Are you curious about how our earliest experiences shape the way we love, connect, and sometimes struggle in relationships? This week on The Frantic Romantic, we sit down with a 35-year-old guest who opens up with raw honesty about his journey through romantic relationships, the challenges rooted in his early childhood, and the profound insights he’s gained along the way.

From navigating attachment wounds to uncovering patterns that repeat in adulthood, his story shines a light on what so many of us face but rarely discuss. Whether you’re looking for hope, healing, or a deeper understanding of how attachment affects us all, this is an interview you won’t want to miss.

Tune in to The Frantic Romantic — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen. Because understanding where we come from is the first step to building the relationships we deserve.

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New to Relationship Coaching or Attachment Styles? Start with this podcast first!  
Join Dejaye Botkin, a nationwide expert in attachment style life coaching, as she breaks down the foundations of how we connect with others. Whether it’s in your personal life or professional relationships, understanding your attachment style is key to creating healthier, more fulfilling connections. In this episode, you’ll discover what attachment styles are and how they influence your behavior. You’ll also learn how to identify your attachment style and reframe the thoughts that may be holding back your personal and professional relationships—empowering you to create deeper, more meaningful connections. Ready to transform your relationships? Connect with Dejaye Botkin for personalized support in understanding your attachment style and uncovering the underlying needs that drive your connections.

Welcome back to The White Lotus Character Assessment, Part II — the podcast where we dive deeper into the attachment styles of characters from Season 3 of HBO’s hit series.

In this episode, we're examining the complex friendship between Jaclyn, Kate, and Laurie — three women bound by a shared past, but pulled apart by conflicting personalities and values. 

If you’ve ever found yourself unsure of where you stand in a friendship — too close, too distant, or caught somewhere in between — this episode is for you.

Part I of our exclusive two-part series dives into the complex characters of Season 3 of The White Lotus — an HBO series filmed against the stunning backdrop of Thailand. In this episode, Dejaye unpacks the attachment styles of key characters: Belinda, Rick, Chelsea, Lochlan, Piper, and Saxon — exploring how their emotional patterns shape the drama we can’t stop watching.

 ✨ Coming up in Part II: We’ll dive deep into the dynamic trio — Kate, Jaclyn, and Laurie — exploring their unique attachment styles and imagining how those emotional patterns might shape their choices if these characters leapt off the screen and into real life.

Are you ready for a story filled with raw emotions and relatable reflections? This week, Dejaye interviews a listener who opens up about the emotional detachment he felt from his parents—and how it shaped his adult relationships. From struggling with intimacy to a marriage that ultimately ended in divorce, he shares his vulnerable takeaways on parenting, love, sex, and heartbreak - and what he wants for his future. Don’t miss this powerful conversation. Listen now on The Frantic Romantic Podcast! 🎧 #TheFranticRomantic #Parenting #Marriage #Divorce As always, we appreciate feedback! If you want to participate in an interview with Dejaye contact dejayebotkin@icloud.com 

🎙️ New Podcast Alert: Cheating Hearts 💔

Do you ever wonder about why people cheat? What makes someone risk it all for a secret romance? Are affairs always about sex, or is there something deeper? Have you been cheated on and blamed yourself for not being 'enough?' Or are you a chronic cheater and wonder if there is something wrong with you? 

This podcast dives into the messy, emotional, and sometimes taboo world of infidelity. We break down the psychology behind why people stray. No judgment—just raw, honest conversations about love, betrayal, and what happens next.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, done the cheating, or are just fascinated by human relationships, this is the podcast for you.

🔊 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts! #Cheating #Infidelity #affairs

Are you struggling with relationship patterns that leave you feeling stuck? Tune into my podcast series, where we dive deep into attachment challenges, emotional patterns, and the psychology behind our connections. Whether you're dealing with anxious spirals, avoidant tendencies, or the push-pull of intimacy, this series offers expert insights and real-world strategies to help you heal, grow, and build stronger bonds.

What You’ll Get:
✅ Eye-opening discussions on attachment styles
✅ Practical tools for healthier relationships
✅ Expert advice & real-life stories

Listen now on your favorite podcast platform! 🎧

Dejaye is currently looking for guests willing to discuss their attachment styles on her podcast. I hope you enjoy this interview with our first guest. Please leave your feedback. Thank you.

Grief and loss come in all forms. Death, a breakup, the loss of a pet, a best friend, a home, or a job. We grieve our health when we become sick or our innocence when we are violated. This podcast discusses different forms of grief and offers tips on how to process loss. This podcast is part of the attachment series because when we grieve, we are missing something we were attached to. We grieve the loss of our attachment to a person, place, or thing, and sometimes we grieve what we didn't have such as a healthy childhood or a nurturing/validating parent.

This podcast discussion relates to the connection between isolation and suicide. Many people who attempt or complete suicide have experienced a recent breakup, job loss, or the loss of a significant relationship. Without a secure base of attachment or sense of belonging, the desire for living decreases. If you are seeking to learn more information about why people complete suicide (beyond a chemical imbalance), this podcast is for you.

If you want to learn more about attachment disorders, study Norma Jeane, a.k.a Marilyn Monroe. As a child, she was passed around among various foster homes because her mother was schizophrenic and she never knew her father. Although her celebrity self gained a lot of attention, her true self felt lonely and misunderstood. Ultimately she died alone. "Never knowing who to cling to when the rain set in."

This podcast is a summary of the blog article I wrote for Vocal Media: https://vocal.media/stories/radicalized-by-dejaye-botkin. Be sure to read the blog article on the Vocal Media Website or DejayeBotkin.org to learn how disenfranchised, lone-wolf individuals seeking belonging- may become easily radicalized once they feel attached to a fringe community.

This podcast will teach you how to avoid repeating dysfunctional patterns of coping with stressful events.

The challenges and rewards of being vulnerable

In this week’s episode, I’m diving deep into something I've poured my heart and experience into: a personalized workbook I created, designed to help you understand, unpack, and transform your attachment patterns—one intentional step at a time. Tune-in to hear about the details of this customizable workbook and contact me for one-to-one coaching and guidance through the workbook journey. 

The podcast will help listeners understand their difficulties with relationships from an attachment style perspective. I will help listeners make necessary changes for reducing frantic reactions to love.