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Single You "The Podcast"
Reka Robinson
152 episodes
6 days ago
In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast! I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries.
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In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast! I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries.
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Single You "The Podcast"
150. I'm Over the 50/50 Conversations

I’m over the 50/50 conversations.

Cause who’s really talking splitting money with a guy who can’t even locate himself?


I’m talking vibe change.

You ask.

He acts like nothings changed.


Why isn’t there more of: “look I’m processing something— we are still good but give me a minute.” 


Instead of acting different and making me feel like I’m tripping. 

If we say “at this big age” we are going to be open, honest and transparent… then there is a moment where vulnerability will help us “win the relationship” but you choose otherwise and expect me to “pull the emotions” out of you… we will lose the relationship every time. Why am I always put in a position where I have to think “am I tripping or did the energy shift?” — and it’s never the man with enough integrity to explain what’s going on with him or why the energy shifted.


I can’t figure out my emotions and yours sir.

So, is it really about the 50/50? 


-I have thoughts about him-

Originally Written: December 2023

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You know where to find me @justmeReka on IG & TikTok.

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1 year ago
4 minutes 43 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
149. 2 Gifts My Parents Gave Me About Relationships + Why I've Been Absent

You know where to find me.

IG = @justmeRea

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

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1 year ago
4 minutes 36 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
148. Why Can’t We Pull Our Men Up? (Guest J.Hall)

Relationships, Statistics, and Self-Exploration: Unveiling Truths about Dating (each other) for Black Men and Women. An argument as to why we should give the bus driver a chance. 


In this thought-provoking podcast episode hosted by Reka Robinson, she engages in a candid conversation with J. Hall about the complexities of relationships, the influence of statistics in dating, and the dynamics surrounding Black men and women. Together, they delve into the following thought-provoking questions:

  1. Should we base our choices on relationship statistics or on the reality we experience? Reka and J. Hall ponder the implications of relying solely on statistical data when it comes to dating and whether it aligns with personal experiences and individual needs. And where does faith come in?
  2. Nurturing Black men: Reka and J. Hall examine the idea of supporting and uplifting Black men. They question whether assumptions about their strengths and comfort levels hinder our ability to truly understand their needs and desires. The importance of open communication and asking questions is emphasized.
  3. Room for questions: The conversation navigates around whether Black men allow space for questioning, or if their ego obstructs genuine dialogue. Exploring the facets of self-discovery, they wonder if Black men truly explore the potential of the man they aspire to become. Why can’t we call our men up? 
  4. Acknowledging collective struggles: J. Hall shares his newfound understanding that the challenges faced by women in their interactions with men impact society as a whole. “I use to say that sucks for you, now I know it sucks for us.”
  5. The path to healing: Reka opens up about her personal journey, revealing that she believes true healing can only be achieved by embracing the discomfort and vulnerability that comes with building relationships. She wonders if she will be able to reach that point with a Black man. Can we get past that wall?
  6. Financial stability and trust: The discussion shifts to the topic of financial stability and its impact on dating within the Black community. Reka and J. Hall question whether Black men should refrain from dating until they achieve financial stability and whether Black women are expected to meet them at the bottom as a way to gain their trust.
  7. Reflecting truths: Reka shares her belief that she has the ability to make men confront their own selves, which can be uncomfortable for them, leading to avoidance. Which is why they run and why relationships never work out for her. 

Throughout the episode, Reka and J. Hall provide listeners with an engaging and thought-provoking dialogue that challenges preconceived notions about relationships, explores the dynamics between Black men and women, and encourages a deeper understanding of oneself and others.

  • You can find J.Hall here.
  • His Blog here.
  • The episode of 'The Good Girl Podcast' we mention is here.
  • The history of being Black; here.

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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 24 minutes 58 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
147. Nurturing a Healthy Marriage. Meg on: how she refuses to lose herself in her marriage. (Guest Meg Watt)

"I am intentional about not losing myself in my marriage." - Meg

(host) Reka, sits down with the inspiring Meg Watt to explore the dynamics of her decade-long relationship with her husband, Darrel. Through their conversation, they uncover valuable insights on building a healthy marriage, the importance of proper planning and strategy, and the need to embrace personal growth.

