Thrive in 5: The Boundary Reframe Every Empath Needs Episode Summary:If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries or worried that saying “no” makes you cold, this quick episode is your reminder that boundaries are not walls — they’re filters. In just five minutes, Christy shares a powerful reframe for empaths who give, love, and feel deeply… sometimes at their own expense. You’ll walk away with a grounding practice and a mindset shift to help you protect your peace without losing your warmth. In This Episode:• Why saying “no” isn’t rejection — it’s redirection• How to stop confusing peacekeeping with people-pleasing• A 3-breath somatic practice to anchor self-respect in your body• The truth about what healthy boundaries really mean for empaths 💖 Your Next Step in Healing Book a 1:1 Coaching Session → GOLD PACKAGE: Coaching and Somatic Healing Session 👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint SILVER PACKAGE: SAVE when you purchase a month of sessions👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly PLATINUM PACKAGE: TRANSFORM and get BONUSES when you go on a deep 3-month journey👉 shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly 💌 More Ways to Connect Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community → facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello, beautiful souls. Today's Thrive in five is for my tender hearted empaths who have been told they're too nice, too sensitive, or that setting a boundary means you're being called or a biatch, right? Let's reframe that in five minutes flat because it's thriving. Five baby. Welcome to your Thursday. Thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath, queen. This one's for you. All right, so here's the truth. Boundaries aren't walls. They are filters. Can we start picturing that queen screen? Ooh, did you like that? I didn't even plan that y'all. That's some true organic criming. Okay, so boundaries don't block love. That's not the point of them. They do. They block drain, right? They don't want to encourage what happens when you are around people who drain you. So if you've ever said yes to keeping the peace only to feel resentful or exhausted later, that's your little baby spirit whispering to you. (01:26)This isn't peace, this is people pleasing, dressed up as kindness. So when you're an empath, which I am, and we don't want to lose that empathy, we don't want to go the other end, but when you are an empath, your instinct is to nurture, to fix. But the twist is real. True. Nurturing needs to include you too. Yes. Right? You cannot pour. This is one of my favorite quotes, by the way, is you cannot pour from an empty cup, right? So you can't pour love from an empty cup and call it compassion. It's just not going to work. It's not going to work for anybody. So here is your reframe for the week. Every time you say no, imagine it instead as a yes to your peace, your purpose, your healing, whatever it's saying yes to for you. So boundaries are not rejection, they are redirection. (02:34)That sounds like something I could say to a class of fifth graders. Boundaries aren't rejection, they're redirection. Everybody now, but your time, your energy and your heart, it's redirecting that toward what truly matters while protecting yourself and your peace. Okay? So what's a little somatic anchor? We can, you can ground the truth in your body through this little exercise. Yay. It's exercise time. All right. Take one hand to your heart and one to your belly. Now, breathe in through that nose. My favorite halo breath, inhale. As you inhale, my peace matters. Exhale and think it's safe to protect my energy in my peace matters out. It's safe to protect my energy, especially before saying yes to something that doesn't feel aligned. Check in with yourself first and remind yourself wit

Why Empaths Struggle With Boundaries (And How to Fix It Without Becoming ‘Cold’ or ‘Mean’) If you’ve ever tried to set a boundary and instantly felt guilty — this episode is your wake-up call.Christy breaks down why empaths struggle to say no, how childhood conditioning wires you to overgive, and the exact mindset shifts that help you protect your peace without losing your warmth. You’ll learn why your nervous system panics when you speak up, how to rewire that fear, and how to find that sweet spot between kindness and self-abandonment. Because boundaries don’t make you cold — they make your love sustainable. 💖 ✨ In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why empaths confuse love with self-sacrifice The “nice girl” myth that keeps women stuck in burnout How to tell if you’re saying yes out of love or fear The nervous-system reason boundaries feel “wrong” How to set limits without guilt, shame, or freezing up 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral?My Empowered Boundaries Course will walk you step-by-step through how to protect your peace, voice, and energy (without losing your heart). 🎓 10 video modules + meditation bundle + lifetime access💻 Enroll here → shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries Book a 1:1 Coaching Session → GOLD PACKAGE Coaching and Somatic Healing Session :shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint SILVER PACKAGE: SAVE when you purchase a month of sessions: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ PLATINUM PACKAGE: SAVE and BONUSES when you go on a DEEP transformational 3 month journey! https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 More Ways to Connect Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → Christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 Join the Free Facebook Community → facebook.com/groups/christyjade TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello Queens. Have you ever tried to set a boundary and immediately felt like you were the villain? Let's talk about why that happens and how to protect your peace without losing that beautiful, gorgeous heart of yours. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. (00:58)So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. All right, so you've probably been called maybe too sensitive, too nice or too much at some point. I've been called all of those at one point or another in my life. And as an empath, you've learned to read the room, anticipate people's needs, and we love to fix. So maybe fix all the vibes even when it costs you your own piece, right? So here's the truth though. You don't necessarily have a boundaries problem that might be more of a symptom of a different problem, which not everyone talks about, but I'm here to talk about the things we don't talk about. You have a fear of being misunderstood, problem. (02:04)You have a fear of being misunderstood. So deep down, you may not actually be afraid of saying no. You more are afraid of being seen and perceived as someone who does not care or who is not empathetic because you in fact, do care and you don't want to be seen as something you are not. So you're afraid, not of the boundary itself, but what the reaction to the boundary wi

