Hey Yall! No fancy description for y'all today! Just an episode where we talk about our last three years with each other.   Please note **WE WILL BE TAKING A BREAK UNTIL THE SECOND WEEK IN JANUARY 2026**   UNTIL THEN! PEACE!!

In this heartfelt episode of Together Real Bad, Ace and Beautifulll dive into what it really means to give yourself permission — to grow, to rest, to want more, and to stop asking for approval that you never needed in the first place. From coming out stories and healing through therapy to learning when to let go of friendships, this episode explores the freedom that comes when you finally tell yourself, “It’s okay.” 💬 Topics We Cover: Permission to be yourself (even when others don’t understand) Permission to outgrow people, places, and patterns Permission to rest — without feeling guilty about slowing down Permission to feel what you feel (and not shrink your emotions) Permission to want more — emotionally, financially, and creatively Relationship talk: learning to give each other space and grace 🎙️ Moments to Listen For: “I had to be okay with losing my family before I came out.” “When I let that friendship go, I could finally breathe.” “Sometimes you just need permission to want more — and stop apologizing for it.” 👭 Hosted by: Ace & Beautifulll🎧 Podcast: Together Real Bad — A LGBT relationship podcast that’s raw, funny, and full of real conversations about love, growth, and learning each other in real time. 📲 Follow Us: IG: @together.real.badpod TikTok: @together.real.badpod relationship podcast, queer couple podcast, love and communication, emotional growth, permission to be yourself, relationship advice for couples, therapy and self-growth, queer love stories, Together Real Bad podcast, self-acceptance and healing outgrowing friendships, permission to rest, relationship boundaries, black queer podcast, LGBTQ couples podcast, giving yourself grace, emotional safety, healing through therapy, modern relationships, women in love podcast, Chicago podcasters #RelationshipPodcast, #QueerLove, #LGBTQPodcast, #TogetherRealBad, #PermissionToBe, #HealingJourney, #LoveOutLoud, #QueerRelationships, #RelationshipGrowth, #EmotionalHealing, #CoupleConversations, #PodcastForCouples, #RealLoveStories, #RelationshipAdvice, #AuthenticLove, #BlackQueerPodcast, #LoveAndHealing, #GiveYourselfPermission

What’s up yall it’s been a long weekend and we are excited to tell you about it….on Wednesday! See yall then!!

**YALL, WE ARE SO SORRY, WE DIDN'T PUBLISH THIS EPISODE TWO WEEKS AGO!! WE NEGLECTED TO UPLOAD IT HERE, BUT HERE IT IS AND IT IS ON YOUTUBE, YOU WILL HAVE 2 EPISODES THIS WEEK! ENJOY!!**   In this week’s Together Real Bad episode, Beautifulll & Ace dive into the real question behind sharing your location with your partner: Is it about love and safety—or control and possessiveness? From past relationships filled with sneaky Snapchat tracking and late-night casino check-ins to their current healthy balance of trust and transparency, the duo keeps it all the way real. They explore what healthy boundaries look like when partners share locations, how trauma and past experiences shape trust, and what it really means to feel safe in love. The conversation unfolds naturally—with laughter, storytelling, and a heartfelt look at how communication can make or break modern relationships. As always, Beautifulll & Ace remind listeners that vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s a bridge to deeper connection. In This Episode: When location sharing crosses from caring to controlling How past partners used tracking apps for manipulation What healthy trust looks like in a queer relationship How safety and independence can coexist in love Real talk about boundaries, reassurance, and transparency Date Night Diary:The pair also recap their elegant night out at the Carmen ballet and a five-star dinner at Hawksmoor in Chicago. Expect a little art, a little steak, and a whole lot of laughter. Black Business Spotlight:Shout out to Marquita of Organized Peoples, a professional organizer helping busy women bring order and peace back to their homes and minds. queer relationships, relationship advice podcast, location sharing relationships, possessive partner, healthy communication in relationships, queer love podcast, couples podcast, Together Real Bad, Kristy Ramsey podcast, Beautifulll podcast, LGBTQ couples talk, relationship boundaries, emotional safety in relationships, trust and control, queer couple dynamics, black queer love podcast relationship trust issues, girlfriend location sharing, controlling partner signs, communication in relationships, LGBTQ content creators, lesbian podcast, black lesbian couple podcast, queer love discussions, Chicago podcast, couple therapy talk, modern relationship dynamics, intimacy and trust  

