Breaking Generational Cycles and Healing Beyond Survival: Episode 95
In a world that glorifies the grind, Speaking with Gravity takes a hard look at what “success” is really costing us. Joshua, Hannah, and Terance unpack the mental, emotional, and physical toll of hustle culture—especially within Black communities where resilience is often mistaken for restlessness.
From burnout and boundaries to redefining what achievement means, this episode challenges listeners to rethink the myth that constant motion equals progress. Because rest isn’t laziness—it’s liberation.
🎧 Listen as the hosts share real stories, research, and practical steps to help you balance ambition with mental wellness.
📊 QD of The Hour: Working more than 55 hours a week increases your risk of stroke by 35% and heart disease by 17% (World Health Organization, 2021).
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Undrafted and Purposed: Still Living, Loving, and Leading in Life by Kervin Searles
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💡 Everything affects everything.
Season 10 | On Purpose: The Road to 100
In this episode of Speaking with Gravity, hosts Joshua Williams, Hannah Jones, and Terance Dawkins unpack what it really means to break generational cycles and move beyond mere survival into true healing.
From unspoken pain and “what happens in this house stays in this house” mindsets, to the biological imprint of trauma through epigenetics, the crew explores how silence, resilience, and inherited behaviors shape who we are—and what we pass on.
💬 The People Want to Know:
“What’s one generational habit, belief, or saying you grew up with that you now see differently as an adult?”
📊 Quotable Data:
Trauma doesn’t just stop with the person who experiences it—it can echo through generations. Research published in Biological Psychiatry (2016) found that children of Holocaust survivors carried biological signs of their parents’ trauma, showing how deep generational wounds can run.
Together, the hosts discuss:
How to name and recognize unhealthy family cycles
Turning resilience into healing rather than avoidance
Tools for transformation—like therapy, journaling, and open conversations
Building an emotional inheritance for the next generation
🗣️ Featuring:
Terance Dawkins, a licensed therapist and creator of the B.L.A.C.K. Trauma Cards (Store 1 — Missing Pieces Counseling Services)
Hannah Jones, bringing a counselor’s insight and a newlywed’s reflection
Joshua Williams, guiding the conversation with warmth and depth
🎧 This episode reminds us: healing doesn’t dishonor the past—it strengthens what comes next.
🌐 Connect & Learn More
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📖 Stay tuned for Episode 100 and the release of Undrafted and Purposed: Still Living, Loving, and Leading in Life by Kervin Searles.
🎵 Speaking with Gravity—because everything affects everything.
In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Speaking With Gravity welcomes Dr. Ebony Collins, a faith-driven advocate and survivor of low vision due to long COVID. Together with hosts Joshua Williams, Hannah Williams, and Terrence Dawkins, Dr. Collins shares her eye-opening story of sudden visual impairment, mental health struggles, and spiritual resilience.
👁️🗨️ Learn how a COVID-related vision loss diagnosis reshaped her identity, tested her faith, and forced her to redefine her professional and personal life. This episode dives into:
The overlooked connection between disability and mental health
How sensory decline impacts daily life, identity, and employment
The role of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) in workplace accommodations
Why community, faith, and advocacy are crucial in healing
Challenges within the Black community around disability awareness and participation in case studies
This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating life after disability, health advocates, Christians seeking inspiration, and professionals in mental health and disability services.
🔎 Perfect for audiences interested in:
#MentalHealthAwareness #DisabilityAdvocacy #LowVision #FaithAndHealing #COVIDLongHaulers #BlackMentalHealth #ADA #RehabilitationCounseling #InspirationalStories
👉 Listen, learn, and be inspired to build a more inclusive, compassionate, and informed community.
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00:00 – Intro & Guest Welcome
Meet Dr. Ebony Michelle Collins and the hosts of Speaking With Gravity.
03:14 – Dr. Collins’ Background & Credentials
From sociology to Christian counseling—her path to advocacy.
06:50 – Living with Low Vision: What It’s Like Day-to-Day
Dr. Collins explains how her vision loss impacts daily functioning.
09:30 – COVID-19 & the Onset of Vision Loss
How COVID and the vaccine triggered her unexpected diagnosis.
13:58 – First Surgery & Emotional Toll
Facing retinal detachment just days after diagnosis—and the mental shock.
18:05 – Mental Health Struggles & Coping with Faith
Why spiritual grounding became her lifeline.
22:47 – Workplace Accommodations & ADA
The difference the Americans with Disabilities Act made in her career.
27:55 – Disability in the Black Community
Why Black and Brown communities must engage in research and seek support.
32:40 – Navigating Independence After Disability
From driving to planning travel—how everything changed.