5-Minute Reset for When You Feel Pulled Back Into the Trauma Bond If you’ve ever felt that magnetic pull to check their page… or that instant surge of anxiety when their name pops up — this quick episode is for you. In this Thrive in 5, Christy Jade guides you through a powerful five-minute reset to help calm your nervous system, stop the obsessive thoughts, and get your peace back — fast. Because you don’t need to text, check, or fix. You just need to breathe, reset, and remember your crown. 👑  Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse?Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries CourseLearn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access.→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic HealingReclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made!→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/   Speaker 1 (00:00): Queen, are you feeling that magnetic pull to check their page, getting that spike of anxiety when their name pops up? Whatever it is, you're not regressing, okay? Your nervous system is just having a little flare up in this Thrivent five, I'm going to walk you through a quick emotional reset to get you back to calm, clear, and crowned. Of course, shine it up. Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath queen. This one's for you. (00:45)Alright? You're not crazy for still feeling that pull. Okay? Whether that looks like you're questioning things that happened, wondering if you made a mistake, wondering why you even did this. What did you feeling like guilt around it? All right? What happened to me? How did this happen? How did I even get here? And get there and get everywhere? Okay? Your brain built highways to respond to their chaos and healing means building detours, right? So today we're going to walk one of those detours together, okay? So stop what you're doing. If you're driving, you might want to save this for later and go back to it when you get to your destination, when you have a few minutes of quiet. So if you are in a quiet space, stop what you're doing. Take a breath. All right? Now focus on where your feet are grounded. You can stand up, sit down, but try to ground your feet on whatever floor you have beneath you. Okay? Take one. Slow inhale through your nose, 1, 2, 3, 4, and exhale through your mouth, six counts, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. And repeat after me out loud. I am safe in this moment. (02:21)Okay? That one sentence tells your body, we are not in danger anymore or we're not in danger right now. So now move something. You can shake out your hands and your arms. You can roll your shoulders back. I love that. I love a good neck roll. Stretch your neck, side to side. Whatever feels best to you. This is your body reset, queen. It's your time to decide, right? It's time for you to get some decisions in this life. Alright? Now imagine the leftover tension leaving your body with every exhale. Okay? So let's say you're rolling your shoulders, just roll back and every time you reach a certain spot, imagine just releasing tension, releasing that tension out of your body, okay? (03:18)Are actually releasing the chemical residue of the trauma bond, the cortisol, the hyper vigilance you're very familiar with,

You finally broke free — but why does it still feel so hard to breathe?In this episode, Christy Jade breaks down what no one tells you about life after the trauma bond. If you’ve ever caught yourself craving the chaos, feeling pulled to respond to that text, or getting triggered by their name — even though you know they’re toxic — this one’s for you. You’re not weak. You’re not “going backward.”You’re experiencing what Christy calls the trauma bond hangover — that emotional, mental, and physical crash that happens when your body is detoxing from dysfunction. 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse?Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries CourseLearn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access.→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic HealingReclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made!→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/ 💬 Episode Highlights Why guilt spikes when a toxic parent gets older or sick The truth about “honoring your parents” — and what that really looks like in abuse recovery How to stop confusing compassion with obligation Nervous system tools to stay grounded when guilt-tripping starts Christy’s personal reflection on balancing empathy with self-care 🩷 Let’s Connect Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/fiercechristyjade/ Email me! fiercemamac@gmail.com   TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Alright, so you finally got out, you blocked, deleted. Maybe you even changed your number. So why does it still feel like you've been hit by a damn emotional freight train? Today we're going to talk about the part no one really warns you about the trauma bond hangover, the weird, awful mix of craving the chaos, feeling that pull to check their page or getting instantly triggered when their name pops up on your phone. I know that one, even when you know they're toxic, your body's still wired to respond like it is life or death. So you're not weak, you're healing from an emotional addiction. So we're going to talk about what is really going on underneath and how to help calm that nervous system so you can finally actually start to feel free. (00:53)Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear. Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there and let's cue your royal glow up. (01:51)Okay, queen, let's be honest, nobody really talks about this part. Everyone cheers you on when you're finally leaving the narcissist. You did it, you're free. I hated that mofo. But what happens when freedom doesn't just immediately feel peaceful? You may think you're going to get this huge relief and you may

🎙️ The Guilt Shift: A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a “Bad Daughter” for Setting Boundaries Feeling that heavy guilt after setting a boundary with your parent? In The Guilt Shift: A 5-Minute Reset When You Feel Like a “Bad Daughter” for Setting Boundaries, Christy Jade guides you through a soothing, soul-grounded reset to help you release guilt and come back to peace. Because protecting your energy isn’t disrespect — it’s divine self-care. 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse?Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries CourseLearn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access.→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic HealingReclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made!→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/ 💬 Episode Highlights Why guilt spikes when you set boundaries with aging or ill parents The truth about “honoring your parents” — and how it changes after narcissistic abuse A 5-minute mind-body reset to calm guilt in real time How to reframe “I’m a bad daughter” into “I’m a peaceful protector” Christy’s quick affirmation to release guilt and reclaim peace 🩷 Let’s Connect Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/fiercechristyjade/Email → fiercemamac@gmail.com TRANSCRIPT: Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. All right. On Tuesday we talked about if you have toxic, narcissistic parents, basically how to deal with that, how to get rid of the guilt a little bit. And today we're going to dive into a five minute reset when you do feel like a bad daughter for setting boundaries, okay? First of all, you're not a bad daughter. I said it in the last episode. You are a healing daughter, right? You're healing, you're breaking the cycle, so you are on the right path. I give you permission to say, I am a good daughter and I am a cycle breaker. Okay? So today I'm going to guide you through a quick mind, body reset to dissolve guilt in real time because we're not perfect. (01:03)This stuff can take time. You start setting boundaries. It's not going to be perfect all the time. Look, I've been setting boundaries for a while now. In the beginning it was a little harder than it is now for sure. So this is a way, if that guilt creeps up to kind of walk away from a draining interaction with peace instead of that panic, visceral, right? Okay, so first you want to acknowledge the guilt, okay? When a feeling comes up, you always want to let it be there. We don't want to push feelings away. So you're going to let that guilt bubble up and you can say out loud, this guilt isn't truth. This is training. It's training and name where you feel it in your body. Do you feel it in your throat? Often that can be it. You're not being able to voice what you want. (01:59)So the throat chakra can be a little clogged up the chest. That can be when you have a lot of sadness, aching for more with this relationship, you wish things weren't as they were. Is it in the stomach? Right? We get a lot of stomach disturbances with nerves and anxiety. So name where you feel it in your body, and then we're going to do a little somatic reset. You're going to place one of