**YALL, WE ARE SO SORRY, WE DIDN'T PUBLISH THIS EPISODE TWO WEEKS AGO!! WE NEGLECTED TO UPLOAD IT HERE, BUT HERE IT IS AND IT IS ON YOUTUBE, YOU WILL HAVE 2 EPISODES THIS WEEK! ENJOY!!**   In this episode of Together Real Bad, Ace and Beautifulll get real about the ups and downs of navigating emotions in relationships. 💭❤️ We share personal stories—yes, even our little flag football tiffs 🏈—to show that your emotions are valid, even when they feel messy. From relationship communication struggles and how to handle emotional triggers, to learning the power of validating emotions in a relationship, this conversation is about keeping love honest and real. If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with feelings in love, practice conflict resolution with compassion, or find strength in honoring your feelings in relationships, you’re not alone. We talk about the side of love people rarely share—the laughter, the lessons, and the tough but beautiful growth that comes with vulnerability. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, this episode offers real talk about love and emotions and the kind of relationship advice nobody tells you—a reminder that your feelings matter, and learning to embrace them can bring you closer to the love you deserve. #NavigatingEmotionsInRelationships #HowToDealWithFeelingsInLove #ValidatingEmotionsInARelationship #RelationshipCommunicationStruggles #HowToHandleEmotionalTriggers #RealTalkAboutLoveAndEmotions #ConflictResolutionWithCompassion #HonoringYourFeelingsInRelationships #RelationshipAdviceNobodyTellsYou Navigating emotions in relationships | your feelings are valid in love | how to handle emotions in relationships | validating your partner’s feelings | relationship advice for couples 2025 | communication and emotional triggers in love | healthy ways to resolve conflict in relationships | honoring emotions without guilt | vulnerability in love and relationships | self-reflection and compassion in relationships

In this episode of Together Real Bad, we dive deep into what happens when exes spin the block. From an old flame asking about a “pass,” to a wild dream about becoming our baby daddy, to a surprising threesome proposal—this week brought it all. We open up about the respectful, the messy, and the off-limits, while breaking down how queer couples navigate trust, boundaries, and unexpected interactions with people from the past. If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with exes, keep your relationship secure, or explore openness without losing trust, this episode is packed with laughter, honesty, and lessons in love. 💬 Join the Conversation:What’s your take—are exes ever fair game, or should they stay in the past? Share your stories below—we’d love to hear them. 🔔 Don’t Forget to Subscribe:For more unfiltered conversations about queer love, exes, relationships, and navigating life as a couple, make sure to subscribe and turn on notifications. 📲 Connect with Us:▶ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/together.real.badpod/ #ExMarksTheSpot #QueerPodcast #QueerRelationships #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipTalk #DealingWithExes #QueerCouples #QueerLove #RelationshipBoundaries #LoveIsLove #QueerCommunity #HealthyRelationships #QueerCoupleVibes #QueerVisibility #QueerDating #RelationshipAdvice #QueerVoices #QueerConnection #QueerCulture #QueerJoy #QueerCoupleLife #LoveOutLoud #ExesAndRelationships #RelationshipJourney #QueerPodcastCommunity #QueerStories #OpenRelationships #TrustAndBoundaries #QueerLifeUnfiltered #QueerCoupleTalk SEO Tags (Hidden but Boost Ranking):queer couple ex talk | exes in queer relationships | queer podcast relationships | dealing with exes LGBTQ | queer love and trust | queer relationship boundaries | LGBTQ couple podcast | open relationships queer couples | ex spin the block queer love | navigating exes in relationships | queer couple real talk | queer relationship advice podcast | relationship trust and boundaries queer | LGBTQ relationship challenges podcast | queer couple threesome talk

