Sis, it’s time to stop playing the background and step into your main character energy! In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re talking about what it really means to be the star of your own life, take up space unapologetically, and move like the powerhouse you were meant to be. First, let’s break down what main character energy actually is. It’s not about being arrogant or self-absorbed—it’s about owning your presence, making intentional choices, and refusing to let life happen to you. It means prioritizing yourself, setting boundaries, and creating a life that feels good to you—not just one that looks good for others. When you walk into a room, people feel your energy because you move with purpose and confidence. Now, let’s talk about what’s blocking your main character moment. Maybe you’ve been dimming your light to make others comfortable. Maybe you’ve been playing the supporting role in relationships, friendships, or even at work. Maybe you’re stuck in a cycle of overthinking, doubting yourself, or waiting for “the right time” to show up fully. But here’s the truth: the right time is now. No more shrinking yourself or asking for permission to be that girl. So, how do you tap into main character energy? Rewrite your narrative – You are not a side character in anyone’s story. Change the way you talk about yourself, your life, and your future. Romanticize your life – Small moments matter. Whether it’s getting dressed up just because, making your morning coffee feel like a luxury, or setting the vibe in your home, treat your life like a movie. Say NO with confidence – Boundaries are a main character move. Stop over-explaining, stop people-pleasing, and start protecting your peace. Take up space – Speak up. Go after what you want. Be bold in your decisions. You don’t need permission to exist loudly. Surround yourself with main character energy – Your circle should reflect the energy you’re stepping into. If the people around you keep you small, it’s time to elevate your environment. At the end of the day, stepping into your power isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being authentic, confident, and fearless in your own journey. You deserve to be the leading lady in your life, so stop waiting for someone else to give you the role. Sis, this is your movie—act like it! Grab your drink, turn the volume up, and let’s talk about how to step into your era of main character energy! 🎬✨

n this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re getting into a topic that’s all too real: sister-in-laws who act like your man is theirs. Whether it’s overstepping boundaries, trying to play second wife, or just being way too involved, we’re talking about where this behavior comes from and why it’s a problem. First, we break down what enmeshment is—when family relationships become so intertwined that boundaries don’t exist. Enmeshment often happens in families where there’s an unhealthy level of attachment, making it hard for people to separate their roles. In this case, that might look like a sister-in-law feeling entitled to time, attention, and decision-making influence in her brother’s life in a way that disrespects his romantic relationship. Then, we call out the red flags that show a sister-in-law is too invested in your man’s life. This can include: Acting like the “gatekeeper” of his relationships, making it hard for him to fully commit to a partner. Feeling possessive or territorial, like she has more say over his life than his actual partner. Constantly inserting herself into your relationship, whether it’s through opinions, comparisons, or even trying to create drama. Expecting the same level of attention and priority she had before he was in a serious relationship. Next, we get into the root causes of this behavior. Sometimes, it’s cultural—some families raise women to be second mothers to their brothers, making it hard for them to “let go” when he’s with someone else. Other times, it’s emotional—if she’s used to her brother being her go-to for support, she may feel like his partner is replacing her. And in some cases, it’s just straight-up toxic attachment and control. So, how do you set boundaries and check this behavior? We talk about: The importance of your man setting the boundaries (because if he doesn’t, she’ll never take you seriously). The difference between being close to family vs. being enmeshed, and how to tell the two apart. The role of direct but respectful conversations, and when it’s time to step back and protect your peace. At the end of the day, your relationship should be a partnership between you and your man—not a trio that includes his sister. If he refuses to set boundaries, that’s a him problem just as much as it’s a her problem. We wrap up the episode with personal stories, advice for women dealing with this, and a real talk moment: if a man can’t stand up for his relationship, is he really ready to be in one? This is one of those conversations that hits deep, so grab your tea and let’s get into it!

