I've been told "delayed obedience is disobedience" like it's a favorite line from a popular song since posting this reel.

It got me thinking about the rush and urgency parents put themselves and their children in. It's certainly a catchy line and I can confidently say it is not biblical.

Come explore where I have found the Bible praises pause, what could have gone differently and what Jesus would possibly do in our shoes.

I believe teaching our children to exercise discernment, regulate emotions, pray for clarity and ask question IS our job. We are not here to rush our kids along to fit into the status quo and ensure they respect authority... a delay can be a very, very good thing.

Good news, my Yes Language Course is now available for you to drastically reduce the times you say "no" and become a clear and kind communicator! It's 21 days long and incredibly effective to teach you with bite sized lessons and implementation! It's $50 off until 11/1/2025

This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an emotion, I decided this podcast episode is the best way to respond.

Discipline, boundaries and expectations are powerful in our parenting and they are a foundation for our kids to thrive. We can use each of those tools effectively, arguably more effectively, when we use them with kindness, calm authority and self-discipline.

This episode has four key points in the heart of a disciple of Jesus Christ that is using discipline in parenting.

I strive to be a loyal disciple of Jesus Christ and that means doing what is right even when it is hard and committing to parenting with faith over fear. All of the "what if..." theories thrown by others are fear based and I have resounding faith in following Jesus today in my parenting is the best possible outcome for our future.

Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life.

Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth!

Jesus Story Book Bible (I LOVE this one with my kids)

Hosanna Revival NLT Bible (My first Bible I read for two years and appreciated the easy to understand language!)

Study Bible ESV (My new Bible I am loving. The language is the right amount of challenge for me right now. I can still understand what it is saying and it reflects more of the traditional writings.)

I am steadfast here, friends. I've seen the truth in my own home and beyond play out time and time again.

We need more positive minds, hearts and WORDS filling our homes if we want a better world.

Being a Yes Mom is a standard of excellence and while it can feel difficult to fulfill and meet- it is rewarding to strive towards.

I hope this encouragement reaches you warmly and with vigor.

All my love,

Tessa Romero

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!"

Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids.

We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be.

Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too.

I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity.

All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids.

I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids.

I mentioned my 21 day YES MOM CHALLENGE available in my membership (access it anytime) to learn the TOOLS of Yes Language. This will decrease the time spent yelling, criticizing, arguing and breaking boundaries.⁠ Sign up here! ⁠

Learn from my ⁠free "Yes Mom" content⁠ .

Exciting News: I am making a 100 day marriage journal! Yes, husband AND wife journals that build a positive and appreciative mindset in marriage- leaving behind resentment, negativity and victim mentality.

Today as I worked on another round of edits (committed to the strength of each prompt and exercise) I felt stuck, so I called my husband into the office and asked for his feedback.

Well, it was a GOOD TIME. Tons of laughs and true understanding about the different way we think. That's when I turned on the mic and hit record.

Come share some laughs, insights and appreciation with us as we pour our love over the marriage journals in the making.

These journals means so much to me as I started implementing this writing practice in my marriage 18 months ago- now I'm putting the practice in your hands.

There are times that being kind, sincere, patient and truthful feel PHYSICALLY painful. As if a bone in your body may break if you say something kind when you feel angry.

What if yelling, perfectionism, people pleasing, lying, criticizing, shaming... could all be sanding off of you?

This perspective of "sanding your down" will completely transform the pain of that moment to an incredibly purposeful healing experience for you.

This will increase your patience, courage and discipline to do what is right even when it is hard.

Here is the link to If Only I Had A Green Nose that I LOVE. Every book in this series is incredible.

All my best friend,

Tessa Romero

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart.

Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts.

THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.

Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it.

All my best,

Tessa Romero

p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to connect@momset.com

Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way.

We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word.

Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here!

Tessa Romero

p.s. I have a journaling email sequence where I send you short writing examples every 2 days to help you stay clear and focused on your writing.

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.

I understand this to my core.

Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up.

This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH.

I know that you can, too.

The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity.

I adore you, I really do.

Tessa Romero

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My workouts continue to look different and feel better over the years. I believe that is because I stay focused on what I want and OPEN to all the ways that can happen.

Do you know what you want?

Here's my fitness journey from running to weight lifting then to living room workouts and now family workouts in our home gym. It's a journey over the last 10 years and I hope it inspires you to know what you want and WHY you want it.

Need clips of positivity? Follow along on Instagram!

Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself.

Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day.

You'll be told

"that's too much."

"you shouldn't expect so much from yourself."

"it's not realistic."

Even if you enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen that reminds you of fresh starts and new days... someone will tell you that the pressure to clean it every night before bed is just too much.

This is why understanding the difference between a mentality of Excellence and a mentality of Perfection will set you free.

This episode takes a look at why we use perfectionism, how you can practically condition your mind out of it and what it looks like to strive for excellence AND fall short.