Do you feel guilty setting boundaries with your aging or ill narcissistic parent? In this empowering episode, Christy Jade helps you break free from guilt and obligation so you can protect your peace without feeling like the “bad daughter.” Learn what’s truly loving (and what’s just self-sacrifice in disguise), how to balance compassion with self-respect, and why your worth isn’t measured by how much pain you tolerate. 👑 Your Next Step in Healing ✨ Ready to rebuild your peace, power, and self-trust after narcissistic abuse?Explore Christy’s most transformative programs below: 🌸 Empowered Boundaries CourseLearn how to set boundaries that actually stick — without the guilt spiral. Includes 10 video modules, a meditation bundle, and lifetime access.→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 💖 1:1 Coaching + Somatic HealingReclaim your peace, power, and clarity in a private, guided journey with Christy. This is where REAL customized transformation is made!→ https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💌 Resources for Your Healing Journey ✨ Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250✨ Join the FREE Facebook Community for daily support + sisterhood → https://www.facebook.com/groups/christyjade✨ Snag your Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts for boundary convos that actually work → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/ 💬 Episode Highlights Why guilt spikes when a toxic parent gets older or sick The truth about “honoring your parents” — and what that really looks like in abuse recovery How to stop confusing compassion with obligation Nervous system tools to stay grounded when guilt-tripping starts Christy’s personal reflection on balancing empathy with self-care 🩷 Let’s Connect Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/fiercechristyjade/ Email me! fiercemamac@gmail.com   TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Ever feel like you owe your narcissistic parent kindness or access? Just because they're getting older, somehow their age cancels out all the damage they've done or are continuing to do. Today, we're going to break that guilt spell because your peace doesn't have an expiration date. Okay, queen, stay close. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck, and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. (01:04)So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there. And let's cue your royal glow up. Hello, beautiful souls. It's Christy Jade. Today's topic is one I hear over and over again. My mom or dad is older. Now, maybe I should just tolerate it, but here's the truth. Time does not erase toxicity. Getting older doesn't mean they've earned access to your peace. Taking your peace and loving someone from a safe distance is still love. So if you're feeling torn between compassion and that self-preservation, grab your tea. Get your journal because by the end of this episode, you're going to know how to set some boundaries without feeling like the bad daughter. So first of all, society romanticizes, forgive and forget, especially with aging parents. (02:17)And look, I'm all about respecting your parents, right? Honoring your mother and father. You can still do this while having boundaries, but the guilt is often the weapon narcissistic parents use to keep control, right? They know

Still replaying every convo, text, or mind game—trying to make sense of the narcissist? In this 5-minute reset, Christy Jade shows you how to break the brain loop that keeps you obsessed with understanding them and finally reclaim your peace. Learn how trauma trains your mind to overanalyze—and the simple somatic shift that ends the cycle for good. 💖 Work With Christy ✨ Ready for real-time transformation?Step into your power with Christy 1:1. Her 3-Month Transformational Coaching + Somatic Healing package helps you regulate your nervous system, rebuild self-trust, and feel safe in your own skin again.👉 https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 🎁 Fun Queen Resources 💌 Join the Free Private Facebook Community — connect with other Queens rebuilding after narcissistic abuse.👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecoverypodcast 👑 Grab Your Free Boundaries Pocket Guide — learn how to say nope without guilt.👉 https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 💬 Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts — ready-made boundary phrases that protect your peace.👉 https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-scripts/   Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. All right, take a deep breath today, queen. Happy Thursday. This thrive in five is for the woman who cannot stop replaying all the conversations, the manipulations, every, why did he do that? Why is he doing that? Whether it's your past or current situation that you are having to deal with a narcissist. Maybe you're, maybe it's a family member, maybe it's your boss, but understanding the narcissist will not bring you peace, and we think it will, right? We try to understand to relieve something in us, but your brain keeps dragging you back, even though deep down you probably know, you'll never fully understand and comprehend a narcissist because they don't make sense in the same way we do. (01:18)They don't think the same way we do. They're not healthy people. So let's shift that today. So here's the thing, your brain is not broken. It's doing what it was actually trained to do, to analyze danger, to stay safe by being in the situations. So when you lived in a narcissistic environment, you became a detective. You were constantly decoding, tone, expression, hidden meanings. Are you shaking your head yet? Because your survival basically depended on it. So now that you're free, your brain doesn't realize it can stop working overtime. That's the loop. The body's addiction to this vigilance disguised as logic. It's not logic, it's vigilance. It's over vigilance, right? So let's get to today's practice. It's a calming quick one, and we are going to calm that beautiful brain of yours that deserves every piece. So wherever you are, gently place one hand on your heart and one on your belly. You're going to inhale through your nose for 4, 3, 2, 1. Hold for one, two, and exhale, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Now you can repeat after me. I am safe. (03:17)I don't need to understand them to be free. How's that feel? So as you exhale, imagine the thoughts spinning in your head, melting down into your body and out through your feet. So we're going to inhale, 1, 2, 3, hold it. And as you exhale, imagine those thoughts that just whine and whine melting down your body and out your feet. Let your body carry what your mind can't. So if you want to repeat that a couple times, you can always pause this. Do it as many times as you need to, and each time, remind yourself, I choose peace over answers. (04:24)You get to choose, and it might seem hard, but every time you do this, you get closer. Every time you do anything somatic, you really get closer to it so you don't heal by finding new information about them. That's what we think. You heal by giving your nervous system proof that the danger is over. I'm going to say that again.