Meg begins by acknowledging the widespread desire many people have for the kind of fulfilling relationship she shares with Darrel. However, she highlights the unfortunate reality that most individuals fail to listen to her advice, missing out on the secrets to long-lasting-healthy love.

The journey of Meg and Darrel's relationship takes an unexpected turn early on when Darrel breaks up with Meg after two years. Meg candidly shares this experience, explaining that Darrel felt unprepared and uncertain about their future together. Reflecting on this challenging period, Meg emphasizes the significance of therapy in their reconciliation and subsequent reunion.

The podcast delves deeper into Meg's decision to give their relationship another chance despite her initial reservations about Darrell's previous breakup. Meg challenges the notion of holding onto an immature attitude and emphasizes the importance of personal growth and maturity in nurturing a strong bond.

Furthermore, Meg reveals the 'trauma plans' she and Darrel have implemented in their relationship. She sheds light on the significance of recognizing and addressing past traumas, emphasizing how this awareness contributes to a healthier and more resilient partnership.

Throughout the conversation, Meg shares her perspective on how individuals often normalize suppressing their own needs and desires, especially within the context of relationships. She encourages listeners to break free from this pattern, advocating for open communication and self-expression as essential ingredients for relationship growth.

Meg also touches upon the importance of empathy towards those who break up with us. She suggests that, that maybe these individuals (men) may have only experienced our unique type of love in their dreams and how overwhelming that can be for them. So having grace for ourselves in 'choosing wrong' and their choice to retreat is a crucial approach to our healing.


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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
55 minutes 51 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
146. So are we going to date the bus driver? Commentary on Eboni K. Williams, her preference and more. (Guest: Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)

"We have to stop internalizing people’s fruit inspection of us. - Tiyahri

In this podcast episode, my guest is Dr. Tiyahri Wilson and we explore the topic of preference when it comes to dating, specifically for Black women. We start off by discussing whether Eboni K. Williams is allowed to have her own preference and if Black women are allowed to be vocal about theirs. We also touch on Eboni's comment, "If he owns the bus," and whether men were too sensitive about her preference.

Dr. Tiyahri shares a quote that encourages people to stop internalizing others' opinions of them. Myself and Tiyahri also reveal whether WE would date a bus driver and while our preference isn't exactly aligned with Eboni's, we do express our support for her answer, her reasoning and more. Then we move on to the rebuttal made by Dr. Iyanla Vanzant about the criteria used to measure men being off, which sparks a conversation about the cultural push for marriage and motherhood and how it may maintain patriarchal control and dominance.

Dr. Iyanla Vanzant said: "The standards and the criteria we use to measure men are off, for who we are as women and who they are in this society.”

The conversation then turns to the difference between "finding love" or "falling in love" versus "choosing love." This episodes ends with us discussing the idea that as long as the competition is "I'm not gonna let you out love me," the marriage will work. Overall, the episode provides thought-provoking insights on preference, love, and the societal norms that surround relationships.


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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 9 minutes 4 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
145. Stop giving love with the intent to change. Plus what is the difference between falling in love and choosing love? (male perspective)(Guest Bryan Thomas)

In this episode of the podcast hosted by (Me) Reka Robinson with guest (life coach) Bryan Thomas, Bryan talks about his divorce and the lessons he learned from it. He explains why he was with her for a few years but only married for months and that when love is given with the intent to change instead of cover, problems arise. We discuss the concept "Love is meant to cover and not change, according to God." (1 Peter 4:8)

We also discuss the concept of loving blindly and how it can lead to problems. Bryan stresses the importance of finding someone who matches our values and needs. He also discusses his decision to remain single until he finds someone who matches his discipline. Bryan believes that we should stop giving potential partners the benefit of the doubt. They also talk about what marriage taught Bryan about women and himself. Finally, they delve into the difference between falling in love and choosing love.

