Hi bbz,
First things first, this episode touches on themes of power dynamics & kink shared from my personal experience. If that subject makes you feel uncomfortable, you might want to skip this one and catch me on the next episode.
I’ve been moving through a full-on identity shift— letting go of old versions of myself that kept me small or easy to define. For the last two years, I identified with being fearful avoidant. It helped me make sense of my life. But lately, trying to fit myself into that box feels like it’s holding me back more than it’s helping.
In this episode, I’m excited to share how stepping into femdom has cracked something wide open in me. It’s been part of a bigger shift—letting go of old identities, leaning into who I’m becoming, and finding a deeper sense of power and trust within myself.
With so much love,
Tash
In this episode, I dive into the subconscious patterns that silently shape our lives.
When we experience trauma—especially in childhood—we learn to abandon parts of ourselves just to stay connected to our caregivers, peers, or anyone we depend on for love and safety. It’s an incredibly intelligent survival strategy… but it comes at a cost.
When we disconnect from ourselves to stay connected to others, we plant the seeds of insecure attachment—first and foremost, to ourselves.
The tricky part? Our system hides this from us. It veers us away from our wounding so we can stay "safe" and comfortable. But in doing so, our unresolved pain quietly drives our behavior. We see life through the lens of our wounds, which creates threat where there is none. We try to protect ourselves from pain—but end up attracting exactly what we fear.
Let’s talk about how self-abandonment shows up in our lives, how it keeps us stuck in painful patterns, and what it really takes to return home to ourselves.
Hi friends,
Welcome to episode 2. Shortly after episode 1 was recorded, I went through a break-up. I spent the time after that hibernating and grieving (and sobbing and yelling and bargaining and finding 1001 reasons not to let go). Needless to say, it was a rollercoaster and a half. What an adventure it is, to let go. To go through all of that darkness only find yourself at the end of it all, more secure than ever before. All this to say, I'm back. And this episode is all about me. Most of you know me through TikTok or Instagram. While I share all of my perspectives and teachings on there, I wanted to give you guys an opportunity to get to know me more deeply. So here it is, I feel honoured to be able to share my story with you.
With so much love,
Tash
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Hi friends,
Recording this episode was such a relief. I had created this idea of how I wanted my podcast to look and feel and I just wasn't in the right state to bring that vision to life. The more I resisted what was actually present, the more awkward and robotic my recordings were. There is something so powerful about giving ourselves PERMISSION. Permission to be exactly who we are in this moment. That "allowing" is what eradicates resistance and welcomes in the flow that we seek. This concept rings true across all spheres of our lives. When you give yourself permission to be exactly as you are, you welcome in all parts of you and become whole. This is the basis of deep self love, which can be carried into our relationships with others.
Thank you for being here with me, I can't wait for this journey to unfold.
With so much love,
Tash
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A year ago, I started a TikTok account to share my journey as a healing fearful avoidant, hoping to connect with others on the path to self-discovery. What I didn’t anticipate was just how much the the world needed to hear the avoidant perspective.
Here, we’ll explore the complex dynamics of relationships—where they come from and how they shape us. Whether through solo deep dives or intimate interviews, this will be a space for vulnerability, honesty, and growth. Welcome to Unattached, where we learn to build strong relationships with ourselves, freeing us from subconsciously attaching to others.