If you’re still trying to understand the narcissist, this episode is your wake-up call. Christy Jade breaks down why searching for answers keeps you stuck in their cycle—and what to do instead to finally reclaim your peace, power, and clarity. 👑 Work with Christy: If you’re ready to stop walking on eggshells and start healing for real, my 3-Month Transformational Coaching & Somatic Healing Program will help you rebuild self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and rise into your power again.👉 Learn more or apply here: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💞 Resources for Your Healing: 💌 Boundaries Pocket Guide — Learn to say “no” without guilt & protect your peace.https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 🎧 Join the Facebook Community — Connect with women healing after narcissistic abuse.https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecoverycommunity 📜 Copy-Paste-Peace Scripts — Know exactly what to say to keep your boundaries strong. VIP PRICING FOR LISTENERS! https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/      

You’ve prayed. You’ve trusted. But your body still doesn’t feel safe. In this 5-minute pause, Christy guides you through a gentle moment to reconnect with God’s peace — not just think about it. 👉 Ready to rebuild your peace for good?Inside my 3-Month Transformation Journey, we’ll rewire your nervous system, restore your faith in yourself, and help you finally feel calm and confident again.https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ 💎 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN ✅ Why your body can still feel unsafe even when your faith is strong✅ A gentle way to feel God’s peace again (not just think about it)✅ How to begin healing your nervous system after trauma 💖 FREE TOOLS & COMMUNITY ✨ Boundaries Pocket Guide — say no without guilt!https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 👑 Join the Facebook Community — connect with women healing after narcissistic abusehttps://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecovery

Have you ever been told “God hates divorce,” “pray harder,” or “be patient” — even when your spirit knew something was wrong? In this powerful, truth-filled episode, Christy unpacks what the Bible actually says about abusers and leaving toxic relationships, exposing the spiritual manipulation that keeps women stuck in pain. You’ll discover God’s heart for the oppressed, why He never calls you to stay in harm, and how to step into peace — not guilt. This is your reminder that God’s truth brings freedom, not fear. 💎 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN ✅ What Scripture actually teaches about abuse, oppression, and justice✅ Why forgiveness doesn’t mean staying in harm’s way✅ How God’s character and Word support your peace and safety✅ The biblical truth that sets you free from guilt and confusion 💖 LINKS & RESOURCES 🎁 FREEBIES ✨ Boundaries Pocket Guide — protect your peace with simple, powerful scriptshttps://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 👑 Join the Facebook Community — connect with women healing after narcissistic abusehttps://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecovery 💫 COURSES & COACHING 🎓 Empowered Boundaries Course — master confident, guilt-free boundarieshttps://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 🌿 Reclaiming You 1:1 Session (90 min) — personalized clarity, nervous system reset, and next-step planhttps://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ 👑 Monthly Peace Coaching — ongoing somatic + spiritual support to rebuild self-trusthttps://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/  

One Daily Shift to Stop a Narcissist From Draining Your Energy (Thrive in 5) On Tuesday, we unpacked why narcissists want you exhausted and how to take your power back. In today’s quick Thrive in 5, I’m giving you one super simple shift you can use daily to protect your energy and stop them from draining you. This takes less than five minutes but makes a huge difference in keeping your peace. 👑 Mic Drop: Every pause, every reset is proof that you’re reclaiming your power one moment at a time. ✨ LINKS & GOODIES ✨ 💖 Freebie: Grab your FREE Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 👑 1:1 Coaching: Reclaiming You Sessions → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ 📌 Listener Faves: The Grey Rock Method: How to Deal with a Narcissist if You Cannot Go No Contact → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grey-rock-method-how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/id1662241353?i=1000648879776 Co-Parenting With a Narcissist? Why ‘Staying Civil’ Might Be Destroying Your Peace → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-why-staying-civil-might/id1662241353?i=1000671183508 👑 Stay Connected: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/christyjade Private Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/groups/1373765840008654/ TRANSCRIPTS Speaker 1 (00:01): Hello. Hello. So this is going to be a super quick episode with no real intro music because I was out tonight celebrating one of my friend's birthdays. Yay. Yay for birthdays. Alright, so Tuesday we talked about why narcissists want you exhausted and how to take your power back. Today I'm going to give you one super simple daily shift that can help you stop them from draining your energy and it takes less than five minutes. So it's perfect, perfect for tonight. Okay, so like I said, we dove in. How narcissists keep you running on empty, right? When you're depleted, you are easier to control, easier to manipulate, and less likely to fight back. But here's the good news, you don't have to play their game today. I want to give you one quick, powerful shift you can start using right away to keep that energy intact. (01:05)It is called a transition ritual. Here's how it works. Every time you feel yourself being pulled into their chaos could be a nasty text, an exhausting call, or even just remembering something they said. You pause, you step away and give yourself a reset ritual. So that could look like putting your phone in the drawer for five minutes, walking outside and maybe walking around if you have a cul-de-sac or just around the neighborhood and doing some intentional breathing, like that halo breathing I love. Or even just putting your hand on your heart and saying, my peace belongs to me, not them. So it sounds small, but it's actually big. Why? Because every time you interrupt this cycle, you're teaching your nervous system. I am safe, I am in charge, and I don't have to give my energy away. So here's the mic drop. Okay? Every pause, every reset is proof that you are reclaiming your power one moment at a time, right? So it seems like a small thing and maybe you won't remember every single time. So don't beat yourself up if you forget and you have a spin out, whatever. We're on a journey, okay? We're on a little healing, healing journey now. Alright? So try it this week. Choose your ritual. (03:00)I would suggest using one for now until you're in the real habit of it, and then you can switch them out, rotate them, but pick the one or maybe try 'em all out. See which works best for you. You can do your own version of one of these too, and notice how much more energy and clarity you hold onto. And if you haven't listened yet, go back to Tuesday's full episode where I unpack why the narcissists thrive on your exhaustion and how you can actually step into your power. So I know I have a little lack of energy tonight. I am very tired. It is very late, but I still wanted to get you just a quick epis

