Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet. _____ -BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.comSupport the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Gina Martin joins to talk misogyny, feminism, and emotional healing—how patriarchy, trauma, and compassion shape identity, relationships, and recovery. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______________ Louie and Michael talk with author and activist Gina Martin about misogyny, feminism, gender roles, and emotional safety. Gina breaks down how patriarchy, trauma, and apathy shape men’s and women’s behavior, and what true compassion, forgiveness, and accountability look like in relationships. They explore how to raise boys, gendered social conditioning, and why understanding systems—not just individuals—matters for change. This episode dives deep into feminism, empathy, recovery, therapy, and identity, offering an unfiltered look at how culture shapes our emotional lives. Gina Martin she/her is a British gender equality activist, writer and facilitator known for her work fighting gender stereotypes, misogyny, sexual violence and the manosphere. Gina was responsible for making upskirting illegal in England and Wales (with 3 countries following suit), and changing discriminatory Instagram policy. She is also a writer, has published three books and has a best-selling Substack. Gina now works in schools across Australia running workshops for high schoolers on gender stereotypes. Gina's IG: https://www.instagram.com/ginamartin/?hl=en Gina's Substack: https://ginamartin.substack.com/ Gina's Latest Book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/452339/no-offence-but-by-martin-gina/9781529177572 BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.comSupport the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Lou and Michael unpack wabi sabi, the beauty of imperfection—talking therapy, accountability, control, and what it means to be seen before you’re “fixed.” BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ______________ This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael dive into the Japanese philosophy of wabi sabi—the art of imperfection—and unpack what it means to be seen while you’re still in pieces. They talk accountability versus blame, how guilt and control intertwine, and why savoring small moments might be the real therapy. With stories from real life and a mix of humor, ego, and introspection, this episode explores the messy middle of growth, relationships, and being human. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.comSupport the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Michael and Lou unpack how childhood trauma fuels anxiety, codependency, and fear of abandonment. A raw mix of therapy insights, humor, and hard truths on boundaries, recovery, and self-worth. BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III ___________________________ In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Michael and Lou dive deep into the messy intersections of childhood trauma, codependency, and the fear of abandonment. What starts as a simple conversation about space in friendship unravels into a raw exploration of why small conflicts can feel catastrophic, how anxiety distorts reality, and why it’s so hard to separate present struggles from old patterns. They talk candidly about boundaries, people-pleasing, and how growing up under constant fear leaves a permanent mark on self-worth. With sharp humor and unfiltered honesty, they reflect on therapy sessions, personal breakthroughs, and the exhausting cycle of trying to protect every relationship at the cost of their own peace. This is an episode for anyone who has wrestled with low self-esteem, overthinking, or the nagging belief that every disagreement might mean the end. Through laughter, vulnerability, and plenty of hard truths, Michael and Lou remind us that recovery is less about erasing the past and more about learning to live with it without letting it define us. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.comSupport the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Codependency, boundaries, consent, and low self-esteem. Louie and Michael explore addiction, abandonment, and what it means to feel worthy of repair in relationships.

Brad Garrett talks addiction, recovery, codependency, masculinity, and family dynamics in a raw conversation on mental health, identity, vulnerability, and personal growth.

Michael faces breakup blues while Louie shares dating advice from therapy. They dive into grief, guilt, family dynamics, and how relational thinking shapes love and connection.

Abortion advocate Sophie Nir joins us to unpack stigma, misinformation, and advocacy — from “abortion positivity” to global rights, men’s roles, and why abortion must be seen as a social good.

<p>Michael admits failure embarrasses him. Louie confesses to a codependent moment. Together they explore imperfection, relationships, and what growth really looks like.</p><br><p><strong>BetterHelp:</strong></p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy.</p><br><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><br><p>In this episode, he shares how failure feels embarrassing, why imperfection is so uncomfortable, and what it means to be okay with being seen as flawed. Louie and Michael debate the phrase <em>“figure it out”</em> — is it tough love or secretly insulting?</p><p>Michael opens up about practicing reliance and verbal processing with the people in his life, while Louie reflects on a recent codependent moment that sparks tension between them.</p><p>It’s a vulnerable and funny conversation about trying new things, embracing failure, communication in relationships, and the messy process of personal growth.</p><br><p>Support the pod:</p><p>PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p>MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a></p><br><p>Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><br><p>Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><br><p>topics: therapy podcast, mental health podcast, embracing imperfection, learning to fail, vulnerability, codependency recovery, communication in relationships, personal growth podcast, men’s mental health, self acceptance, trying new hobbies, emotional growth, unlicensed therapy</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p><strong>Louie reflects on radical acceptance, family wounds, and whether he truly desires a connection with his father.</strong></p><br><p>This week, Louie and Michael unpack the idea of fatherhood — from the hypothetical qualities they wish they’d had in a dad, to what it means to grow up without a father figure. Louie challenges Michael’s story of not having one, and shares his perspective on <em>who carries the responsibility for repairing parent–child relationships</em>.</p><br><p>Michael opens up about how codependency and avoidance have shaped his romantic life, especially in a long-distance relationship. He shares the painful reality of emotional whiplash — the push–pull, yo-yo effect — and how it impacts intimacy, trust, and connection.</p><br><p>It’s a vulnerable and raw conversation about fathers, family dynamics, codependency, and the difficult process of learning to accept people as they are while still protecting your own emotional health.</p><br><p><strong>BetterHelp:</strong></p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy.</p><br><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><br><p>Support the pod:</p><p>PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p>MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a></p><br><p>Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><br><p>Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><br><p><strong>Topics:</strong> therapy podcast, mental health podcast, radical acceptance, father wounds, fatherhood, absent father, family dynamics, repairing parent–child relationships, codependency recovery, long distance relationships, emotional whiplash, yo-yo relationships, self-growth, unlicensed therapy, breakups, heartbreak</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p><strong>Louie has a bone to pick with the audience over last week’s episode — and his therapist has thoughts.</strong></p><p>This week, Louie unpacks why being “hard to argue with” might be hurting his relationships, and what it really means to meet people where they are without losing yourself. Michael shares a fresh example of Louie’s dismissive side and opens up about the possibility of having Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).</p><br><p>Louie reflects on a recent conversation with his mom that stirred unexpected discomfort, while Michael shares lessons from his CODA (Codependents Anonymous) meetings about boundaries, connection, and self-awareness.</p><br><p>It’s an honest, funny, and vulnerable conversation about communication, self-growth, family dynamics, and the messy process of trying to show up authentically in relationships.</p><br><p>BetterHelp:</p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy.</p><br><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><br><p>Support the pod:</p><p>PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p>MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a></p><br><p>Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><br><p>Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><br><p><strong>Topics discussed:</strong> therapy podcast, mental health podcast, rejection sensitive dysphoria, RSD, codependency recovery, CODA meetings, family dynamics, emotional boundaries, self-awareness, meeting people where they are, communication in relationships, personal growth, unlicensed therapy podcast</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p><strong>Michael and Louie get real about boundaries, control, and what it takes to accept people — especially family — as they are.</strong></p><p>This week, Louie opens up about deciding to accept his mom for who she is, letting go of the hope for a deeper emotional connection, and navigating the grief that comes with a more shallow relationship. Michael shares how childhood neglect, acts of service, and the loss of key family support have shaped the way he gives and receives love. Together, they unpack emotional walls (“the bricks”), codependency, the need for validation, and how old wounds show up in adult relationships. And then we get into a fight over communication. Autism vs ADHD: the Showdown.</p><p>It’s raw, unfiltered, and sometimes hilarious — a deep dive into family dynamics, attachment, emotional boundaries, and why some conversations feel like battles.</p><br><p>BetterHelp:</p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy..</p><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><br><p>Support the pod:</p><p>PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p>MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a></p><br><p>Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><br><p>Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><br><p><strong>Topics discussed:</strong> therapy podcast, mental health podcast, family boundaries, mother-son relationship, emotional boundaries, letting go of control, accepting family, childhood neglect, acts of service love language, codependency recovery, inner critic, family dynamics, grief and loss, personal growth, unlicensed therapy</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p>Louie’s new therapist introduced him to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — and it’s already getting personal.</p><p>In what early listeners have called our "most beautiful episode yet"... Louie brings EFT-style <em>attachment questions</em> to the pod, exploring what he and Michael learned from their families about vulnerability, emotional safety, and connection. They reflect on how their mothers shaped their ability (or inability) to express feelings, the emotional roles they were expected to play, and what it means to unlearn emotional avoidance as adults.</p><p>If you’ve ever asked yourself <em>“Why is vulnerability so hard for me?”</em> — this one’s for you.</p><p>topics: emotionally focused therapy, EFT, therapy podcast, attachment styles, emotional vulnerability, childhood trauma, family dynamics, inner child healing, men’s mental health, emotional avoidance, healing relationships, therapy questions, how to be vulnerable, funny therapy podcast</p><br><p>BetterHelp:</p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy..</p><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><br><p>Support the pod:</p><p> PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join Patreon for Exclusives</a></p><p> MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Shop Merch</a></p><br><p> Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/itsloubear" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a></p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/malonecomedy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a></p><br><p> Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p> PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p>Michael has a new therapist — again — and session one gets heavy fast.</p><p>In this episode, Michael opens up about his childhood introduction to pornography, the grief of losing his mom, and how he's been (literally) conjuring her in his mind. He shares his fears around trying new things, the weight of codependency, and the haunting voice of his inner critic… which sounds a lot like his mother. Louie joins in to reflect on shame, identity, and the early experiences that shaped them both.</p><p>It’s an honest, funny, and deeply emotional conversation about therapy, loss, childhood trauma, and learning how to grow without the people who shaped us — for better or worse.</p><p>Topics: mental health podcast, grief and loss, inner critic, codependency, childhood trauma, therapy session, pornography addiction, men’s mental health, self-discovery, healing journey, comedy and grief, emotional resilience, parent wound, unlicensed therapy podcast</p><br><p>BetterHelp:</p><p>If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit <a href="https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy</a> for a discount on your first month of therapy..</p><p>If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/</a></p><p> </p><p>Support the pod:</p><p> PATREON - <a href="http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join Patreon for Exclusives</a></p><p> MERCH - <a href="http://secondhandtherapypod.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Shop Merch</a></p><br><p> Follow us here: </p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a></p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/itsloubear" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a></p><p><a href="http://instagram.com/malonecomedy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a></p><br><p> Contact us:</p><p><a href="https://gmail.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a></p><p><a href="https://tel:818/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">818-850-2448</a></p><p> PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p>Louie can’t stop wondering if his therapist is a Trump supporter. Louie talks about the early sessions of starting therapy, including opening up about his depression, anxiety, and trauma through intake surveys. He also shares why he’s on a mission to find a hobby — and how it could transform every relationship in his life. Michael has a theory about why Louie hates schedules, and opens up about his own identity struggles. Together, they ask a big, uncomfortable question: <em>Who gets to decide what makes someone a good person?</em></p><p>It’s a vulnerable, funny, and deeply honest conversation about starting therapy, navigating mental health, identity, and the awkwardness that comes with trying to grow.</p><p>Topics: mental health podcast, starting therapy, depression and anxiety, trauma recovery, identity and self-worth, therapy for men, funny therapy podcast, personal growth, male friendship, comedy meets vulnerability</p>Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p>Louie and Michael just had intake sessions with their new therapists—and the experiences couldn’t have been more different. Louie returns to working with a woman therapist and unpacks what it’s like doing virtual therapy from the intimacy of your own space. He opens up about childhood trauma, the emotional impact of therapy on Zoom, and why his new therapist has <em>never</em> used social media—and what that says about mental health today.</p><p>Meanwhile, Michael is adjusting to a new relationship dynamic and facing fear in unexpected places—including a moment when his partner fell asleep and he felt too anxious to go for a walk. The two discuss how fear of abandonment, relational anxiety, and early trauma still show up—then dive into a classic role play that spirals in the most chaotic (and healing?) way.</p><p>If you're into therapy, emotional processing, relationship dynamics, or navigating modern mental health—this episode is for you.</p><p>Who doesn't love muffins, ya know.</p><p>Topics:</p><ul><li><p>Virtual therapy vs in-person sessions</p></li><li><p>Fear of abandonment &amp; relationship anxiety</p></li><li><p>Social media and mental health</p></li><li><p>First therapy sessions and trauma discovery</p></li><li><p>Role play therapy (with laughs and breakthroughs)</p></li></ul><p> </p><p>Support the pod:<br><a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com/'>http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p>Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

