The season finale of I Am The Advocat is about the hardest decision most professionals will ever make: the choice to leave.

In You Can Leave and Still Like Yourself, LawBooBoo unpacks the emotional calculus of resignation: the guilt, the fear, and the quiet relief that follows. From sunk costs and identity collapse to the subtle shame of “giving up,” this episode redefines what it really means to quit well.

Because sometimes the bravest thing you can do isn’t to push through, it’s to step out.

LawBooBoo explores how leaving a toxic environment can be an act of self-respect, not failure, and how rebuilding your sense of worth after burnout is less about reinvention and more about remembrance.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

📝 Anonymous confessions are open: share your story https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

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Key Takeaways

• You are not obligated to meet anyone else’s expectations.
  

• Leaving a toxic job is not weakness — it’s self-preservation.
  

• Your past experiences aren’t wasted; they were training.
  

• The right question isn’t “What will people think?” — it’s “What will this cost me if I stay?”
  

• Your identity is bigger than your job title.
  

• Resume gaps can signal wisdom, not failure.
  

• Quitting can be an act of clarity, not collapse.
  

• Redefining success starts with telling the truth about what no longer fits.
  

• Courage isn’t loud — sometimes it’s a quiet, private yes to yourself.
  

• You can leave and still like yourself more.

Sound Bites

“You are not your job.”

“The liberation realization.”

“You have permission to start over.”

Chapters

00:00 Permission to Leave: The Disappointment Cascade

00:57 The Disappointment Cascade

01:48 Confronting The Failure Narrative

02:13 Paws For Thought, Bestie

02:29 Sunk Costs - Did I Waste The Best Years Of My Life?

03:21 Stay Or Go? WRONG Question

03:27: 3 Questions You NEED To Ask

03:55 Identity Crisis: Who Are You Without Your Job?

04:42 Navigating Resume Gap Anxiety

05:20 Not Lying… REFRAMING

05:31 Paws for (TOXIC) Thought

05:46 Walking Away: WISDOM

06:35 The Liberation Realization: Finding Freedom

07:23 A Reflection For YOU

07:42 Rage Quit REGRET

08:46 Mental Inventory Check: Future Self Reflection

10:34 Permission to Start Over: Redefining Success

11:49 Litterbox Wisdom: Courage to Choose Yourself

In this episode, LawBooBoo turns the spotlight on “wellness theatre” — the corporate performance of care.
From free lunches and mindfulness apps to branded yoga mats and “Wellness Wednesdays,” law firms love to look like they care. But behind the scented candles often lies the same burnout-inducing machine, just with softer lighting.

Love-Bombed by the Firm unpacks how law firms weaponise gratitude, disguise control as kindness, and use perks to keep people pacified. Because nothing says “we value mental health” like the same workload, now with kombucha.

LawBooBoo breaks down the difference between wellness as optics and wellness as culture, and why authentic care starts with boundaries, not benefits.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

📝 Anonymous confessions are open: share your story https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

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Key Takeaways

• Wellness theatre is still theatre — it entertains while the system stays the same.
  

• Free food doesn’t fix exploitation.
  

• Gratitude guilt keeps employees quiet.
  

• “Wellness washing” is corporate image management, not culture change.
  

• True care shows up in policies, not posters.
  

• Employers shouldn’t create mental health crises just to sell the cure.
  

• Perks are seasoning, not substance.
  

• Real wellness doesn’t need marketing; it’s felt in the day-to-day.
  

• A mental inventory reveals whether your workplace is healthy — or just heavily perfumed.

Sound Bites

“You can’t eat your way out of exploitation, darling.”

“Perks are seasoning, not substance.”

“Wellness theatre — now showing.”

Chapters

00:00 - The Illusion of Wellness in the Workplace

01:01 - Story 1: The Guiltfree Guilt-Trip

01:37 - Story 2: The Pizza Band-Aid

02:07 - Paws For Thought #1

02:23 - Story 3: Mandatory FUN!!!

03:08 - The Wellness Washing Machine

03:59 - Story 4: The Therapy Paradox

04:33 - Paws For Thought #2

04:51 - The Gratitude Trap

05:36 - Story 5: Gratitude Guilt

06:21 - Try This!

06:41 - Mental Inventory Check

07:43 - The Authentic Care Test

08:42 - Litter Box Wisdom

09:25 - Are YOU being Love Bombed by the Firm?

Keywords: wellness theatre, workplace manipulation, mental health, employee benefits, corporate culture, gratitude guilt, wellness washing, authentic care, work-life balance, employee rights

In this episode, LawBooBoo does the unthinkable: turns the mirror around.

When we talk about “toxic workplaces,” we’re usually talking about other people. But what happens when you start to wonder if you’ve absorbed the very behaviors you escaped: the tone, the defensiveness, the micro-dismissals?

From mid-tier lawyers mimicking their mentors to leaders mistaking exhaustion for excellence, this episode unpacks the uncomfortable truth that toxicity is rarely a personality,  it’s a pattern. And patterns can be broken.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

📝 Anonymous confessions are open: share your story https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

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Key Takeaways

• Not every hiss means you’re a villain,  sometimes it’s depletion disguised as defensiveness.
  