In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we dive deep into Robert Greene’s The 48 Laws of Power—a book that’s equal parts strategy, psychology, and, let’s be real, a little bit of manipulation. But power isn’t just about being ruthless—it’s about understanding how the world works and making sure you’re not being played. We start by discussing what power really is—not just in terms of money or status, but influence, presence, and knowing how to move in different spaces. Whether it’s business, relationships, or everyday life, The 48 Laws of Power gives you a playbook on how to maneuver strategically. From there, we break down some of the most talked-about laws: Law 1: Never Outshine the Master – We unpack why making others feel secure in their own power is often smarter than trying to prove you’re the best in the room. Law 5: So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard It With Your Life – How your name carries weight and why controlling the narrative around you is key. Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally – We discuss whether this law is about being cutthroat or just ensuring people don’t come back to sabotage you. Law 48: Assume Formlessness – The ultimate survival skill—staying adaptable and unpredictable in a world that constantly shifts. Throughout the episode, we talk about how these laws apply to real life, whether you’re navigating friendships, corporate politics, or even social media. We also keep it real about the morality of power—just because you can use these strategies doesn’t always mean you should. Power without wisdom can backfire. Finally, we reflect on which laws we’ve seen in action, which ones are low-key toxic, and how to use them in a way that aligns with who you are. The goal isn’t just to be powerful—it’s to be smart, aware, and intentional in how you move.

In this episode of The Good Homegirl, we dive into the complex and often unspoken reality of mother-daughter relationships. Growing up, our mothers are supposed to be our first protectors, but what happens when they’re also our first bullies? I open up about my personal experiences with a mother whose words and actions shaped my self-esteem in ways I’m still unpacking. We explore the fine line between "tough love" and emotional harm, the lasting effects of childhood criticism, and the journey toward healing. Whether you’ve experienced this firsthand or know someone who has, this episode offers validation, insight, and the reminder that breaking cycles is possible. Tune in as we discuss how to reclaim our self-worth, set boundaries, and rewrite the narrative for future generations.

If you grew up feeling unheard, dismissed, or like you had to be the “adult” in your household, you might have been raised by emotionally immature parents. In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re breaking down what emotionally immature parenting looks like, how it affects you as an adult, and most importantly—how to heal from it. 🔍 In This Episode, We Cover:✨ The signs of emotionally immature parents (and why they act that way).✨ How growing up with parents like this affects your relationships & self-worth.✨ Why emotional neglect is just as harmful as physical neglect.✨ The guilt & struggle of setting boundaries with family.✨ How to reparent yourself and break the cycle. 🚩 Sis, You Are Not Crazy – You Just Weren’t Heard.Many of us were raised by parents who shut down our emotions, avoided accountability, or made us feel like we were “too sensitive.” But guess what? Your feelings are real, and you deserve emotional safety. This episode is all about understanding where your parents failed and learning to give yourself the love, care, and validation they couldn’t provide.  

Society teaches us that “family is everything”—but what happens when your parents are the very ones hurting you the most? The truth is, sometimes the most healing thing you can do is go no contact. In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re diving deep into:✨ The real reasons people go no contact with their parents.✨ Why cutting off family doesn’t make you a bad person.✨ The emotional rollercoaster of guilt, grief, and freedom that comes with this choice.✨ How to handle judgment from others (because they always got something to say).✨ How to build peace, create chosen family, and heal on your own terms. 🚩 Sis, Blood Is Not a Free Pass for Toxicity.No one should have to tolerate abuse, manipulation, or neglect just because it’s coming from a parent. If you’ve been struggling with whether or not to go no contact, this episode is for you.

In a world that glorifies hustle culture, many of us feel guilty for taking a break—but what if we told you that rest is actually one of the most productive things you can do? In this episode of The Good Homegirl, we’re breaking down the myth that rest equals laziness and exploring why prioritizing rest is essential for your mental health, creativity, and overall well-being. We discuss how capitalism and grind culture have conditioned us to believe that our worth is tied to our productivity, especially in Black communities. But true success isn’t about burnout—it’s about balance. 💡 Key Topics Covered:🔹 Why rest is essential, not optional🔹 The ways Black people, especially Black women, are conditioned to overwork🔹 How rest fuels creativity, innovation, and success🔹 Practical ways to incorporate intentional rest into your routine🔹 Setting boundaries to protect your peace It’s time to reclaim rest as resistance and understand that rest IS productive. Tune in and learn how to embrace slowing down without guilt! 🔔 Listen now and let’s talk about it. #RestIsProductive #TheGoodHomegirl #PrioritizeRest #SoftLife

