Have you ever had an abusive boss, a partner who gaslit you at every turn, or a friend who always seemed to bend the truth? You might have crossed paths with someone in the Dark Triad.

On this episode of Office Hours, I’m diving into a topic that doesn’t create happiness but often destroys it: the Dark Triad personality constellation. These are the people with three characteristics: narcissism (it’s all about them), Machiavellianism (they’re willing to hurt you), and psychopathy (they feel little empathy or remorse when they do).

Drawing on behavioral science research and evolutionary psychology, I explain what makes Dark Triads tick, how to recognize them before they hurt you, and why avoiding them is essential for your well-being. I also share what to look for instead—the Light Triad, people who trust others, believe in human dignity, and leave you feeling warm and uplifted in their presence.

I discuss:

• The core traits of the Dark Triad and how they drive destructive behavior

• Which careers and environments attract dark triads and how to spot the red flags

• How Machiavellianism shows up in politics (on both sides)

• The science of emophilia and why people who fall in love too fast are Dark Triad targets

• How Dark Triads thrive on social media (and the “first-date test” that can save you heartbreak)

• The telltale behaviors that reveal a Dark Triad in work, love, and online

• The defense tactic Dark Triads use when caught in a lie

• What the Light Triad looks like

• Audience Q&A on the connection between happiness and intelligence and how to comfort aging parents

You can take my Dark Triad quiz today to find out where you fall https://www.arthurbrooks.com/quiz/dark-triad-personality-test

We’d love to hear any feedback you have. Please email us at officehours@arthurbrooks.com. And please leave a review on Apple or Spotify. Thanks for listening! 

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• LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/⁠⁠

• Email: ⁠⁠officehours@arthurbrooks.com⁠⁠

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Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(02:04) What is the Dark Triad personality type?

(06:09) How to take the Dark Triad test

(06:37) Why Dark Triads are more common than you think

(11:03) How to identify Dark Triad types

(15:24) The five things Dark Triads do in the workplace

(20:00) The five traits of Dark Triads in romantic relationships

(28:11) How the Dark Triad shows up in politics and activism

(32:11) Why social media is the perfect place for Dark Triads

(34:34) The nine red flags that reveal a Dark Triad

(37:05) DARVO: The defense Dark Triads use when caught

(38:38) The light triad: What to look for instead

(40:12) What’s the difference between joy and happiness?

(42:35) What’s the connection between intelligence and happiness? 

(44:22) How do I comfort my ailing and aging parents about their imminent death?

(46:30) Wrap up

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Referenced:

• Leadership and Happiness course: https://www.hbs.edu/coursecatalog/1885.html

• How to Build a Life: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/

• The Happiness Files: Insights on Work and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Files-Insights-Arthur-Brooks/dp/B0F4MFQ6VN

• The Dark Triad of personality: Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0092656602005056

• The Prince: https://www.amazon.com/Prince-Niccolo-Machiavelli/dp/1503017826

• Take the Dark Triad Quiz: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/quiz/dark-triad-personality-test

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Welcome back to Office Hours with Arthur Brooks. In this episode, I turn to a place where many of us spend most of our waking hours: the workplace. Whether you’re an employee, a manager, or leading an organization, happiness at work is not just a nice-to-have; it is a proven driver of productivity, loyalty, and even company performance.

Drawing on research from Irrational Capital and insights from my book The Happiness Files, I share the six factors that truly make people happier at work, and explain why gimmicks and perks cannot compare.

I discuss: 

• The most important factor that drives happiness at work

• How direct, honest communication reduces fear and builds trust

• The surprising impact a manager’s mood has on team morale

• One of the easiest and fastest ways to boost happiness and productivity at work

• How investing in learning, mentorship, and growth creates lasting engagement

• Should you be making friends at work?

• The leadership styles that fail employees and the two that actually inspire loyalty and performance

• How much do your pay and perks directly impact your happiness?

 • Audience Q&A on knowing if there is a God, if your personality makes you more likely to be unhappy, and dealing with temptation

We’d love to hear any feedback you have. Please email us at officehours@arthurbrooks.com. And please leave a review on Apple or Spotify. Thanks for listening!

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Where to find Arthur Brooks: 

• Website: ⁠https://arthurbrooks.com/⁠

• X: ⁠https://x.com/arthurbrooks⁠

• Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/⁠

• Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/⁠

• YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGuyFRjJQFGCKzfHTBvWM6A⁠

• LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/⁠

• Email: ⁠officehours@arthurbrooks.com⁠

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Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(04:46) A no-gimmicks approach to workplace happiness

(06:06) What research shows about happiness in the workplace

(12:20) Six factors that drive workplace happiness

(14:35) #1: Innovation: Openness to input and ideas 

(16:43) #2: Direct management: Clear, direct communication 

(20:08) #3: Organizational effectiveness: Focus on efficiency and limit meetings

(23:17) #4: Engagement: Invest in employee growth 

(26:40) #5: Emotional connection: Fostering a culture of friendship 

(31:36) #6: Organizational alignment: aligning external mission with company culture

(33:49) Intrinsic benefits vs. extrinsic benefits 

(35:20) Daniel Goleman’s 6 leadership styles 

(36:24) Four leadership styles to avoid

(38:53) The two most effective leadership styles

(40:00) A quick recap of the six factors that contribute to employee happiness the most

(41:58) How do you know there is a God? 