Ever feel like dealing with a narcissist leaves you totally drained — like you’ve just run an emotional marathon? That’s not random. In this episode, I reveal why narcissists actually want you exhausted and how to finally reclaim your energy, peace, and power before it’s too late. 💡 Here’s what you’ll learn today: Why exhaustion is the narcissist’s #1 control tactic How chaos cycles, sleep sabotage, and guilt-tripping keep you stuck The simple 3-step process to take your power back and protect your peace If you’re healing after narcissistic abuse and tired of feeling depleted, this episode will give you the tools to stop the cycle and rise back into your power. 👑 Ready for more support?👉 Grab my free Boundaries Pocket Guide: https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 👉 Explore the Empowered Boundaries Course: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ 👉 Book a 1:1 Reclaiming You Session: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/

Short DescriptionNarcissistic co-parents are masters at twisting boundaries—but you don’t have to fall for their traps. In this Thrive in 5, I break down 3 sneaky tactics they use and exactly how to outsmart them so you can protect your peace and power. 👑✨ 💻 Courses & Coaching 👑 Empowered Boundaries Course → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/ ✨ Work 1:1 With Me (Reclaiming You Sessions) → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ 🌟 Connect & Resources 👑 Join the Private Facebook Community → https://www.facebook.com/groups/narcissisticabuserecoveryforwomen 🎁 Free Boundaries Pocket Guide → https://christyjade.ck.page/ce79ea9250 🎤 Subscribe to the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast → https://www.podbean.com/podcast-detail/f7vsi-208d1a/Narcissistic-Abuse-Recovery-Podcast 🎧 Related Podcast Episode 🪨 The Grey Rock Method: How to Deal with a Narcissist if You Cannot Go No Contacthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grey-rock-method-how-to-deal-with-a-narcissist/id1662241353?i=1000648879776 TRANSCRIPTS Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Today we are breaking down the three biggest boundary traps that narcissists use in co-parenting. They are sneaky little ways. They try to keep you off balance, steal your peace and rope you into their chaos. No thank you. So here's the best part. I'm not just going to tell you what the traps are. I'm going to give you the exact tools to outsmart them every single time. Queen Edge. Alright, so the first is the infamous guilt trip. You're probably familiar with that, right? They'll say things like, if you really cared about the kids, you'd switch weekends or you're being so selfish by not helping me out. And what is their goal to make you feel like a bad mom or a bad co-parent? (01:09)Bad parent, period. Unless you cave, right? They're trying to get whatever fits into what benefits them. So how do you outsmart it? First you stick to the plan and then literally repeat the boundary without defending it. Remember this part without defending it? So that could look like, nope, we're going to stick to the parenting schedule and then pause. Zip it. Do not explain. Okay? We have a tendency when we are people pleasers or empaths or don't want to be misunderstood. That was a big trigger for me just in my life being misunderstood. So over explaining can make us feel like maybe we'll be understood or just giving reasons, right? Don't explain, don't argue, don't get emotional. None of those things are going to help, okay? You want to outsmart them. Remember that the silence is actually the strength, okay? Remember, silence is strength. Silence is strength. (02:18)Don't take the bait. Okay? So number two, the endless negotiator, okay, you say no and they immediately push back. Well what about just this one time? Or well if we switch next week instead, or what if I pick them up later instead of earlier? What if all the different things to try to get their way somehow and getting their way equals what? Control. That's what they're trying to get. We're not going to give it to 'em, okay? They keep changing the terms to wear you down. So this is actually calculated, manipulative. When they're doing this. They figure if they can drag you into the back and forth, they then already have your energy. They're already gaining the power over you. So how do we outsmart it? Again, don't take the bait. My favorite phrase of life, restate once, then disengage. So it's very similar. So something like, no, we'll be sticking to the plan. (03:27)If they keep pushing, don't respond. I would maybe say it twice. If they have a first negotiation party coming out of their mouth, say, Nope, we'll be sticking to the plan. Nope, we'll be sticking the plan and then don't respond. Or maybe on the third

Ever set a boundary only to cave, over-explain, or feel guilty? You’re not alone, queen. In this episode, I break down the #1 boundary mistake women make after narcissistic abuse — and give you a 3-step fix to finally protect your peace. Because girl, you look good in peace. ✨👑 ✨ Links & Resources for Your Royal Glow-Up:👑 Copy.Paste.Peace Scripts (special listener price!) → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copypeacepastescripts/🌸 Enroll in the Empowered Boundaries Course → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/empowered-boundaries/💖 Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Christy → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/🌺 Join the Free Facebook Support Group → https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 ✨ Stay Connected:🎧 Follow the show so you never miss a new episode!📲 Share this episode with a fellow queen who needs boundary confidence today. -----TRANSCRIPT------ Speaker 1 (00:00): Have you ever set a boundary only to cave in, feel guilty or overexplain yourself? If that is you, queen, this episode is your wake up call. I'm going to break down the number one boundary mistake women make after narcissistic abuse and how to fix it so you can finally protect your piece. Because girl, you look good in peace. Did anyone ever tell you that? All right, stay close. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck, and find healing methods that actually lasted. (00:59)Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself. Again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. Alright, welcome back to the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast. Now, I know you've probably tried setting boundaries before, maybe rehearsed what to say, but if you're second guessing, caving or walking away actually feeling worse instead of stronger, you are not alone. And here's the truth. It's not because weak or broken. It's because most of us we're taught boundaries the wrong way. So today I'm going to reveal the number one mistake I see over and over and give you a little three step fix that you can use right away. (02:00)How's that sound? Good? Alright. So first of all, the number one boundary mistake that's costing your peace is this treating boundaries like a one time announcement instead of a daily practice in kind of a way of life. So here's what happens. You finally build the courage to say, no, I can't do that, or I won't do that, or I need some space, right? You feel empowered until the other person pushes back, right? Maybe they get angry, maybe they guilt trip you. I can get a what? I've been through that one. Maybe they act confused or pretend they don't hear you, and suddenly it all kicks it up, right? The guilt comes in, doubt creeps in. You're asking, wait, am I being too harsh? Am I wrong for needing this? Maybe I should just let it go. And before you know it, you have caved or over explained or have said, okay, just this once, right? (03:06)One more chance, one more. You sound familiar though. It's okay if it does. Don't beat yourself up. You're not failing a boundaries, okay? You're just stuck in the trap of seeing them as a single moment instead of this living practice that you hold every day. So how do you fix this? How do you move from the wobbly guilt ridden boundaries to the ones that actually protect your piece? So here's my little three step quick fix. Num

