Miracles in the mess, overcoming the fear of others’ opinions, and trusting that God’s work cannot be frustrated—Host Maurice Harker shows how to begin with the end in mind, let go of perfectionism, and move forward even when life feels chaotic. You’ll hear real stories, courage cues (think Daniel & Esther), and practical framing to trade shame for purpose and act with faith today.
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Intrusive thoughts, DPAR cycle and NINI-FIFI replacement cards—learn to flip lies fast, act with courage, and review-revise-recommit. Host Maurice Harker maps fear and overthinking into a simple battle plan: notice it, name it, flip it with truth on a 3×5 card, then act. You’ll also get “caddy-style” teammate tips, scrum-style block clearing, and drills to make fast, values-aligned decisions in real life.
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DPAR cycle and intrusive thought replacement—learn how to beat the fear of getting it wrong, stop overthinking, and build a fast, repeatable feedback loop for self-mastery. Host Maurice Harker shows how to review-revise-recommit, use caddy-style support (how to listen like a great teammate), and turn 3×5 cards into on-the-spot counterattacks during real “spiritual warfare.” You’ll leave with a battle-tested structure to observe, plan, decide, and act—then reflect and improve quickly.
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Healthy disentanglement, lay down “weapons of war,” and personal iron rod—Host Maurice Harker shows how to stop over-relying on a partner for needs, end weaponized words, and anchor yourself in Christ-centered self-mastery. Learn practical tools: replacement thoughts for intrusive thinking, values-aligned boundaries without ultimatums, and a simple reflect-plan-act rhythm you can repeat daily. Subscribe for weekly tools, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find the show.
Personal iron rod, spiritual motivation, and self-mastery—learn how to stop drifting and create a customized anchor that holds. Host Maurice Harker shares practical ways to turn quotes and principles into daily reminders, use the DAR/DPAR reflection cycle, and practice habits until they become muscle memory. You’ll hear real-life strategies (3×5 cards, highlight-and-breakdown method, memorize-by-heart apps, audio replays), plus how to recover after “I’ve ruined everything” moments with a fresh start mindset.
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Warrior chemistry, the DPAR cycle, and team-based planning help parents and young adults rebuild motivation, self-mastery, and values-aligned goals. Host Maurice Harker explains why there’s no “once-and-done root cause,” how to beat isolation with simple reminder systems, and how to practice new habits until they become muscle memory. You’ll learn reflection prompts, a conversation script for sharing thoughts with a spouse, and ways to recover faster after a “lost battle.”
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Struggling with motivation and purpose? Learn how warrior chemistry helps you fight back against negative thoughts, reclaim your identity, and align goals with your true mission. In this episode, Maurice Harker explains practical tools to overcome isolation, beat forgetfulness, and stay focused on becoming your best self.
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After betrayal, even everyday moments can feel dangerous to your wife. Learn how to help her feel safe—even when her world feels like it’s falling apart.
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Why does your wife flinch when you glance at someone else—even casually? Why does every woman, every billboard, every walk outside feel like a minefield? In this powerful episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker unpacks the torment your wife may be living with—even long after the betrayal was disclosed—and gives you actionable steps to rebuild emotional safety without becoming defensive.
You’ll learn:
Why your wife sees the world as unsafe
What not to do when she’s triggered
Why explanations often backfire
How to use public anxiety as a moment of connection
How to spiritually prepare to protect her from the unseen battles she faces
🎧 If you want to stop feeling stuck and start becoming the protector your wife needs—this episode is for you.
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Why does your wife feel unsafe—even around strangers? In this episode, we unpack how betrayal trauma rewires her world, and what you can do to help.
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After betrayal, many women begin to feel like every woman is a threat, every glance is dangerous, and the entire world is unsafe. In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker and guests share why even innocent actions—like looking at a passerby—can feel devastating to your spouse, and how shame-free transparency and emotional awareness can rebuild safety.
Learn:
Why your wife sees every woman as competition
How trauma turns daily life into a war zone
What not to do when your wife is triggered
How to use public moments to turn toward, not away
Why emotional presence matters more than perfection
🎧 If you want to help her heal, even when you feel misunderstood—this episode is your roadmap.
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Struggling to understand your wife? In this episode, we break the myth that “women are just confusing” and show how real connection begins with curiosity.
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Have you ever joked that women are just impossible to understand—only to find yourself stuck, frustrated, and disconnected? In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker challenges that mindset with powerful insight: what if your wife isn’t incomprehensible… just undiscovered?
We explore:
Why mocking the complexity of women is a defense against growth
How to respect the unknown and learn to see more deeply
The damage of trying to mold your wife into something she’s not
Why spiritual discovery leads to emotional intimacy
How understanding her true “substance” unlocks partnership and purpose
🧠 If you’re ready to stop surviving marriage and start building something miraculous—this episode is for you.
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Why can’t she trust you—even now? Discover how invalidation, betrayal trauma, and dismissive advice from leaders deepen the wounds. Listen and learn how to do better.
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If you've ever thought, “Why can’t she just get over it?”—this episode is for you. Maurice Harker reveals the damaging impact of invalidation from spouses, church leaders, and even therapists who don't understand betrayal trauma. When your wife says she doesn't feel safe, it’s not about a single moment—it’s about the cumulative trauma of being ignored, dismissed, or gaslit for years.
You’ll learn:
The real difference between big-T and little-t trauma
How “normalizing” porn or betrayal creates emotional devastation
Why some professionals accidentally do more harm than good
How to finally stop dismissing her pain—and start healing the right way
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Why can’t she trust me, even after disclosure? Learn how betrayal trauma, unsafe responses from others, and lack of purpose delay healing. Listen now.