  • 16:47: "When love is given with the intent to change and not the intent to cover. That is where you will run into a problem. God never says that ‘love changes’ but he says ‘love covers." - Bryan

  • 26:53: becoming the person that I’m called to become that is my responsibility, that is not the responsibility of the person I’m with. The thing that I’m asking you, is that when I make mistakes, will you hold my hand and say “I got you” as I’m elevating or are you going to push me to the side because maybe what you signed up for didn’t included the capacity to be able to handle the downside to the evolution that I’m bringing.
  • 50:24: What did marriage teach him about women? 
  • 1:01:04: What did marriage teach him about himself? + “Falling in love vs. choosing love”.  

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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠

Twitter ⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠

Facebook ⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠

TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 18 minutes 31 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
144. 'They' really think that a Black women's hyper-independence is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. Plus MAFS commentary. Let's talk (Guest Tiyahri)

"Share what you want him to know and then allow him to ask the questions that go along with that." - Dr. Tiyahri Wilson. Find her here.

In this episode of the podcast hosted by (myself) Reka and mental health therapist Tiyahri, we dive deep into the societal pressure on women to measure their worth by marriage and kids (The Ashanti of it All). We discuss the harmful comments that are often directed towards unmarried women in their 40s and question why finding true love is not taught as an uncertain reality of life. We emphasize the importance of not measuring one's value by marriage and instead being careful about the way we perceive and understand this beautiful institution (around 14:46). Then of course we analyze MAFS (Married at First Sight. Season 16) couples, such as Jasmine and Airris, to understand what emotional unavailability looks like and whether the therapists on the show are ethical (around 25:50). Here is where Tiyahri defines "emotional unavailable" and we give tangible examples.

The podcast hosts also take a closer look at Kirsten and Shaq (around 44:45), discussing what it means to be extremely guarded and questioning why someone so shut down would go on a show like MAFS. They explore what "doing the work" looks like for someone who is guarded and provide advice on how to open up in a relationship. Additionally, the hosts discuss Dominique and Mackinley and analyze the way Dominique mishandled the situation (around 55:43). They question whether 25 is too young for marriage and discuss the importance of being honest about what one wants in a relationship. This podcast episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand societal pressures on women, emotional unavailability in relationships, and the intricacies of marriage.

"Ya'll really think that a Black women's hyper-independence (general speaking) is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. All these Black women are out here asking for help and expressing their needs, receiving nothing. That is what breeds hyper independence address that." - IG Streets. (around 19:14)

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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠⁠here⁠⁠.

  • Twitter ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠
  • Facebook ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠
  • TikTok ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠
  • Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 11 minutes 15 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
143. Masculine and Feminine energy is not real life. Lets talk! (Plus let's celebrate Cameo for being on the Red Table... yes that Red Table!)

The first 28 mins is my discussion with my friend Cameo King (of the Good Girl Podcast) about her experience on the Red Table (Talk).

The episode she was on is titled: How to Find and Keep a Healthy Relationship and you can listen to that here.

Then we get into the following;

  • 28:10 When it comes to 'finding and keeping a healthy relationship' what did we learn from; Dating coach Matthew Hussey, author Stephan Labossiere, podcast host Lewis Howes and relationship advisor DeVon Franklin?
  • 30:00 Masculine and Feminine is not real life.
  • 31:08 Being a 1 dimensional feminine woman can be boring... here is why...
  • 34:01 Again what is the difference between compromise and settling... I think we found our answer through Matthew Hussey.
  • 36:54 Why is dating so fun and intentional in the beginning but 3, 6 months down the road he falls off?
  • 39:00 I fear making the wrong decision yet again.
  • 43:03 That masculine and feminine energy conversation puts people in boxes.
  • 45:58 Seriously who am I dating? Ever dated a man who couldn't locate himself?
  • 50:21 I can't heal this side of me until I get on the other side of a relationship.

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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG ⁠here⁠.