Ever been called selfish for protecting your peace? In this quick episode, I’ll share 3 powerful tools to reset your mind, body, and spirit—so you can release the guilt and step into your healing with confidence. Links & Resources: 💖 Grab your Copy.Paste.Peace Scripts (normally $37, podcast listeners get them for just $17 with code PEACE):https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copypeacepastescripts/ 👑 Join my Private Facebook Sisterhood:https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 🌟 Ready for deep, 1:1 support? Check out my Reclaiming You Coaching Sessions:https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ ---------- TRANSCRIPTS Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Hello, gorgeous queen. Has anyone told you how amazing you look today? I hope they did, but if they did not, I'm here to tell you, you look super fly. Like the super fly is to fly. Super, super fly. Alright, so welcome back to Thrive in five. It is Thursday. So it is that lovely thrive in five day on Tuesday. If you listen to that episode, we dug deep into the word people love to throw around selfish. So today I'm going to give you a quick reset to carry with you anytime. Whenever that guilt spiral tries to creep on in. So look, if someone calls you selfish for walking away from a toxic situation, what they're really saying is you're no longer abandoning yourself for my benefit. (01:12)Or if they're talking about someone you mutually, mutually, like the person you left and you're both friends with them or family, they could also be sticking up for them and saying that you're no longer abandoning yourself for this person's benefit. So that is not selfish, that is self-honoring. I'm going to repeat that again. I'm going to make a post about this line right here. It's not selfish, it is self-honoring. Alright? So every time you choose your piece, repeat this to yourself, okay? And put your chin up, shine your crown and say, I'm not being selfish, I am being healthy. We talked about this in Tuesday's episode as well, but we need to repeat it. Alright? So when the guilt hits, let's say it's still coming in, your nervous system feels it. You get that kind of anxious feeling, you're tight chested your shoulders may be a little tense. Try this quick somatic reset. All right? You can put your hand on your heart, inhale through the nose for two counts, and then exhale for four. And you do that a few times and then whisper, I'm safe, I'm healing, I'm free. And that longer exhale tells your body we okay? Now. (02:48)So remember, your boundaries aren't about controlling them. You're not being selfish. It's not about them and what you're taking from them or doing for yourself instead of them, it's just about protecting you, which is different from very self-serving actions like the greedy selfishness. That's not what you're doing here. You're literally protecting yourself. That loud pushback you get when you stop abandoning yourself. That's noise. That's the BS we talked about Tuesday. Let it bounce off your golden sparkly wall of protection. Okay? So I want you guys to, seriously, when you think about your boundaries, I want you to picture them as a beautiful golden glitter wall around you. How can you feel guilty about that? That's just glorious. Okay? So you are protecting your queen age with every right to do so. Okay? So this week, anytime someone throws that selfish label your way, or maybe you're just replaying what they have said in the past, we're known to do that, aren't we? (04:03)Right? Just smile. If they say it to you silently, thank them in your mind, okay? Yeah, you're right. I'm putting up this glitter, glittery, glitter. That's not a word. Glittery gold wall around me. And it's proof that you're not playing small anymore, that you're not going to be held under

Have you ever been called selfish for leaving a toxic relationship… or for finally saying NO? You’re not alone — and you’re not selfish. In this empowering episode, Christy Jade unpacks why women are labeled selfish after walking away from toxic love, and how to reframe those accusations as proof you’re actually healing. You’ll learn:✅ Why abusers (and even family) weaponize the word “selfish”✅ The truth about protecting your peace after toxic love✅ A simple script + somatic reset to stop the guilt spiral ✨ Special Listener Offer: Need the exact words to shut down drama and protect your peace? My brand-new Copy.Paste.Peace Scripts give you ready-to-use responses for co-parents, toxic exes, family, or anyone trying to guilt-trip you. No more freezing up or second-guessing — just calm, confident replies that stop the chaos before it starts. They’re normally $37, but as a podcast listener, you can grab them today for just $17 with code PEACE → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/copy-paste-peace-fast-37/?coupon=PEACE 💖 Join the Community: Connect with other women healing from narcissistic abuse inside my free private Facebook group → https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 👑 Work With Me 1:1: Ready to go deeper? Book a Reclaiming You coaching session and get personalized support to heal, rise, and rebuild → https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/   TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Hello, gorgeous queen. You are looking beautiful today by the way. Just a side note. Alright, so we're going to talk about being selfish today. Okay? Have you ever been called selfish for walking away from your toxic situation? Whether it was a romantic situation, walking away from a family member or a lifelong friend, just someone at church, whatever it is, we're going to set the record straight. You are not selfish, okay? Protecting your peace after toxic anything is one of the most courageous and healing things you can do for yourself. So we'll dive in. Stay tuned. (00:41)Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear. Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christy wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had a come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there. And let's cue your royal glow up. (01:39)One of the most common things I hear from women who have actually left the toxic relationship is they said, I'm selfish or I'm cold, right? So this could be your ex, maybe it's your own mom, maybe it's someone from your church community, someone in your workspace if you quit a job and it stings because deep down you've already given so much. But here's the truth, women who finally stand up and say, I cannot do this anymore, almost always get slapped with the label of selfish, cold, or even narcissistic themselves. Why? Well, because abusers and controlling people need to keep you in their system. And one of the easiest ways to guilt you back in is to make you question your goodness. So if you're a caring, empathetic woman, which you are, they know that calling you selfish will hit you right in the heart. They know that is your soft spot because that's actually your comfort, your pride in yourself is that you're not selfish. (02:53)You are an empath. You are giving and caring, and you do put people often before yourself. You're finally putting yourself first because you absolutely rock bottom, have

