In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, to discuss navigating mismatched libidos in relationships. We explore how libido fluctuates due to life circumstances, the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire, and the impact of stress and aging. Dr. Ash offers practical strategies like scheduling connection time, building an “intimacy bank,” and embracing non-sexual touch. Our conversation also covers self-pleasure, embodiment, and open relationships as options. I encourage listeners to communicate openly, release shame, and cultivate intimacy through compassion and intentionality.
Dr. Alison Ash shares personal updates, including new offerings for neurodivergent folks and her fertility journey.
Fertility, Hormones, and Intimacy (00:03:16)
Discussion on how fertility journeys, hormones, and aging impact intimacy and libido in relationships.
Introducing the Topic: Differing Libido (00:06:00)
Jen introduces the main topic: navigating differences in libido within relationships, with personal anecdotes.
Understanding Libido Fluctuations (00:06:57)
Dr. Ash explains that libido is not static, affected by physiological, situational, and contextual factors.
New Relationship Energy & Responsive Desire (00:08:34)
Exploration of how new relationship energy impacts desire, and the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire over time.
Cultivating Responsive Desire (00:10:30)
Discussion on tools and practices to cultivate responsive desire, especially in long-term relationships.
Aging, Attraction, and Sexuality (00:12:23)
Challenging cultural narratives about aging and sexual attractiveness, especially for women.
Creating Spaciousness for Intimacy (00:14:23)
Strategies for making time and space for intimacy, including rituals and sensory-based pleasure.
Scheduling Intimacy & The Intimacy Bank (00:18:22)
Advice on scheduling connection time and introducing the "intimacy bank" concept to build emotional and sexual connection.
Self-Responsibility & Erotic Blueprints (00:22:11)
The importance of self-care, understanding erotic blueprints, and meeting your own needs in relationships.
Sexual Scripts, Resentment, and Pleasure (00:24:36)
How societal scripts and having unwanted sex can lead to resentment and disconnection from pleasure.
Asexuality & Pleasure Spectrum (00:28:04)
Clarifying asexuality as an orientation and discussing the spectrum of sexual and sensory pleasure.
Erotic Blueprints & Love Languages (00:30:09)
Exploring different frameworks for understanding what turns people on and how to communicate desires.
Embodiment: What It Is and How to Practice (00:33:45)
Defining embodiment, its benefits, and practical exercises to become more embodied.
Medicines, Drugs, and Embodiment (00:38:07)
Discussion on the use of cannabis and other substances for embodiment, and their pros and cons.
Advice for Higher Libido Partners (00:41:09)
Tools and mindset shifts for higher libido partners, including self-pleasure and breaking the pressure/rejection cycle.
Physical Affection & Creativity in Intimacy (00:44:58)
Encouraging non-penetrative intimacy, rebuilding physical affection, and creative connection strategies.
Masturbation, Boundaries, and Inclusion (00:47:42)
Navigating boundaries around self-pleasure, reducing shame, and ways to include partners in the process.
Non-Monogamy as an Option (00:49:59)
Considering open relationships or non-monogamy for couples with mismatched libido, and the potential benefits.
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Today I'm giving you a life update - our engagement and upcoming wedding, hormones and my health, pilates, and how to vacation as a throuple!
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In this episode of The Feminine Rebellion, I join host Natty Frasca to discuss the realities of open relationships. As a certified sex and relationship coach, I share my personal journey—from experiencing sexual dissatisfaction to embracing ethical non-monogamy with my partner, Scott.
Together, Natty and I explore different relationship styles, address common misconceptions, and highlight the importance of communication, consent, and self-discovery. Our conversation encourages listeners to question societal norms, honor their desires, and approach relationships with curiosity, openness, and respect. I also offer practical advice for anyone considering or navigating open relationships.
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Host gives a content warning and introduces the episode’s focus on open relationships and guest Jennifer Callow.
Jennifer’s Backstory: Awakening and Therapy (00:02:56)
Jennifer shares her limited sexual experiences, therapy journey, and decision to propose an open relationship.
The Turning Point: Therapy Session and Decision (00:05:04)
Jennifer describes the pivotal therapy session and the ultimatum that led to opening her marriage.
Sexual Exploration and Inspiration (00:06:19)
Jennifer discusses influences like “Sex, Love & Goop,” and her initial solo exploration of sexuality.
Discovering New Sexual Possibilities (00:08:24)
Jennifer recounts her first experiences outside marriage and the contrast with her previous sex life.
Defining Open Relationships and Types (00:10:10)
Jennifer explains what open relationships are, including swinging, polyamory, and hybrid dynamics.
