You've seen the horrific stories about a man charged with child sexual offences at a daycare in Melbourne over the last week. For parents it's been a heart-wrenching time to drop your child off, and for male educators, it's been a week of tension and mistrust as victim-survivor groups call for a blanket ban on men in childcare. Today, we talk to those at the forefront of this complex and heated issue to help you understand it all. Plus why it's so hard to grieve a best friend, how to get strangers to cooperate on a jury and the science of being cool.