This week, we dive deep into the messy, beautiful, and sometimes dangerous world of queer PDA (public displays of affection). From debates about what’s “appropriate” to the very real risks of holding hands in the wrong neighborhood, this episode is as raw and real as it gets. We open up about our own experiences—navigating affection in front of kids, parents, church communities, and even at work events. How much of our hesitation is about “respect,” and how much is fear rooted in double standards? Straight PDA is normalized, but queer PDA is often policed, shamed, or even criminalized. 💔 Things get heavy as we reflect on a heartbreaking story of a Black queer couple who were victims of a hate crime while simply trying to drive home. Their experience is a chilling reminder of how love, safety, and survival intersect for queer people of color in America. If you want to support their healing, you can contribute to their GoFundMe here:👉 Survived a Hate Crime, Now We're Fighting to Heal But it’s not all heavy—this episode also touches on biking adventures, family dynamics, funny moments with our dogs, and our ongoing Date Night Diaries series. We share how PDA feels different in spaces like the beach, rural small towns, or even in our own families’ living rooms. And of course, we bring our usual mix of laughter, honesty, and unfiltered love. 🎧 Topics We Cover: Who decides what PDA is “too much”? Double standards: straight PDA vs. queer PDA When affection becomes protest and visibility Navigating affection in religious spaces Feeling safe (or unsafe) in different communities Family dynamics: PDA around parents Work culture & being out vs. “fighting for your life” in the closet 🔥 Plus, a Black Business Highlight you’ll want to check out: NzuriKulture – candles, body oils, and fragrances we are obsessed with. (Find her at zurikulture.com or at Navy Pier pop-ups.)   💌 Stay Connected TikTok & IG: @together.real.badpod Patreon: Support the pod for just $5/month and get exclusive visuals + extras Email us: 2getherrealbad@gmail.com If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review, share with your friends, and let us know how YOU navigate PDA in your relationship.

Life has been lifin’ ya’ll, so we will drop a new episode on Wednesday! Yay! We will be talking about Queer PDA! See y'all then!! 

This is a Patreon EpisodeCheck out our visuals and support the Pod: patreon.com/TogetherRealBad       🎙️ Episode Summary: Love, Responsibility, and Real-Life Frustrations In this raw and vulnerable Patreon episode, Beautifulll & Ace dive deep into relationship responsibility, emotional triggers, and real-life stressors, all while keeping their signature mix of humor and honesty. The Insurance Scam Saga shares a personal and frustrating experience after a minor car accident where the other driver (Mario) exaggerated injuries and damage to commit what they believe is insurance fraud. Despite minor damage, the claim jumped to over $3,000, triggering emotional and financial stress. The couple discusses how to handle these types of injustices and the emotional toll they can take on a relationship. 🐶 Puppy Updates Koda went to the vet for surgery and came home groggy but adorable. Kenzie went to work with Beautifulll and was surprisingly well-behaved. Cute dog moments bring a touch of lightness to the episode. 🎭 Date Night Diaries They recap their recent night out to see Beauty and the Beast at the Cadillac Palace. While the experience was fun and long overdue, they weren’t impressed with the production. They compare it to other Broadway shows they’ve seen together and reflect on how much shared experiences matter. 🏳️‍🌈 Living Out Loud: Beautifulll shares a personal milestone—introducing Ace as her partner to family members at a birthday brunch. A vulnerable but affirming step in showing up fully in their relationship. 🖤 Black-Owned Business Highlight: Shoutout to The Unseen Femme, a bold apparel brand celebrating identity and visibility. Beautifulll wears one of their shirts during the episode as Ace mentions hopes for a future collab. 📢 Pop Culture Quick Hits: They touch on Charlamagne Tha God vs. Trump commentary. Highlight Lambda Legal’s $6.42M win for LGBTQ+ and HIV advocacy groups (sourced via Queer News by Anna DeShawn). ❤️ Main Topic: Love Requires Responsibility Inspired by a friend’s post, the couple explores the idea that love isn't just about feelings—it’s about responsibility. Key conversation points: You're responsible for how you care for someone's heart once they've trusted you with it. Disagreements are natural, but maintaining a safe space during conflict is critical. They reflect on past relationships and how they’ve grown in their current one, especially when it comes to communication, apologies, and emotional maturity. Triggers from past relationships may not be your fault, but in a relationship, they become our responsibility to handle with care. They emphasize the importance of maintaining the love by planting seeds daily—through small gestures, communication, and honesty. 📣 Listener Questions: They pose a reflective challenge to listeners: "What are you doing to grow your love and take responsibility for it?"   💌 Final Thoughts: Despite outside frustrations, the episode is a testament to how Ace and Beautifulll choose each other, show up, and continue to build a strong, evolving love. It's vulnerable, funny, and deeply relatable for any couple navigating love, stress, and personal growth.

