Hello, Lovers!
Wow, are we really back after an 8 month hiatus? We feel a bit rusty but we are soooo ready to recommit to this damn
In this episode we give you:
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What is a yuletide? Is Matty Healy the Jess Mariano to Taylor's Rory? Is Joe reading smut??
Also: Joe's breakup, parenting fails, polyamorous guilt, Jes is over avoidants (for real this time), and Jes went on a date with a girl!
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It is really important to Jes that you know this episode was recorded BEFORE Thanksgiving and that it was supposed to be out BEFORE Thanksgiving, and she's really sorry it's only coming out now on Christmas Eve Eve. Good ol' ADHD and general overwhelm.
Also, now that the live event for "Off the Table" has passed, you can still purchase the recording!
In this episode, The Daylovers and friend-of-the-pod Chaneé Jackson Kendall sit down to hash out some of the common difficulties and pitfalls polyamorous folks face during the holiday season. They answer 3 listener emails, including one about working through the emotions of your partner missing traditions to be with their new partner, one about navigating the holidays as a hinge, and one about being the new partner entering into an established family's holidays.
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This episode's Intrusive Thots include:
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In this episode, Jessica and Chaneé (@chaneespeaks on all the socials) spin off of their last episode together where they talked about earning your "polyamory stripes" through "fuckin' up and fixin' it," as Chaneé says. In this convo they dive into specific mistakes they've each made over the last 10 years, and the character arcs that came out of that journey.
Some themes include:
-security and stability are illusions of monogamy
-impulsive, addict-like behavior during NRE
-the nuances of having a more intense sexual chemistry with a new partner
-getting tired of your own bullshit
-the role psychedelics can play in helping your non-monogamy journey
-and, as always, Chaneé's giant ( . Y . )
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Welcome to the first episode of Fusion Radio, produced and hosted by Nuclear Fusion App's CEO, Jessica Daylover. Fusion Radio is an enterprise of the Nuclear Fusion App. The Nuclear Fusion App is a project whose mission is to help folks across the world find, build, and sustain modern villages and chosen families. In this short episode, Jessica introduces you to the Nuclear Fusion App project, and the context of its existence. The alpha version of Nuclear Fusion App launches on Monday 9/23/24 across the globe. The best way to stay up-to-date is to sign up for our newsletter, and subscribing to all of our social medias, including our new podcast channel! We are excited to see you in the network. Now, let the Fusion begin! ---
In this episode of our podcast (now on video!) The Daylovers sit down with their beloved friend and colleague Chaneé Jackson Kendall (online at @ChaneeSpeaks). They talk about what's new with Chaneé's project "Intentional Polyamory", Remodeled Love, and the Nuclear Fusion App. They get into why there's no point to anything and, as always, a reminder that love sucks. Finally they dive into a very complex polyamory problem as part of their advice portion of the show called "Dear Daylovers". Make sure to follow Chaneé @chaneespeaks on all socials, and signup for her newsletter by subscribing for free at chaneespeaks.substack.com. You can submit a question at RemodeledLove.com/DearDaylovers !
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In this episode Jes, Joe, and Dr. M sit down for a templated episode:
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In this episode Jessica, Joe, and Dr. M discuss all the big and new changes in the polycule, regrets they have as content creators, and the fuckery of ignorant ass people.
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I've been waiting so freakin' long to tell y'all that, after 43 years of monogamous marriage, my in-laws (Dr. M's parents), have discovered the joys of swinging...and now they're both big ol' bisexual sluts having the time of their lives—in their 70s!
And they sat down with me and my husband in our recording studio and spilled all the tea on their adventures, how they got here, and the expansion and growth it's required.
Prepare yourself for an episode that's somehow as pumpkiny as it is DIRTY, and most especially, semiology expanding. *** Support us on Patreon and get access to exclusive content and a behind-the-scenes look at our life!
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Alternative episode title: Famous Last Words
In this episode, The Daylovers (Jes, Joe, and Ash) talk about:
*what Datty is learning in polyamory (fear of trying and failing at finding compatible partners),
*what Ash is learning about parenthood and co-parenting (letting go of attachment, not trying to immediately nip things in the bud or cast judgment, learning to pause...),
*what Jes is learning in polyamory, which she breaks down to what she is learning through each of her partners:
>>with Joe: are we "just" gay best friends?
>>with Dr. M: learning to lean into my fear of my partner's expansion, which is really just fear of my own,
>>with Loverboy: (GASP. WHO IS LOVERBOY?? Find out inside this episode!)
