Your eyes can only see and our ears can only hear what our brain is looking for. --Dan Sullivan
Embrace your faith. That's where we find hope.
What would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail and if God was counting on you to fulfill your boon?
List your fears. What five things will you look at differently?
What five things will you stop looking for?
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Without pain there would be no suffering. Without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life. -Angelina Jolie
Learn the difference between acute pain and chronic pain.
Steps to overcome pain.
"Up until now" how have you undermined your pain?
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Time is the most valuable coin in your life. You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do not let other people spend it for you. --Carl Sandberg.
How can you automate decisions in your life so you don't suffer from DECISION FATIGUE. Moms have to make millions of decisions every day. There are ways to reduce the stress of having to make decisions. Start by automating routing things.
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What takes up space in your thoughts can control your life.
What can you add and/or eliminate from your life to help you find peace?
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Deadlines define the mind. They remove variables like exotic materials and processes that take too long> The closer the deadline, the more likely you'll start thinking way outside the box. -- Adam Savage
How do you FOCUS when your thoughts keep hacking your day? When you keep worrying that something terrible is going to happen to your loved one?
Build a list of boundaries and deadlines for your loved one. Then choose a deadline for accomplishing your BOON.
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When Moms recover, they become HOPE BUILDERS for others.
You find what you're looking for. Where are searching for HOPE?
Where do you find HOPE?
Find a HOPE HERO to study for inspiration and dedication to achieving your boon.
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When you envision HOPE what do you see?
Who inspires you?
What part of your HOPE outcome can you control?
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The obstacles of your past can become the gateways to lead to new beginnings. --Ralph Blum
If you want to arrive at a new destination do you put the address in your navigation to get there?
I do.
Without a roadmap to where you're going you might be clueless on how to get there.
What steps do you need to take to get to where you want to go now? What baby steps do you have to take?
If you let your past motivate you to begin something new, and set your steps in writing, you are more apt to arrive at this new destination.
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Failure and setbacks are ingredients for a great success story. My setback was a blessing! I survived what was meant to destroy me. I came back like a boss--fabulous, wiser, and stronger than ever. --A Recovering Addict
When we slouch we appear weak, fragile, unconfident, and sometimes hopeless. When we stand tall, our core is stronger, we appear purposeful and confident. When our loved ones see that our posture has changed, that we are stronger, they seek to find what we have. They see that we have changed.
The cycle stops when we go after our purpose, what God has called us to do.
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Imperfect action is better than perfect inaction. - Harry Truman
Often we don't see the progress of our efforts until we look back.
What baby steps have you taken to change, to recover from the chaos, to stop over-functioning for your loved one?
List those so you can see your efforts more clearly. Noticing your progress will keep you going.
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Before others can value us, we must value ourselves.
If you're taking responsibility for something your adult child has done, you could be falling in a trap. The GUILT TRAP. This trap will hack your energy and steal your time. You'l spend wasted hours worrying that your son or daughter's problem are your fault. We can't go back to change things, but we can go forward, reflect on the past, and change the future.
What are your gifts? What are you good at? Make a list. Ask family and friends.
Think about your child's substance use disorder. Do you have guilt about contributing to your child's trauma or your child's substance abuse?
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The questions on this day will help you make yourself a priority.
You must choose RECOVERY for yourself, even if your loved one can't.
What will you do? How will you promise to change and who will be your accountability partner?
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Lost time is never found again. -Benjamin Franklin
1. Pretend that your loved one is well again. In recovery. You receive a letter from him or her. Write what you want the letter to say. Hope for that. See this letter happening. Maybe your letter would say something like this:
Dear Mom,
Thank you for never giving up on me. I'm sorry for what I put you through when I was in active addiction. I said things I didn't mean. I did things I'm ashamed of. I am sorry. I love you forever. Your Son/Daughter
What will your letter say? Write it.
2. Pretend that you're living in your purpose and making your life meaningful by serving others, by bringing value to others using your 'sweet spot' or gifts. What could someone say to you to help you feel like it was all worthwhile? What would your letter say? What if it sounded like this?
Dear (Your Name)
You have changed my life by bringing me hope. You changed the way I used to think about addiction. Now I see my child, the one that I had written off. Together, we're building a better relationship, even though his substance use hasn't completely stop. I know now that if he should die, I will have no regrets.
Thank you, A Mom
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HOW WILL YOU CHANGE?
It's important to know the stages of change, so when our loved ones make comments about their lives, or their using, we can assess where they are in their motivation to change.
If we want to build a better relationship with others, it's important to manage how WE want to change too.
Are you motivated to change for the sake of your loved one? We want them to change, but what about us?
It's time to close the gap between havoc and hope and take charge of what YOU will do to change your reaction to him/her.
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The Unhackable Series - Day 3: Identify Your Enemy
Who is your enemy? Who, or what, is getting in the way of you reaching your dreams, your goals?
Before we can change anything in our lives, we must be aware of what the problems are and where they lay so we can work to change them.
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What is your deepest desire, your greatest ache, your truest longing? Find that.
When we focus on ourselves, and our interests, it helps take our minds off of our loved ones. We can't control what they do, but we can control how we spend our time, what our goals are, and who we serve.
Use your gifts to serve others and you will find a positive distraction that will bring others joy.
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Day One: WRITE YOUR STORY
The greatest burden a child must bear is the unloved life of its parents. --Carl Jung
Is your addicted loved one sucking the life out of you? Are you wandering aimlessly without a healthy plan for yourself?
Start here with us.
We are Moms who have had (and still have) addicted loved ones. Let us bring you 20-25 minutes of hope for 30 days and a plan to recapture your life. Commit to joining us for 30 Days.
We can relate. We are here for you and want you to get well so you can join forces to help STOP the STIGMA and HEAL our children. They are worth our fight.
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This is STEP SEVEN in the book, Moms LEtting Go Without GIving Up, 7 Steps to SElf-REcovery
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"Leading is an honor. Leading from a healed space is how legends are born.
Come learn what's holding you back."
Jodee Gibson, PCC is an emerging expert on healing leadership. As a professional coach and speaker, she has created massive change and generated millions of dollars for her clients including Keller Williams Realty, National Institute of Health, the University of Michigan and the International Coaching Federation. Jodee has built award winning cultures and recently published her first book, Healing Your Map, encompassing developmental trauma.
Her book, Healing Your Map, can be found HERE.
The FIVE questions:
1. Who - Reveals process
2. What - Reveals content
3. When - Time recognition
4. Who - Reveals resources
5. Where - Reveals location
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