When self-doubt creeps in—“Did I overreact? Am I being too much?”—it’s easy to spiral. In this mini-episode, I’ll guide you through a simple 5-minute somatic practice to calm your body, quiet the guilt loop, and anchor back into your truth. 👑 Resources & Links Mentioned in this Episode ✨ Freebie: Grab your Boundaries Pocket Guide →https://christyjade.kit.com/ce79ea9250 💖 Community: Join my private Facebook group Inner Sparkle: Healing for Women →https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 💻 Coaching: Work with me 1:1 to reclaim your peace & power: Reclaiming You Session (90-min) →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ Monthly Coaching →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ 3-Month Coaching with Voxer →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ ✨ Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with another Queen who needs this reminder today.   TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:03): Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to Take a breath Queen, this one's for you. Hey Queen, welcome to your Thrive in five, your quick reset to calm the chaos and reclaim your sparkle. Yes, it looks so good on you. Alright, if you caught Tuesday's episode, which was called Still Doubting Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse, here's how to break the cycle. Then we talked about why the narcissist trains you to question yourself and how to rebuild that self-trust. Well, today I've got a somatic practice you can use anytime that doubt creeps in, think of it as a five minute body reset to quiet that guilt loop and anchor back into your truth. Alright, so step one, name the doubt. Start by simply naming the thought or question running in your head. (01:07)Maybe it's, did I overreact or am I being too much? Say it out loud or whisper it if you must or scream it on the top of a hill. Naming it gives it less power. It stops being this swirl that's on loop in your head and becomes something you can actually observe. And we do a lot of this in somatic healing. If you've done sessions with me, we can beat the observer of things, which helps heal them. It puts a light on them, helps heal them, helps us move in a different direction, have a different perspective. So even just naming it is a step in the right direction. So number two, you can do a body. You can place one hand on your chest or stomach and take a slow grounding breath in through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. This is a halo breath. And ask yourself, what is my body feeling right now? Is it tightness? Is it fear? Is it calm? What's going on in there? This pulls you into the present moment instead of letting your mind spin in the past, right? So it's that present moment, body check-in. Step three, the truth anchor. Okay, so here's where we shift the energy. Repeat after me or you can make it your own. If I set this boundary, it's because I needed peace. (02:43)Peace is not wrong, right? Let's say that last part again. Peace is not wrong, it's right, okay? And you keep breathing slowly as you repeat it. Letting nervous system soak in its truth. You can swap in your own phrase like protecting myself is love, or my feelings are valid. That's a huge one that we really need to reiterate to ourselves after going through abuse. Alright, then step four, a visual reset. So look around the room and find one comforting thing to rest your eyes on. It could be a candle, a favorite mug, a photo that makes you smile. I have a palm tree in my bedroom and that is my favorite place to focus when I'm trying to do a visual reset. I love palm trees, I love the beach. It just brings me to that happy space. So find whatever happy, comforting object you can and let your gaze stay in there. (03:54)Stay there until your body softens. So just keep staring. Might feel weird

🎙️ Still Doubting Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse? Here’s How to Break the Cycle Are you stuck second-guessing yourself, even after leaving the narcissist? In this episode, I’ll show you how to break the guilt loop and start trusting yourself again. 👑 Resources & Links Mentioned in this Episode ✨ Freebie: Grab your Boundaries Pocket Guide here →https://christyjade.kit.com/ce79ea9250 💖 Join My Free Private Facebook Community: Inner Sparkle: Healing for Women →https://www.facebook.com/groups/2420729361374989 💻 1:1 Coaching: Ready to go deeper? Work with me privately: Reclaiming You Session (90-min deep dive) →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ Monthly Transformational Coaching →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ 3-Month Transformational Coaching with Voxer access →https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ Because Queen, your peace is priceless—and you don’t have to heal alone. ✨ If this episode spoke to you, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another Queen who needs this reminder today.   TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Ever catch yourself replaying arguments in your head, wondering if you overreacted or feeling guilty for protecting your peace. That's not because you're broken. It's because narcissistic abuse trains you to doubt yourself. So today I'm going to help you break that cycle, rebuild that self-trust and step into the peace you deserve. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice, and had to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun. (01:07)So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. Alright, queen, let's get real. One of the biggest wounds after narcissistic abuse is the constant questioning of yourself. You say no to someone and then you lie awake at night thinking, was that too harsh? Should I have said yes? You might block their number and then feel a rush of guilt. Just this overwhelmingly off feeling in your body. You're not alone. Here's why. Narcissists actually condition you to doubt yourself through their gaslighting. If you don't know what gaslighting is, it's when they make you question your own memory, your own feelings, or even your sanity. So this is a real thing, and over time you start second guessing everything, even after you've left them. (02:19)The echo of that doubt, it still lingers, but let me remind you that echo, it's not true. This is not your truth. It's programming that we can undo and we can rewrite. So let's talk about the guilt aspect. A lot of you in my community and my Facebook group, whatever, if you're not in that, by the way, go to the show notes and totally click the link and join us. Said guilt is what holds you back. You're finally setting a boundary or you go no contact and that wave of guilt hits. Here's the truth though, guilt doesn't always mean you're wrong. I'm going to say that again. Guilt does not always mean you're wrong. Sometimes it's just an old alarm system going off because you did something new and different than the old you would've done to stay safe, right? This new you is feeling weird doing something different even though it's the right thing to do and it's okay to do and you shouldn't feel guilty. (03:31)Tha