Jennifer and Scott’s Unique Dynamic (00:13:01)
Jennifer details her and Scott’s polyamorous relationship, dating women together, and their specific boundaries.
Navigating Jealousy and Relationship Rules (00:15:33)
Discussion on jealousy, emotional responses, and why they only date together to strengthen their bond.
Evolution of Their Open Relationship (00:17:42)
Jennifer describes the trial-and-error process of finding the right dynamic, including dating couples and single women.
Being Public vs. Private About ENM (00:22:58)
Jennifer talks about being open publicly, how friends and family react, and the importance of personal choice in disclosure.
Common Mistakes When Opening Up (00:26:23)
Jennifer outlines mistakes couples make, like abrupt conversations, and emphasizes education and gradual exploration.
Stigma and High-Achieving Women in ENM (00:30:07)
Discussion on the stigma of polyamory, and how many successful women are exploring open relationships.
Exploring Fetishes and Desires (00:32:41)
Jennifer introduces FetLife, discusses discovering new desires, and how different partners fulfill different needs.
Permission to Play and Mainstreaming Kink (00:36:50)
Conversation about the importance of play, mainstream depictions of kink, and the empowerment of sexual exploration.
Resources and Erotica for Exploration (00:40:39)
Jennifer recommends women-focused porn, audio erotica, and smut literature as safe ways to explore desires.
Final Thoughts: Curiosity and Permission (00:42:48)
Jennifer encourages curiosity, slow exploration, and permission to discover what works for each individual or couple.
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Rob Kancler, an expert in men’s sexual health and intimacy. We discuss the widespread crisis of physical intimacy, the impact of cultural conditioning, and the lack of honest conversations about sex—especially among men. Rob shares insights from his "Men of Substance" program, emphasizing the importance of body intelligence, nervous system regulation, and authentic connection. Together, we explore practical tools for cultivating deeper intimacy and announce upcoming programs for both men and women to foster healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships.**Witnessing a 45-Minute Orgasm (00:00:04)** Rob describes witnessing a man induce a prolonged orgasm, sparking his curiosity about sexual potential.**The Crisis of Sexual Intimacy & Male Communication (00:01:51)** Rob discusses men’s lack of honest conversations about sex, cultural taboos, and the impact of sexual “lineages.”**Sexual Operating Systems & Widespread Dysfunction (00:07:08)** Rob explains the concept of a “sexual operating system” and common issues like mismatched libido and sexual dysfunction.
**Unfulfilled Sex Lives & Societal Statistics (00:11:45)** Rob highlights how few people experience fulfilling sex lives, referencing statistics on sexual dissatisfaction.
**Men’s Sexual Satisfaction & Awakening (00:16:20)** Discussion about when men realize their sexual approach is lacking and the importance of listening to partners.
**Beyond Routine Sex: Emergent Experience (00:20:05)** Rob describes the value of letting go of expectations and choreography to access deeper intimacy and pleasure.
**Sexual “Magic” and Forgetting What You Know (00:26:21)** Rob explains that advanced sexual experiences aren’t magic, but require unlearning cultural scripts.
**Horniness, Consciousness, and Spiritual Sex (00:33:28)** Rob introduces the idea of a bridge between horniness and consciousness leading to spiritual sexual experiences.
**Addiction, Arousal, and Embodied Safety (00:38:42)** Rob discusses how addiction to peak orgasms and dysregulation block deeper sexual experiences.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Candia Raquel, a Mexican sensualist, scientist, and artist, to discuss how pleasure can be a powerful antidote to anxiety.
We explore the difference between sensuality and sexuality, the impact of societal conditioning on our relationship with pleasure, and practical somatic tools—like mindful rituals, breathwork, and embracing bodily signals—to help us reconnect with our bodies and the present moment.
Candia shares accessible strategies for busy listeners to cultivate daily pleasure, offering a compassionate approach to overcoming anxiety and fostering greater fulfillment.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with Andrea Dindinger, a veteran marriage and family therapist, about why couples have the same arguments repeatedly—often over small issues like running late or household chores.
Andrea explains these fights usually mask deeper needs for love, respect, and connection. We discuss relationship archetypes, emotional triggers, and practical tools like “bookmarking” conflicts.
Our conversation offers actionable advice for breaking negative cycles, improving communication, and turning recurring disagreements into opportunities for greater intimacy and understanding.
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Sex and Money: The Roots of Power Struggles (00:00:03)
Andrea discusses how sex and money are complex, power-based issues in relationships.
