Some of us are big criers, some of us are not. Today: Two tears experts who have experimented with this idea in the lab and in real life let us in on their insights.

Today: a story about defusing conflict when emotions run high, from someone who's made it her life's work. We hear from Shneaqua Purvis, better known as Coco, the founder and C.E.O. of Both Sides of the Violence in Brooklyn, New York. After losing her sister to gun violence, Coco devoted her life to community safety. She tells us how she prevents and de-escalates a confrontation, and how anyone can handle, or move past, a conflict without feeling like they're ignoring something important about themselves. Plus, we hear Coco’s own surprising story of forgiveness. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/mtaf-podcast-episodes/coco

Today, we talk with Sophie Hannah, author of How to Hold a Grudge, and meditation teacher Matthew Hepburn, for perspective on what triggers our grudges in the first place – and how holding them can actually be good for us.

Saleem tells Dan Harris some of his favorite takeaways from investigating Dread, in this crossover episode with Ten Percent Happier.

One of the most overwhelming things listeners feel dread about is the climate crisis. Eco-therapy is a way to build resilience by tuning in instead of shutting down.

If we’re not careful, we can spend an entire day stuck in an endless loop of dread. But what if we tried carving out some “worry time?”

Today we get some surprisingly joyful insights about coping with the dread of death – whether we’re concerned about our own mortality or losing those we love.

Yesterday we journaled about our dread. Today we’re going to see what happens when we express the overwhelming feeling of dread without words.

Dread can feel so heavy, most of the time we don’t even want to talk about it. But what if we tried to express our dread in a different way?

Inspired by an intriguing listener email, Season 2 kicks off with an investigation into feelings of dread. It turns out it’s a dread-pocalypse out there, and we could all use some joyful relief.

Today, we’re sharing an episode from Other Men Need Help, an award-winning podcast hosted by our own More Than A Feeling senior producer Mark Pagán. This show playfully looks at how men present themselves to the world and what’s underneath.  In this episode, I Miss You. Period, Mark investigates three little words that have him tongue-tied around his friends. He turns to long-term and long distance BFFs Darnell and Dimetrius to puzzle out his fear of a certain phrase (and calls on perspectives from a chorus of other men), to find out what's made their friendship work for fifteen years. Find Other Men Need Help wherever you listen to podcasts. And at othermenneedhelp.com . Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is the producer. Cierra Franco and Shaneez Tyndall are associate producers. Rebecca Seidel is the lead engineer. Ben Goldberg is the lead editor. Original music by Fulton Street Music Group with additional music from Blue Dot Sessions. *More Than A Feeling Listener Survey!* A new season of More Than A Feeling is on its way. Help us make the best show we can for you by taking this short survey at bit.ly/morethanafeelingsurvey. Follow More Than A Feeling on Twitter at @podfeelings, and tell us your questions and stories about the emotions you’re grappling with by sending a voice memo to: morethanafeeling@tenpercent.com. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We hear a lot about “vibe” these days: Vibe check, a shift in the vibe, catching a vibe, don't kill the vibe. With the help of scholars and researchers, DJs, and musicians, we’ll define this feeling and put our findings to the test and see the power of experiencing “distributed emotion” through music.

This week, we investigate something that’s long been accepted as a fact about emotions without being put to a scientific test: the stereotype that women are more emotional than men.

When was the last time you allowed yourself a really good, joyful shriek? If that’s not the easiest thing to answer, what about the last time you experienced blissful joy? In this episode, we look at the emotional wallop that comes from true fandom

That banger of a theme song you hear each week on More Than A Feeling was made by El Michels Affair. In this episode Saleem talks with singer Piya Malik and musician, songwriter, and leader of El Michels, Leon Michels, about how they work to evoke emotions in their music.

We cannot do a show about emotions without an episode on jealousy: it brings the drama! In this episode, we talk with social psychologists Keelah Williams and Jaimie Arona Krems about how jealousy may not always be such a bad thing. Then we connect with historian Niamh Cullen to hear how Italians dealt with an epidemic of jealousy in the 1950s and 60’s

It can be quite rare to find yourself in a place where you feel totally accepted. In this episode, producer Reva Goldberg takes us to a truly unique beauty salon: it’s the ultimate safe space for its customers, many of whom are in their 80s and 90s.

Everyone’s afraid of something. But how often do we talk openly about our biggest fears with friends or even complete strangers? In this episode, producer Mark Pagán opens up to Saleem about something that’s been freaking him out for years, so much so that it's seriously affected his day-to-day life. But as Mark seeks out solutions for facing his fear, he finds out this troubling emotion may be more useful to him than he expected. Just a heads-up: This episode contains discussions and scenes about riding the NYC subway, a topic that may be sensitive for some listeners. We think the tactics that Mark explores in working and acknowledging his fear can be helpful to anyone who realizes they’re dealing with a fearful situation. Featured in this episode are Dr. Luana Marques and Captain Tom Bunn. Wanna learn more about embracing your own fear? Our companion meditation app, Ten Percent Happier, has an excellent meditation course called Taming Anxiety, featuring Dr. Luana Marques. As a More Than A Feeling listener, you can try the course and the app for free for thirty days. To try it for free, visit tenpercent.com/more. Follow us on Twitter at @podfeelings, and if you’ve got a question or story about an emotion you’re grappling with, send us a voice memo at morethanafeeling@tenpercent.com. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/mtaf-podcast-episodes/fear See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Before we dive deep into stories about fear, acceptance, jealousy, joy, shame and other big feelings, we have to get philosophical and ask: what are emotions anyway?

Most of us have gotten at least a little emotional at some point recently. It’s natural. But why do we have emotions and how much should we pay attention to them on any given day? Can we learn to skillfully choose which emotions to listen to and which ones to just let move on by? In More Than A Feeling, the latest podcast from Ten Percent Happier, host Saleem Reshamwala goes on a real life quest to find the answers to these questions. He’ll experiment with neuroscientists, dive into stories with historians and philosophers, and document how musicians, therapists, hairdressers and airplane pilots work with emotions. Saleem sifts through the human condition to find stories and insights that will help us define our most fundamental relationships: our relationship to our own emotions, and to each other’s.  Listen to More Than A Feeling wherever you get your podcasts, starting April 19, and follow us on Twitter at @podfeelings. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.