It's easy for us to have regrets...mistakes and failures are inevitable.
However, what if we shift the narrative to our regrets just being lessons? We need to stop shaming ourselves for the things that happened in the past and regretting the choices we made. Those lessons built us upinto who we are today.
In this episode, we listen to my 20 regrets that I no longer regret anymore because it's shaped me into my character and you can't turn back time,
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This week, we’re slowing down together.
A gentle end-of-week check-in to breathe, reflect, and honour the quiet progress you’ve made even if it didn’t look perfect or linear.
In this Friday Reflection, we explore why “figuring it out” doesn’t always feel like clarity, sometimes it looks like rest, patience, and trusting the process.
A soft reminder that you're doing better than you think, and that everything truly is figureoutable.
Press play, soften your shoulders, and land gently into the weekend.
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“Everything is figureoutable.”
It’s one of those phrases that sounds simple, maybe even cliché until life actually puts it to the test.
When something breaks, when plans fall apart, when you have no idea what to do next, that’s when this phrase either falls flat… or becomes your lifeline.
But here’s the thing: being stuck isn’t always about the situation. It’s about perception. Most of the time, you’re not actually stuck, you just haven’t found the next step yet. And that’s okay.
You’re not supposed to have it all mapped out, you’re supposed to participate in the unfolding.
And even if you can’t see it yet, you’re already on your way there.
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Let’s be real, Monday has never done anything for us. Every week it shows up uninvited, ruining the vibe like that one friend who reminds everyone how early they have to wake up tomorrow.
Sunday night? You’re romanticising your life, journaling, skincare, main character energy. Then suddenly it’s 11:59 PM and boom, anxiety parade.
But here’s the truth: the world isn’t out to get you.
On this Friday Reflection episode, lets shift the narrative to maybe monday is just… consistent and maybe that’s something we can use.
Every Sunday night, humanity collectively experiences the same emotional crisis. The clock strikes 7pm, and suddenly… the world goes quiet. The group chat goes silent. And there it is, the Sunday Scaries.
You’re coming off the freedom of the weekend, maybe still tired, maybe already overwhelmed by what’s ahead. And that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with you for not being instantly productive.
But what if we reframe it? maybe it’s not Monday that’s hard. Maybe it’s the expectation that you need to wake up as a brand-new version of yourself every week. So let’s take that pressure off. You don’t need to conquer Monday. You just need to meet it gently.
Mondays are tough...so here's an episode that will hopefully ease you into your Mondays a bit easier.
Today's Friday Reflection is light hearted.
We will not be journaling our thoughts or convince our minds to do better. Today, we are just accepting that sometimes life can be hard and it can suck.
In the dating world, it is often easy to blame ourselves for it not working out or the fact that we get ghosted or maybe we haven't met THE ONE and time seem to pass so fast.
Today, we are just sitting with the acceptance of effort. We need to accept ourselves before we expect others to accept us. Sometime, we need to just sit in solitude that love is a challenge but it doesn't mean we don' stop trying.
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This week, I am delighted to be talking to my special guest, my lovely friend Tallulah Marshall Venter.
She is joining us on the podcast today to speak about the dating world and her experiences with dating.
Dating is often not easy, especially as it seems as if the expectations have become higher, hook-up culture has become the norm, and trying to find your match feels like a stretch.In this episode, we dive into the nightmares of dating, how to navigate through the online dating apps vs real-life dating experiences, and of course, how to stay optimistic through it all.
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This week, we explored the fear of being “too much” and still not enough. Maybe you noticed places in your life where you shrink yourself or moments when you worried you were taking up too much space.
It’s a hard tension to live in. And yet, naming it is already healing.
So today, I want you to take a breath and check in with yourself.
Where did you feel like you were “too much” this week? And where did you feel like you weren’t enough?
You will never be too much for the right people. And you will never be not enough for the life meant for you.
You don’t have to shrink, and you don’t have to perform. You are allowed to exist in your full self messy, radiant, human.
You’re not too much. You’re not enough. You’re YOU and that’s more than enough.