Podcast Introduction and Guest Welcome (00:00:32)
Jen introduces the podcast, Andrea’s background, and the episode’s focus on recurring fights.
Why Do Couples Have the Same Fights? (00:01:07)
Andrea explains why couples repeat the same arguments and the emotional needs beneath them.
Common Triggers: Running Late and Household Habits (00:01:44)
Discussion of typical recurring fights, like lateness and household chores, and their deeper meanings.
The Loop as an Invitation for Intimacy (00:03:23)
Andrea reframes recurring fights as opportunities for connection rather than blame.
Breaking Down the “Running Late” Archetype (00:04:22)
Jen and Andrea analyze the punctual “drill sergeant” archetype and its roots in childhood or military experiences.
Emotional Layers Behind Punctuality (00:06:07)
Exploring the fear, anxiety, and shame beneath anger about lateness.
The “Airy Fairy” and Multitasker Archetypes (00:08:05)
Discussion of the partner who is less time-focused, often multitasking or losing track of time.
Disassociation and Entitlement in Time Perception (00:10:18)
Andrea explains how some people disconnect from time and its social impact.
How Opposites Attract in Relationships (00:10:51)
Why punctual and non-punctual partners are drawn to each other and how their dynamics play out.
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What is New Relationship Energy? (00:01:19) Explains the chemical basis of NRE, its emotional impact, and outlines the episode’s structure: dangers, benefits, and management.Dangers of NRE: Neglect and Rash Decisions (00:02:44) Discusses neglecting existing relationships, children, work, and making impulsive decisions due to NRE.Dangers of NRE: Ignoring Red Flags and Jealousy (00:04:07) Covers ignoring red flags in new partners and how NRE can fuel jealousy and insecurities in existing relationships.Dangers of NRE: Partners Aren’t Therapists (00:05:28) Advises against using partners as emotional dumping grounds for NRE excitement; suggests finding friends or therapists instead.Dangers of NRE: Emotional Instability (00:06:42) Addresses emotional highs and lows, and the importance of maintaining emotional regulation and security with existing partners.Benefits of NRE: Mood, Libido, and Connection (00:09:09) Highlights NRE’s positive effects: mood boost, increased libido, emotional closeness, and willingness to try new experiences.Benefits of NRE: New Experiences and Growth (00:11:25) Shares personal stories illustrating how NRE encourages trying new things and expanding personal horizons.Managing NRE: Setting Boundaries (00:13:30) Emphasizes the importance of boundaries with new and existing partners to maintain relationship health.Managing NRE: Calendaring and Scheduling (00:16:01) Describes using calendaring systems to organize time with multiple partners and ensure everyone’s needs are met.Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Alley, the first “third” (a person joining a couple) featured on the show. Alley shares her candid experiences as a third in a polyamorous triad, discussing communication challenges, emotional complexities, and the importance of clear boundaries and self-awareness.
Our conversation explores misconceptions about thirds, the need for honest dialogue, and the realities of navigating love, jealousy, and logistics in ethical non-monogamy. Both Alley and I emphasize treating all partners as equals and highlight the ongoing growth required in open relationships.
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Ever wonder why some relationships feel effortlessly passionate while others lose their spark? The secret lies in masculine and feminine polarity. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how embracing your natural energy—whether masculine or feminine—can transform your relationship and help you get exactly what you want in love.We’ll explore: ⚡ Why polarity creates attraction and deepens connection 💃 How stepping into your feminine energy invites him to step up 🕺 The masculine drive to protect, provide, and pursue 🔥 Practical shifts to bring more balance, passion, and harmony to your relationshipIf you’re ready to create a dynamic that feels magnetic and deeply fulfilling, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the power of polarity!👉 Tune in now and start shifting your love life today!Ashanti’s Story of Loss and Resilience (00:02:21)Ashanti recounts losing her home, financial collapse, and rebuilding her life and business.Defining Resilience vs. Strength (00:05:35)Ashanti explains the difference between resilience and traditional strength, emphasizing emotional processing.Moving Through Life Transitions (00:06:18)Jen shares her own experiences with life changes, motherhood, and emotional transitions.Privilege, Perspective, and Emotional Collapse (00:07:18)Ashanti discusses privilege, international experiences, and how people collapse after trauma or rejection.Turning Tragedy into Power (00:09:47)Ashanti describes how resilience can transform heartbreak or loss into personal growth and empowerment.Fluidity, Resilience, and Business Lessons (00:10:25)Jen and Ashanti discuss resilience in business, letting go, and trusting the process.Trust, Feminine