• Self-awareness is hard; self-correction is harder.
  
• Performative “wellness” can become another form of denial.
  
• The middle ranks often replicate the behavior that broke them.
  
• Blame-shifting keeps the system alive; reflection cracks it open.
  
• A mental inventory helps you see where the stress is leaking into your life.
  
• Everyone sits somewhere on the toxicity spectrum — the point is to keep moving.
  

• Owning your shadows is how you earn your light.
  

Sound Bites

“I hissed at a junior associate.”

“What if I’m just toxic?”

“Lanes aren’t fixed.”

Chapters

00:00 — Confessions of a Toxic Advocate

01:14 — Understanding the Toxicity Spectrum

01:31 — Story 1: The Cold Transformation (I used to be nice)

02:57 — Story 2: The Reactive Response (I can’t stop and I hate it)

03:19 — Paws For Thought

03:55 — Self-Awareness and Its Challenges

04:08 — Story 2: The Shouting Partner (I didn’t realise.)

05:12 — Performative Awareness in Law Firms

05:27 — Story 4: The Networking Lecture (Caregivers vs Networking)

06:58 — Blame-Shifting in Legal Culture

07:09 — Story 5: The Dolt Theory (I blame law school)

07:56 — The Middle Category

08:53 — Story 6: The Sandwich Strain (Mid-tier problems)

09:53 — Conducting a Mental Inventory

10:47 — Navigating the Spectrum Toward Change

11:15 — Litterbox Wisdom

Keywords: toxicity, self-awareness, legal culture, mental health, workplace dynamics, professional behavior, law firms, emotional intelligence, personal growth, advocacy

In this episode, LawBooBoo claws into one of the most insidious parts of legal culture: gaslighting.
From partners who rewrite reality to HR policies that “protect everyone” (but somehow never you), this episode exposes how sensitivity gets weaponised, suffering is framed as tradition, and truth gets quietly edited until you start doubting your own memory.

Through biting commentary and real stories from the claw-firm trenches, LawBooBoo explores how institutional gaslighting keeps lawyers compliant — and how reclaiming your reality is the first act of rebellion.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

📝 Anonymous confessions are open: share your story https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

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Key Takeaways

• Gaslighting isn’t just interpersonal — it’s institutional.
  

• Sensitivity is not weakness; it’s perception sharpened by empathy.
  

• “Tradition” is not a valid defence for cruelty.
  

• Policies often protect the firm, not the people.
  

• Minimisation is a control tactic, not perspective.
  

• Reframing abuse as “learning” is manipulation, not mentorship.
  

• Document everything — for your sanity, not for HR.
  

Who keeps the whole system running but never gets the credit? The ghostproofreader. The emotional janitor. The human memory bank.

In this episode, LawBooBoo claws into the reality of invisible labour in law firms: the gendered, thankless, “quiet competence” tasks that stop disasters but never make it onto a performance review. We unpack the competence penalty (when being good makes you disappear), the “voluntold” phenomenon, and why preventing chaos is never as glamorous as fixing it.

We have a special feature for divorce lawyers who find themselves peacekeeping as much as lawyering — doing emotional labour the system refuses to acknowledge.

📝 Anonymous confessions are open: share your story https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

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💡 Key moments:

• The Competence Penalty — when being too good makes you invisible.
  

• “Voluntold” tasks: how gendered labour gets erased under the banner of teamwork.
  

• Divorce lawyers as peacekeepers — doing emotional labour no one acknowledges.
  

📌 Takeaways: Invisible work isn’t a weakness — it’s the glue that keeps firms functioning. The tragedy is that it’s treated as background noise instead of the backbone.

🔥 Strong quote: "Your invisible work isn’t less valuable because it’s invisible. It’s more valuable, because everything depends on it."

Chapters

00:00 The Invisible Labour Landscape

02:37 The Emotional and Mental Toll

04:30 The Competence Penalty

06:13 Smooth Operator Syndrome

06:48 Gender Dynamics in Invisible Work

07:24 The Voluntary Voluntold

08:45 The Peacekeeper's Burden (Family Lawyer Special)

10:32 Mental Inventory Check

11:35 The Appreciation Audit

12:35 Litterbox Wisdom

13:34 Closing Thoughts

👉 Keywords: invisible labour, gendered work, emotional labour, quiet competence, law firm culture, burnout.

In this episode, LawBooBoo explores the harsh realities of pursuing a dream job that turns into a nightmare, particularly within the legal profession. The conversation delves into the concept of 'golden handcuffs' that trap individuals in unfulfilling careers due to societal expectations and personal guilt. LawBooBoo emphasizes the importance of self-identity beyond professional titles and encourages listeners to embrace change and pursue happiness over obligation.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

👉 Share your story anonymously: https://tally.so/r/31gXXM  

👉 Follow Advocats on IG for more: https://www.instagram.com/iamtheadvocat

Sound bites

"Why do I feel dead inside?"

