White womanhood has never been just victimhood—it has been both the mask and machinery of patriarchy. From suffragettes to the Women of the KKK, all the way to Erica Kirk, innocence has been wielded as a weapon, sustaining the very systems it claims to resist. In this episode, I trace that through-line and invite you to wrestle with the complexity: What does it mean to be both victim and perpetrator? What does it mean when liberation asks us to free not only women, but men too, from the pyramid of domination?
This conversation is about dismantling binaries, naming complicity without shame, and imagining matriarchy not as patriarchy in pink, but as circular power-with rooted in community and care.
🔑 Key themes:
White womanhood as patriarchy in pink
Innocence as complicity, not neutrality
Men’s liberation and the possibility of matriarchy
🎧 Tune in, breathe deep, and let’s step out of innocence, out of control, and into liberation.
Join Desireé B Stephens and Dr. Kimberly Douglass as they dive into the complexities of balancing progressive values within the constraints of a carceral education system. Together, they explore the challenges faced by educators and parents, share personal experiences with homeschooling neurodiverse children, and advocate for a more personalized, creative approach to learning. From shifting focus beyond basic skills to constructing a life for children, to dismantling systemic structures, this episode offers a transformative look at education. They also discuss intergenerational trauma, redefine success, and envision a more equitable world beyond capitalism. Tune in for insightful strategies and a call to action for reshaping the future of education and parenting.
In this episode, Dr. Kimberly Douglass and Desireé B Stephens discuss the economic and accounting lens of colonization and its ongoing impact. They explore the following critical points:
- The economic implications of modern technology and complicity in exploitation
- Generational wealth derived from historical slavery and its effect on equity
- The re-creation of slavery in the prison system and lack of retirement benefits
- The need for decolonization and dismantling oppressive business structures
- The impact of colonization and slavery on communities and cultural identity
Join Desireé B Stephens and Dr. Kimberly Douglass as they delve into a critical discussion on the decolonization of neuro and the multilayered impact of systemic inequities. Witness a thought-provoking discourse that examines the historical and contemporary implications of societal and governmental structures.
- The episode uncovers the erasure of family lines through tragic historical events and its repercussions on property ownership and land claims.
- Dr. Douglass elaborates on the dynamics of power, the necessity of property protection through legal means, and the troubles arising from eminent domain.
- A deep dive into the acceptance of oppression within communities, the irony of American exceptionalism, and the influence of colonization on current societal conflicts.
- Exploring the problematic narrative of history, questioning educational distortions, and the call for genuine activism over passive allyship.
- The hosts engage in a revealing conversation on the exploitation of marginalized communities by state systems, the importance of accurate record-keeping for reparations, and the urgent need for interdisciplinary approaches to dismantle systemic racism.
Join Desireé B Stephens and Chaneé Jackson Kendall in their raw and enlightening first episode of "Me and Chanee." Dive into a candid discussion about non-monogamy, decolonizing relationships, and the nuanced spectrum of love and sexuality. - Chaneé Jackson Kendall shares her journey into non-monogamy and her mission to advocate for its normalcy in black communities. - Unpacking the distinctions between polyamory and polygamy, the episode highlights the importance of multiple connections and autonomy within relationships. - Desireé B Stephens and Chaneé emphasize the need for intentional polyamory and its role in challenging societal norms and decolonizing relationships. - Listen as Chaneé discusses her non-traditional family dynamics and Desireé touches on the influence of colonial standards on individual and familial structures. - The duo calls for an exploration into decolonizing parenting, the interconnectedness of societal systems and relationships, and the liberation of personal and shared pathways.
Safi and I are discuccing actual activism and how to begin your journey in activism and more importantly, what it takes to stay and support for the long haul
Here is the article to support this podcast https://desireebstephens.substack.com/p/so-you-want-to-get-active?
EVERY MONDAY DEEDEE WEDNESDAY LPC-S AND I GO LIVE TO DISCUSS THE IMPACT OF COLONIZATION ON OUR RELATIONSHIP STYLES. HAVE YOU EVER QUESTIONED IF YOU WANTED TO BE MONOGAMOUS? OR WHY THE NUCLEAR FAMILY IS THE SUPERIOR FAMILY STRUCTURE?
WHERE DID YOUR IDEALS AND VALUES COME FROM?
JOIN US AS WE DECONSTRUCT ALL AVENUES OF LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS.
I AM DESIREE B STEPHENS AND I PATHOLOGIZE WHITENESS AS A SYSTEM. FOLLOW ALONG ON THE JOURNEY TO LIBERATION AS WE DISMANTLE THE SYSTEMS THAT KEEP US ALL OPPRESSED AND LET'S MAKE SHI(F)T HAPPEN.
NEW AGREEMENTS, NEW SYSTEMS, NEW CONNECTIONS
I was blessed to have a candid discussion with Tony Nabors of Racial Equity Insights last night live on Tiktok. He wanted to know more about me, my style of speaking, and how I began this work of anti-oppression and liberation. Have a listen and tell me what you think.
#desireebstephens #makeshifthappen #letshavetheconversation #diversityequityandinclusion
Whew, this month of June in 2022 has been a BINGO card of systemic whiteness and its sheer nonsense. I always enjoy speaking with Rebbeca and Portia. The title speaks for itself. We are not seeking your voice to drown out ours. We need you to sit, pause and do the work of healing. THATS IT!