Energy, and Blind Decisions (00:12:36)Ashanti talks about trusting intuition, making decisions without evidence, and shifting social media strategies.Divine PTSD and Growth vs. Running (00:14:13)Ashanti introduces the concept of “divine PTSD” and differentiates between running from problems and expanding.Love Languages and Self-Love (00:15:36)Ashanti challenges traditional love languages, advocating for self-sourced love and validation.Divine Love Bombing and Non-Attachment (00:17:26)Ashanti shares her approach to relationships, expressing feelings without attachment to others’ reactions.Self-Love, Divine Narcissism, and Sisterhood (00:20:19)Ashanti explains “divine narcissism,” loving oneself and others, and overcoming jealousy and sister wounds.Fulfilling Your Own Love Language (00:22:49)Jen and Ashanti discuss practical ways to meet your own needs, like physical touch and affirmation.Ordering from the Energetic Buffet (00:23:25)Ashanti explains manifesting ideal partners authentically, not through manipulation.Modern Relationship Challenges and Solutions (00:24:16)Jen asks about high divorce rates, unrealistic expectations, and how to restore polarity and happiness.Emotional Intelligence as the Foundation (00:25:48)Ashanti emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and energy work for women’s fulfillment.Inner Masculine and Manifesting Partners (00:29:43)Ashanti introduces the concept of the “inner king” and building a relationship with your inner masculine.Relationship Evolution and Masculine/Feminine Dynamics (00:32:04)Jen shares her relationship history and current challenges with masculine/feminine balance.Self-Worth Warriors Program and Offerings (00:50:16)Ashanti describes her Self-Worth Warriors course, community, and other coaching offerings.
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Driven by technological advancements and a growing emphasis on sexual wellness, the sextech market has exploded on a global scale in recent years. The wearables category has arguably seen the most interesting and compelling growth with products that do things like help alleviate pain during penetration, others use AI to map changes in the pelvic floor, and innovations like FirmTech’s award-winning Tech Ring—the first smart intimacy wearable of its kind—enhances pleasure while improving cardiac health.Join Dr. Justin Elliot and I a we talk about erections!Introduction and Erection Ring Demonstration (00:00:02) Dr. Justin demonstrates how an erection ring helps men maintain erections longer by holding blood in the penis.Podcast Introduction and Guest Welcome (00:00:44) Jen introduces the podcast, its topics, and welcomes Dr. Elliot Justin as the guest.Defining Erections and Erectile Dysfunction (00:01:21) Discussion on the definition of erections, erectile dysfunction, and the problematic broadness of the term.Causes of Erectile Dysfunction (00:02:06) Explains the difference between men who can't attain erections (blood flow issues) and those who can't sustain them.Nocturnal Erections as a Health Indicator (00:03:54) Nocturnal erections are discussed as a vital sign for cardiovascular and sexual health.Tracking Nocturnal Erections with Technology (00:04:57) Introduction of Firm Tech’s sensor-embedded erection ring for monitoring nocturnal erections.How the Erection Ring Works (00:05:48) Explains the dual function of the ring: tracking vital signs and sustaining erections.Importance of Nighttime Monitoring (00:06:22) Why nocturnal erections are a better health indicator than daytime erections.Predictive Value of Nocturnal Erections (00:06:44) Decrease in nocturnal erections predicts higher risk of heart attack; importance of early detection.Preventive Sexual Health and Standard of Care (00:08:33) Advocates for routine monitoring of erectile health as preventive care for men over 45.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with Veronica Lynn Clark, a transformative coach and spiritual teacher, to explore conscious dating, self-discovery, and intimacy.
We discuss how beliefs and past trauma shape our relationship patterns, the importance of self-awareness, and embodying the qualities we seek in a partner. Veronica shares her personal healing journey, the value of vulnerability, and offers practical advice for authentic connection.
Our conversation emphasizes intentionality, clear boundaries, and doing the inner work as keys to attracting meaningful, heart-centered relationships. We hope to inspire you to pursue deeper intimacy and personal growth in your own love life.
Meeting from Innocence and Curiosity (00:00:02)
Veronica discusses meeting people from a place of innocence, curiosity, and embodied presence rather than intellect.
Being Present with Others (00:01:15)
Veronica emphasizes the importance of being present with others and how it impacts connection.
Letting Go of Preconceived Notions (00:02:30)
She talks about letting go of preconceived notions and expectations when interacting with others.
Embodied Presence (00:03:45)
Veronica explains what it means to be in embodied presence during conversations.
Listening Deeply (00:05:10)
She highlights the value of listening deeply to others without judgment.