  • Twitter ⁠here.⁠
  • Facebook ⁠here.⁠
  • TikTok ⁠here.⁠
  • Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 5 minutes 51 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
142. What is the difference between settling vs. compromising? Marriage requires personal sacrifice... but what does that mean? (Guest: Cameo King + MAFS commentary)

Lets all welcome my friend, Cameo King back to the show, you can find her here. 

Jump off discussion is about "MAFS" up to episode 8. Points were made & topics were talked about; 

  • 3:11 Overall thoughts on Dominique and Mackinley for Cameo. Was Mackinley's response about never dating a Black woman a red flag? Will race play into their issues? 
  • 9:58 How I've switched from Dominique's side to now feeling sorry for Mackinley. Who is Cameo rooting for and why? Is there gaslighting going on? 
  • 13:45 Is Dominique over judging Mackinley's living situation? We assume her fear is that he is a moving target and not serious about marriage... are we correct? 
  • 16:26 If you were entering this MAFS situation do you 'slow burn' (treating it as a dating situation) or 'hard launch' (already treating it as a marriage)?
  • 21:30 Is there a difference in his love for you if he WANTS to 'take out the trash' vs. him doing it just because you want him to? Is that part of the love languages? 
  • 24:31 How Dominique's actions are very childish and predictions. 
  • 27:48 Shaq & Kirsten is actually Cameo's favorite couple but why? 
  • 32:26 Is she crazy due to no pictures in her house? Is she really minimalist for real? 
  • 37:20 What is the difference between settling vs. compromising? Marriage requires personal sacrifice... but what does that mean?
  • 47:33 How us believing men 'should just know' is at our detriment. We need to get better at emotionally expressing ourselves. 
  • 51:52 Predictions on Shaq & Kirsten. 
  • 53:25 Airris and Jasmine. The awkwardness & the drama. How Jasmine's attraction to Airris is blinding her. 
  • 56:22 Is Pastor Cal right, that Airris is feeling the pressure of having to have all the feelings for Jasmine because they are already married? Can he turn that around as time goes on?
  • 01:00:00 Is Airris' cousin stepping over the line? Especially how she is treating Jasmine? 
  • 01:04:41 When we really like a guy and we are holding out hope, what is the limit? How long do we hold out hope? 
  • 1:07:14 Walking in uncertainty and being uncomfortable, as a phase, is that what we are to expect in a relationship?
  • 1:15:00 Why I lean into the slow burn space. Why I hate words from men, especially in the beginning. (let's be clear I do want it later). 
  • 1:16:04 Our predictions on Airris and Jasmine. Will they stay married? 

Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)

“Marriage requires a lot of personal sacrifice” - Pastor Cal

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2 years ago
1 hour 25 minutes 35 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
141. How often are you trying to be someone your partner will like? Plus MAFS commentary & predictions. (Guest; Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)

Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.

Now let's get into the tea of S16 E5 & E6 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives?

Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)

Points were made;

  • 2:56 Dominique & Mackinley. Are they really meant for each other? Red Flags we see. 
  • 4:52 How much is trying to change for someone at our detriment? 
  • 6:50 Do opposites truly attract? Is that a good or a bad thing? 
  • 11:32 How often do you try to be someone your partner will like? 
  • 14:39 Fast launch or slow burn when it comes to this show and making it to decision day.
  • 16:52 Jasmine & Airris. Red flag that he's never been in love and he's 39? 
  • 26:10 Would Dr. T tell Jasmine to pack it up and go or wait it out? 

More discussion on the following; 

  • How I see love very differently now at 39 vs. 22. 
  • What questions should we be asking about sex? 
  • Should we be that honest when it comes to our attraction to our partner? 
  • Shaquille & Kirsten. What does all that complaining mean for Shaq? 
  • Can attraction grow? Can we date someone long term we aren't attracted to? 
  • Why I no longer say "this is God" especially when it comes to men. 

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The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.

Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.

I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.

You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.

At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.

