Parenting often feels like walking a tightrope—trying to keep your kids safe while giving them enough space to grow. In this episode, we dive into that tension between control and trust, unpacking how much of it is really about our anxiety and need for structure.
We also bring back The Mess-Up segment, where we confess the parenting moments we wish we could redo—and the lessons hiding in them.
Key Points:
The tricky shift from rule-heavy toddler parenting to trust-building with older kids
How our anxiety drives routines, overscheduling, and “perfect parent” behavior
The struggle to stay calm during morning chaos and public meltdowns
Why letting kids fail a little is harder for us than it is for them
The Mess-Up: moments we totally blew it, and how we recovered
Balancing work, family, and our own mental health without burning out
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Fifty episodes in and we’re still parenting mostly by gut instinct and Google. This week, we dive into first-day emotions, birthday party logistics, and the awkward art of stepping back so our kids can figure things out on their own.
We talk about the stress of managing behavior without overcorrecting, the weird vulnerability of drop-offs, and how AI has quietly become part of our parenting toolbox. Also: we introduce a new segment called “The Mess-Up,” because let’s be honest—sometimes the best lessons come from the stuff we’d rather not repeat.
Key Points:
First-day nerves and the emotional whiplash of transitions
Behavior challenges and how to course-correct without control spirals
Creating good summer days while keeping your sanity intact
Using AI to manage health, stress, and occasionally, parenting guilt
Embracing the mess-ups—and actually learning from them
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This week we caught up on a bunch of highs and lows—Jack’s crushing potty training and finally staying in bed (huge win), while Pete’s gut is still mad at him. Lacey graduated pre-K and somehow beat all of us at bowling. We talk about the neighborhood pool party that felt like the official summer kickoff, the screen time swaps we’re trying out, and why post-dinner walks and shooting hoops might actually be better than scrolling. Plus, we get into parenting hacks, Facebook photo fails, and why bi-weekly episodes just make way more sense. Oh—and one of us may or may not be obsessed with a $66 tempered glass mat.
Key Points:
The pool party that kicked off summer
Jack’s potty training and bedtime routine = game changers
Lacey’s birthday bowling party turned into an unexpected flex
Screen time swaps, mud kitchen builds, and staying sane as parents
Pete’s gut health journey + accidental wins from ChatGPT
The best $66 chair mat you didn’t know you needed
Why we’re sticking with bi-weekly episodes
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This week we pulled on our most dependable t-shirt and asked the real questions: When did we become brand loyalists? Why is everything cut weird now? And does loving a hoodie count as a fashion statement?
We also took a stroll down memory lane—middle school crushes, boy band fever, and the exact moment you realized your dad had a weekend uniform.
Key Points:
Celebrity crushes, from Shania to Obi-Wan
The dopamine spike of a sunny playground day
Grappling with the style legacy of our own dads
Minimalism, brand loyalty, and the "Toyota of shirts"
Quality vs. convenience in dad wardrobes
How social media messes with our closet confidence
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If there was a magical parenting newsletter, we’d want it to include honest stories, practical hacks, and at least one tip about how to survive your kid’s bedtime routine without needing therapy. This week, we talked about all of that—plus splinters, the Tooth Fairy economy, and why jury duty felt like a childhood nightmare.
We also kicked around what our ideal dad newsletter would include (besides strong coffee and a diagram for potty training in public).
Key Points:
Childhood fears we’re now reliving through our kids
Potty training logistics before a new sibling arrives
How to not lose your mind during a 90-minute bedtime routine
Tooth Fairy inflation and dollar bill prep
The mythical “cool S” and other kid folklore
Building confidence as dads one challenge at a time
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In this episode, we reflect on what it means to prepare our kids for a changing world without overwhelming them — or ourselves. Derek shares the big news about expecting baby #2 and how it feels totally different from becoming a first-time dad during the pandemic. We talk through the evolving approach to parenting — especially when it comes to over-explaining, managing emotions, and letting our kids build resilience without dumping our adult stress on them. From personal growth to screen time, we’re figuring out how to stay grounded while raising emotionally strong kids.
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Derek announces baby #2 and shares how this pregnancy feels more grounded than round one
We reflect on the pressure to over-explain everything to our kids — and when it's just too much
Balancing honesty and preparedness with protecting childhood joy and simplicity
Talking about emotions without letting stress spill over onto our kids
Why modeling resilience, adaptability, and lifelong learning matters more than memorizing facts
The role of tech and screen time — and what our usage teaches them
Rethinking how we “future-proof” kids without feeding their anxiety
In episode 45, we finally reunite in person and dive into a lively conversation about the weird, wonderful world of modern fatherhood. From late-night guitar solo practice and punk rock nostalgia to R2-D2 builds and DIY parenting fixes, we reflect on how our own childhoods, hobbies, and daily chaos shape the dads we are today. Along the way, we each draft our dream “Mount Rushmore of Dad Superpowers” — including calm under pressure, expert negotiation, and the ever-critical ability to summon snacks on demand. It's a mix of real talk, laughs, and reminders that parenting is part patience, part planning, and part magic trick.
