In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the body and mind, its symbolic and ceremonial uses, and why this time of year is such a potent moment to invite it in. She talks about how rosemary has been supporting her in the wake of her mother’s death, and how its steady, fragrant wisdom might become...
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In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the body and mind, its symbolic and ceremonial uses, and why this time of year is such a potent moment to invite it in. She talks about how rosemary has been supporting her in the wake of her mother’s death, and how its steady, fragrant wisdom might become...
In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the body and mind, its symbolic and ceremonial uses, and why this time of year is such a potent moment to invite it in. She talks about how rosemary has been supporting her in the wake of her mother’s death, and how its steady, fragrant wisdom might become...
In this episode, Buffy talks about her mom’s final days in hospice care and what has unfolded since. She shares about Vivian’s last moments, and the quiet peace that accompanied the sadness. She explores what it means to live inside the loss of her person, of the new language that grief offers, and how to find the small, steady places of okay-ness in the midst of it all. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the podcast on...
In this episode Buffy shares three stories of bravery and presence: her daughter braving her first cliff jump with a hundred witnesses; her son choosing courage over conformity; and her mother, in the final stages of life, reflecting on the light she brought to others. These stories weave together into a reminder that a life well lived isn’t about avoiding fear or hardship, but about meeting each moment with fullness and love—so that, at least most of the time, the room feels brighter because...
In this deeply personal and tender episode, Buffy opens her heart and shares the journey of her mom Vivian’s breast cancer—from her diagnosis a decade ago, to the present moment of making the decision to call hospice. Buffy reflects on a conversation with Vivian’s longtime oncologist, on telling her children about the upcoming transition, and on the moving dialogue that unfolded between Otis and Vivian as they faced her approaching death together. Vivian’s wisdom and peace about her life, and...
In this episode, Buffy introduces the Circle of Willis — a vital loop of arteries that keeps blood flowing to our brains, even when part of the path is blocked. She uses this miraculous piece of human design as a powerful metaphor: when life blocks one path, it often quietly reroutes us to another, sometimes better, direction. This divine circulation redirects us when we’re stuck, keeps us alive, and moves toward what’s meant for us. Through personal stories and reflections, Buffy reminds us ...
This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consciously choose. What would it look like to pause, question, and redefine them? Buffy asks questions like: What expectations are we unconsciously trying to meet? Which rules have we internalized without realizing it? And what could happen if we let them g...
What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep? Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challenging it can be to release something we've poured ourselves into. She posits that staying out of habit, history, or fear of change can block the natural evolution of our lives. Inspired by the seasonal shift of the summer solstice, Buffy invites listeners to co...
At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find our way forward. What could be possible when you purposefully witness meaningful transitions in your life? Ceremony creates a space to pause, digest meaning, and name what’s been lost and gained. This episode offers gentle ways to slow down and honor wher...
In this episode, Buffy explores the quiet power of specificity, and considers how precise, thoughtful feedback can leave a lasting mark. From Mr. Rogers’ letter-writing habits to Oprah's fourth grade teacher, Buffy shares stories that illustrate how specificity deepens connection, affirms identity, and answers our deep human desire to be seen. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the podcast on Patreon! Patreon members su...
Buffy opens this week’s episode by talking about the part vs. the whole; how, in times of great change, we usually don’t get to understand why something is happening to us. Meaning, and wisdom, arrive slowly and often in small moments. This episode is an invitation to make your life smaller. To eliminate what’s not necessary, reject what doesn’t truly feed and nourish you, so that what is beautiful in your life can be amplified. Buffy tells stories of farm walks, picnic table run-ins, and mor...
In this episode, Buffy explores the difference between a goal-oriented, legacy mindset vs. navigating your life like a laboratory. What if your life isn't something to perfect, but something to experiment with? What if it's not about leaving a mark, but about listening for what’s next? This episode is an invitation to stay tuned. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @BuffyTTWH 🌱 Become a supporter of the podcast on Patreon! Patreon members support the prod...