In this  episode of Together Real Bad, we dive deep into how generational communication habits in Black families impact our adult relationships—both romantic and platonic. Beautifulll and Ace share stories from their childhood, how they were raised to handle (or avoid) conflict, and what it’s like navigating communication with family as out, queer Black women. From unspoken tensions and "what happens in this house stays in this house" mindsets to rebuilding sibling relationships and confronting parental silence, this conversation is raw, vulnerable, and very necessary. We also talk: Playing contact flag football in our 40s 🏈 (and paying for it with sore backs!) Millennium Park summer music series & Digable Planets A brunch review of Honey Bear Cafe 🍳 Family resistance to queerness and our journeys to acceptance The emotional weight of trying to bridge generational gaps with love and boundaries Pop culture: Queer Ultimatum Reunion (yes, we had thoughts.) Our Black-Owned Biz of the Week: Chef Grady of Straight Up Bussin in Chicago Shoutout to our new friends behind the Two Dope Grandmas podcast 👵🏽🔥 ✨ Plus: We drop some serious gems around "The Four Horsemen" in relationships, emotional tools for couples, and how to move past conflict without burying it.   Relationship Tools 4 Horsemen6 Hours To A Better Relationship

In this episode of Together Real Bad, your favorite queer couple podcast dives into what happens when you mix travel, friends, and relationship expectations. Beautifulll and Ace get vulnerable about a recent trip to New Orleans — and how a birthday vacation quickly turned into a lesson on boundaries, communication, and prioritizing your partner. 💬 They discuss: How to navigate travel with friends vs. travel with your girlfriend Why certain behaviors are relationship red flags on vacation Lessons on emotional maturity and conflict resolution What it means to “move differently” in a serious relationship Recaps of The Ultimatum: Queer Love (season 2 hot takes!) And why Mrs. Doubtfire was lowkey emotional parenting in the ‘90s They also shout out a delicious Black-owned cookie vendor from Chicago and reflect on Pride Month visibility on the South Side. 🎧 If you’re in a queer relationship, planning a couples trip, or figuring out how to balance friends and love, this episode is for you. 📲 Follow & Support Us:Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TogetherRealBadTikTok + Instagram: @together.real.badpod 🖤 Queer. Funny. Real. Welcome to Together Real Bad.

In this episode of Together Real Bad, we’re diving into the deep end of what love, gender energy, and fluidity actually look like in our relationship. From surprise birthday letters and edible arrangements in New Orleans to unpacking who “wears the pants” at home, we're getting real about how we show up for each other in ways that break the mold. We get personal about: Why labels like “stud” or “femme” don't fully fit us—and how we navigate assumptions. How our energies shift depending on the moment, from cuddling on the couch to fixing furniture. The real talk on gender presentation, soft life dreams, and what it means to be your full self in love. A restaurant horror story that turned into a conversation about expectations, service, and Black-on-Black care. Our take on love languages without calling them that—and how we live and love out loud, in public and private. And yes, we dish on our experience at Vegan Dale and the big next step for Jem Junkies at Boxville! Whether you're navigating your own relationship, rethinking what labels mean, or just in the mood for some honest, hilarious, queer-as-hell love talk—this one’s for you.

This exclusive Patreon video episode gets into the real, real of what it means to build (and keep building) a long-term relationship. Beautifulll shares what it’s like to be in her longest relationship ever, and Ace reflects on lessons from two 8-year loves. The talk growth, communication, triggers, and how to stay soft when life (and your ex) tried to harden you. In this episode: Posting your partner for the first time 😳 Creating a soft space when past relationships made you hard Why we don’t go to bed angry (and what our friends do instead 👀) Living out loud and letting the whole world know who you love Keeping things fresh 3 years in: date nights, packing help, and podcasting  How Boystown has changed and why we’re dreaming up a Girls Town This one’s for the lovers, the healers, and the homies preparing for their person. 🖤 Thanks for being here, and for making this space possible. Your subscription means everything to us!

