What do we actually do with the mixed messages we learned about intimacy? How does the gospel reshape it in marriage? 🎧 Episode Summary:Our pastors and their spouses get honest about purity-culture baggage, early exposure to explicit content, secrecy and shame, and why modeling everyday affection gives kids security. We also talk God’s purpose for intimacy (delight, covenantal oneness, fruitfulness) and the practicals: communication, prayer, patience, and serving one another. What you’ll hearThe stories we brought into marriage (church taboos vs. cultural scripts) and how they formed expectationsFirst exposures to explicit content—and why secrecy, shame, and “conquest” thinking linger into adulthoodHow modeling non-sexual affection at home builds safety for our kidsGod’s design: intimacy as a gift—for oneness, delight, and (sometimes) children—not an idol or mere utilityPracticals: honest communication, prayer (even in the moment), reframing from getting to serving your spouse, and wise wedding-night expectationsTry this this week1. Name your story: Share one message you absorbed about intimacy growing up—and how it still shows up.2. Model affection: A simple goodbye kiss/hug in front of the kids to build family security.3. Complete the Worksheet: Story of Sex and MarriageDon't miss: 🎙 Sex Talk Pt1 | "Sex. Covenant. Cultural Confusion."
🎧 Episode Summary:In this honest and challenging conversation, Pastors Ryan, Warren , and Jake dive deep into one of the most misunderstood aspects of modern relationships: sex and its role within marriage. Drawing from Scripture, cultural critique, and personal experience, the trio unpacks the competing narratives shaping how we think about sex, identity, and covenant.If you’ve ever wondered why the Bible ties sex so closely to marriage—or why so many people now separate the two—this episode brings clarity and compassion to the conversation.📌 Highlights:Why Sex Feels Disconnected from Marriage TodayThe influence of contraceptives, hookup culture, and “compatibility” mythsHow society moved from covenant to consent as the only sexual ethicPornography and loneliness as modern replacements for intimacyMyths About Desire and Attraction“You can’t help who you love” — Is that really true?Attraction is not fixed: it can grow with commitment and sacrificeCompatibility ≠ spiritual alignment — how to reframe what makes someone a good partnerWhat the Bible Really Says About SexSex as a gift from God, created for joy, unity, and covenant1 Corinthians 7 and the vision of sex as mutual service, not self-fulfillmentThe purpose of marriage as a reflection of Christ and the Church—radically different from cultural normsWhy Covenant MattersMarriage is not something you invent; it’s something you enterWithout commitment, even the most intimate experiences can become self-servingTrue freedom is found not in personal autonomy, but in sacrificial love💬 Who Should Listen:Engaged or married couplesAnyone struggling with today’s sexual ethicYoung adults exploring a biblical view of relationshipsPeople questioning purity culture but still longing for God’s design
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