In part two of this special conversation, Buffy and Tina continue their discussion on love, loss, and Brody’s lasting impact. Tina shares how writing became a lifeline throughout Brody’s illness and grief, offering a glimpse into the book that is emerging from her journey. They also explore the breath, mindfulness, and meditation practices that carried their family through the hardest moments—and how those same practices continue to support them today. CW: Grief, Child Loss, Cancer Learn more...
Three years ago, Buffy’s dear friend Tina Porter faced the unimaginable—losing her son, Brody, to an aggressive brain tumor. In this special episode, Buffy and Tina come together for a heartfelt closet session to reflect on love, loss, and the lasting impact of Brody’s life. They discuss the beauty of his legacy and the practices that carried Tina and her family through both his passing and the grief that followed. This intimate conversation is a tribute to resilience, remembrance, and the wa...
In this episode, Buffy explores the juxtaposition between belonging and dissonance. She talks about the way communities can lighten the load and encourage bravery and belonging - as well as the pitfalls of what happens when we only surround ourselves with what feels familiar. Buffy challenges us to get curious about what is not like us through stories of post-car crashes, sheer tops, and unexpected moments of friction. Growth often comes from being around people who don’t think like us....
How does deep listening shape the way we experience life? How does it help us notice what we might otherwise overlook? Buffy reflects on the shift from doing into being, and how fulfillment can meet us when we let ourselves be present with our process. She talks about the connection between listening and play, and how joy and creativity can deepen our relationship to our inner life. Buffy leaves listeners with the question: what legacy do do want to leave? How do you become, not just through ...
In this episode, Buffy shares the things she’s choosing to cut from her life, and what she’s making room for instead. This conversation is an invitation for you to reflect: What could you cut? What could you create? How can you shape your life to support your vitality and amplify your state of presence? Tune in for an honest exploration of subtraction, intention, and the space we make for what truly matters. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in Venmo: @Buffy...
This episode is a hodgepodge of beauty and hope. In this historically monumental time, Buffy highlights importance of taking deep care and paying attention to what is good and beautiful. Your attention is a precious and finite resource. This episode is a reminder of the importance of using that resource well, and with skill, by focusing on magic and synchronicity alongside the pain and the suffering. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here. 🌱 Learn more about how to work ...
Where are you putting your creative energy and life force? What projects do you have in the works that need support, or that want to be moved forward? Buffy tells stories of auspicious bird-of-prey sightings, friendship, and drop-down menus to help you orient to where you are - right now, today, and this year - in order to bring your art, and your heart, into being. 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here. 🌱 Learn more about how to work with/hire Buffy. 🌱 Leave a tip in...
This week's episode is about the signs, sparks, and detours that sometimes subtly, sometimes suddenly, change the course of your life. Buffy tells stories of worry stones, guidance, and synchronicities, and encourages us to follow the cosmic bread crumbs that are divinely placed for us to follow. It takes a combination of courage and quiet to actually experience and receive these sparks - are you paying attention? 🌱 Find the accompanying playlist to this week's episode here. 🌱 Learn m...
This episode explores the ever-unfolding process of becoming. What are our interests, passions, and focus, and how do they transform over the course of our lives? How do we transform? Buffy invites listeners to explore how their dreams and interests have changed over time, encouraging a compassionate approach to letting go of outdated aspirations. She shares practical and inspiring ways to recycle or reimagine those dreams, shaping them into something fresh, vibrant, and aligned with our curr...
In this episode, Buffy talks about the plant rosemary as a guide and teacher. Rosemary, AKA the compass weed, the old man, is the plant of remembrance. Buffy shares what she is learning about this ancient and practical plant: its effects on the body and mind, its symbolic and ceremonial uses, and why this time of year is such a potent moment to invite it in. She talks about how rosemary has been supporting her in the wake of her mother’s death, and how its steady, fragrant wisdom might become...
