Don’t Destroy More Than You Fix
The seventh rule warns: if your words will cause greater damage than the Beis Din would, it’s not toeles—it’s harm, and it’s assur.
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Only If There’s No Other Way
If you can fix the issue another way, don’t speak Lashon Hara. The sixth rule of toeles requires minimizing harm wherever possible.
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Stick to the Facts
You may not exaggerate. The fourth and fifth rules require accuracy and sincere kavana l’toeles—not revenge, drama, or self-righteousness.
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First, Talk to Them
The third rule of toeles: try giving tochacha first. Lashon Hara isn’t permitted if direct, caring conversation can correct the problem.
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Looks Can Be Deceiving
Even eyewitness accounts can mislead. The second rule of toeles reminds us: interpret with care before assuming an aveira occurred.
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Don’t Act on Rumors
The first rule of toeles requires firsthand knowledge. Lashon Hara is only permitted if you saw it yourself or fully verified its truth.
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When Lashon Hara Helps
If speaking will help a victim recover stolen money or damages, it may be l’toeles. But halacha requires strict conditions—good intent alone isn’t enough.
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Secrets Deserve Silence
Even without the words “don’t tell,” private matters must remain private. Repeating secrets—harmless or not—is a violation of trust and halacha.
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Teach Children Early
Children copy what they see. If parents reject Lashon Hara clearly and consistently, kids absorb that as the norm—and carry it for life.
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Trapped? Don’t Be Mekabel
If you can’t speak up or leave, protect yourself: block out the Lashon Hara or focus elsewhere. But never accept it in your heart.
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Speak Up or Walk Away
If rebuke fails, distance yourself from those who harm with words. And when stuck in Lashon Hara situations, steer the conversation away—subtly but firmly.
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Avoid Lashon Hara Zones
Living near or sitting beside habitual speakers of Lashon Hara is assur. Protect your soul—your spiritual health must come first.
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Praise Can Attract Trouble
Highlighting someone’s generosity can lead to unfair pressure, jealousy, or harm. Even praise, when misunderstood, may turn into Avak Lashon Hara.
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Public Praise Needs Caution
Praising someone in front of a crowd is risky—unless he’s universally respected or unknown to the audience. Otherwise, criticism often follows.
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Too Much Praise Is Dangerous
Even sincere compliments can invite criticism. Avoid excessive praise in public—people may feel the need to “balance” the conversation with damaging words.
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When Praise Becomes Harm
Implying something negative or praising someone in front of enemies often triggers Lashon Hara. If there's any risk of backlash, don’t say it—even if it sounds positive.
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The Subtle Danger of Avak
Avak Lashon Hara—the “dust” of gossip—can seem harmless but causes real damage. It’s subtle, common, and easily overlooked. Awareness is the first defense.
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Rebuke with Respect
Even adult children must show kavod when correcting parents. Suggest gently, avoid confrontation, and model values quietly when necessary.
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Teach By Example
Parents must model that Lashon Hara is unacceptable. Even when choshesh, never accept harmful words as truth—and speak up gently when necessary.
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Would You Accept This About You?
Unless someone is a public rasha, we may not accept Lashon Hara—about neighbors, friends, or even enemies. Respect others as you’d want to be respected.
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