Responding Authentically (00:06:25)
Veronica discusses responding authentically rather than reacting from habit.
The Power of Vulnerability (00:07:40)
She shares insights on the power of vulnerability in building genuine connections.
Creating Safe Spaces (00:09:00)
Veronica talks about creating safe spaces for open and honest dialogue.
Mutual Understanding (00:10:15)
She emphasizes the importance of mutual understanding in relationships.
Transformative Encounters (00:11:30)
Veronica describes how transformative encounters can arise from authentic presence.
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Melissa Louise joins Jen for a candid discussion on sexual satisfaction and intimacy.
They explore how many men remain stuck in adolescent sexual habits, the impact on relationships, and the importance of evolving one’s sex life.
Melissa emphasizes communication, emotional safety, and mutual responsibility for pleasure.
The conversation also covers women’s sexual awakenings, cultural taboos, and practical advice for deepening connection. Listeners are encouraged to embrace vulnerability, challenge shame, and pursue more fulfilling, conscious sexual relationships.
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Introduction & Setting the Stage (00:00:02)
Melissa and Jen introduce the episode’s focus: sexual satisfaction, responsibility, and the “are you still fucking like you’re 16?” theme.
Podcast & Guest Introduction (00:00:25)
Jen introduces the podcast, Melissa’s credentials, and outlines the episode’s edgy, adult content.
Viral Reel & Topic Setup (00:02:04)
Jen describes discovering Melissa’s Instagram reel about men’s masturbation habits and sets up the main discussion.
Sexual Dissatisfaction & Awakening (00:05:00)
Jen reflects on her own sexual evolution and how dissatisfaction often sparks curiosity and change.
The Need for Sexual Evolution in Relationships (00:08:14)
Melissa discusses why couples must evolve sexually, comparing it to growth in other life areas.
Cultural Silence, Shame & Training for Sexual Mastery (00:09:39)
The speakers address cultural taboos, shame, and the lack of open conversation about sex. Melissa uses sports analogies to highlight the need for sexual “training” and effort in relationships.
Responsibility, Communication & Safety in Sex (00:12:34)
Melissa emphasizes shared responsibility, honest communication, and introduces the concept of “RACE” (Respect, Acknowledgement, Safety, Excitement), discussing the different safety needs of men and women.
Erectile Dysfunction & Male Sexual Energy (00:20:42)
Melissa reframes erectile issues as signals of deeper dissatisfaction and discusses the value of semen retention, male sexual power, and honoring the body.
How Men Can Help Their Partners Open Up (00:30:06)
Advice for men whose partners are sexually closed off, including the importance of sexual currency, connection, and understanding love languages.
Celebrating Sexual Exploration & Healing (00:38:46)
Jen shares personal stories of sexual exploration and the transformative power of great sex. Melissa discusses sex as a spiritual, emotional, and healing practice, and the importance of stamina and collective responsibility for change.
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In this episode of the Open Bedroom podcast, I interview psychologist Don Edmundson about his journey into polyamory. Don opens up about his personal experiences navigating jealousy, attachment, and the societal expectations of masculinity while building a polyamorous family with two partners and children. We discuss how he overcame ingrained beliefs about control, the importance of open communication, and how polyamory can foster trust and personal growth. Our conversation also explores research on relationship satisfaction and the evolving acceptance of ethical non-monogamy, offering practical insights for anyone interested in non-traditional relationships.
Don Edmondson is a tenured professor, and the Director of the Center for Behavioral Cardiovascular Health at Columbia University Medical Center. He is also a polyamorous man living with his 2 partners and their 2 kids. He launched PolyamPsychologist in 2025, to communicate the revolutionary potential of polyamory for society.
Don’s Polyamory Origin Story (00:02:16)
Don shares his background, upbringing, and initial exposure to non-monogamy, including his Southern Baptist roots and early relationships.
Transition to Polyamory & Jealousy (00:05:20)
Don explains the shift from hierarchical non-monogamy to polyamory, struggles with jealousy, and the journey toward compassion.
Building a Polyamorous Family (00:07:48)
Don shares how his family expanded to include Saga and their children, forming a supportive household and evolving family dynamics.
Therapy, Exposure, and Healing (00:14:14)
Don discusses using therapy and exposure techniques to overcome jealousy, build trust, and experience compersion.
Gendered Advice for Polyamory (00:18:24)
Don explains how advice for polyamory differs for men due to patriarchal conditioning, and discusses attachment theory and secure relationships.
Deconstructing Patriarchy for Men (00:24:54)
Jen asks how men can question and unlearn patriarchal beliefs about control in relationships; Don shares his personal growth through feminist friendship and recommended resources.