In this episode of Together Real Bad, Beautifulll and Ace open up about the highs, lows, and hilarious moments of launching their new business venture together — Jem Junkies. From working the Black Boy Art Show in Chicago to building a brand that blends beauty and culture, the duo shares what it’s really like to start a business with your partner. They talk about: 👩🏾‍❤️‍👩🏽 The real behind mixing love and entrepreneurship 📈 The vision for Jem Junkies as a cultural lifestyle brand beyond tooth gems and grillz 💡 Big wins and minor hiccups at their first major event 💬 Tips for maintaining balance when you're business partners and life partners 🧠 The importance of boundaries, business roles, and not taking things personal 🌈 Living out loud and showing up unapologetically 🎤 Ace’s bold predictions for Beyoncé’s Act III (yes, we said what we said) Plus, there’s a surprise guest appearance from Koda 🐶, a shout-out to Black Boys Rock, and a passionate review of Cowboy Carter. Whether you’re thinking about starting a business with your partner or just curious how we’re navigating this journey, this one’s full of laughs, life lessons, and a few unexpected gems.

What’s up y’all! With the long weekend, and how busy we were, we just could not fit the Podcast in the schedule. But don’t worry we are back with an episode early Wednesday morning. See you then! Beautifulll and Ace

In this episode, we talk about what it’s like to really come out — not just once, but in layers. Inspired by a touching DM from a listener in London and a major coming out moment with family, we peel back the curtain on the fears, family dynamics, social media choices, and joy that come with showing up fully as yourself. ✨ Inside: Funny & frustrating bed-making battles A Mother's Day coming-out story (with a twist!) Being “out” at work, but not on Facebook Responding to a listener who asked, “How do I come out to myself?” And of course, a few laughs, a lot of love, and even more truth. We’re grateful to have a space where we can be soft, honest, and hilarious at the same time — and we’re grateful for YOU for helping us make it possible. ❤️ Tap in. Let’s keep growing, together.

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode of Together Real Bad, Beautifulll and Ace dive deep into the complexities of bisexuality, identity, and love in queer relationships — inspired by a real conversation with our incredible Airbnb guest, Demita Frazier! 🏡✨ 🎙 Topics Covered: When Beautifulll first realized her attraction to women The struggles of reconciling bisexuality with religious upbringing First experiences with women and evolving relationship dynamics How being bisexual is perceived differently within the LGBTQIA+ community Navigating labels, fluidity, and boundaries in committed relationships Why being with a woman doesn't erase bisexual identity Conversations about attraction, trust, and relationship security Funny date night stories, life updates, and late-night diaries PLUS: We recap an amazing evening at the Queer News Podcast Salon hosted by E3 Radio’s Anna (DeShawn), celebrate Lesbian Visibility Week, and shout out to our Flag Football fam for showing up and showing love! 🏳️‍🌈🏈 🎨 We also talk about visiting the Black Creativity Exhibit at the Museum of Science and Industry, and support Black-owned businesses like 14 Parish! 🎧 Tune in if you’ve ever wondered: Can bisexual people feel erased in relationships? How does dating as a bisexual woman feel different? How do you maintain individuality and sexual identity within long-term queer relationships? And most importantly... what does mermaid bathwater taste like? 🧜‍♀️ 💬 Special thanks again to Demita Frazier for inspiring the title of this episode! 📲 Follow Us: Instagram: @together.real.badpod TikTok: @together.real.badpod Patreon: Together Real Bad