37:02 – Rehabilitation & Redefining Identity
Adjusting professionally and personally after disability.
41:18 – Advocacy Work & Creating Awareness
Her new mission: amplify low vision issues, especially in underserved communities.
45:20 – Spiritual Purpose & Resilience
How obedience to God helped her step into her next calling.
50:11 – Call to Action: Support, Awareness & Inclusion
Episode 92 – The Discipleship of Men Cultivates Healthy Masculinity | Speaking With Gravity
Mental Health Strategies For Spiritual Leaders and Congregation: Episode 93
In this powerful episode of Speaking with Gravity, hosts Terance Dawkins, Joshua Williams, and Hannah Williams are joined by special guest Dr. Mekeshia Bates—a licensed psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner and ordained minister—to discuss the critical intersection of mental health and spiritual leadership in the African American community.
Dr. Bates shares insights from her upcoming book, No Shame: Bridging the Gap Between Mental Health and the Black Church (releasing Summer 2026), and unpacks the mental health education gap among pastors and faith leaders. She emphasizes the urgent need for formal training, emotional resilience, and community care in church spaces. This episode challenges outdated stigma and offers practical ways to integrate mental wellness into congregational life.
Whether you're a pastor, mental health advocate, or simply passionate about emotional well-being in the Black community, this episode delivers real talk, informed perspective, and inspiration to spark change.
🎧 Listen now to explore how faith and healing can work together—not apart.
Welcome to Speaking with Gravity, the podcast where mental health meets real life. In Episode 92, we dive into a powerful conversation on the discipleship of men—unpacking what it means to develop and embody healthy masculinity in today’s world.
This episode explores how men can learn, practice, and share values that lead to emotional wellness, leadership, and stronger communities. If you're passionate about mental health, personal growth, fatherhood, brotherhood, or redefining manhood, this one’s for you.
Expect real talk, reflection, and resources to help you or the men in your life become more grounded, intentional, and emotionally aware.
🎧 Hit play and join the journey of becoming a better man—because everything affects everything.
In this powerful episode of Speaking with Gravity, we explore how self-determination—the ability to make choices and direct your own life—plays a critical role in protecting and strengthening your mental health. Hosts Joshua, Hannah, and Terance explore practical ways to take control of your emotional well-being, build resilience, and break free from limiting beliefs. Special Guest - Christopher B. Thomas, Director of Benjamin E. Mays Historic Site.
We discuss:
What self-determination means in the context of mental wellness
How autonomy and intentional decision-making improve your mental health
Real-life examples of overcoming adversity through self-empowerment
Tips to reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and create the life you want
This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or looking for ways to regain control over their mental and emotional state. Whether you're beginning your mental health journey or deep in the process, this conversation will inspire you to move forward with confidence and clarity.
Tune in, think with us, feel with us, and grow with us.
🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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In this episode of Speaking with Gravity, we dive deep into the often-overlooked complexity of adult friendships—why they matter, why they’re hard to make, and how they can deeply impact your mental health. While both therapy and friendship are essential to emotional well-being, they serve very different roles—and one can’t replace the other.
Join us as we explore why building meaningful connections in adulthood can feel so daunting. Through personal stories, expert insights, and actionable strategies, we unpack how strong social ties can boost self-esteem, improve emotional regulation, and even increase your sense of purpose.
If you’ve ever felt isolated or struggled to maintain friendships while juggling adult responsibilities, this episode offers both comfort and clarity. Learn how to foster real, lasting relationships that support—not substitute—your therapeutic journey.
Perfect for listeners invested in mental wellness, emotional growth, and real conversations about relationships.
🎙️ Subscribe, listen, and share—because everything affects everything.
Your thoughts shape your reality — are they helping or hurting you? In this powerful episode of Speaking with Gravity, we explore how perception influences everything. From your mood to your relationships to your success, the way you think can completely shift the outcome.
Tune in as we break down why your mindset matters, how to recognize limiting beliefs, and practical ways to reframe your thoughts for a better, healthier life. If you’re working on self-improvement, emotional wellness, or simply want more peace in your day-to-day, this conversation is for you.
🧠 Change your thoughts. Change your situation.
✨ Follow, share, and start thinking differently—because everything affects everything.
#MentalHealthMatters #MindsetShift #SpeakingWithGravity #SelfImprovement #Wellbeing #ThoughtsBecomeThings #PerceptionIsPower
00:46 - Guest Introduction: Meet Kristi Byrd
03:34 - Topic Overview: How Our Thoughts Change Every Situation
04:01 - The People Want To Know Segment: What Are Ways To Challenge Your Beliefs and Expand Your Perception?
