As a follow up to our last episode on not settling, today we’re tackling standards, expectations and boundaries. All SUPER important things when it comes to relationships. We’ve talked a lot about standards and boundaries but thought we’d get into more detail about what they actually are. There seems to be some confusion out there so S&M are breaking it down for you! Have you been asked if your standards are too high? Some people might think this is why you’re stil...

Lately we’ve found ourselves in some less than desirable situations and, after some self-reflection, we realized we have not been applying our own standards - even compromising some of our dealbreakers - because we wanted to “be open.” We opened ourselves up for sure, but the only thing that really got us was hurt. So today we’re dropping some gems about not settling! Settling is compromising on what you want, need, and desire in your life. It's vital that you’re clear and solid ...

Yay to putting yourself out there! We talk about the speed dating event we helped support at Artist Block tasting room in Dundee, OR. We absolutely love the vibe of the place so much that we did a photo shoot there. It was so much fun to play in such a bright space with beautiful neon colored art everywhere. It’s kinda like a playroom for adults especially if you indulge in some Woo Juice- yum! We were so excited to see how open and comfortable everyone was that atten...

We’re doing something different this week and recorded after hours and decided to share where we’re both at in dating and what’s alive for us right now. Buckle up, buttercup! We haven’t talked about the dating apps in a while. Megan gives an update on that (spoiler alert- frustration ensues) and we talk about intentional dating and overall respect. We’ve both had experiences with people that seem self-absorbed lately so we delve into that further and offer our thoughts on wh...

Dark feminine energy (also referred to as black cat energy) is the shadow side of the divine feminine and is marked by such traits as being mysterious, assertive, authentic, powerful, seductive, and confident. There are benefits to tapping into the dark feminine but there’s plenty of toxic information out there about what it is and how to wield it to get a man to give you whatever you want. So, today we’re talking about how manipulative and unhealthy this dating advice is. For re...

It’s time to beCOME CLITerate! Today S&M are talking about cunnilingus although this episode will benefit both men and women. It’s the sex ed we never got in school but should have. The inspo for this convo came from Ian Kerner’s book She Comes First which is a MUST read for everyone. It has been called the essential guidebook to oral sex and the philosophy for pleasuring women. And we agree! Kerner has identified three essential stages- Foreplay, Coreplay, and Mor...

We have a special guest today- yay! We are excited to have Sharonda Grandberry with us today. Sharonda is a full figured model, speaker, author award winning stylist, brand ambassador, and CEO of Pink Throne Styles. Basically, she’s a total badass! Sharonda shares her healing journey, growing apart from her husband and breaking their trauma bond, therapy, forgiveness, exiting a 20+ year marriage, a big move to Georgia, and living solo. Then we talk about dating! ...

It's our One Year Podiversary-yay!! We've managed to consistently deliver this pod every week for a year and are celebrating our dedication and commitment to sharing and helping all of you! Our mission is to empower women and support men in truly understanding and knowing themselves and each other while navigating relationships and creating the healthy love life they deeply desire. We talk about how and why we started, how we’ve evolved, top episodes, countries, and cities, and what’s n...

S&M start out with a brief recap of the last episode- How to Have Hard Conversations- Part 1 (see link below). In Part 2 we get into the importance of the receiver’s comprehension through the use of reflective listening. Don’t be afraid to ask the other person to summarize what they heard you say. We’ve all had different life circumstances and experiences that form different realities for each of us which affects how we view the world and ultimately how we receive inform...

Today we tackle a pretty big topic- how to have hard conversations….yikes! Never fear S&M are here to break it all down into digestible pieces to help you with your next hard convo. · Why is it so hard to have difficult conversations? We talk about different fears that contribute to why it feels so hard to communicate how you’re feeling. · Why is it so important to have them? Coach Shannon sums it up perfectly- ...

We’ve talked about filtering in dating, but what about filtering friends- new and old? We’ve all heard the saying (or something similar)- ”You are the average of the five people you spend your time with.” Basically, it’s meant to bring to your awareness the influence of behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, and energy that that this creates for you and within you, perhaps how you are perceived, and also your happiness and success. We’ve been exploring the ideas around filtering f...

Are your insecurities preventing you from going after the things you want in dating? Do you feel like you’re perpetually stuck in the friend zone? We all have insecurities, and they can really hold us back if we allow them to. In this episode Megan & Shannon talk about what they are, how they affect us in dating and approaching someone, and the different ways to understand and work through them. Then the babes dive into the progression of pursuing a romantic inter...

In this episode we start with the fairytale- where love at first sight sets off fireworks and then a string of improbable events magically leads to a happy ending full of romance including grand gestures. This led us to explore what true romance is IRL. We think of romance as a way to build connection through small, daily gestures like a lingering kiss, leaving a note in his laptop bag, making his favorite meal, dancing in the living room, taking a bubble bath together….and the li...

Shannon had a dinner party! It got us talking about getting to know other people, our curiosity, how we relate to others, and the conversation that naturally flows in those moments. Don’t underestimate starting off with small talk as it can lead to deep talk. Try to find a topic that the other person is interested in (in a natural way) so they’re more comfortable opening up to you. David Brooks says, “a good conversation is an act of joint exploration”, so...

Let’s talk about the difficult side of dating in your 40s. We’ve all been there; we’ve asked the questions early on in dating and each shared what we’re looking for in a relationship – and “yea!” it matches! Then 3-6 months down the line we find that it’s going nowhere. Ugh. Are people lying to keep things going? Do they not really know what they want? How do you avoid this time-wasting situation and also potential hurt, heartbreak, disappointment? Because, let’s face it, this leads to ...

Watch out! The babes are on the town!!! And we’re recapping what we’ve been up to. You’ve been warned- lol. First up is our Valentine’s happy hour outing where we took Patti Stanger’s advice that single men would be out on Valentine’s Day at steakhouse bars…umm, we did not experience that. But we still had a lot of fun! Then we go into some sexy fun time taking lap dance class and going to see a pole show. We had a blast!! And we continued on with a ...

Happy Valentine’s Day! We start out by talking about how others feel about the holiday, especially when it comes to your partner/significant other. Don’t just dismiss it as just a Hallmark holiday. Talk about it and get to understand your partner better- why do they like or dislike the holiday? Where does that come from? Take it as an opportunity to build that connection. Speaking of connection, we really wanted to decipher between connection and attachment...

We start out talking about what embodiment means- it’s time to start getting in touch with your body! There’s so much to explore and we’re here to tell you if you’re not taking the time to cultivate a self-pleasure practice, now’s the time, honey! We recommend where to start with if you’re uncomfortable going all in. It’s all about being present, enjoying all the sensations, and loving on yourself. We also talk about the health benefits of solo sex and so much more so get re...

Being naturally challenging is attractive! Being naturally challenging is NOT about playing games or using manipulation. High value women do not play games. We unsubscribe to that! They are authentic in their communications, interactions, have true confidence and are secure within themselves. They know who they are, and they maintain their individuality and their own life. We’ve talked about it before and it’s soooo important to continue doing your thang. It’s what mak...

Are you living your life on auto pilot? It’s easy to get lost in all the life things and to disconnect from your true self identity. So often we are running through our day with a massive to do list that when we finally sit down we numb out because we’re so exhausted! When you don’t make the time for yourself you lose sight of what’s important to you and what fills your soul which begs the question… do you know who you are? Today we’re here to inspire you to get curious! Wha...