Most heatedly, they talk about the dreadful art of "Downplaying" after Joe accuses Jes of downplaying her connection with Loverboy. Downplaying in polyamory can be a really contentious topic. Downplaying can be: pretending that new connections don’t have a sexual or romantic vibe when they actually do, dampening one's excitement or hope about a new connection, dampening how you actually feel about a new connection, downplaying the possibilities of what may come, etc...
This convo gets real and honest as fuck, and we're excited to bring y'all into the room with us and how we work through conflict/call each other out on our bullshit.
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In this episode: Joe finds out Ash is having an affair with Dr. M('s pores), we talk about our journey to get Ash qualified for FMLA as a polyamorous family, and we discuss, in depth, our favorite punctuation.
We also talk about what Jes and Joe are individually learning in the world of parenthood right now, and Ash shares what they are learning in the world of polyamory.
There's also some other stuff about sex parties, autistic embarrassment around being "too eager", and village growing pains.
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This is by far the best and most unhinged episode we've ever recorded and we're worried we may never top it. (We will.)
It's honestly all over the place and we're not sure how to summarize it, but we talk about: age gap relationships, sleeping arrangements, Jes's new orgasm discovery she calls "bass orgasms", how Ash loves to listen through the vent to Jes and Dr. M boning, why Ash's pants were at half mast in the preview photo, what it's like living with partners who have boundaries around how they help with the parenting, and what you do with the thumb you just pulled out of your lover's booty...
There's also lots and lots of roasting of each other and this episode ended with everyone in tears from laughing so hard.
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In this episode The Daylovers (all 4 of them!) try to catch you up on everything that happened in 2023, which was both the best and worst year of their lives. This is the first episode recorded as a nested polycule, including the notorious Dr. M!
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When we left off 6 months ago (holy shit), it was right before Jessica's birthday orgy and Joe was about to meet his long distance lover, Ash, for the first time. Well, now it's 6 months later and YOU get to meet her...cuz she lives here now. And she's the best thing to ever happen to our little family.
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In this episode, Jessica and Joe talk about how hard it was to get this episode made, the chaos created when you move two partners into your small home within a year, how hard it is to purge your home, and what the fuck is a Roth IRA.
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You may know Emily, Dedeker, and Jase as the hosts of the world-renown podcast, Multiamory. And now you can officially add 'authors' to their bio lines! Dropping May 23rd, 2023 (though available for pre-order today), "Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships" is a curated collection of the most popular communication tools, advice, and wisdom from the Multiamory podcast that have helped thousands of listeners improve their communication and create healthy relationships. In this book, you’ll learn how to: Get what you need out of conversations with your partner with the Triforce of Communication, create Microscripts that will interrupt old patterns, diffuse tension, and form better communication habits, set up a regular RADAR check-in to support the long-term health of all of your relationships, determine your unique processing style, and how it may be clashing with your partner’s, process and reconnect after an argument with Repair SHOP, and more!
Learn more about their book at www.multiamory.com/book.
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Guests: Emily, Dedeker, and Jase of Multiamory
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Breaking up is hard to do. In this episode of Remodeled Love, Jessica talks with one of her favorite polyam podcasters, ashe danger phoenix of the Dear Jessamyn podcast. They discuss why lesbian breakups take so long, and is there a way to make them shorter; can we discuss breakups with someone before entering into a relationship with them, the difference between low stakes breakups, ghosting, and breakups that rip your heart out--how to see them coming, how to lean into it, and how to stay conscious during the death.
Polyamory inherently forces the need to get good at breakups, simply by the nature of the fact that you end up dating so many more folks. Getting "good" at breakups is a powerful muscle to build on this path.
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In this episode The Daylovers catch you up on all things Remodeled Love, including some yummy new support groups. changes in the structure of their personal+professional life intersections, and some exciting visions for the future. They also share some Hot Goss (the hottest goss they've ever had), aka: Jes's upcoming birthday orgy, and some delicious new elements to her relationship with her boyfriend...and quite possibly the most exciting development ever for Joe. The episode ends with Joe sharing his existential dread around the nature of higher ed, and Jes and Joe answer a lister question about seeking clarity in a relationship.
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In the kickoff to Season 3 of the "Remodeled Love" podcast, Jes chats with the creator of and artist over at @Shrimpteeth, Sam.
There are several arguments against the presence of the "peer support" model in the polyamorous digital sphere:the potential for the abuse of power, the fact that there's no board to report abuse to, no official training or accreditation for "coaches", the charging of money, etc.
But how does peer support actually work? Jes and Sam break down their backgrounds, how they personally show up in the peer support space, the issues they come across, how peer support makes these essential services accessible and inclusive, and why it's essential for anyone offering peer support to know their scope and have a fall out plan.
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