(44:30) Are you predisposed to lifelong unhappiness due to your personality?

(47:00) How to deal with temptation

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Referenced:

• Leadership and Happiness course: https://www.hbs.edu/coursecatalog/1885.html

• How to Build a Life: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/

• The Happiness Files: Insights on Work and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Files-Insights-Arthur-Brooks/dp/B0F4MFQ6VN

• The 8 Stupidest Management Fads of All Time: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/the-8-stupidest-management-fads-of-all-time/

• Does Employee Happiness Have an Impact on Productivity?: https://pubsonline.informs.org/doi/10.1287/mnsc.2023.4766

• Happiness and Productivity: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/681096

• J.P. Morgan Research: https://www.irrational.capital/jp-morgan-research

• Why Meetings Are Terrible for Happiness: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/11/why-meetings-are-terrible-happiness/672144/

• Dear Manager, You’re Holding Too Many Meetings: https://hbr.org/2022/03/dear-manager-youre-holding-too-many-meetings

• The Magic of 30-Minute Meetings: https://hbr.org/2016/02/the-magic-of-30-minute-meetings

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Welcome to the inaugural episode of Office Hours with Arthur Brooks. I’m thrilled to start this podcast with a topic I’ve devoted much of my life to: how we can be truly happier.

This episode draws from my new book, The Happiness Files, a collection of essays from my How to Build a Life column in The Atlantic. But more importantly, it’s grounded in science, drawing on a 2020 study where top researchers ranked the most practical and effective ways to get happier.

Today I discuss: 

• The top 5 research-backed ways to improve your well-being

• Why investing in your close relationships is the single most powerful thing you can do to be  happier

• How joining a club or values-based community can restore your sense of belonging

• The link between lifelong learning and growing happiness over time • Why transcending your ego through faith, philosophy, or awe brings clarity and peace

• How physical exercise reduces unhappiness (and why that matters more than you think)

• Why self-esteem alone won’t make you happy—but understanding your emotions might

• The three elements of a real happiness strategy (and how to build your own)

• How to move on from heartbreak (and why sad music really does help)

• And much more!

Since it’s the very first episode, we’d love to hear any feedback you have. Please email us at officehours@arthurbrooks.com. And please leave a review on Apple or Spotify. Thanks for listening!

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Where to find Arthur Brooks: 

• Website: https://arthurbrooks.com/

• X: https://x.com/arthurbrooks

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arthurcbrooks/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArthurBrooks/

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGuyFRjJQFGCKzfHTBvWM6A

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arthur-c-brooks/

• Email: officehours@arthurbrooks.com

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Timestamps

(00:00) Intro

(02:25) Introducing The Happiness Files and “10 Practical Ways to Increase Your Happiness”

(07:16) Principle #1: Invest in your relationships

(12:20) Principle #2: Join a club

(16:26) Principle #3: Be a lifelong learner

(20:11) Principle #4: Focus on something bigger than yourself

(26:03) Principle #5: Get more physical exercise

(29:35) Recap of principles 1–5

(30:22) How to craft your own happiness plan

(31:44) Strategy #1: Deepen your understanding

(32:30) Strategy #2: Practice regularly

(32:42) Strategy #3: Crystallize your learning by teaching others

(35:06) Q&A: Getting over a breakup and Arthur’s most surprising research finding

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Referenced:

• The Happiness Files: Insights on Work and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Files-Insights-Arthur-Brooks/dp/B0F4MFQ6VN 

• Leadership and Happiness course: https://www.hbs.edu/coursecatalog/1885.html

• How to Build a Life: https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/how-build-life/

• What the Longest Study on Human Happiness Found Is the Key to a Good Life: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/01/harvard-happiness-study-relationships/672753/

• Ways to Greater Happiness: A Delphi Study: https://link.springer.com/journal/10902

• The Harvard Study of Adult Development: https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/

• The Drive with Peter Attia: https://peterattiamd.com/podcast/

• Huberman Lab: https://www.hubermanlab.com/podcast

• America’s Declining Social Capital: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1981-25768-001

• The Best Friends Can Do Nothing for You: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/04/deep-friendships-aristotle/618529/

• Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community: https://www.amazon.com/Bowling-Alone-Collapse-American-Community/dp/0743203046

• Daily Stoic: https://dailystoic.com/podcast/

• Johann Sebastian Bach: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johann_Sebastian_Bach

• Vipassana Meditation: https://www.dhamma.org/

• Insight Meditation: https://www.insightmeditation.org/

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Hi Friends, I’m Arthur Brooks. I’m a social scientist, a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard Business School, and a columnist at The Atlantic. I write, speak, and teach about the science of human happiness. This is a field that blends neuroscience, behavioral science, philosophy, and religion for insights on how all of us can live better, and be happier. 

This work is more important now than ever. Happiness has been falling, and unhappiness rising, marked by increases in depression, anxiety, loneliness, and polarization. My life’s work aims to address these problems head-on, and turn them into opportunities for growth and learning. I have dedicated the remainder of my life to lifting people up and bringing them together, in bonds of love and happiness, using science and ideas. 

And that’s the purpose of my show, Office Hours. Each week, I will give you a glimpse into the cutting edge research on happiness, and explore how you can use it right now to improve your life—and share what you learn with those you love. 

So join me in the movement to build a happier world–starting with you.