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Even after the truth comes out, trust doesn’t come back right away. Why? Because the damage runs deeper than the behavior—it shatters her trust in herself and in anyone she turns to for help. In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker breaks down the ripple effects of betrayal trauma and explains why being a man with a clear purpose is more powerful than just “trying to be better.”
You’ll also discover how friends, family, church leaders, and even counselors often make things worse—and what true emotional safety looks like from her side.
🎧 Topics covered:
Why betrayal trauma creates double damage
What “purpose” really looks like in recovery
How others unintentionally deepen her isolation
The myth of “she just needs to get over it”
What to do instead of defending yourself
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Still not earning trust after stopping the behavior? This episode breaks down why recovery isn’t just sobriety—and how to lead with daily spiritual purpose.
Maurice Harker challenges the myth that "not messing up" is enough. Real recovery isn’t about avoiding mistakes—it’s about living with purpose, reflection, and direction. This episode unpacks how daily DPAR (Reflect, Discover, Plan, Act) becomes a spiritual discipline, how it reclaims trust over time, and why your wife needs to see more than just “trying.”
🎧 In this episode:
The difference between sobriety and recovery
How to stop drifting into “stupid land”
Why spiritual leaders must reflect daily
Why your wife still doesn’t feel safe (yet)
Using DPAR to regain focus and purpose
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Still reacting poorly in emotional moments? Learn how real spiritual prep, practice, and DPARs help you stop repeating mistakes and start leading with strength.
In this episode, Maurice Harker reveals the hidden reason many men fail to connect emotionally with their wives—even when their hearts are in the right place. It’s not because you don’t care. It’s because you haven’t practiced correctly. Learn how to turn mistakes into growth using the DPAR process, and why defensiveness, emotional resets, and spiritual playbooks matter in rebuilding trust.
🎧 Inside:
Why good intentions fall flat without emotional prep
How to reframe mistakes into slow-motion spiritual training
Why explaining yourself is still self-protection
What to do when she misreads your actions
How to lead through emotional intimacy—even when she’s not ready
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Still reacting poorly during tough moments? This episode shows how spiritual film review and practice build the emotional and verbal muscle memory you need to improve.
Maurice Harker walks you through why you keep failing in the moments that matter—and how to build the habits, structure, and pre-rehearsal needed to finally show up as your best self. From spiritual “film review” with God to real-life emotional drills, you'll learn why practice makes peace, and how true growth never happens by accident.
🎧 In this episode:
Why your emotional reactions aren’t improving
How “film review with God” sharpens spiritual vision
What it takes to turn new insights into second nature
Why “just doing better next time” is never a real plan
How golf, conversation, and marriage repair all require repetition
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Do you get defensive when your wife shares past pain? Learn how to protect her heart, build emotional intimacy, and lead with courage instead of fear.
In this episode, Maurice Harker dives into one of the deepest spiritual challenges in marriage repair: learning to listen with charity instead of defensiveness. You'll discover the mindset required to create emotional safety, how to practice in-person DPARs, and how to reawaken the natural instinct to protect—even when it’s hard to hear the truth.
🎧 You'll learn:
How defensiveness sabotages emotional intimacy
Why protecting your spouse must outweigh protecting your ego
What it means to “take one for the team” during hard conversations
How to use the Foursquare Listening Tool for clarity and focus
The power of verbal in-person DPARs in building trust
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Struggle to talk about the past without it turning into pain or panic? This episode teaches how to build emotional intimacy without fear or emotional collapse.
Maurice Harker walks you through one of the most important and most difficult relationship skills: talking about the past without destroying progress. With tools like the Foursquare Listening Method, emotional safety prep, and step-by-step intimacy layering, you’ll learn to lead uncomfortable conversations without causing harm—to yourself or your spouse.
🎧 In this episode:
What emotional intimacy really looks like
How to safely begin sharing about the past
How to prepare spiritually (and stay grounded if it gets messy)
Why trusting yourself and God matters more than trusting your spouse
How to lead conversations even if she isn’t ready yet
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Struggling to fix your marriage conversations? This episode shows why success starts with practice, spiritual courage, and learning to lead with warmth.
Maurice breaks down the real reason many men continue to fail in key relationship moments—not because they don’t care, but because they haven’t practiced the right kind of courage. With golf as the metaphor and marriage as the mission, you’ll learn how to:
Reflect, discover, plan, and act through the DAR process
Build daily momentum with verbal intimacy
Lead without fear, even when results are uncertain
Drop perfectionism and embrace intentional practice
Recognize when you're in Season 4 (self-work) vs. Season 1 (marriage rebuild)
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Struggle to say the right thing in emotional moments? In this episode, learn how to approach conversations with clarity, spiritual preparation, and recovery tools.
Maurice and a guest draw powerful parallels between golf and marriage repair—exploring how planning, reflection, and mindset shape the outcomes of our interactions. You’ll learn how to:
Stay calm and focused after emotional missteps
Reflect clearly without self-shaming
Discover better approaches before acting
Commit with confidence, even when uncertain
Recover from setbacks and re-center spiritually
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Do you feel like miracles are for other people—but not you? This episode teaches you how to reconnect with personal revelation, build spiritual momentum, and create a custom planning system that brings impossible dreams within reach.
Maurice Harker shares how to:
Invite others into your spiritual process without shame
Write your way into personal miracles through the DPAR method
Let go of "shoulds" and "supposed to’s" and trust the Spirit's guidance
Create uplifting sharing partnerships that accelerate your growth
Develop faith that you can be part of the miracles you've only heard about
🎧 Listen now to begin your journey from doubt to divine purpose.
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