It’s Halloween, and we’re trick-or-treating our way through all things spoooooky! From Talia’s witchy phase and a heated debate over becoming eternal vampires (would you??) to a full rundown of costumes, candy, and chaos. In this ep we also discuss: What it takes to pull off a good Halloween costume (and Talia’s costume this year)  Our favorite Halloween candies and trading with friends Trick-or-treating then vs. now — plus, are fruit snacks even candy? “Too Far: Halloween Edition” …Dog parades and BYOB are outta control Talia’s quest to find a “real” psychic A nostalgic trip back to the Scholastic Book Fair days Talia’s quest for a real psychic and our adventures in witch shops picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How should you initiate texting and what do women actually want to hear when you’re talking dirty over text? Plus, are voice memos just as hot as texts and pics? In this ep we also discuss: Using emojis during sexting, including when you want to send reactions What’s your “signature” emoji and what does it mean to you? We rank the best and worst words to text a woman to describe her body parts Whether or not someone can please you as well as you please yourself The ultimate test of feelings: finger blasting  Talia is in her “Fallia” era as the seasons change A preview of our Halloween costume plans picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s marathon season in New York City and Talia is not impressed. Do runners really deserve congratulations for putting themselves through misery (even though no one asked them to)? Plus, we decide whether climbing Mt. Everest makes you undatable. In this ep we also discuss: Male influencers are out of control and deserve the same criticisms women get Talia exposes some of the tactics male influencers use to get ahead Advice: Men in NYC who are looking for a wife should quit the kickball league It’s spooky season and Sean watched Hocus Pocus (with a twist) and tells us all about it his trippy experience We find out which couples’ costume Sean is wearing for Halloween this year picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean has a girlfriend and Talia is thrilled that we can finally talk about it. He spills on the entire saga of going from single life, to an open relationship, to being exclusive with someone new for the first time in years. In this ep we also discuss: Monogamy vs non-monogamy: why both options can be challenging for people Passion vs Stability: Can you keep passion in a relationship without putting in “work” with each other? What’s it like to date someone who is already in a relationship? Rules in a relationship (and why they can be a mistake) Talia is going to a Knicks game and has some questions about sports… and some thoughts about Taylor Swift’s recent comments What’s new in Talia’s dating life? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean is back from his European vacation and shares all the best stories from his time away, including… how he got a new passport with less than 24 hours notice (miracles really are possible). Plus, we swap stories about accidentally sharing nudes from your camera roll with strangers. Is it time for Talia to start using the hidden folder? In this ep we also discuss: Long distance relationships: are they just a way to keep you from being vulnerable? Talia’s lessons from studying abroad (and what she’d do differently) Is Talia to blame for missing her friend’s one-woman-show? Being a bystander during a messy confrontation on the streets of New York (is Talia a hero?) Men being babies: how to deal with a guy who complains about you not going to his apartment Relationship Contracts: good idea or bad idea? New Segment Idea: People We Hate picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sean and Talia are back with some heated pop culture debates about Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, the upcoming season of TV we’ve been waiting (way too long) for, and a test of Talia’s memory. In this ep we also discuss: Debate: is it okay to offer your spare bedroom after hooking up? Talia’s near-death experience when her apartment building started to flood “Being there” for your ex after a breakup Too Far: Flared Yoga Pants and Influencers’ hand gestures People handing off pets to their parents after six months Baby talk with animals… how much is too much? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taylor and Travis got engaged this week and all we can see are his blinding-white thighs. Also, how much did they plan this proposal and does Taylor really have the best PR? In this ep we also discuss: Is Taylor Swift destined to end up with Joe Alwyn in the end? The weather on 9/11 doesn’t get enough credit Talia met a security expert on a plane and had the time of her life Too Far: TSA precheck is out of control ...and should we ban ice cream samples? Why people take their sweet time after waiting in line picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia is in the hot seat this week as Sean grills her about what she wants out of life. Is she looking for a relationship? Does she even need her “person” in life? What does her ideal man look like and is she open to finding him? In this ep we also discuss: Matchmakers and setups: are we less cynical about people that’ve been vetted? First loves and what those experiences teach us about ourselves What to do when a guy won’t call you his girlfriend The Before Sunrise movie series and why it changed Sean’s outlook on love picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is everyone talking about butt stuff these days? Talia and Sean try to get to the bottom of everyone’s obsession with getting… to the bottom. It’s not for everyone, but we share tips for how to make it a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. In this ep we also discuss: How NOT to approach a group of women Talia’s story of rejecting a man for exactly the right reason: misogyny An amazing trick for getting a girl’s number in a bar The art of approaching people in public The one segment from our old podcast that never made it to the air picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The streak is over… Talia finally went home with a man and he’s a glorious firefighter. But is it already over? She tells us why their politics got in the way and we debate whether or not it’s okay to associate with someone across the aisle. In this ep we also discuss: Boob guy or butt guy… what’s it say about you? Fun fireman facts everyone deserves to know The Coldplay concert cheating scandal Sean started therapy Our latest movie recommendations How to stay comfy when you’re camping picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Be honest… does anyone actually use soap on their arms and legs? Talia goes in on Sean for not owning a loofa and letting shampoo do all the work in the shower. Plus, Talia got hit on this 4th of July and it didn’t go as planned. In this ep we discuss: Talia got punched by a random woman in Times Square and her story deserves to be told Talia has some selfish takes for all the brides out there Funner needs to be a word Cocktail prices are out of control Do babies really ever need to be in a stroller? We debate picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who’s the new consensus “it girl” and “it guy” in Hollywood? Talia and Sean debate who holds the crown right now and what it says about our taste in hotness. Plus, Talia tells us why you shouldn’t care if other people think your boyfriend is ugly (even if it’s true). In this ep we discuss: Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady at Jeff Bezos’s wedding Popping pimples for the sake of others Tampons and wide-set vaginas Sharing your location on Find My Friends (and why Talia loves to lie) Sabrina Carpenter’s new single Manchild and judging the song of the Summer What it’s really like to take LSD and emotional hangovers picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends and SATC have so much to teach us. Talia recently learned that she wants her life to be more like the TV show Friends (Sean already knew this) and it starts with getting someone to watch her cat. How offended should you be by a friend not helping you out? We also debate Sarah Jessica Parker’s petty unwillingness to acknowledge that Samantha even exists. In this ep we discuss: Friend breakups and why they happen - do guys have it all figured out? Helping people move (don’t do it) and the secret to getting big favors Talia’s new kink for a guy who talks about her in therapy The best new show you should be watching picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about sexting – Talia tells us exactly what you shouldn’t say to a woman over text if you want to turn her on (and how to use punctuation. Sean also tells us which dirty word he wants us all to start saying a whole lot more. We also get listener thoughts on last week’s conversation about female hygiene. In this ep we also discuss: A certain someone slid back into Talia’s DMs Karen Read’s recent acquittal and why it doesn’t mean Talia was wrong Apparently there’s a male loneliness epidemic and we can’t agree what that means People need to go back to dating within their own league The internet has made many guys a little too embattled (aka “Not All Men”) Sean tells us why more people need to start taking performance enhancers for sex picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia’s having a tough week so our friend Tracey Carnazzo stops by to help her dig an even deeper hole for herself. We talk about what it takes to get out of a rut, why it’s more fun to flirt than it is to seal the deal, and how you can actually learn to de-center men in your life. In this ep we also discuss: Using boric acid to clean up (and the fear of smelling bad) What dissociation really feels like   Being good at making out and how to deliver the perfect kiss Getting used to being alone and why that’s a good thing Tips for going down on a woman   picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Tracey: @trixietuzzini  Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did we just discover the perfect breakup text? Talia tells us how she stumbled upon the ideal sentence designed to let a guy down easy and make him go away forever. In this ep we also discuss: Your five non-negotiables for finding someone you’re truly compatible with How important sex and attraction are in a relationship Dating a man for money Picking someone who admires you (and what you do) The joy of wearing a blindfold during sex and why it can be hot Why you should try dirty talk and be willing to “do it scared” picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia needs to step up her influencer networking game because she wasn’t invited to Jaz and Kevin’s wedding (aka the influencer event of the season). Is Sean joking when he says he’s never heard of any of these people? Also, what’s an Etsy witch? In this ep we also discuss: Talia got a side part and Sean didn’t notice (whoops) We get the story of how Talia helped Serena Kerrigan get with her bf How to be a great guest at a wedding Dropping a clinger on a night out and helping someone in need Keeping a nudes greatest hits folder Singing a love song for someone after hooking up: hot or not? Are men allowed to wear no-show socks? picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow us on TikTok & IG: @pickyandselfish Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s the longest you’ve ever spent sitting in a public bathroom? We discuss our strategies for getting it over with (and discover some things about how we may be doing it wrong). In this ep we also talk about: Celebrity deaths and posting on social media for attention (RIP George Wendt) Talia’s plan for how to call out clout chasers if she ever suffers an untimely death The secret to being a good listener in a relationship What people in long term relationships actually discuss when they’re at dinner An ingenious idea for sending nudes privately and a horror story from college picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sorry this episode is late, Sean was on vacation. He’s been on a renaiSeance tour for the past year and we talk about what he’s learned. Plus, we hear the AI song his friends made for his birthday (remember: he’s kissed a girl before) and we ask AI to write Talia her own anthem in real time. On this ep we also discuss: Talia’s mea culpa on the Karen Read trial Learning to deal with disappointment FaceTime sex and how to take good butt pics Talia wants a boyfriend who will let her practice makeup on him Showing gratitude for good friends picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s with men wanting to fight gorillas? Talia and Sean take issue with the latest viral debate and tell us who would be easier to take down: one gorilla or 100 six-year olds. Also discussed on this episode: A detailed (and flawed) summary of the Karen Reid trial How to deal with an interloper at a friend-dinner Fixing your group text when too many people have been added Talia’s “Sorority Process” for culling people from the group Setting up your own friend exec board picky & selfish is created and hosted by Talia Lichtstein and Sean Kilby. Follow Talia: @talialichtstein Follow Sean: @seanryankilby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices