An exploration of the sometimes tumultuous relationship between mothers and daughters
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In this episode: different names for the moon, Earth Day mission statement, excerpts from an interview with Martín Prechtel by Derrick Jensen, a poem titled: Where Am I? (Strange World)
Thoughts on yesterday's solar eclipse and the act of people gathering in large numbers for an awe inspiring celestial event.
"Even to think that we're separated from nature is somehow a thought thinking disorder. You can't be separated from nature." These are the words of the great Jungian psychologist James Hillman. Listen to this episode to hear more about how we're going crazy.
Referenced video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tAtDaO8Qdw
Meeting Marshall Rosenberg was life changing for me. It completely altered my way of seeing and understanding the world as well as how I interacted with others.
Nonviolent Communication is often described as a process that, when put into practice, can support people to live in a world where everyone’s needs matter and are met through natural compassionate giving. Is this even possible?
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May the one you long for long for you .. and other words of love and longing for Valentine's Day.
Remembering Marshall Rosenberg who left our beautiful planet on this very day in 2015.
To view or purchase Marshall's books:
Reflections on modernity's lack of cultural cohesiveness and intergenerational trauma.
According to The Gottman Institute, contempt is the single greatest predictor of divorce. And certainly, it indicates the end of love, the end of kindness, warmth, and decency.
Understanding how truly destructive contempt is to our relationships might motivate us to learn to speak differently about our frustrations and disappointments within a relationship.
Listen to Gottman Method's 4 Horsemen episode aired on Jan 24, 2023:
https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rachelle-lamb/episodes/Gottman-Methods-4-Horsemen-e1ttv34/a-a877jej
A glimpse into Alain de Botton's insightful book: The Course of Love (Simon & Schuster 2016) about a married couple's relationship struggles. Highly relatable!
Buy the book:
https://www.amazon.ca/Course-Love-Alain-Botton/dp/1501134515
Alain de Botton | The Course on Love
Did you know that according to market analysis reports, the global personal development market size was estimated at USD 43.77 billion in 2022 and is anticipated to grow at a compound annual growth rate of 5.5% to 2030. Are we better people I wonder as a result? Are we better listeners?
Book Resource:
The Exquisite Risk by Mark Nepo https://marknepo.com/books_theexquisite.php
A message for listeners as we step into 2024 ..
Stop, be still, make room for the darkness
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This episode reexamines the concepts of duty and obligation as referenced in Nonviolent Communication. Might there be merit in rehabilitating these terms and understanding them as a meaningful way to contribute to life?
"We don’t want people to do things out of obligation or duty, or out of guilt or shame, or to buy love. With some consciousness, I’m confident we would each see that we only want people to do things if they can do it willingly, because they clearly see how it’s going to enrich life if they do. Any other reason for doing things is likely to create conditions that make it harder for people in the future to behave in a compassionate way toward one another." —Marshall Rosenberg
The Nonviolent Communication Book of Quotes (PuddleDancer Press, Sept 2023) https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/product/the-nonviolent-communication-book-of-quotes/
In today's episode I speak with Dr. Joshua Coleman who is a recognized expert on the rapidly growing phenomenon of parental estrangement. He has written two books on the subject and provides ongoing support to parents, as well as grandparents, who struggle with being cut out of their adult children's lives.
In Dr. Coleman's words: "While there’s nothing especially modern about family conflict or a desire to feel insulated from it, conceptualizing the estrangement of a family member as an expression of personal growth as it is commonly done today is almost certainly new." (AEON Jan 2021 article)
A Shift in American Family Values Is Fueling Estrangement: https://www.drjoshuacoleman.com/post/a-shift-in-american-family-values-is-fueling-estrangement
Dr. Coleman's website: https://www.drjoshuacoleman.com/
This episode features an excerpt from a conversation with relationship coach Dolphin Kasper who invited me to his podcast The Better Relationship Podcast. The subject: our learned separation.
Link to full episode on The Better Relationship Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/47S67umOuttRTNWsuu5Cyw?si=BGVTS2ovQ5-g7cJm_PXrpw
Last week I shared Part 1 of a conversation I had with Sofie De Wulf, Outreach & Programs Coordinator for NVC Academy. Here is Part 2 of our conversation where Sofie and I discuss ecology, our relationship with nature, our lived separation from nature and from each other, how we speak about needs, as well as how people concretely benefit from learning Nonviolent Communication.
Learn more about the course I will be offering in Feb/Mar 2024 through the NVC Academy:
https://nvcacademy.com/live-nvc-courses/video-conference/bridging-differences-2024
In this episode, I share a conversation I had recently with Sofie De Wulf, Outreach & Programs Coordinator for NVC Academy. NVC Academy offers hundreds of online courses and resources to learn Nonviolent Communication from home and they have invited me to present a course in February and March of 2024 titled Bridging Differences, Building Bonds: A Revolutionary Approach to Resolving Conflict. I enjoyed my conversation with Sofie so much that I'm sharing it here. This is part 1 of our conversation. Part 2 will be aired next week.
Learn more about the course I will be offering in Feb/Mar 2024:
https://nvcacademy.com/live-nvc-courses/video-conference/bridging-differences-2024
In this episode, I explore one of my all time favourite books by psychologist and author David Richo titled The Five Things We Cannot Change .. and the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them. (Shambala Publications 2005)
Get the book:
https://www.amazon.com/Five-Things-Cannot-Change-Happiness/dp/1590303083