I’ll meet you back here on Monday.
Today we’re talking about something tender, something that so many of us carry but rarely put words to: the fear of being too much and at the same time, still not enough.
It’s this quiet tug-of-war inside us, where one part of us worries that we take up too much space, ask for too much, feel too deeply, dream too loudly and the other part worries we’ll never be quite enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not successful enough, not whatever enough. It’s exhausting. It’s confusing and it can make us shrink ourselves just to feel safe.
Here’s the truth: you will never be too much for the people who are meant to see you. And you will never be not enough for the life that was meant for you. You are both expansive and tender, imperfect and radiant. The only person who gets to decide if you are “too much” or “not enough” is you.
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On Monday, we talked about sparkle. Not the fake, polished kind, but that quiet inner glow that feels real. And how sometimes, it goes dim. Not because you’ve failed, but because you’re tired, growing, or carrying more than you can hold.
So today, I want to ask you:
Where this week did I feel a tiny spark? Maybe it was laughter. Maybe it was sunlight. Maybe it was five quiet minutes to yourself.
And also, Where did I notice the dimness? Where did I feel like I wasn’t myself?
You don’t have to chase your sparkle. You don’t have to fix yourself to glow again. Light has a way of finding its way back in often through the smallest cracks.
Thank you for pausing with me. For choosing to reflect instead of rushing.
You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
And if you’ve made it here, you’re already in the Club.
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When was the last time you felt your glow? Your Sparkle? Your shine?
There are seasons when we don’t feel shiny at all. We feel flat, tired, muted. Like the brightness has been drained out of us. And sometimes, that feels scary. Because we remember a time when we did glow, and we wonder: where did that person go?
But here’s the gentle truth: your sparkle isn’t gone. It’s just resting. It’s waiting. It’s asking you to slow down and notice what makes you feel alive again.
Getting your glow back isn’t about a makeover, or reinventing yourself overnight. It’s about tiny sparks. The little things that remind you who you are.
So maybe this week, instead of asking “Why don’t I feel like myself anymore?” … try asking: What’s one tiny spark I could give myself today? It doesn’t need to be big. It just needs to feel real.
Because your sparkle isn’t lost. It’s still inside you. Waiting. And the moment you choose to see it again, even in the smallest flicker… it starts to glow.
On Mondays' episode, we talked about The Grief of Growing Up.
How growing up isn’t just about milestones and independence, it’s also about letting go of versions of ourselves, friendships, and even dreams that once felt so close
Remember: grieving doesn’t mean you’re broken, or ungrateful. It means you’re human and you’re allowed to feel both the ache of what’s gone and the hope of what’s to come.
The beauty of growing up is that even as we let go, we also get to choose what we carry forward.
Can you remember yourself as a child?
Can you remember what you used to love doing as a child?
Now, you are all grown up and you think back on your childhood and think "where did the time go?"
Growing up may mean letting go, but it also means gathering wisdom, depth, and resilience. And sometimes, the pieces of you that feel “lost” aren’t gone forever, they’re waiting for you to invite them back in, in a new way.
Growing up isn’t just about milestones or achievements. It’s also about letting go. Letting go of the versions of ourselves that no longer fit. Letting go of the dreams we once carried. And sometimes, letting go of the innocence of how we thought life might turn out.
Welcome to your Friday Reflection.
Since Monday, we’ve been sitting with the idea of showing up even on the days when we don’t feel like it. Today, I just want to take a quiet moment with you to reflect.
And if you feel like you didn’t show up the way you wanted to remember, you still have time.
Showing up doesn’t have to look like hustling or doing something grand. Sometimes it’s just resting, or making a small choice that your future self will thank you for.
As you step into the weekend, carry this with you: showing up isn’t about doing more, it’s about being present with what matters.
I’m proud of you for making it through this week, for whatever showing up looked like for you.
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Today’s episode is called The Quiet Power of Showing Up (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It).
And honestly… this one feels personal. Because I think we’ve all had those days where the last thing we want to do is get out of bed, open the laptop and work or go to the gym, or even reply to a message. But still even Just… showing up is enough.