I hope you enjoy it!

Details for my coaching membership where this episode was inspired are right here. Huge thanks to Danielle for being a light and someone we can learn alongside.

Tessa Romero

Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children.

You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even when it feels really, really difficult.

Look at us- breaking cycles. "We are one generation from the "that's permissive" mentality..."

"Parenting is not a societal matter. It's personal, it's spiritual and it's emotional, but it's not societal..." - Ralphie Jacobs

Sign up for Ralphie's "Teach Me How" subscription and check out her fantastic IG account for more tools and light.

Choose quiet observations and follow it with quick, intentional corrections.

A few years ago, I realized that explaining every decision to my kids—why they couldn’t have something, what I didn’t like about their behavior—only made things worse. It fueled conflict, invited pushback, and exhausted me emotionally. So I made a change.

I started quietly noticing the behavior, keeping my thoughts to myself, and then making a swift correction without fanfare. Whether it was about food dyes, screen time, or behavior after movies, this shift brought peace to our home and confidence to my parenting.

You'll want to get a pen and piece of paper ready for the writing exercise in the last part of this episode. It will help you experience a huge shift in mindset and self-empowerment!

More details on my coaching membership are right here.

I'm excited to hear about your implementation of "quiet observations and quick corrections" to your daily parenting triumphs!

Mother's Day is the time you show up as the mom you want to be and set the tone of what the whole rest of the year will be like for you as a mother. Who you are, what you think, how you feel, what you do as a mother.

If you want a perspective like that this Mother's Day then this episode is for you. Packed with 4 key mentalities that support this focus while remaining appreciative of what others do for you and intentional of what you do for others.

If you need more help supporting your mental health and daily mindset in motherhood then my coaching membership is the very best place to be. Come receive coaching, be challenged and connected to likeminded expansive women.

It's interesting that moms are being told how good and admirable it is to ask for help, then in the same breath we are told not to help our kids when they ask for it.

"They're old enough to do it themselves."

"They're big enough to do it themselves."

"That's not mine, they should do it."

"If I don't do it no one else will."

I'm big enough, old enough and perfectly capable of simple tasks and sometimes those are the ones I feel are too big when I have so much else going on.

I want my kids to know they can always ask for my help. Even when it's a problem or task to face on their own, I'll be there with them as a listening ear and word of guidance.

Why would my kids ask for help with the big stuff if I instilled a "do it yourself" belief with the small stuff?

This is my perspective that nurtures my willingness to serve seamlessly, say "yes" to helping and instilling lifelong beliefs.

This is the Instagram reel I mentioned in the episode.

Click here to learn about my coaching membership if you struggle with your mindset in motherhood and want to be free of your own thoughts.

How long would it take you to write out a list of allll the things you tell yourself you can't do?

While some people want to fight to defend this "I can't" mentality so they can feel justified, YOU and I are ready to fight for that fire inside of us that knows WE CAN.

This episode walks you through why it can feel so frustrating and freeing to say "I can, I just don't want to." What is the truth we can find when we shift our perspective this way and how to keep your feet on the ground through it all.

I did a little IG reel on this!

Be sure to do the writing exercise I described in this episode so you can become empowered to face the heart of the "I can't" mentality.

I'm cheering you on, always. Remember, I have lots of negative thoughts and poor moments, too. I just really enjoy learning from them and challenging myself to do better with you.

The transition for 3-4 kids was hands down the hardest for me. I realized it was hardest because I had failed to equip my kids with the self-esteem to be independent and responsible in the ways I really needed them to show up while I recovered postpartum.

May is our Declutter Your Heart and Home 28 Day challenge in the MOMSET Membership. This is a fantastic time to create a home that serves you and your family so everyone can build their self-esteem and thrive harmoniously. Join here today!

Then I realized that I was stealing their self-esteem to build my own. I did just about everything for them everyday and I LOVED doing it. I felt GREAT, but at what cost? How did they get to feel when I took the opportunities from them?

I'm sharing the practical changes I have made to build my own self-esteem AND provided endless opportunities for my kids to build their own, too.

Did you know the AVERAGE home has over 300,000 items in it!? Moms have way too much STUFF to manage. Today we have Julia Ubbenga, author of "Declutter Your Heart and Your Home" as well as minimalist living coach, here to encourage us ALL to start making changes.

If you're feeling overwhelmed in your home and like you spend your day managing "stuff" and find it impossible to keep up- you'll love this episode. After Julia was diagnosed with PPD and had recently left her job to become a SAHM... she knew she needed to make a change, too.

Julis is partnering with the MOMSET Membership to bring a whole home decluttering challenge to us through May. We will have an daily realistic declutter task and will be reading her new book together!

This challenge will focus on decluttering your mind, heart and home as Julia and I team up together! All MOMSET Members get to join!

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