  • Twitter here.
  • Facebook here.
  • TikTok here.
  • Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
52 minutes 14 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
140. With dating and the way things are in 2023, do we still want to be married? Plus MAFS commentary & predictions. (Guest; Dr. Tiyahri Wilson)

Welcome to Season 3 of Single You the podcast. I started this podcast in August of 2020, thank you for every listen, every review, every DM & every share. You have helped me stay consistent.  

Now let's get into the tea of S16 E1 & E2 of the reality show "Married at first sight": Marry Me in Tennessee, Nashville. What can we learn from the behaviors of these 3 couples? What behaviors do we not want to execute in our own dating lives? 

Points were made;

  • 2:30 Are most married people miserable? 
  • 7:35 With dating and the way things are in 2023, do we still want to be married? 
  • 10:47 Why do we watch dating shows? These relationships never last.
  • 16:35 Why would one sign up to marry someone at first sight? 
  • 18:52 Couple 1; Domynique/the old soul & Mackinley/The introverted dreamer. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see. 
  • 22:04 Is 25 is too young, in 2023 is too young to be married? 
  • 24:18 Should you be thinking of marriage if you live with your best friends parents? 
  • 29:30 Our prediction of Domynique & Mackinley, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.

Statistic; "Married At First Sight" Has Matched 59 Couples So Far — 15 couples are living happily ever after since the cameras stopped rolling. That's 25.4% of staying married. LESS than finding someone to marry on your own. (source)

  • 30:05 Couple 2: Jasmine/Queen without a King & Airris//Reformed & ready for love. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see. 
  • 33:10 How we feel about Airris' cousin.
  • 35:00 Is it a red flag if a man says "I have a lack of witnessing traditional relationships" and is sleeping with someone 2 weeks before you get married on MAFS a red flag?
  • 39:25 Our prediction of Jasmine & Airris, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.
  • 41:28 Couple 3; Kirsten/Ms. Great Expectations & Shaquille/The Devout Workaholic. Overall thoughts on them as a couple and red flags we see. 
  • 45:35 Is Shaq masculine enough for Kirsten?
  • 49:15 It's her vain-ness for us. Yuck!
  • 50:04 Can you stay with someone for the long haul, if you aren't attracted to him?
  • 55:42 Relationships are NOT fantasy. 
  • 59:23 Our prediction of Kirsten & Shaq, staying married or divorcing at the end of the show.

The first two seasons of “Single You” have been about the journey into a toxic, abusive relationship and the journey out and into healing. They served a specific purpose and those shows will always be there.

Now it’s time to pivot; I want to go on a journey of proving that a marriage can be healthy, people can be happy but it all depends on the truth we tell to ourselves and the work we do.

I speak to the Black woman of faith who desires to be married. Who wants to date with intention.

You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here.

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At this time I am not coaching but My DM is always open! Find me on IG here.

  • Twitter here.
  • Facebook here.
  • TikTok here.
  • Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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2 years ago
1 hour 9 minutes 16 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
139. Tiyahri on: How I strategically left my husband after 15 years and living my best life! (now)

On this episode, I speak with Dr. Tiyahri. She so graciously shares with us her story of growing up in the church. Being married young, in what she feels was an arranged marriage to strategically leaving her husband after 15 years. Why did she leave? Why does she feel the marriage was arranged? What was she strategic about and how? Let's talk. 

  • Intro: Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. Unhealthy in the church before she got married? 
  • 6:13 We didn't even know to ask. Growing up on Bel-Air and the Huxtables and bridge we didn't know we needed to close. 
  • 8:49 How to keep your husband happy (what she heard from the church). 
  • 14:27 Why she felt she was in an arranged marriage. 
  • 25:30 Was she tired being his wife and wife of a minister? 
  • 37:20 Did she blame herself or him stepping outside of the marriage? 
  • 40:09 Church just taught me to cry out and leave it on the alter but therapy taught me... 
  • 48:24 What is a healthy marriage to her and is she dating? 
  • 52:50 In her professional opinion what are green flags? And It's ok to change your mind. 

