In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, delivers one of the most vital messages for any man facing partner betrayal: you are not to blame for what happened, but your healing is your responsibility. Adam unpacks the lie many betrayed men carry, that if they had just been “more,” the betrayal wouldn’t have happened. He exposes that lie for what it is: trauma, not truth. With clarity and compassion, he reframes what it means to take ownership, not of the betrayal, but of the healing...
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In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, delivers one of the most vital messages for any man facing partner betrayal: you are not to blame for what happened, but your healing is your responsibility. Adam unpacks the lie many betrayed men carry, that if they had just been “more,” the betrayal wouldn’t have happened. He exposes that lie for what it is: trauma, not truth. With clarity and compassion, he reframes what it means to take ownership, not of the betrayal, but of the healing...
In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, delivers one of the most vital messages for any man facing partner betrayal: you are not to blame for what happened, but your healing is your responsibility. Adam unpacks the lie many betrayed men carry, that if they had just been “more,” the betrayal wouldn’t have happened. He exposes that lie for what it is: trauma, not truth. With clarity and compassion, he reframes what it means to take ownership, not of the betrayal, but of the healing...
In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in healing after betrayal, boundaries. If you’ve ever been accused of being controlling or harsh when trying to stand up for yourself, or if you’ve avoided setting limits out of fear of conflict, this episode is for you. Adam breaks down the critical difference between a boundary and an ultimatum, teaching men how to protect their emotional safety without falling into reactive or punitive behavio...
You’re ready to fight for the relationship… but what if your partner isn’t? This episode speaks directly to the gut-wrenching experience of being willing to rebuild while your partner stays cold, distant, or indifferent. Adam unpacks the second wave of betrayal that hits when they won’t do the work, and how that pain can feel worse than the affair itself. Learn how to stop chasing effort, release the need for closure, and start focusing on your own healing, even if they’ve checked out. If you...
Gaslighting is more than lying, it’s emotional abuse that distorts your sense of reality. In this powerful episode, Adam breaks down what gaslighting looks like in betrayal situations and why it’s so damaging. If you’ve ever been made to feel like you’re the crazy one, or questioned your own instincts and memories, this episode will help you name what happened. You’ll learn how to rebuild your confidence, trust your gut again, and stop waiting for validation from the person who lied. This is ...
What happens when the person who betrayed you still shares your bed? In this raw and honest episode, Adam tackles the emotional toll of sleeping next to the partner who shattered your trust. From feeling unsafe in your own body to navigating the pressure of pretending everything’s fine, this episode gives language to one of the most disorienting experiences post-betrayal. You’ll learn why space is not punishment, its protection, and why you’re allowed to reclaim your peace, your sleep, and yo...
Men heal better in the presence of other men. In this episode, Adam shares why brotherhood, true, vulnerable connection with other men, is one of the most powerful antidotes to betrayal trauma. This is not about locker-room talk or superficial friendships. It’s about being seen, understood, and supported in your pain. Adam breaks down how isolation delays healing, how being witnessed shifts your nervous system, and how showing up for other men helps you show up for yourself. If you’ve been tr...
What do you do when your mind won’t stop spinning about them, the person your partner cheated with? In this episode, Adam dives into the torment of obsessive thoughts about “the other person.” Whether you’re comparing yourself, fantasizing about revenge, or trying to understand why it happened, these mental loops only deepen the wound. This episode will help you take back control of your focus, shift from obsession to healing, and reclaim your emotional power. Because healing doesn’t come fro...
What if you still want your partner back after they betrayed you? Does that make you weak, or just human? In this episode, Adam takes on one of the hardest and most shame-filled truths men carry after infidelity: the desire to stay. He unpacks the emotional chaos that follows betrayal, the trauma bond, the fear of being alone, the ambivalence, the craving for what once was. With clarity and compassion, Adam helps you distinguish between true love and attachment driven by fear or routine. He e...
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just break your heart, it breaks the mirror you see yourself through. In this raw and powerful episode, Adam dives deep into the identity collapse and loss of self-worth that men experience after betrayal. You might find yourself asking, Was I not enough? or Was I just disposable?, but these questions are born from trauma, not truth. Adam walks you through how betrayal distorts your self-image, fuels self-blame, and leaves you questioning your value as a m...