  **Patreon Episode - Visuals***patreon.com/c/TogetherRealBad In this Patreon episode of Together Real Bad, Beautifulll and Ace get real about navigating blame in relationships—from late-night matcha disasters to emotional misfires and unspoken expectations. We kick things off with a check-in on work, wellness, and that one neighbor who might just be a villain. Then we get personal about family brunches, coming out, and why setting emotional traps (even unintentionally) never ends well. 💥 This episode dives deep into: Why blaming your partner never works Talking through conflict without pointing fingers Taking ownership (even when it’s not your fault… but it kinda is) Ego vs. understanding: what makes or breaks a healthy fight A hilarious and chaotic story about makeup, candy, and a hyped-up Yorkie Poo 🗓 Plus: updates on our live podcast salon with Queer News & E3 Radio, a Black-owned BBQ spotlight, pop culture recs (hello Love on the Spectrum), and the Netflix show we won’t be recommending. ⏱️ Episode Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro Vibes & Theme Song Love01:00 – Life Updates: Work, Tiredness & The Coaching Mindset04:00 – Condo Water Drama & Editing Woes08:00 – Podcast Salon Announcement (April 25 at Affinity Community Center!)10:00 – Coming Out Over Brunch: The Update We've All Been Waiting For14:00 – Date Night Diaries: Art Shows, Fashion & Permanent Jewelry17:00 – Korean BBQ and Food Talk18:00 – Black-Owned Business Spotlight: Sanders BBQ in Beverly22:00 – Pop Culture: Love on the Spectrum Praise + Balloon Show Flop29:00 – Main Topic: The Blame Game32:00 – Storytime: Koda + Candy + Chaos37:00 – Therapy Talk: Accountability vs. Attack45:00 – Emotional Ownership & Growth50:00 – Grudges, Cycles, and Female Ego Navigation56:00 – Storytime Tangents & Takeaways60:00 – Take It or Leave It61:00 – Outro ✨ Takeaways & Talking Points: How to approach blame with empathy and humor Why ego has no place in conflict resolution Creating safe space for feedback, even during emotional triggers Learning from past relationships to protect what you have now 🔗 Mentions: 🎧 Queer News and E3 Radio🍗 Sanders BBQ – Beverly, Chicago📺 Love on the Spectrum (Netflix)🚫 That Netflix Balloon Show (you’ll see...) 📣 Join the Patreon: Want the visuals, behind-the-scenes laughs, and our chaotic energy in 4K? Subscribe to our Patreon for early access, bonus content, and exclusive couple convos: 👉 patreon.com/togetherrealbad

In this honest and hilarious episode, Beautifulll and Ace dive deep into the question: Would you rather be right or stay in a relationship? From "I told you so" moments to the petty Olympics, they're unpacking ego, communication, and growth in a real relationship. This episode also features: Their experience at a Black-owned Chicago hotel 🏨 A pottery date gone sideways 🎨 Piercings, tattoos, and tooth gems 💎 A wild tattoo convention 🐍 Tips for compromising without losing yourself 💌 Got an SOS (Save Our Situation) letter or want to share? Email us at togetherrealbad@gmail.com. Follow & Support: 📸 IG + TikTok: @together.real.badpod🎧 Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/togetherrealbad 🗣️ Don’t forget to leave a rating and review — it helps more folks find the show! Tags: #RelationshipPodcast #QueerLove #EmotionalIntelligence #LGBTQPodcasters #ChicagoCreatives #PodcastForCouples

EXCLUSIVE CONTENT: A full video version + behind-the-scenes extras are available on Patreon! Join the Together Real Bad community on PATREON  for unfiltered convos & bonus content.   🔊 Beautifulll & Ace are flipping the script on intimacy! In this episode, they’re NOT talking about sex (okay, maybe a little), but more about the deeper, everyday ways partners connect. From knowing when your person needs space to those small but meaningful gestures—THIS is what keeps relationships strong. 💖 🎙️ Inside This Episode:✅ The little ways intimacy shows up beyond the bedroom✅ Why non-verbal connections matter more than we think✅ Protective gestures, hand-holding & how they hit different✅ Corporate clapbacks = relationship goals?! 👀✅ A whole lot of laughs, random dancing & real-life relationship talk   👉🏾 Follow & Subscribe to never miss an episode, and drop a review sharing how YOU connect with your partner beyond just physical touch! 💬 💜 Stay Connected:📲 Instagram: @together.real.badpod📲 Patreon: Patreon📲 YouTube: Youtube #TogetherRealBad #PodcastCouple #RelationshipGoals #IntimacyMatters #ApplePodcasts #SpotifyPodcast