08:22 - Ask and Answer "Why" Questions
12:05 - QD of The Hour: This concept of closure
17:09 How Do Perception Play A Part in How We Interact with People
20:43 We Need to Think About Our Thinking
24:52 They Are No Wasted Experiences
26:18 Personal Story of Reframing Thoughts
30:02 Joshua Encourages Faith Based Listeners
31:16 Cognitive Reframing Overview
33:13 Story Time With Terance
36:13 Importance of Reflection
40:28 Final Thoughts with Kristi Byrd
Is therapy not working for you? You’re not alone. In Episode 88 of Speaking with Gravity, we dive deep into why therapy sometimes doesn’t deliver the results people hope for. From the importance of cultural competence in therapists to setting clear counseling goals, we explore key factors that can make or break the therapeutic experience.
Therapy isn’t just about showing up—it’s about finding the right connection, engaging in both comfortable and uncomfortable conversations, and ensuring that you and your therapist are aligned on your healing journey. If you’ve ever felt like therapy wasn’t effective, this episode will help you understand the possible reasons and what you can do about it.
Tune in now to:
✔️ Discover why cultural competence in therapy matters
✔️ Learn how goal-setting impacts your counseling experience
✔️ Understand the role of comfort and discomfort in the healing process
🎧 Don’t miss out—whether you’re new to therapy, have tried it before, or are considering giving it another shot, this conversation will help you make the most of your mental health journey.
🔔 Subscribe and follow Speaking with Gravity for more real conversations about mental health—because everything affects everything.
#MentalHealthPodcast #SpeakingWithGravity #TherapyDoesntWork #CulturalCompetence #MentalHealthMatters #PodcastEpisode88 #HealingJourney
Reasons Therapy Doesn't Work | Speaking with Gravity Podcast | Episode 88
Healing is a deeply personal journey, but it also has ripple effects on the people around us. In Episode 65, we laid the foundation by exploring what healing means, why some people resist it, and how it unfolds in layers. We also discussed the fear that comes with change and the importance of breaking cycles of intergenerational trauma. In this episode, we pick up where we left off—diving deeper into the responsibility of healing, how to sustain progress, and how our growth can impact others.
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In this enlightening episode of Speaking with Gravity, we tackle the often-overlooked topic of intrusive thoughts and their profound impact on mental health. Join us as we welcome special guest Andre Goodman, a licensed professional counselor associate and sports performance expert. Andre shares his unique insights into how intrusive thoughts specifically affect men and their mental performance.
Together, we engage in a heartfelt conversation aimed at demystifying these challenging thoughts. Andre provides listeners with practical strategies to manage and decrease the occurrence of intrusive thoughts, empowering you to take control of your mental well-being. Whether you’re seeking to understand your own thoughts or support a loved one, this episode offers valuable tools for navigating mental health challenges.
Tune in to Speaking with Gravity and learn how to reclaim your mental space and enhance your performance, one thought at a time. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review to help others discover this important conversation!
In this episode of Speaking with Gravity, we dive into the essential role of self-awareness in relationships and how it impacts communication, emotional connection, and long-term success. If you've ever struggled with understanding your partner, breaking unhealthy patterns, or creating a relationship that stands the test of time, this conversation is for you.
Join us as we explore:✅ How self-awareness improvescommunication and reduces misunderstandings✅ Practical strategies forbuilding healthy relationship habits✅ The connection betweenemotional intelligence and lasting love✅ Why “everything affects everything” when it comes to your mental health and relationships
At Speaking with Gravity, we believe that mental health and relationships go hand in hand. Whether you're dating, married, or working on self-growth before your next relationship, this episode will give you valuable insights tostrengthen your bond and transform your relationship into one that is both loving and long-lasting.
🎧Tune in now and start building better connections today! Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it.
#MentalHealthPodcast #SelfAwareness #HealthyRelationships #CommunicationSkills #SpeakingWithGravity #KervinSearles
Listen, Learn, & Love: Simple Habits for Deeper Connection
Welcome to Speaking with Gravity podcast, on this episode we discuss an essential topic that affects us all: blocking negativity. From negative energy and toxic people to unwanted expectations and discouraging experiences, negativity can weigh heavily on our minds and hearts. In this episode, we’ll explore effective strategies to recognize and mitigate these harmful influences in our lives. We’ll share personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips to help you create a more positive mindset and environment. #mindset #frustration #personalgrowth #podcast #mentalhealthcare #negativity #tips
Welcome to Speaking with Gravity, the podcast where we connect mental health to everyday life while making you think, feel, and act. In today’s episode, we dive into the world of ADHD—Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder—and what it truly means to live with this neurodevelopmental condition.
