#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening. ➡️ Free Yes/No/Maybe checklist: https://domsubliving.com/checklist ➡️ Explore our step-by-step courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses

#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can turn any scene into a sacred experience. ➡️ Discover 20 rituals to make your dynamic sacred: https://domsubliving.com/rituals ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/108

#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and practice that makes play feel natural and fun. Listen now to learn how real Doms grow confident in every scene. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Get private coaching in our All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allacc...

#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play. 🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/sub Learn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how to prep and size devices, keyholder dynamics, solo play, the Chaster app, real student stories, and pitfalls to avoid. Subscribe for more kink-positive conversations. ➡️ Free Submissive Cheat Sheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub ➡️ Chastity device affiliate recommendations: https://domsubliving.com/stockroom...

#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cringe, what happened when my teen mistook a new gadget for a toy, and how true trust in TPE means respecting boundaries. Tune in now and follow the show for more Dom/sub stories. ➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist ➡️ Dom Sub Living newsletter: https://domsubliving.com/signup

#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?” In this episode, we're sharing what to expect, what to wear, how to talk to people, and spot red flags so you feel confident. Don’t risk looking awkward or creepy – tune in to learn how to make your first event a success. ➡️ Grab the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/104 Don’t m...

#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for delaying and sharing three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Discover the potential risks you may not have thought about that could change the future landscape. Don't wait any longer to explore BDSM. Take action now and embrace your desires by starting your journey into the Dom/sub lifestyle! ➡️ Grab your free Resource Library: https...

#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk. 👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contract In this episode, I take you inside my real-life BDSM contract—what’s in it, what’s not, and the surprising clause that saved our relationship. Tune in to learn how to write a Dom/sub contract that’s safe, hot, and functional. ➡️ Download your free contract PDF: https://domsubliving.com/contract ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/102

#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, and exciting updates like the Kink Bundle and my upcoming book. Don’t miss it—subscribe and share! ➡️ Sign up for our newsletter: https://domsubliving.com/signup ➡️ Access our community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: http...

#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy. ✅ Subscribe and grab your free BDSM Lifestyle roadmap at https://domsubliving.com/follow From tackling judgment to finding community, discover truths that shape real D/s dynamics and mental health. Don’t miss this milestone episode of raw stories, freebies, and celebration! ➡️ Free BDSM Lifestyle roadmap: https://domsubliving.com/follow ➡️ Show notes and more: https://dom...

#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust. 💕 Grab your free DDLG starter list at https://domsubliving.com/ddlg In this episode, we're breaking down what being a babygirl, little, or middle really looks like, plus the differences between DDLG and DDBG. Listen now and join the conversation. ➡️ Free DDLG starter list: https://domsubliving.com/ddlg ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/099

#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore. 👉 Grab the free punishment list at https://domsubliving.com/punish In this episode, we're sharing 5 Dom/sub punishment ideas that actually work—yes, even for masochists. From writing lines to orgasm denial, we're breaking down what to use, when to use it, and why some punishments backfire. Don’t miss #3—it changed everything. ➡️ 30+ punishment ideas: https://domsubliving.com/punish ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/098 🎁 Enter to win a ...

#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Listen now! ➡️ Amy's website: https://www.amyvorpahl.com ➡️ Join Amy's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/amyvorpahl ➡️ Follow Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vorpahlsword/ ➡️ Free kink resources: https://domsubliving.com/free

#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up. 🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom We're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flagsand what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up! ➡️ Fake Dom quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom ➡️ Dom Sub Training course: https://domsubtraining.com ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/096

#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/095 ➡️ Check out the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess

#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong? ✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/094 ➡️ Join the FREE BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: htt...

#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?” If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence. ➡️ Join the free bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/093 ➡️ Join the FREE BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp/

#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp! ➡️ Free Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/092 ➡️ Join the FREE BDSM Jumpstart bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp/

#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.” 📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Is Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move beyond fiction. ➡️ Free BDSM contract template: https://domsubliving.com/contract ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/091

#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands? 👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control. ➡️ Access the free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dominant ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubl...