This week we talk to Babs Gray (ig: @babs_gray), whose podcast ignited the Free Britney movement! It was of course a team effort as thousands of people became motivated to help the pop princess find freedom. But Babs and her co-host Tess, with the help of a whistleblower close to the situation, took a risk in making this story public. Using their podcast platform for reach, Babs and Tess invested significant time, money, and energy - and IT WORKED.
 
So tune in for a behind-the-scenes peak on how Free Britney finally Freed Britney.

Follow Babs ~ @babs_gray
Follow her podcast *Lady to Lady* ~ @ladytoladycomedy 

A new episode, a new episode, it’s a new episode yay! And it’s not even paywalled you lucky duck! This one isn't exactly studied through a psych lens, and it’s not about the horrible men who have gaslit you — but you are STRONGLY encouraged to write in to sadgap.podcast@gmail.com to share your gaslighting stories! Instead, Alison the Pedant has a bone to pick with the evolution of this word and its meaning over the last 90-ish years. And just so she’ll finally stop bitching about it, Friend of the Pod Prabha joins the pod to talk it all out, explain it all out, and hopefully you enjoy it along the way.

Discussion of the 2025 movie "Companion" starring Sophie Thatcher and directed by Drew Hancock. Hosted with returning guest Nick, friend of the crew friend of the pod. A review of the film with a focus on its feminist themes. (shocking, I know)

**Episode is full of spoilers! So many!

Recorded in late 2024 with content creator/internet historian Bree Essrig and OG hostess Alexis! (Previously paywalled, has audio issues and rich chaotic bisexual energy.) Tune in for personal stories of getting doxxed, wikifeet, queer dating, and more. Also discussion of sex work from a firsthand account, including legalization and pro/cons of in-person vs online sex work!
 
Find Bree on instagram at @breeessrig and check out her 2024 movie “Sugar Baby” ♡

Featuring Joe of the “Boys Watching Buffy” podcast to answer all our deep dive questions! First we break down the overall plot and characters, then explore the ~feminist themes~ found in Sunnyvale. The damsel in distress trope is subverted. The Bechdel Test, consistently slayed. The patriarchy sits on a council wearing tweed. Buffy and Willow find their agency, Warren gets his orbs crushed, and wtf is wrong with Joss Whedon! If you’ve never seen Buffy, now you can hold your own in a conversation as if you had (basically). And if you love Buffy already, learn even more from someone who has done their damn homework!

A rich conversation with filmmaker & poetess Effie Spence about feminine wisdom and the power of recentering matriarchal values. Effie shares her period-stained poetry ‘A Bloody Mess’ and docuseries ‘Motherland’, which follows her journey to ancestral roots to rediscover herself through the women who came before. We talk tarot, menarche malarkey, cycle syncing, and more. Includes a question for all about how to turn this sadgap.podcast into a practical community of care. (Bonus toward the end, and a big topic: what if the antithesis of patriarchy isn’t the smashing we’ve heard about, but something softer and more intimate instead.)

Today we sit down with writer Chloe Marie Stillwell for a whirlwind of stories -- from pissing off Lady Gaga with a viral Ed Sheeran takedown to Chloe's journey with recovery, and everything in between. We talk about her experience writing for Playboy, finding internet fame via (an also viral) mugshot, and what happens when Dolly Parton’s publicist hates you. Plus: Sabrina Carpenter’s “Man’s Best Friend” album cover. Satire, setback, or a secret third thing?


Follow her on ig! @chloemariestillwell

Alison is joined this week by good friend Chris. Chris served under Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, identifying then as a lesbian, and came out the other side — literally! We get into the unique perspective of being a trans man socialized as feminine, who now gets the male privilege that comes with passing. As well as the omnipresent misogyny in military life, and what being autistic taught him about masking and self-preservation. Good stuff for people on the journey to find confidence and self-acceptance!

Classic A&A crew chatting it UP! Disjointed topics include: community college, the Are We Dating the Same Guy? facebook group, “male loneliness epidemic”, tipping your bartender, Uber terrors, anime (briefly, we don’t watch it), Binchtopia vocabularly, plus some serious tips & tricks for avoiding an accidental fentanyl overdose. (TW for descriptions of suicide, death in general.)

ig ~ @sadgap.podcast
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Alison is joined by bestie Nick to talk about ladies of lore and the problematic retelling of their stories. Medusa: assault survivor. Arachne: pro weaver pitted against Athena. Circe: just wanted to chill as an island witch. Artemis: turned a gross man into a bambi. Pandora: set up to fail à la garden of eden. Enjoy!