<p>Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions involving sexual assault.</p><p> </p><p>Support the pod:<br><a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com/'>http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br><br>Follow us here: </p><p><a href='http://instagram.com/ponybearstudios'>http://instagram.com/ponybearstudios</a></p><p><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105</p>Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

This episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tension between processing emotions vs. taking action, explore their very different approaches to therapy, and debate what real growth actually looks like. The episode takes a deeper turn as they confront generational trauma, emotional triggers, and what it takes to break toxic family cycles.<br><br>Support the pod:<br><a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com/'>http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

Michael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and the episode takes a deeper turn as they both reflect on their childhoods and how it shaped them.<br><br>Support the pod:<br><a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com/'>http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

Louie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:<ul><li>"How can I talk to you better?" vs. "What can we do differently?"</li><li>Selfless care vs. reputation management</li><li>Guilt-driven repair vs. genuine accountability</li></ul>They dissect what it means to feel dismissed, how panic can hijack your intention, and why changing how you speak to someone isn’t always love — sometimes it’s self-erasure. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and Also featuring:<br>– “You hit me with a baseball!”<br>– Weaponized ‘I miss you’s<br>– A fake breakup that feels a little too real<br>– Love on the spectrum<br>– And Michael finally realizing he’s never actually thought before speaking 🙃<br><br>Support the pod:<br><a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com/'>http://secondhandtherapypod.com</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Support the pod:<br>PATREON - <a href='http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod'>Join Patreon for Exclusives</a><br>MERCH - <a href='http://secondhandtherapypod.com'>Shop Merch</a><br><br>Follow us here: <br><a href='http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod'>http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod'>http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/itsloubear'>http://instagram.com/itsloubear</a><br><a href='http://instagram.com/malonecomedy'>http://instagram.com/malonecomedy</a><br><br>Contact us:<br><a href='https://gmail.com/'>secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com</a><br><a href='https://tel:818/'>818-850-2448</a><br>PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105<hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>