We are not perfect but for some reason our morning routine has to be perfect or our workout plan has to be perfect or we won’t allow ourselves to colour outside the lines and end up bullying ourselves a bit when we dont tick off our to-do list or we take longer to reach a goal.
So that’s what we’re going to talk about today, the little ways showing up changes everything, even when it feels impossible. And you need to ask yourself, who are you showing up for?
We spend the majority of our time with ourselves and most often we are our own motivators.
We live in a world that praises the big moments. The launches, the wins, the highlight reels. The milestones. The achievements. The hustle. But the truth is, those moments are built on the smaller, quieter ones. Perfectionism is a myth.
And showing up doesn’t mean doing it perfectly. It doesn’t even mean doing it at 100%. It just means being there. Like planting one seed at a time, even if you can’t see the garden yet.
In today's Friday reflection, the topic we are talking about is time. How in our twenties and thirties, it can feel like it’s running out.
Like we should be further ahead, doing more, being more. But here’s the truth: becoming is not a race.
If you have a notebook or just want to think along, here’s your gentle journal prompt for today:
Write it down, leave yourself a voice note or just let it sit with you as you move through the day.
Fridays are for slowing down, remembering what matters, and being human. You’re not behind. You’re not late. You’re just becoming.
Thank you for being here for choosing to check in instead of check out.
You’re already in the club.
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In today's episode, we’re talking about a feeling a lot of us carry quietly: What if I’m too late? And what if… you’re not?”
You’re scrolling, and someone your age is launching a business, getting married, moving countries, writing books. And you wonder, did I miss the mark?
You turn 24, or 27, or 32 and birthdays feel less like celebrations, more like deadlines.
And quietly, you wonder: did I waste too much time?
We were fed this silent script: do this by that age, look like this by then. But… whose rules are we even following?
What if the timeline isn’t real?
I hope you feel a little lighter after this episode.
Stay Soft. Stay Hopeful. Stay in the Club.
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Let this be your permission to not rush. You’re allowed to land here, just as you are. Becoming is enough.
On Monday, we talked about the difference between real optimism and toxic positivity.
About how hope doesn’t have to mean pretending you’re okay.
So today, I want to ask:
Where did I feel pressure to be okay this week?
Where did I allow myself to just be human?
The work we’re doing here, choosing a gentle rebellion against burnout culture, hustle shame, and all-or-nothing thinking. it’s slow and real. And that makes it powerful.
Let me know your thoughts.
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Stay Soft. Stay Hopeful. Stay in the Club.
On our first episode, we're diving into what Toxic Positivity really is and how it could affect our well-being.
It’s when positivity becomes pressure. When everything you’re feeling gets dismissed or sugar-coated. Like when you say, “I’m exhausted,” and someone replies, “But at least you have a job!” Or you admit you’re lonely, and they say, “You just need to love yourself more.” It comes from a well-meaning place… But what it often does is shut down real conversations.
But here’s the thing.
You can be grateful and grieving. You can be optimistic and overwhelmed. We are complex, contradictory beings and we deserve spaces that honour all of it.
That’s why I created this podcast. Not to fix you. Not to force a silver lining. But to hold space for your softness in this hard-driven world.
Welcome to The Optimistic Club
This is where soft-hearted realists gather to breathe, reflect, and find hope in the chaos of our 20s and beyond.
This isn’t just a podcast, it’s your personal clubhouse for soft-hearted realists.
Here, we don’t bypass feelings. We invite them in, hand them a cup of tea, and sit with them on the porch swing.
In a world that moves fast and praises hustle, The Optimistic Club is your pause, a gentle rebellion against burnout, toxic positivity, and all-or-nothing thinking.
The Optimistic Club is a slow, honest space to sit with the messy, beautiful parts of being human navigation the uncomfortable parts of life.
On Mondays, we talk. On Fridays, we reflect. We’re not here to fix ourselves. We’re here to feel, grow, pause, and maybe find our sparkle again.
If that sounds like you, Welcome. You’re already in the club