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Alison is joined by Stefani and Anna to talk about their experiences in comedy! We get into how their gender has shaped the way they’re received on stage, tokenization, and the balance of success without compromise. Also: why do men assume a woman making sexual jokes is “very sexual” - and why is that a problem? Why do audience members respond to a bit as if they’re on a date with the gal on stage? Why can men make a r*pe joke but a survivor can’t? Many such questions!

Includes musings on the origins of intercourse and the importance of self-satisfying. Ends with advice for aspiring comics (it’s to masturbate more often). 

Follow them on ig!
Stefani: @stefaniroselah
Anna: @annacatherineorr 

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IQ tests, get on the analysis couch. This week we trace the intelligence quotient’s horrible origin in eugenics and sterilization. Then track how it kinda improved and developed into the G factor (has nothing to do with being a g, yet kind of does). And finally identify the now recognized multiple styles of intelligence that make things a lot more interesting. Very Psych 102 style. TLDR: if you think you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong.

This week features a guest as we dive into queer identity, layers of privilege, and why everyone still gets mad when a woman raises her voice. From La Vie en Grindr to Gabrielle Union’s fiery acceptance speech, let’s TALK ABOUT IT!

BMI — the deeply misleading number that's on your medical chart whether you like it or not. Myers-Briggs — astrology for the boys. Love Languages — PHYSICAL TOUCH. We're here to deconstruct, to devalue, to de...smiss, these popular measures that were developed without adequate research. (To be fair the Myers-Briggs test was created by two ladies, but it was based on the work of Carl Jung, so close enough.)

Learn this ONE ~crazy trick~ to not just survive your 20s, but to THRIVE! Nah, there's not one trick, but we got some ideas. As two ladies who lived through this tumultuous era and lived it hard, we learned a few things along the way and wanna share that wisdom with you. With love from the kooky aunts <3

**Therapy resource for people without insurance! >> Open Path Collective
One-time fee to join, then very reduced rates (between $40-70 per session for individual therapy and $30 student intern sessions). Website: https://openpathcollective.org/

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Super PACs, lobbyists, deep fakes, oh my! We're not too thrilled about the fact that politicians are motivated by money & power rather than the interests of their constituents. While echo chambers and the culture war keep us divided to our detriment. If we could find common ground, we might viva la revolution. This 'reality contradicts the messaging' extends to corporate girlbossery, too - because if you've been told gender equality has been achieved, you've been lied to. But we've got ideas on how to make some difference, or at least how to soothe your mind to make life more tolerable. Alt title: believing a politician cares about you is like believing the stripper likes you.

Source list: https://bit.ly/4hIRv7o

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Review of the 2024 film "Nosferatu", directed by Dave Eggers. Surprisingly turned out to be a feminist rabbit hole inviting multiple interpretations. All the spoilers! (*also includes birthday well wishes for one of your hosts <3, an out of context update on the no good very bad boyfriend, and smack talking Andr*w H*berman)

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

~ Let's get politicaaal ~

In a slight variation from usual themes, we zoom out to discuss... well, it's a big topic, but pretty much: politicians don't care about us, anyone with the power to create change is motivated by money, and We The People are encouraged to ignore it. To the point that it's terrible for our mental health when we DO see what's wrong but feel powerless to fix it.

Loosely a recap of the Adam Curtis 2016 documentary called "Hypernormalisation", which is free to watch here: https://youtu.be/Gr7T07WfIhM

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

Special guest episode with the fabulous Bree Essrig! Most importantly we want to highlight the movie she wrote & produced, “Sugar Baby”, now streaming on Amazon Prime! Other topics include~ our failed attempt to record last fall, cosmetic procedures of the anal variety, lady-driven movies we’d love to see, how to deal w/ criticism on The Internet, planes crashing, OF model marketing, polishticks, and beyond.

Find Bree on instagram at @breeessrig ♡

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth 

The "trad wife movement" might make you think of homesteading, baking bread, or raising a million kids. But beyond the FYP lies something darker! We discuss its connection to conservative politics, its whiteness, and its push to roll back a woman's right to choose. Not the same as being a stay at home mom. Maybe just a social media trend. Worth the critique if this is content you consume.

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ig: @sadgap.podcast / @misandristmemes / @txgothgf / music producer @iamjonnibrooks.eth