In this episode of The Good Homegirl, we dive into a critical and urgent conversation about Black maternal mortality rates and how the current administration's policies impact Black birthing people. The statistics are staggering—Black women are three to four times more likely to die from pregnancy-related complications than white women in the U.S. But why is this still happening in 2025? We explore the systemic factors behind these disparities, from implicit bias in healthcare to limited access to quality maternal care. We also break down what policies the current administration has put in place (or failed to implement) and how they affect Black maternal health. Are we seeing real progress, or are these just empty promises? 💡 Key Topics Covered:🔹 The history of Black maternal mortality in the U.S.🔹 How racism in healthcare puts Black birthing people at risk🔹 The role of Medicaid, reproductive rights, and healthcare policies🔹 Community-driven solutions and how we can advocate for change This is an episode you don’t want to miss—because Black mothers deserve better. 🔔 Tune in now and join the conversation! #BlackMaternalHealth #ReproductiveJustice #TheGoodHomegirl  

Nobody wants to talk about what happens when the person who gave you life is the one who causes you the most pain. But the truth is, not all mothers are nurturing. Some are toxic, emotionally abusive, and even dangerous to our well-being. In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re having a real, raw, and necessary conversation about releasing toxic and abusive mothers, setting boundaries without guilt, and choosing peace over pain—even when it comes to family. 🔍 In This Episode, We Cover:✨ What a toxic & emotionally abusive mother looks like.✨ The deep wounds that come from being unmothered.✨ Why society makes daughters feel guilty for choosing themselves.✨ How to release the pain, the guilt, and the need for her validation.✨ The power of creating your own peace & redefining family on your own terms. 🚩 Sis, You Don’t Owe Your Mother Your Suffering.Just because she gave birth to you doesn’t mean she has the right to mistreat you. You are allowed to set boundaries. You are allowed to walk away. You are allowed to heal. If you’ve ever struggled with a toxic mother-daughter relationship, this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re diving into the controversial conversations surrounding DJ Akademiks and the larger issue of grooming minors in hip-hop culture. From the blurred lines in the entertainment industry to the way society enables predatory behavior, we’re unpacking the real and uncomfortable truths behind these disturbing patterns. 🔍 In This Episode, We Cover:✨ The history of DJ Akademiks and his problematic takes on underage girls.✨ How hip-hop culture has excused, enabled, or ignored grooming.✨ The dangerous normalization of young girls being preyed on by older men.✨ How power and influence allow predators to thrive unchecked.✨ What we, as a community, need to do to protect young Black girls and hold these men accountable. 🚩 Predatory Behavior Ain’t ‘Just How It Is’ – It’s a Problem.It’s time to stop normalizing this toxic narrative. We have to stop protecting grown men who target minors and start protecting our young girls from exploitation, manipulation, and abuse.

💔 Sis, Let’s Talk About It… Have you ever poured into a friendship, only to realize the energy wasn’t being matched? Have you questioned whether someone in your circle is really for you—or just around you? In this episode of The Good Homegirl Podcast, we’re diving deep into the signs of fake friendships, why it hurts so much when people switch up, and most importantly—how to protect your peace and move on without guilt. 🔍 In This Episode, We Cover:✨ The difference between genuine friends vs. opportunists✨ How to recognize energy leeches & one-sided friendships✨ Why losing fake friends is actually a win for your growth✨ How to set boundaries & stop tolerating inconsistency✨ The importance of pouring into friendships that pour back into you 🛑 Sis, Stop Chasing People Who Wouldn’t Even Walk for You!It’s time to stop making excuses for people who don’t show up and start valuing the ones who do. Your energy is sacred, and not everyone deserves access to it. If you’ve ever felt used, drained, or betrayed by a so-called friend, this episode is for YOU.

In this episode, we speak on the harmful rhetoric that people of color are looking for handouts and use government assistance as a means to stay unemployed.. I drop statistics, and we dig deeper in to how the current administration is playing into this same rhetoric. 

In this episode, we talk about the trolls on social media and in your real life, actionable steps on ignoring the miserable and how to handle them whether its your content, your business, or even opionions on how you live your life. 

In this episode I braid my hair while we talk about how no matter how well we vet someone, people can mask and pretend until you're years down the line and they forget to pretend. I tell my own stories and what I have learned.

In this episode, I talk about my recent called off engagement, what I've learned, and actionable steps that I have taken to cultivate healing and moving on 

In this episode I discuss motherhood's challenges and my support for my girlies who desire to be the fun aunties as well as offer support for those who don't have children due to medical reasons. 

In this episode, we talk about how our desire for acceptance and approval from our parents unconsciously shape who we become and who we "choose" I break down where this comes from, how to recognize it, and actionable steps to ''undo'' said behavior, heal and move forward.