You can find Tiyahri on Instagram here. 

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2 years ago
1 hour 9 minutes 50 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
138. Should we be mad at God for our terrible relationship(s) or is it more about our accountability? (Guest; Claudia Noriega-Bernstein)

What about those moments we should leave but don't and why don't we? A conversation with Abundance Coach, Published Author, Creative and Art Director; Claudia Noriega-Bernstein. 

Some great moments.

  • 10:28; What do we need to unlearn "about love" from our parents? 
  • 23:58; When your "vibe" "energy" is off and your always scared is a great indicator to leave but we don't.
  • 25:12; Other moment(s) we should leave but we don't.
  • 32:27; How do you know if he loves you? 
  • 38:17; What is the difference between lust vs. love? 
  • 43:14; Communication is key but what does that mean?
  • 45:10; How did religion affect the way you saw relationship negatively? 
  • 49:00; Life is about choice but should we be angry at God for those terrible relationship(s)?


"I have dedicated the last twelve years of her life to empower people, especially children, and women. As a life/abundance coach, I have helped people from different backgrounds to discover and implement the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing.

Born in Peru; I come from a culture of taboos and beliefs that had not always empowered me to become what I believed was my calling. In the process of self-discovering, I fell in love with myself again and found my passion for helping others.

Giving back, paying forward, gratitude, and kindness are my pillars for a better world, and I credit them for inspiring my belief system and transforming my life." - Claudia


You can find Claudia and buy her books at the following links;

  • www.BrighterDaysBook.com
  • Instagram: @Cindifreakinrella
  • FB Page: @MyBloomingFamily
  • Twitter: @Noriega_Clau

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

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2 years ago
1 hour 11 minutes 43 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
137. Hosted by Cameo; How we participate in our own suffering... when it comes to men, church and everyone else. (A conversation with Reka & Cameo from The Good Girl Podcast)

You can find The Good Girl Podcast here.  What other topics would you like me to cover? Plus I always love your feedback, please reach out if you feel led. I'm always here. :-) --- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy. Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help. DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now! My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_) Twitter here. Facebook here. TikTok here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Xo 💕𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘊𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘕𝘓𝘗 𝘓𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩, 𝘙𝘦𝘬a

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3 years ago
1 hour 4 minutes 7 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
136. Mel on: Honk for Jesus (movie). Our commentary on the movie and his thoughts on loyalty from his lens of not growing up in Church.

Today's guest is Mel from the PreInternet Friend's Podcast. You can find him on IG here and his podcast here. 

Flow of show; 

  • Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
  • Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
  • You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
  • Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
  • Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
  • What should be the cut off?
  • Back drop: loyalty is #1 on most Men’s list for a woman - what does loyalty look like to you in this situation? do you have the same expectations for yourself to her? What does loyalty look like in general and explain.
  • How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)

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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

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3 years ago
1 hour 37 minutes 47 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
135. Did you watch Honk for Jesus yet? Cause it's almost time to discuss....

Honk for Jesus. Save Your Soul. is a 2022 American dark comedy-drama film written, directed, and produced by Adamma Ebo, in her feature directorial debut, and is a feature-length adaptation of Ebo's 2018 short film of the same name. Starring Sterling K. Brown and Regina Hall. 

This movie has SUCH A LOUD message and I want to discuss. So coming up next week, I ask my homeboy Jay... who didn't grow up in church the following;

  • Has anyone ever had a conversation with you about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy?
  • Not having those conversations… Was that at your detriment?
  • You didn’t grow up in church — so how would you feel about dating a women who felt she could change you solely by praying for you? Do you feel sorry for women like Trinity?
  • Would you ever advise a woman to continue to stay with a man she wasn’t happy with? Who continuously embarrassed her/broke her trust? Can a man like that change solely because she wants him to?
  • Have you ever stayed too long in a relationship— hoping she’d change? If you worked harder? If you love her harder?
  • What should be the cut off? When do you leave said relationship?
  • How did you view relationships/love (20s) vs. how do you view relationship/love now? (35+)


Leaving you with this scripture;

And so he did only a few miracles there because of their unbelief (Matthew 13:58)

If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. (Matthew 10:14)


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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

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3 years ago
10 minutes 49 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
134. Nikita on: Yes, single can be loud but let's discuss.... How do you manage being single? How do you manage being alone a lot?