#DEI #desireebstephens #whitewomanwhiperer #portianoir
This episode is choppy and raw but that seems to fit the bill considering the topic and the happenings surrounding this recording. Please listen as myself Portia and Rebecca the White Woman Whisperer have an in person masterclass on poor allyship, true intersections and antiracism education.
Join me, Portia @Portia.Noir and Rebecca @white_woman_whisperer as we have a candid conversation about our DEI work we do on tiktok. What we believe is needed in truly unpacking, healing and decolonization. You've never had anti-racism work done like this!
#desireebstephens #makeshifthappen #letshavetheconversation #dei #antiracism #decolonization #portianoir #whitewomanwhisperer #meetingmelanatedminds
Isabella and I discuss live on TikTok all of the nuances of Jewishness as a race and a people and the intersections between oppression.
Isabella Segalovich is an artist, designer, writer, and TikTokker who researches the intersections of politics and design. She graduated from Haverford College with a degree in Fine Arts and Visual Studies and learned about the intersections of race and design while working at Colloqate Design in New Orleans, a social and racial justice-based architecture and design firm. In the past year, she has built a TikTok platform of over 150 thousand followers, discussing how forces like white supremacy have shaped (and are reinforced by) professional design and architecture. She also writes and posts videos for Hyperallergic, an independent online arts journal.
#whoopigoldberg #jewish #black #intersectionalhealing #desireebstephens #makeshifthappen #letshavetheconversation
Myself and Rose Kaz of Lady Boss intl. discuss the personal reasons why I do not vibe with feminist, liberal views or allyship. Tune in and let me know what you think
#desireebstephens #makeshifthappen #letshavetheconversation #unpacking #decolonizing #unlearn
When did you become "white"?
Its an odd question when it is actually framed but it is a deep truth that needs to be confronted. In the system of whiteness there is a requirement to release your true culture and check your humanity at the door in order to gain riches. It feels very much like what good is it to gain the world but lose your soul.
I wonder how often white people think about their own indigeneity? Do you ever question where you are from, what practices did you have before being American? Every group of people are indigenous to some land. Which is yours? What was your language? What were your customs? These are questions to open you up to you ancestral healing.
Much of our disconnect is the disconnection from your humanity and when that happens you cant see the humanity of anyone else. If you are white person in America seeking to do anti racism work and equity work it would behoove you to seek your humanity FIRST. You can't be useful if you are simply empathetic for what has happened to others. Its best to be sympathetic and remembering what you have been disconnected from opens the soul to deep healing.
On this episode we are discussing how St Patric is a tool utilized to further the myth of whiteness within America. We discuss the old Gods of Ireland based on the storytelling of Candlelit Tales and how the Irish lost their identity within the system through forced assimilation and othering and in turn turned form the oppressed into the oppressors.
Part of ancestral healing is learning that your ethnic culture very much attaches you to an origin story and reminds you that you are more than a construct created for and economic system. The more the construct of race spreads the further the energetic fields take over identity and erases truth and connection.
These conversations I have are created to reconnect with your true self and your story in order to release the systems that hold us all down.
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Discussing the nuances of racial identity here in America and across the pond in Britain.
For many of us, holding multiple racial identities is the most accurate way to self identify, and helps us to navigate the social construct of race without constantly feeling like imposters or lacking in confidence or validation." -Daley
#antiracism #authenticself #biracial #desireebstephens #blackmothers #makeshifthappen #letshavetheconversation #shadowwork #embracetheshadow #mixedrace #identity #blackirish #liverpool #brittain #racialidentity #systemicracism #interracial #interraciallove #juneteenth #tiktokers #mixedbabies #mixedchick #mixedgirl #mixedkids #mixedrace #multicultural #socialjustice #swirllife #unitedstatesofamerica #blackwomen
Having a conversation about the many intersections of Blackness, christianity and the safety of day to day life
I had such an AMAZING time discussing epigenetics (Epigenetics is the study of how your behaviors and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work CDC) with Sabr Lyon. They go into the depths of how you can do this healing through ancestry work specifically when you're white and we discuss many intersections, and cross some many lines and just have a really connective time getting to know each other and the work each of us do. We will be working in tandem come June on an ancestral healing program that will be inclusive and deal in intersections. Take a listen and let us know what you think.
Content warning there is a brief mention of child loss at 1:10
On this episode I, Desireé B Stephens sit down with Pam Iverson a trusted relationship coach and discuss the makings of healthy partnership. We speak on releasing constructs and developing a deep connection and relationship with yourself first.
Today we discuss the various modalities that Jen Drinkard brings with her healing practice. We discuss shared practices, loss of culture through assimilation and the many lives we bring with us to this moment. Take a deep dive into quantum healing and shadow work healing.
#healing #pastlife #letshavetheconversation
On this episode we speak with Leah and discuss a little kitchen table polyam, being queer and parenting. We delve into the great depths it takes to love multiple people with depth and honesty and really how to live your most authentic life by simply, allowing!
#polyam #letshavetheconversation #desireebstephens #mskeshifthappen