Men, Polyamory, and Social Media (00:30:39)
Jen asks about Don’s TikTok series on men and polyamory; Don explains his motivation, themes, and addresses issues like vulnerability and manipulation.
Research on Polyamory vs. Monogamy (00:37:14)
Jen asks about scientific research comparing monogamy and polyamory; Don summarizes findings on satisfaction, trust, sexual fulfillment, and the growth of ethical non-monogamy.
Podcast Wrap-Up and Resources (00:45:17)
Jen and Don share where to find more resources, social media links, and thank listeners.
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In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore the importance of nurturing one-on-one time—what I call “dyad dates”—with each partner in a polyamorous relationship. I share personal stories about my connections with Scott, Jess, and Steph, highlighting how each relationship is unique and requires individual attention. I discuss the different needs and dynamics within each partnership, offering my insights and advice on fostering intimacy, communication, and deeper connections in polyamorous arrangements. I encourage listeners to prioritize individual relationships for stronger, more fulfilling connections.
Defining Dyad Dates & Relationship Dynamics (00:01:16) Explains "dyad" meaning, outlines her relationships with Scott, Jess, and Steph, and the importance of one-on-one time.
Challenges of Scheduling Dyad Dates (00:02:26) Discusses logistical difficulties in arranging alone time for Scott and Jess, and creative solutions.
Erotic Blueprints & Partner Needs (00:03:35) Explains erotic blueprints, how each partner experiences love and connection differently, and how this affects intimacy.
Planning Dyad Dates & Overcoming Assumptions (00:05:56) Jen shares her assumptions about Steph’s preferences and how she initiated a sleepover to support Scott and Jess’s alone time.
Jess and Scott’s Sensual Night (00:08:06) Details Jess and Scott’s date, including the sundress fantasy, horror movie, and their intimate connection.
Steph and Jen’s Primal Night (00:10:02) Describes the sensual and primal dynamic between Jen and Steph, including their exploration of fantasies and fishnet outfits.
The Importance of Individual Dyad Experiences (00:14:53) Highlights how each dyad’s intimacy is unique and why one-on-one time matters in polyamorous relationships.Non-Sexual Dyad Time:
David Sedaris Outing (00:15:52) Shares a non-sexual example: Jen and Steph attending a David Sedaris show together.
Food Play and Sensuality with Jess (00:16:56) Describes a sensual night with Jess involving food play, snacks, and tailored experiences based on Jess’s preferences.
Exploring New Toys with Jess (00:18:54) Talks about introducing new toys into her relationship with Jess and their shared experiences.
Normalizing Open Relationships & Coaching Offer (00:20:01) Jen normalizes open relationships, shares her coaching services, and encourages listeners to reach out for support.
Jen, Scott and Jess, share candid insights into their lives as a throuple after nine months together. They discuss the evolution of their relationship, navigating distance and family disapproval, and the importance of communication and inclusivity. The trio also reflects on their adventurous intimacy, balancing different dynamics, and upcoming plans to deepen their connection. Their honest conversation highlights the joys and challenges of non-traditional relationships, emphasizing authenticity, mutual support, and the value of embracing love in all its forms.
Throuple Dynamics After Nine Months (00:01:12)
The group discusses what it’s like being in a throuple for nine months, including comfort, expectations, and initial challenges.
Family Friction and Drama (00:02:26)
Scott brings up family disapproval and drama, especially from traditional backgrounds, and how it affects their relationship.
Impact of Distance on the Relationship (00:03:23)
They talk about the challenges and benefits of living far apart, and how it shapes their connection and routines.
Balancing Time and Schedules (00:05:18)
Discussion about how limited free time and distance affect how often they see each other and the quality of their time together.
Evolving Feelings About Distance (00:07:24)
Jen shares how distance has become harder as their love deepens, and the group reflects on how their needs have changed.
Meeting in the Middle and Relationship Evolution (00:09:10)
They discuss meeting halfway, how their relationship has become more sophisticated, and the desire for more shared activities.
Family Disapproval and Navigating Relationships (00:11:06)
Each person shares their experience with family disapproval, how it impacts them, and their approach to handling it.
Relational Wiring and Sharing with Family (00:15:34)
Jen and Jess discuss being more relationally wired, how they communicate about partners with family, and the impact of distance.
Upcoming Trips and Family Events (00:18:11)
Excitement about an upcoming cruise, family events, and navigating family dynamics during group trips.