Flow of show:

1. Yes, single can be loud but let's discuss.... How do you manage being single? How do you manage being alone a lot?

2. Question from DM.

I was sharing scenario of why I’m single to a non believing relative and some church friends … one said “opposites attract, so where your put together be prepared to fill in his gaps” while another argued “science” says that “like attracts like, so you will always pull broken brothers because your broken”- I honestly was stuck to think, this is how people see me??? Damned either way. I’m not perfect, but I surely am not broken, I’m on a journey to be better and heal to be ready and equipped in my authenticity nor will I be codependent for someone either.. have you ever been pigeon holed with these statements & how do you respond?

3. Are you 'dating' and what are you running into as of late while dating. Plus the question I've been asked by a man that I've never been asked before. 

4. What do you think single women have to give up once they get married/have kids?


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Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. 

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3 years ago
1 hour 7 minutes 26 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
133. "Relationships are ego driven and not pure" - Lauren London and I overstand what she meant. Let's talk...

Angie Martinez IRL Podcast | We're All Gonna Die: Lauren London. Click here. 

Check out episode 49. Titled: How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? Click here. 

Check out episode 50. Titled: Anwar on: If you were raised to be a daughter instead of a woman, then re-parenting yourself is a necessary step to your healing and love journey! Click here. 

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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.

Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. 

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3 years ago
10 minutes 9 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
132. Sis, if you just ended a toxic relationship (yet again)... Do this so you can stop this cycle you keep having with men.

Excellence comes from order > which brings peace. 

"In the Bible no one is called your blessing unless they have the power to produce well-being in you and are deeply connected to you in faith and social bond". - God's wisdom for navigating life by Timothy and Kathy Keller

You are going to have to decide, do you want what the word has been offering you for the rest of your life or do you want to see what Gods got for you, like for real? Not the level you're settling for cause God loves you regardless but if you want more peace, the peace that is promised from God. You have work to do. 

  • 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10-29
  • 10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” Luke 19:10


Let's reverse engineer this thang and start from with in instead of outside of you. Seeking the attention of men. 

  • Listen to episode 43. Lanaya on: What does a God fearing man even mean... look like? Plus how it may be causing you to be mishandled by men consistently. Click here. 
  • Listen to episode 43.2. Becoming her; a woman who holds herself accountable to future you... the woman you say you want to be! Click here. 

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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.

Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. 

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3 years ago
22 minutes 45 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
131. The ugly truth about wanting to be picked by him so badly.

New to me? My name is Reka and I work with Women of Faith: READY for guidance on KEEPING boundaries & getting over the shame of constantly being mishandled by men.

Listen to 59. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is.... here

Listen to episode 60. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. Part 1 here and Part 2 here. 

Also the episode with my former client Nikkita is titled; Having shame as a professional Black woman who's single and constantly being mishandled by men (her testimonial of SYA). and you can listen here. 

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Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy.

Thank you again for your consideration. I look forward to learning more about you and how we might be-able to help.

DM me *boundaries* or Click here to complete your application now!

My DM is always open! Find me on IG here. (the fake TikTok account, I'd love for you to report = @justmeReka_)

Twitter here.

Facebook here.

TikTok here.

Email = Reka@justmeReka.com

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here. 

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3 years ago
18 minutes 25 seconds

Single You "The Podcast"
In September of 2020, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from my full time job— to focus on what God is calling me to do in this season. I’m called to guide women who need to hear that singleness is not a punishment and you are worthy regardless of your relationship status. I’m the Founder of Single You Academy & the host of this Podcast! I help the loyal frustrated woman who is tired of giving 2nd chances and trusting he will change stop that cycle by teaching her how to set and KEEP her boundaries.