Key Points:
Catching up in person and bonding over guitar solos & pop-punk playlists
Parenting wins and struggles: sleep habits, routines, and child independence
How scouting and structured youth programs shaped our values
The “Dad Superpowers” we wish for (and sometimes have!)
Calm in chaos
Master negotiator
Inspirational motivator
Pro-level scheduler
Snack summoner
DIY fix-it wizard
The importance of showing up, being present, and staying curious as dads
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In this episode, we kick things off with our Hygge Question of the Week: “Who is the most interesting person you’ve ever met?”—which leads us down a few unexpected and hilarious memory lanes. Then we put our homeowner hats on for a Would You Rather.
From there, we dive into the heart of the episode: how becoming dads has reshaped the way we see our own parents. We reflect on the generational differences in parenting styles, how much more we appreciate what our parents went through, and the way those realizations are shaping how we raise our own kids. Along the way, we swap stories about daycare transitions, robot builds, yard work fails, and sweet moments with our kids that keep us grounded (and sometimes covered in mud or glitter).
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Key Points
We answer the Hygge Question: Who’s the most interesting person you’ve ever met? and play Would You Rather
Reflecting on how fatherhood has changed our view of our own parents
Pete shares yard work struggles and a homemade phone case story from Lacey
Derek talks about daycare transitions and building a battle droid with Jack
Discussion on grief after losing a pet and how kids process it differently
Challenges and wins with home maintenance and DIY repairs
The evolving identity of being “grown-ups” and comparing parenting generations
Creative projects with our kids—from robots to stuffed animals
In episode 43, we dive deep into personal challenges that have recently touched our lives. We share the emotional burden of Pete's family's health issues, including the heartbreak of losing our beloved dog, Penny, to lymphoma, and grappling with the complexities of aging loved ones undergoing serious health procedures. Amid these trials, we discuss the resilience shown by our kids and the small joys that light up our days. The conversation also explores our growth through these experiences, underscoring the importance of maintaining a hopeful outlook despite life's inevitable hardships. We also tackle our Hygge question of the day: "Is being sensitive a strength or a weakness?"
Key Points:
Dealing with Loss and Health Crises: We open up about the recent loss of Penny, the emotional impact of her lymphoma diagnosis, and the challenges faced with Pete’s mother’s surgery and grandmother’s dementia.
Children’s Resilience and Independence: We highlight moments like Lacey's newfound independence in breakfast-making, showcasing the small victories that bring us joy.
Navigating Personal and Professional Goals: The conversation turns to the feelings of underwhelm despite achieving significant milestones, reflecting on the continual balancing act between personal aspirations and parenting duties.
Exploring Personal Growth and Adulthood Challenges: We discuss the broader challenges of adulthood, emphasizing the importance of evolving and maintaining a positive perspective.
Engaging in Meaningful Conversations: Throughout the episode, we stress the value of open dialogue about difficult topics, offering insights and shared experiences to help others navigate similar paths.
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In Episode 42, we're tackling the tail-end of winter's challenges, from the stubborn snow to unexpected flooding and the inevitable mud. We're sharing how we handle these dreary days and keeping you updated on our family adventures, like Jack's standout dentist visit and Lacey's newfound independence in the kitchen. Derek also opens up about a recent hiccup with a flat tire on Beth's new car that had us scrambling. We're also brainstorming some innovative family-friendly business ideas, imagining a co-working space that's as fun for kids as it is productive for parents.
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In episode 41, we dive into the nuances of parenting as we discuss the highs and lows of our weeks, and we play "Would You Rather" with a very intriguing question about the internet. We explore the shifting landscape of parenting in 2025, focusing on trends like the decline in sharenting and the rise of more balanced parenting techniques amidst the pressures of social media. Join us as we navigate the complexities of modern fatherhood, emphasizing the importance of mental health and personal goals over traditional resolutions.
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In episode 40 of the Super Secret Dad Club, we start by diving into our favorite culinary creations, answering the Hygge question, "What is the most impressive recipe you know how to cook?" We share some fun things we've been whipping up in the kitchen. Then, we transition to our interview with Andy Olsen, where we kick off with our highs and lows, giving an authentic glimpse into our daily lives as well as Andy's. Andy, a creative professional and dedicated dad, discusses how he and his wife, both with non-traditional schedules, balance their careers while supporting their son Everett’s involvement in basketball and theater. He shares insights on the joys and challenges of parenting, maintaining personal hobbies, and building friendships. Pete also shares a clever hack for making new adult friends. Throughout our conversation, we explore the complexities of parenting, the significance of hobbies, and the nuances of adult friendships. Join us for this episode filled with practical advice, personal stories, and a dash of dad humor. Don't forget to connect with us on our Discord at Super Secret Dad Club Discord for more discussions and support.