ADHD is often a buzzword in media and pop culture, but how accurately is it portrayed? From exaggerated stereotypes to outright misinformation, we’re breaking down the myths to uncover the lived experiences of those navigating ADHD in real life. Together, we’ll explore the challenges of maintaining focus, organizing daily tasks, and managing impulses—skills society often takes for granted.
🎧 Tune in now and discover how ADHD impacts lives in ways you might never have imagined.
Have an idea for a future episode or want to be a guest on the show? Reach out to Kervin Searles at kervinsearles@gmail.com—we’d love to hear from you! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave us a review to help more listeners join the conversation.
In this episode, we take a closer look at frustration, an emotion often seen as negative and overwhelming. But what if frustration could actually be a powerful ally for growth and change?
We explore:
- The deeper causes of frustration
- How to reframe your perspective to embrace this emotion
- Practical strategies to channel frustration into positive action
✨ **Why Listen?**
Frustration doesn’t have to hold you back. By uncovering its hidden message, you can transform it into a tool for clarity, motivation, and personal growth.
Don’t miss out! Share your thoughts on how you’ve navigated frustration and hit FOLLOW to stay updated on our latest episodes.
🎧 Listen now and turn your frustration into fuel for success!
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In Episode 81, Grieving Holistically Through Loss, we explore the deep journey of navigating grief while striving to maintain self-care and everyday routines. Join us as we sit down with grief counselor Tamara Houston, who shares her powerful story and expertise. Together, we delve into the critical role of creating and sustaining self-care strategies that foster moments of peace and stability in times of loss. Tamara offers invaluable insights into holistic techniques and coping methods—including EMDR and other practices—that help manage the pain and find a path toward healing. Whether you're coping with loss or supporting someone on their journey, this episode is packed with compassionate guidance for moving forward.
In this episode of Speaking with Gravity, we dive into a fundamental aspect of mental wellness for the next generation: emotional regulation in children. Raising resilient children starts with equipping them to understand, express, and manage their emotions effectively. As parents, educators, and caregivers in the African American community, fostering resilience isn’t just a goal—it’s a gift we can offer our children to navigate life’s highs and lows. Tune in as we explore practical strategies and insights that can empower you to help young minds build the emotional strength they need for a brighter future. Because here, we believe that everything affects everything—especially the tools we give our kids to thrive.
Welcome back to Speaking with Gravity! In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). What exactly is emotional intelligence, and why has it become a cornerstone of success in both our personal and professional lives?
Join us as we explore:
- The key components of emotional intelligence
- How EQ influences our relationships and interactions
- The impact of emotional awareness on decision-making
- Strategies to enhance your emotional intelligence for better well-being
Whether you're looking to improve your communication skills, build stronger relationships, or navigate life's challenges with greater ease, this episode is packed with insights and practical tips you won’t want to miss!
Tune in now and discover how emotional intelligence can transform your life! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below.
#EmotionalIntelligence #Podcast #SpeakingWithGravity #PersonalDevelopment #ProfessionalGrowth #EQ #MentalWellbeing
In this insightful episode of Speaking with Gravity, Joshua, Hannah, Terance, and special guest Kiewanna Hills dive deep into the topic of self-sabotage. Ever wonder why we sometimes stand in our own way? This episode uncovers what self-sabotage really is, why we do it, and—most importantly—how to break free from this self-destructive cycle. With a mix of personal stories, expert insights, and practical strategies, you'll gain the tools you need to overcome self-sabotage and reach your full potential.
Tune in as we explore:
- Understanding Self-Sabotage
- Overcoming Self-Sabotage
- Success Stories and Expert Tips to Thrive
Don't let self-sabotage hold you back—listen now and start your journey to success!
Perfect for those interested in personal growth, mental health, and overcoming barriers.
00:01 Intro 03:27 The people want to know, Can You Be Best Friends with the Opposite Sex? 07:54 Relationship Security 12:53 Cheat Code 27:14 Too Much Can Sabotage Relationships 35:45 Conquering Procrastination 41:47 Perfectionism 48:29 Bet On Yourself 51:00 Outro
The best coping skills are the ones we do regularly or periodically throughout the day or week. Although a weeklong getaway sounds fun, there can be more benefit from regular, frequent stress management activities.
00:01 Intro
01:04 the people want to know
05:38 putting your needs before your wants
08:42 stress management activities
11:00 having a coping kit
15:53 Terance's bike rides
17:09 am I coping or am I escaping?
19:46 practicing not just utilizing coping skills
22:47 types of anxiety
25:39 positive affirmations
30:55 positive self talk
35:22 Josh being seductive
37:51 outro