Humor, Compatibility, and Relationship Balance (00:22:15)
They reflect on humor, differences, and how each partner brings out different facets in the others.
Playful Dynamics and Partner Differences (00:23:30)
Discussion about playful teasing, differences in affection, and how each partner’s style complements the others.
Exploring Sex Life and New Experiences (00:27:58)
The group dives into how their sex life has changed, new experiences, and the evolution of intimacy over nine months.
Sexual Exploration, Toys, and Sensual Play (00:29:00)
Details about experimenting with toys, food play, and how learning from other partners has enriched their experiences.
Inclusivity and Avoiding Exclusion in Intimacy (00:34:38)
Scott emphasizes the importance of making everyone feel included during intimacy and avoiding the “accessory” feeling.
Closing Thoughts and Podcast Wrap-Up (00:36:58)
Final reflections, gratitude for the conversation, and Jen wraps up the episode with closing remarks and listener engagement.
Today I'm talking about my emotional reaction to the series "Dying for Sex," featuring Michelle Williams.
This show's beautiful themes of life, desire, and the importance of using one's voice showcases 5 key takeaways:
1. Pursuing desires
2. Using one's voice
3. Nurturing friendships
4. Recognizing life's brevity
5. Embracing the natural process of dying.
I encourage you to reflect on your own lives and relationships, and to engage with the podcast by sharing their thoughts and experiences.
Emotional Impact of the Show (00:01:28)
Jen shares her emotional reactions and warns that the show is not as funny as some may think.
Michelle Williams' Performance (00:02:41)
Jen praises Michelle Williams for her powerful and graceful portrayal of a character facing terminal illness.
Stop Denying Yourself (00:02:41)
Jen encourages listeners to pursue their desires and not silence their needs in relationships.
Using Your Voice (00:06:38)
Listeners are urged to express themselves and advocate for their wants and needs in life.
Importance of Friendships (00:07:50)
Jen emphasizes nurturing friendships, especially during times of illness or need.
Life is Short (00:10:14)
A reminder of the brevity of life and the importance of being present and making memories.
Natural Process of Dying (00:14:39)
Discussion of death as a natural part of life, encouraging acceptance and understanding.
Encouragement to Watch the Show (00:17:36)
Jen urges listeners to watch "Dying for Sex" for its impactful messages about life, desires, and friendship.
Closing Remarks (00:18:29)
The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage with the podcast and share it with others.
What if pleasure was the productivity hack you've been missing? Midlife reinvention coach Natty Frasca from The Feminine Rebellion joins us to talk about the power of pleasure—daily orgasms included—and how high-functioning women can unhook from burnout and step into embodied, turned-on living.
Natty's Journey (00:01:18)
Natty shares her personal experiences with burnout and high-functioning depression.
Realization of Pleasure's Importance (00:04:49)
Natty discusses discovering the significance of pleasure in her life and its impact on well-being.
Defining Pleasure (00:06:33)
Natty begins to define what pleasure means and its role in a fulfilling life.
The Spectrum of Pleasure (00:12:24)
Natty explains that pleasure varies from simple comforts to intense experiences.
Pleasure as Fuel (00:11:06)
Natty emphasizes that pleasure fuels productivity and well-being for high-achieving women.
Practicing Pleasure (00:14:12)
Natty introduces "pleasure pumps" and strategies to incorporate pleasure into daily routines.
The Three Asks (00:19:58)
Natty shares a technique for women to practice asking for help and receiving support.
Receiving Compliments (00:21:34)
Natty discusses the importance of receiving compliments and affirming self-worth.
Calendaring Pleasure (00:24:01)
Natty talks about scheduling time for pleasure and the practices she incorporates into her daily life.
Shower Practices for Pleasure (00:25:15)
Natty shares her sensual shower routine to enhance body awareness and pleasure.
Pleasure Research Assignment (00:26:30)
Women are encouraged to identify and list activities that bring them joy and pleasure.
Mapping Pleasure into Daily Life (00:27:34)
Natty explains how to schedule smaller pleasures into calendars for consistent enjoyment.
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In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, Jen explores the complexities of introducing a new partner into an existing polyamorous relationship. Drawing from personal experiences with primary partner Scott and current partner Jess, the speaker emphasizes the importance of communication, honesty, and emotional support. They discuss the process of bringing in a new partner, and how to address the feelings and concerns of existing partners. The episode provides valuable insights into navigating open relationships, highlighting the need for transparency, emotional reassurance, and fostering connections among all partners involved.
Types of Dynamics in Open Relationships (00:01:18)
Explains various relationship structures, including swinging and polyamory.