Key Points:
Personal Insights: We open with our highs and lows, offering listeners a personal connection and insights into our lives. Culinary Adventures: Dive into our kitchen escapades, discussing the most impressive recipes we can whip up and the joy of cooking. Navigating Work and Family: Andy shares how he and his wife balance their creative careers with supporting their son’s involvement in sports and arts. Building Friendships: Explore effective strategies for making and keeping friends as adults, including Pete’s unique friend-making hack. Community Engagement: We discuss the significance of community in parenting and encourage listeners to join our vibrant discussions on the Super Secret Dad Club Discord.
In Episode 39, we sit down with Steve, a dedicated father sharing the compelling story of raising his daughter, Ella, who is navigating life with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA). Diagnosed at age two and now a vibrant 13-year-old, Ella’s journey has been one of incredible resilience and joy despite the challenges. Steve opens up about the practical aspects of enhancing accessibility in their home and the inspiring victories Ella has achieved, from winning costume contests to advocating for herself. Join us as we delve into a discussion full of insights on parenting a child with a disability, the evolution of their family dynamics, and the celebration of small wins that feel monumental.
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Resources Mentioned
"Laughing At My Nightmare" by Shane Burcaw
In Episode 38 of the Super Secret Dad Club, we dive into the festive frenzy of holiday preparations, discussing how we keep up with the dynamic demands of family life during this bustling season. We revisit our cherished "Would You Rather?" and "Hygge Question" segments, sparking lively debates with questions like, "Would you rather have the ability to undo one thing from the past year or sneak a peek at one upcoming event?" and "If you could be the main character in any movie, who would you choose to be?" Join us as we explore these intriguing dilemmas, share our holiday coping strategies, and discuss the importance of staying present amidst the seasonal chaos.
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In episode 37, Pete and Derek catch up with their old friend Justin, co-host of Derek's guitar podcast and a dedicated father. Justin delves into the trials and triumphs of raising his nine-year-old daughter, Aria, discussing everything from managing ADHD to her passions for dance and horseback riding. The trio explore the intricate balance of nurturing independence while providing essential guidance, reflecting on the single-child dynamic versus the considerations of expanding the family. Tune in as they share invaluable insights into parenting, the significance of giving children agency, and maintaining harmony within family life.
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Join us on Episode 36 of the Super Secret Dad Club as we welcome Brian, a high school English teacher and dedicated dad, to dive deep into the world of parenting. Brian brings his experiences from the classroom and home to our lively discussion, covering everything from health scares to the juggling act of work and family life.
We wrap up with an invitation for listeners to join our active Discord community where dads share experiences, advice, and support. Join us on our Discord Server to continue the conversation and connect with other dads facing similar adventures and challenges in parenting.
Resources Mentioned
Headspace meditation app
Calm meditation app
The Way meditation app
Daily micro-journaling app
The Year Compass website/journal
Pete and Derek resume their podcast after a hiatus, discussing their lives and children's developments. Jack, now two, is showing rapid language skills, while Lacey, approaching five, is becoming more independent and understanding complex concepts. Derek shares a health scare involving a complex migraine, leading to a hospital visit and subsequent neurology follow-up. Pete talks about his exercise-induced asthma diagnosis, which has impacted his daily life and activities. Both reflect on the challenges and joys of parenting, the importance of health awareness, and the value of community and family support during difficult times. The conversation revolves around the excitement for the new season of a podcast, with plans to include guest segments and possibly new show segments. The hosts emphasize the importance of community, mentioning their active Discord server where parents can share experiences, advice, and resources.
Join us for the Season 1 finale of the Super Secret Dad Club! We wrap up with some awesome segments, including our highs and lows, and a Hygge question: "What advice would you give your 10-year-old self?" We also tackle a hilarious "Would You Rather" question: Would you rather your kids say "f*ck" all the time at home or say "how the f*ck are you" once to a teacher or grandparent? Plus, we dive into the top 3 lessons our dads taught us and what we hope to pass on to our kids.
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In this special Father's Day episode, Pete and Derek dive into a fun "Would You Rather" question: Would you rather your kids inherit your music taste or your sense of humor? They also share their favorite TV dads and discuss character development in shows. The conversation includes personal experiences with health issues, the origins of Father's Day, and gift ideas ranging from practical items to personalized experiences.
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In this episode, Pete and Derek dive into the timeless debate of whether money can truly buy happiness. They share their perspectives on success, happiness, and the importance of prioritizing mental and emotional well-being. The conversation also covers managing finances, navigating life transitions, and the challenges of affording comprehensive healthcare. Throughout, they emphasize the need for financial planning, budgeting, and personal growth, offering valuable insights for anyone looking to balance their financial and personal fulfillment.
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