In this episode, I discuss the idea of building a legacy. I share how over the past year and a half, through my podcast, social media, and networking, I have been building mine. My mission has been to help other single people like me find more joy. Through my transparency, I hope to help others feel understood and less alone. It takes bravery to be real on this podcast, in photos, etc. I hope I’m known for that too. I challenge you to think about what it is you want to be kn...

Since I recognize that the holidays are often busy, stressful, and not so holly jolly, I want to remind you of some of the things we singles should be grateful for and also give you all some ideas to bring a bit more joy to your Christmas season. We can plan time away without permission or agreement (within reason)We can decorate as little or as much and in any fashion we want.We don't have to share the goodies and gifts we receive.We can get a little extra fluffy (or unshaved) and no one k...

'Tis the Damn Season... You can call me babe for the weekend." ~ Taylor Swift Cuffing season as defined by Merriam Webster: "Refers to a period of time where single people begin looking for short term partnerships to pass the colder months of the year.' Cuffing season begins in October and lasts until just after Valentine's Day. Paraphrasing a recent article from Today.com says that cuffing season is a seasonal phenomenon of single people ramping up their efforts to enter into relatio...

In this episode, I talk about navigating difficult conversations in our dating lives... When and how do we come clean about challenges (past or present) in our lives? Some of the topics I explore: Marital infidelityFinancial/debt issuesHealth concerns, including addiction or previous battles with addictionDifficult Relationships with exes or childrenI share stories from listeners and friends, as well as a couple of my own. I also give advice, for what it's worth. :) Support the show

In this episode, I explore all of the ways I could see my life play out as a single woman. I've done a lot of day dreaming and soul searching after divorce. One of the things I like to think about is what I could do if I grow old alone, but not lonely. Ideas of how I could spend my golden years single: Be a real life golden girl - live somewhere fantastic with widowed or divorced friendsBuild a carriage house adjacent to my married friends big house at the beachLive in a resort type setting ...

Our pets impact our dating lives in countless ways. To begin, I share a tragic story of how I adopted a black lab puppy on a whim from a not-so reputable animal shelter in Kansas City years ago. My dad, logically and lovingly asked if I had thought this decision through. I was a young single mom of a 5 year old. Was it really a good idea to add a rambunctious large dog into the mix. He warned me that some men would not want to take all of that on. I answered with... "So be it. Lo...

This episode is about all things happy and healthy that we should be looking for out in the dating world. The format for this episode is progressive... Green flags to spot when someone is into us when we first meet, when we're planning a first date, and while dating or in a relationship. I share personal stories along the way, per usual. Some Green Flags when we first meet someone Displaying genuine interest in youNatural, fun banterPositive gut feelings/excitement to hear from themResponsive...

This episode is all about red flags - how to spot them and how to respond to them. I share my own stories of red flags from my past as well as from my current dating life. To begin, I talk about little pink flags- early flags that have popped up when I've just been texting or getting to know someone before a first date. A guy that I got to know early in 2020 is a great example. Some of the flags that bothered me: Texting too frequentlySharing every detail of daily lifeTalking too much about t...

In this episode, I use songs from Lanie's country music playlist to describe how I hope to be thought of felt about by someone who loves me. I hope this musical discussion elicits thoughts in your own mind of what it is exactly you are looking for and how you hope to be treated. The first song I dissect is She's Everything by Brad Paisley. A few talking points are: It's nice to be appreciated for what we look like in our natural state. It's exhausting putting our best f...

In this episode, I talk about how we (single people) are often easy targets for married people to hit on, hit up on social media, to proposition or entangle in an affair. I begin by sharing my own personal examples of being hit on by married men. I talk about my reaction to being hit on and how I handled those situations. Many years ago after my first divorce, I first created my Facebook account. I was immediately contacted by a guy I had grown up with. He was married but asked me to ke...

In this episode, I talk about that undeniable pull that some individuals have. I share some stories from my youth, recent experiences, and a story of one of my girlfriends. I have a theory some people are just born with game. To drive this point home, I share stories of a kid I knew in elementary school and a boy I nannied while I was in college. These boys had the it-factor and it was undeniable as early as fourth grade. They were confident, but not arrogant. "Game" is almost never use...

In this episode, I share my thoughts on the Hot Crazy Matrix. I talk about how appearance, mental stability and emotional availability affect our search for a compatible partner. To begin, I think the terms hot, crazy, and emotionally unavailable are incredibly subjective. My idea of a HOT man, vastly differs from friend's opinions. I share a recent example. For the most part, I believe that what is "hot" to you, may not be "hot" to me. BUT, I also think there are some universally undeniably ...

My name is Stacie and I am an agist. I have never been interested in dating anyone more than a few years older or younger than me. My friend, Tonya, though... Well, she's quite different. We begin by chatting about our friendship when I was newly divorced from Lanie's dad and she was single, as well. We, along with another friend, called ourselves the Neapolitan Sundae. We three friends were different in many ways and our preferences when it came to men were different too. Tonya n...

Are you REALLY Happy being alone ( like I am)? If so, maybe you have some of the same struggles I have... I'm guarded and I'm getting VERY particular about who I share my heart and time with. Can you relate? In this episode, I'm going to share with you some examples of how I'm feeling SINGLE AF. At the end, I'm going to share a story from my stepdad Barry about his thoughts about navigating life alone or in a marriage. This past winter I hibernated. After months of launching this podcast an...

This inspiration for this podcast actually came from a Mass I attended. During the Mass, the priest said that if Moses were alive today he would be considered an "influencer". He went on to tell the parishioners that we could all be influencers for good in the lives of those around us, not just on social media. In this podcast, I explore how posts on social media affect us. I discuss my own presence on social media. Lastly, I talk about how we can all be influencers f...

The phrase "Emotionally Slutty" is from a Sex and the City episode... Carrie Bradshaw says, "I revealed too much too soon. I was emotionally slutty." In this episode, I talk about the habit some of us are in of giving it up too early... You know, sharing intimate details of our lives with people we don't know very well. I share with you why I think it is both a blessing and a curse that I wear my heart on my sleeve. I also tell a story of how this played out on a date I went on one time. Las...

I'm back! I'm on a journey of self- discovery right along with you! I'm 44 years old now and my daughter turns 17 at the end of the month. We've been on our own for about 3 years now. This skill of learning to write in pencil is something I've been working on for awhile. In this episode, I'm going to share some examples of how despite trying to write my own life's story with a sharpie, life has thrown curveballs time an time again to remind me I should be writing in pencil. I'm also going to ...

This episode is all about a fact of life... rejection. To begin, I discuss how the end of a significant relationship or marriage can feel like the ultimate rejection. Sometimes these relationships end due to infidelity, growing apart, or choosing a vice over the relationship. I dive into how I experienced rejection throughout my two divorces. Rejection can also be less significant yet it still stings. Examples of this type of rejection are when we flirt in person or online...

This episode is all about Catfishing on online dating sites. In this episode, I discuss the Tinder Swindler, a popular Netflix documentary about a man who conned several women out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. He called himself Simon Liviev and claimed to be the heir to the "king of diamonds". After matching with a woman on Tinder, he would portray himself to be wealthy, intelligent, charming, and adoring. Initially, he would wine and dine his targets. He spe...

I'm often asked if I'm scared to grow old and die alone? My answer is always "NO!". A huge source of my peacefulness and optimism for my future is my faith. This is an inclusive podcast, so if you believe in any higher power, I hope it resonates with you too. I believe in love. I believe that God has chosen a compatible match for me. I am patient. I will not settle for a relationship that is not a good match. That wouldn't be fair for either of us. In this episode,...