The Speaker's Relationship Structure (00:03:35)
Describes the speaker's open relationship with Scott and their one penis policy.
Desire for Local Partners (00:04:40)
Highlights the need for local partners for convenience and emotional connection.
Interview Insights on Relationship Preferences (00:06:34)
Shares perspectives from a throuple on their preference for closed relationships.
The Speaker's Relationship Capacity (00:07:41)
Expresses the desire for multiple partners and the joy of shared experiences.
Communicating About New Partners (00:10:02)
Outlines the importance of discussing new relationships with existing partners.
Being Honest with Current Partners (00:12:04)
Emphasizes the need for honesty about relationship levels and STI safety.
Honoring Partner's Feelings (00:15:17)
Discusses the importance of addressing and reassuring partners' concerns.
Introducing New Partners (00:18:37)
Explains the process of introducing new partners within the existing relationship.
Facilitating Connections Among Partners (00:20:22)
Describes efforts to connect all partners for a harmonious relationship dynamic.
Allowing Relationships to Evolve (00:23:39)
Encourages openness to the natural evolution of relationships and connections.
Honesty in Relationships (00:24:47)
Emphasizes the importance of being honest about feelings and needs in polyamorous dynamics.
Feedback and Support (00:24:47)
Encourages listeners to share their anxieties about introducing new partners and offers coaching assistance.
BDSM scene negotiation isn’t just about setting boundaries—it can be an incredibly sexy, intimate, and arousing part of the experience. In this episode, we’re exploring how to make consent conversations feel exciting instead of clinical. Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned player, learning to communicate your desires and limits with confidence and playfulness can deepen connection and anticipation.
We’ll cover: 🖤 How to frame negotiation as foreplay 🔥 The art of seductive communication in BDSM 📝 Essential questions to ask before a scene 💬 Flirty ways to express limits, desires, and fantasies
Negotiation isn’t just about safety—it’s about building trust, chemistry, and anticipation. Tune in and learn how to turn those pre-scene talks into an unforgettable part of the play!
👉 Listen now & spice up your scenes!
London Crave returns to discuss negotiating BDSM scenes and her background in the kink community.
London's Background (00:00:46)
London shares her journey into BDSM and her role as an education coordinator for a lifestyle group.
Setting the Stage for Negotiation (00:03:21)
The host emphasizes the need for a fun and sexy negotiation process in BDSM.
Importance of Individual Negotiation (00:05:10)
London explains that negotiation is personal and should cover basic information tailored to each individual.
Starting the Negotiation (00:05:11)
The host expresses interest in exploring degradation as a theme for their scene.
Exploring Degradation (00:05:46)
London asks about the host's experience and comfort level with degradation in BDSM.
Combining Elements of Degradation (00:06:15)
Discussion on whether the degradation should be punishment-focused or part of a larger scene.
Clarifying Pain Preferences (00:09:11)
The host discusses boundaries regarding pain, stating preferences for mental stimulation over physical pain.
Discussing Limits on Language (00:10:38)
London checks for any trigger words or phrases that might upset the host during degradation.
Physical Dynamics in the Scene (00:12:41)
The host expresses interest in physical domination and roughness as part of the degradation.
Sexual Restrictions and Safe Words (00:13:25)
Discussion on sexual boundaries with other partners and the establishment of safe words.
Importance of Aftercare (00:14:04)
London emphasizes the significance of aftercare following intense scenes, discussing preferences.
Medical Considerations (00:15:27)
The host shares medical concerns, particularly around hip discomfort, affecting scene dynamics.
Exploring Additional Play Types (00:16:44)
London introduces other potential elements like rope and primal play, gauging the host's interest.
Goals for the Scene (00:18:13)
The host shares her desire to explore new experiences and the potential for emotional breakthroughs.
Podcast Episode Timestamps
Degradation and Body Awareness (00:19:24)
Discussion on how degradation can enhance a BDSM scene while maintaining respect for the body.
Preparing for a Scene (00:20:29)
Advice on creating a safe environment and discussing outfits for a degradation scene.
Setting the Scene (00:21:15)
Exploration of different ways to start a scene, balancing dominance and comfort.
Pre-Scene Preparation (00:22:09)
Recommendations for personal hygiene and having a safety check-in post-scene.
Mental Health Considerations (00:25:14)
Addressing the importance of mental health and potential triggers during BDSM scenes.
Healing Through Degradation (00:27:59)
Exploring how degradation can be empowering and healing for individuals with past trauma.
Negotiation as Connection (00:30:30)
Encouragement to view negotiation as a connection exercise rather than just scene planning.
