Send us a text Should men be the sole Providers and Protectors? Is that not wat women want? We hear it all of the time. I belive that the it is okay for men to be providers and protectors. But we as men are more than that. It is good for us men to explore what else we are as human beings, other than the roles that society has encouraged us to play. This episode provides a broader perspective on how assuming the role of provider and protectors affect relationships...

Send us a text Whe know what we should be doing to improve our lives. But why don't we just do it? And why don't other people just do what they should be doing. It's not that difficult, right? Listen and find out why it is so difficult to create real change. It can be a useful episode to start the New Year.

Send us a text Relationship problems are normal, right? Yes and No. It's true that most relationships require that couples work out issues. It's part of growing and building a healthy relationship. However, too much conflict creates tension. This episode focuses on the different types of conflicts that come up in relationships. The fact is that not all conflicts are created equal. Listen to learn about the conflict that you might be experiencing in y...

Send us a text One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship is learning how to get yourself out of the way. We don't realize how much we get in the way of our relationships. This episode explores the value of not making it about you and the different reasons we tend to get in our own way. You might be doing it right now to a loved one, or someone is doing it to you.

Send us a text You might be in a relationship with a selfish person and not even know it. Or maybe you did know it but didn't know how to describe their type of selfish. This episode helps identify 3 types of selfish people. When we are able to identify a selfish person we can learn to protect ourselves by setting firm boundaries.

Send us a text Is fairness in a relationship 50/50? How are we supposed to determine what is fair in a relationship? This episode explores the concept of fairness and how to break down barriers that get in the way. I believe that fairness is possible. But it would first have to take a complete breakdown of old gender rules that are getting in the way.

Send us a text I believe that being decent is too low of a standard for men. The bar is too low when we aim for decency. Let's be good men. Being a good man is not about how much we provide or protect. It is about how good we are to our partners and family. There is one significant feature in men that get in the way of becoming good men. This episode breaks down what we need to do as men to go from being decent to being good men.

Send us a text There is a difference between a relatinoship that is thriving and one that is surviving. I believe that a couple could be more in love 20 years later than the day the got married. Happily ever after is possible when we learn to thrive in a relationship.

Send us a text Are we being our true selves? How would we know? We all feel that we are being authentic, but when we dig deeper we might realize that we are the person others want or need us to be. Ruby and I talk about what it means to be authentic and how to develop your sense of self. Self discovery will come with changes to your life and your relationships. So it takes courage to live your true self.

Send us a text Some of us don't realize the power of boundaries. Boundaries are vital to creating healthy relationships. In this episode I talk about why boundaries are necessary and how to create boundaries in a healthy relationship.

Send us a text How do you know if your partner is truly CHANGING or BEHAVING? If you have asked your partner to change aspects of their person that is hurting the relationship, it is good to know if their efforts are real. Most of the time our partner are "Behaving". It is important that we know if our partner truly working on Changing toxic behavior. This episodes provides helpful information about what the differences are between changing and behaving.

Send us a text It is one of the most common communication barriers that I notice as a therapist. The act of filling in the blanks. When we don't fully know or understand something, we fill in the blanks with our own thoughts. The problem tends to be that we usually get it wrong. It gets in the way of truly understanding the needs of our partner and the relationship. This episodes goes over the reasons we do it and how we can start changing this bad habit.

Send us a text Gender roles provide an idea of who we need to be in society and in relationships. But do gender roles help or harm relationships? Many people feel that if men and women were better at understanding their roles that couples would be better for it. Others believe that gender roles get in the way. Listen to get my perspective about the affects of gender roles in relationships.

Send us a text Confronting truth is one of the most difficult things we can do. It can keep us in unhappy relationships. It can slow down our personal progress. We often do not even realize that we have created stories to help us deal with reality. When we are able to confront truth, we allow ourselves to better understand how we affect our relationships and we can better understand our relationship with ourselves. If you want to have a healthy relationship with...

Send us a text This questions has generally frustrated me. For a very long time I did not agree with people's "secrets to marriage". My wife and I are confident that we have narrowed down one very important aspect to secure a happy relationship. When we understand that the rules for a happy relationship have changed, we become better equipped to to create healthy relationships.

Send us a text What do you consider a successful relationship? Longevity is not the bet metric for success. Success in a relationship means fulfilling the promises that were made at the start of the relationship. In this episode I review 5 key features to happy relationships. The goal is to be happier than the day you first made your commitment to your partner. It is possible.

Send us a text Abuse is not always easy to identify. Many people may be in an abusive relatioship and not even know it. Society has a way of normalizing abusive relationships. It is important to know if you may be in an abusive relationship since it can give you a fair opportunity to do something about it. It can be difficult to identify an abusive relationship since they can be highly manipulative. This episodes provides perspective on the spectrum of abuse an...

Send us a text Leaving a relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. This episode focuses on better understanding when to leave a relationship. There is a difference between working on a relationship and surviving in a relationship. We owe it to ourselves to have the best opportunity to be happy with our partner. When we understand ourselves and take accountability for our happiness, we are put in a position that may require a series of courageous de...

Send us a text As therapists my wife and I frequently encounter unhealthy views about sex in a relationship. This episode addresses important myths about sex in relationships. It's important to distinguish the difference between intimacy and sex. We tend to have many misconceptions about how much sex couples should be having and about men's need to have sex. When a couple can figure out how to improve true intimacy, their relationship with sex naturally improves. ...

Send us a text Self-esteem is more than just a feeling. A person can have high self-esteem and be insecure at the same time. It's because of how we define self-esteem. Getting to know your true self is the key to sustainable self-esteem. It takes time to create a sustainable sense of self. Listen to understand the difference between superficial self-esteem and genuine self-esteem. https://www.viacharacter.org/