check up here:
https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/book
Are you wondering how to get the spark back? You love your partner, and a great sex life takes effort. But how do you keep your relationship from feeling more like roommates or besties? In this episode, I share the key to keeping it hot beyond the 'honeymoon stage' using a proven framework that deepens intimacy without needing to stretch your bank account for a million date nights a month or pull a hammy trying a crazy new position.
Book your connection call here:
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Are you tired of feeling scared to initiate, or waiting for your partner to do it... then it just never happens and everyone is dissatisfied?
I'll show you the exact formula to initiate with confidence so you can feel excited to start sexual connection and keep the ball rolling without worrying if they're having a good time.
Listen for the exact process myself and my clients used to master the art of initiation and were able to:
👉🏼go from waiting for your partner to be in the perfect mood and never finding the right moment to being able to shift the energy from stress to turn on
👉🏼hearing more 'sounds fun baby' and less 'not right now' from your partner
👉🏼 one client was able to go from being scared of her partner's sexual trauma to initiating with a balance of erotic energy and tender care
In this episode, I'll break it down for you and show you:
💚 How to stop anxiously overthinking initiation (it can be easy and fun!)
💚 The 2 most common experiences that make initiating feel way more intimidating than it has to be
💚 Why I don't focus on 'ways to initiate' google-type tips (and how my clients confidently initiate anyway)
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Who wears the suit? Who walks down the aisle first? Who proposes first? I share my tips and personal experiences of planning a queer wedding and dealing with people's heteronormative BS. If you're a sapphic about to get married, already married, or just wanting to level up your intimacy, book a discovery call and I'll help you identify your biggest intimacy block, and outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help!
https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call
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All the questions you've googled late at night.
Is lesbian bed death real? Do all lesbians scissor? What about the strap on? WTF do I expect for my first queer experience? Sex tips?!
Learn how to make sure every time is a good time, for you and your lover.
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
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Listen for:
how to flirt without being a creep
why queer flirting is so intimidating
how to be more charming on dates
how to keep the spark alive
what you can do to come back from feeling like roommates
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call
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tough love for Valentine's Day; why you should stop putting off the thing you know you need to talk about!
listen for: the real reason we avoid conflict
the role of the nervous system in dealing with stressful situations
tools for bringing up hard stuff and not having a melt down
unexpected benefits of just spitting it out already
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call
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Let's talk about coming out "later" in life, exploring sexuality, questioning queerness, labels, googling "am I gay" late at night, and of course how to know if you're gay for sure (for sure).
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call
DM me and tell me what you think about the episode:
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Let's talk about the effects of low self confidence and worth on intimacy, and how to feel worthy of pleasure and feel good in your body.
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
https://calendly.com/daniebergstrom/discovery-call
DM me and tell me what you think about the episode:
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What to expect 'round these parts.
Ready to create the intimacy you deserve?
Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy can help.
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