Narcissists hate your peace—because when you’re calm, their control slips away. That’s why they poke and prod the moment you start to feel steady. In this Thrive in Five, I’ll share:✨ Why your calm threatens their power✨ A quick somatic reset you can do in minutes✨ How to guard your peace like the crown jewel it is 👑 📥 Free Gift: The Boundaries Pocket Guide Want to stop second-guessing yourself and finally set boundaries that stick without the guilt spiral?Download Christy’s free Boundaries Pocket Guide — designed to help you reclaim your peace and protect your power after narcissistic abuse.✨ Grab it here → https://christyjade.kit.com/ce79ea9250 🛠️ Ready to Go Deeper in Your Healing? Whether you’re newly out or years into recovery, support changes everything.Here are 3 powerful ways to work with Christy: ✅ Reclaiming You: 1:1 Clarity & Intake SessionThis 90-minute session is for the woman who’s serious about healing and wants to explore working together in a deeper way. It’s not designed as a one-off quick fix—but rather a powerful first step for those considering the monthly or 3-month coaching containers. If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure which path to take next, this session is for you.💻 Book here: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ ✅ 1-Month Private Coaching ContainerIncludes weekly coaching, somatic tools, and in-between support to help you regulate, reset, and start rebuilding trust with yourself. 💻 Learn more:https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ ✅ 3-Month Transformational Coaching PackageThis is the most supportive and spacious container I offer. We’ll dive deep into emotional healing, nervous system support, boundary work, and personal empowerment so you can rise fully in your peace and power. 💻 Apply here:https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ TRANSCRIPT Speaker 1 (00:00): Welcome to your Thrive in five. This is your five minute pause from the chaos, the guilt trips, and the narcissist, endless drama bombs. All right, so take a breath queen. This one is for you all tied up in a little bow just for you. Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five, your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting, and that text you knew better than to reply to Take a breath Queen. This one's for you. Today. We are going to talk about why the narcissists hate your piece a little bit, but more importantly, how to guard it quickly. We're going to do a little somatic tooling today. If you want to go deeper in, if you did not already listen to Tuesday's episode, please go listen to that as well. And you could save this and come back to it. Maybe listen to that first, or if you just have a few minutes, definitely try out this tool and save the other podcast because they go hand in hand every Tuesday, Thursday. (01:04)We've got two little buddy episodes. Okay, so here's the thing. When you're calm and you're at peace, right? And you might be getting there right now, you might be feeling it, but when you're truly there, you are untouchable. You're unshakeable. Your nervous system stops reacting to their chaos and their power then slips through their fingers. So if you're starting to feel emboldened, you're starting to feel independent, you're starting to feel like you are getting out or are out of their web. Finally, they will show up. That's why they poke, they prod, they stir up the conflict because you're finding peace and they don't like it. Again, I touched on that a lot more deeply in Tuesday's episode, but here's what they don't know. Peace can be practiced and it can be guarded. So this is something you can absolutely get, even if you're not totally there yet, you can practice it and then you can guard it and maintain it. (02:19)And obviously working with me one-on-one is the best way to do that. I'll always put my how to work with me one-on-one options in my show notes. That is going to be your best w

💬 Episode Description (Show Notes): Why do narcissists hate your peace so much? In this episode, Christy breaks down why your calm threatens their control, the sneaky ways they try to shake it, and simple tools to guard your peace like the crown jewel it is. ✨ 📥 Free Gift: The Boundaries Pocket Guide Want to stop second-guessing yourself and finally set boundaries that stick without the guilt spiral?Download Christy’s free Boundaries Pocket Guide — designed to help you reclaim your peace and protect your power after narcissistic abuse.✨ Grab it here → https://christyjade.kit.com/ce79ea9250 🛠️ Ready to Go Deeper in Your Healing? Whether you’re newly out or years into recovery, support changes everything.Here are 3 powerful ways to work with Christy: ✅ Reclaiming You: 1:1 Clarity & Intake SessionThis 90-minute session is for the woman who’s serious about healing and wants to explore working together in a deeper way. It’s not designed as a one-off quick fix—but rather a powerful first step for those considering the monthly or 3-month coaching containers. If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure which path to take next, this session is for you.💻 Book here: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/journey-to-peace-coaching-blueprint/ ✅ 1-Month Private Coaching ContainerIncludes weekly coaching, somatic tools, and in-between support to help you regulate, reset, and start rebuilding trust with yourself.💻 Apply here: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-monthly/ ✅ 3-Month Transformational Coaching PackageThis is the most supportive and spacious container I offer. We’ll dive deep into emotional healing, nervous system support, boundary work, and personal empowerment so you can rise fully in your peace and power.💻 Learn more: https://shethrives.thrivecart.com/transformational-coaching-quarterly/ TRANSCRIPT 10 PM, August 25, 35.55 MB, 15 min.           Speaker 1     Why does it feel like every time you finally get calm, the narcissist in your life stirs up that drama? Today I'm sharing why your piece is such a threat to them and the exact tools you can use to guard it like the crown jewel. It is. Have you finally broken free from that narcissist creepy crawly web, but still feel stuck in fear? Wish you could trust yourself again and take your life back. Well, you're in the right place, queen. I'm Christie, wife, mom and narcissistic abuse recovery coach. I've walked the messy road, wasted money on the wrong therapist and dry advice and how to come to Jesus moment to get me here to feel free. I had to reconnect with me, set boundaries that stuck and find healing methods that actually lasted. Now, I've created a plan that's empowering, doable, and yes, even fun because I'm sparkly and fun.   So of course it's going to be fun. So if you're ready to break cycles, reclaim your peace and trust yourself again, this podcast is for you. So steep, that chamomile tea, silence, all that crazy chaos out there, and let's cue your royal glow up. All right, so why do these narcissists hate our peace so much? First of all, they survive on control, drama, and emotional chaos. So your piece means they are losing their influence on you, right? They want to shake you up. They want to keep you chaotic in your brain. So think of it like this. Your piece is evidence that you know longer need them. Again, your piece is evidence that you no longer need them and that terrifies them. Their ego, you know how big their egos are, okay? Their ego feeds on reaction. So that could be angers, tears defending yourself, but silence and calm.   That starves them. It starves their ego, it starves that needing to be fed that they have, right? So how did they attack your piece? You probably know, but we'll go through a few little examples. First, there's the drama bombs, right? The sudden emergencies, which we talked about last week. Even with the texting, they exaggerate thing