This episode gets personal and physical, literally. Partner betrayal doesn’t just mess with your mind, it lodges in your nervous system. Adam breaks down how trauma shows up in your body: sleeplessness, chest tightness, gut issues, rage, numbness, and more. If you’ve felt like your body is in chaos or shutting down, this episode will help you understand why. Learn how to reconnect with your body, use grounding tools, and begin releasing the trauma that’s been locked in your system since the m...
Most men don’t even know what they’re experiencing has a name. In this episode, Adam introduces the concept of Masculine Betrayal Trauma (MBT), a unique form of trauma that affects men deeply when they are betrayed by their partner. Learn how MBT differs from other forms of trauma, why it gets misdiagnosed, and how it can impact everything from your identity and emotions to your work performance and parenting. This episode lays the foundation for understanding and healing your betrayal experi...
The first three months after discovering infidelity can feel like hell. This episode is your survival guide for the chaos, confusion, and emotional freefall that follow betrayal. Adam outlines what to expect, panic, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, and what not to do in those early days. From setting boundaries and finding real support to avoiding toxic forums and knee-jerk decisions, this episode is packed with actionable guidance. If you’re in the early storm of partner betrayal, this will h...
When your partner cheats, it doesn’t just feel like rejection, it feels like a failure of manhood. This episode takes you deep into the identity collapse many men experience after partner betrayal. Adam unpacks how traditional definitions of masculinity, protector, provider, leader, get shaken to the core, leaving many men questioning who they are. But within that collapse is an opportunity: to redefine what it means to be a man, to build a new identity based on emotional honesty, grounded se...
Men get cheated on too, but most don’t talk about it. In this episode, Adam explores the deep-rooted cultural silence around male emotional pain and how that silence leads to shame, isolation, and unresolved trauma. From childhood conditioning to societal expectations of masculinity, this episode examines the real reasons men stay quiet, and the real cost of that silence. Adam invites you to break the cycle and claim your voice, not just for yourself, but for every man who needs to know he’s ...
You say you’re fine. But you’re barely sleeping. Barely eating. Barely holding it together. This episode is for the man performing strength on the outside while falling apart inside. Adam Nisenson, LMFT and The Betrayal Shrink, calls out the silent suffering that so many betrayed men live with, and gives you full permission to drop the mask. “Pretending you’re fine might protect your ego, but it doesn’t heal your trauma.” In this no-fluff, straight-to-the-heart episode, you’ll hear: Why prete...
When partner betrayal hits, it doesn’t just break your heart, it crushes your ego. This episode explores how infidelity shatters a man’s self-image, confidence, and sense of identity. Adam challenges outdated beliefs around strength, masculinity, and asking for help, and shows you how ego defenses like numbing, overcompensating, or trying to "win your partner back" can keep you stuck. Learn how to work with, not against your ego and begin rebuilding a healthy sense of masculine self-worth roo...
Think you’re losing your mind after betrayal? You’re not. You’re dealing with trauma. In this episode, Adam breaks down how betrayal trauma hijacks your nervous system, distorts your thoughts, and overwhelms your emotions. From PTSD symptoms to racing thoughts, numbness, and hyper-vigilance, this episode gives you language for what you’re experiencing and reminds you that your pain is valid. You’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re in survival mode. And it’s time to start healing from the i...
You never forget the moment you discover your partner’s betrayal. It’s called D-Day for a reason, because it feels like everything explodes. In this powerful episode, Adam walks you through what happens in the first few hours and days after partner betrayal. From shock and trauma responses to the overwhelming urge to get answers, he provides guidance on how to survive the emotional earthquake without making life-altering decisions you might regret. If you’re still in the fog, this episode wil...
Welcome to our first episode, where Adam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, The Betrayal Shrink, opens the door to an often-ignored conversation, what it’s like to be a man who’s been cheated on. With raw honesty and clinical insight, Adam shares his personal story of betrayal and explains why partner infidelity hits men differently. This episode dismantles the myth that men don’t feel deeply or don’t suffer from emotional trauma. It’s not about blame, it’s about truth, healing, and breaking the silence. ...
In this episode, Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, delivers one of the most vital messages for any man facing partner betrayal: you are not to blame for what happened, but your healing is your responsibility. Adam unpacks the lie many betrayed men carry, that if they had just been “more,” the betrayal wouldn’t have happened. He exposes that lie for what it is: trauma, not truth. With clarity and compassion, he reframes what it means to take ownership, not of the betrayal, but of the healing...