"Dreams are allowed to change."

"You are not your job title."

Chapters

00:00 The Dream Job Dilemma

02:26 The Golden Handcuffs

05:01 Identity Crisis in Law

07:40 Permission to Pivot

Takeaways

• The dream job can sometimes become a nightmare.
• Fear of failure can keep you trapped in a job.
• Guilt can prevent you from leaving a toxic work environment.
• Your identity shouldn't be solely tied to your profession.
• It's important to reconnect with your passions outside of work.
• Dreams and aspirations can evolve over time.
• You have the right to change your mind about your career.
• Your qualifications can lead to multiple opportunities.
• Personal happiness should take precedence over professional success.
• Self-discovery is a crucial part of career fulfillment.

Titles

Breaking Free from the Dream Job Trap

The Cost of Career Success

Keywords

dream job, career change, identity crisis, legal profession, mental health, personal growth, happiness, guilt, self-discovery, professional fulfillment

This episode delves into the phenomenon of 'Sunday Scaries,' particularly among lawyers, exploring the emotional and physical toll it takes as the weekend comes to a close. The speaker discusses the countdown to Monday, the inability to sleep, the body's response to anxiety, and strategies for coping with the dread. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing this dread as a signal for change and offers practical advice for reclaiming weekends and improving mental health.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

👉 Share your story anonymously: https://tally.so/r/31gXXM  

👉 Follow Advocats on IG for more: https://www.instagram.com/iamtheadvocat

Sound bites

"The countdown has begun."

"Your body is gearing up for war."

"Your dread isn't weakness, it's data."

Chapters

00:00 The Sunday Dread Begins

01:31 The Countdown to Doom

02:24: The Countdown to Dread

02:49 Sleep is for The Safe

04:06 The Escape Fantasy Channel

05:12 The Body Rebellion

06:22 The Weekend Hostage Situation

07:00 The Lawyer's Inventory

07:36 I'd be Happier If I Was Fired

08:53 The Monday Morning Mask

09:26 Litter Box Wisdom

09:50 Closing Thoughts

09:54 Confronting the Dread

Takeaways

• Sunday Dread is a common experience, especially for lawyers.
• The countdown to Monday can start as early as Friday night.
• Insomnia on Sunday nights is often linked to anxiety about work.
• Your body reacts to Sunday Dread as a safety issue.
• Many people fantasize about escaping their jobs on Sundays.
• Dread can steal your weekend enjoyment and create a sense of grief.
• Identifying what's causing your dread is crucial for change.
• Self-care practices can help mitigate Sunday Dread.
• It's important to articulate your worth to escape toxic cycles.
• Reclaiming even small moments of joy can help combat dread.

Keywords

Sunday Scaries, Anxiety, Lawyer Life, Work-Life Balance, Mental Health, Stress Management, Career Change, Self-Care, Burnout, Coping Strategies

In this episode of 'I Am The Advocat', LawBooBoo explores the harsh realities of workplace abuse, particularly in high-pressure environments like law firms. The conversation delves into the distinction between normal workplace stress and abusive practices, highlighting the insidious nature of gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and the importance of documentation. Iman emphasizes the need for self-advocacy and setting boundaries, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth and trust their instincts in navigating toxic work environments.

The Advocats is a fictional “Claw Firm” that tells real anonymous stories of lawyer burnout — to make you laugh, wince, and maybe rethink the culture we’ve normalised. 

👉 Share your story anonymously: https://tally.so/r/31gXXM  

👉 Follow Advocats on IG for more: https://www.instagram.com/iamtheadvocat

Sound Bites

"The line isn't blurry at all."

"This is abuse disguised as agile thinking."

"Your dignity is not negotiable."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Workplace Realities

02:51 The Impossible Standards and Capacity Crusher

05:38 The Erosion Process of Workplace Abuse

10:11 Gaslighting and the Isolation Effect

14:53 The Documentation Revolution

19:19 Closing Thoughts and Homework

Takeaways

• Workplace abuse often masquerades as normal job pressure.
• The line between tough management and abuse is clear.
• High-performing firms can create impossible standards.
• Documentation is crucial for self-defense against gaslighting.
• Emotional manipulation is a common tactic in abusive workplaces.
• Recognizing boundary violations is the first step to self-advocacy.
• Public humiliation is often disguised as performance management.
• Your feelings of discomfort are valid and should be trusted.
• Normal and acceptable are not the same thing in workplace culture.
• Your dignity and mental health should always be prioritized.

Keywords

workplace abuse, gaslighting, emotional manipulation, documentation, mental health, legal profession, workplace stress, boundaries, professional development, self-advocacy

In this episode, LawBooBoo discusses the pervasive issue of toxic leadership within the legal profession, particularly the phenomenon of the 'God complex' among bosses. The conversation explores how this dynamic affects self-worth, workplace culture, and professional validation. LawBooBoo provides insights into recognizing these toxic behaviors, understanding the psychology behind them, and offers practical strategies for dealing with such leadership. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-empowerment and the need to challenge the status quo in order to foster a healthier work environment.

Share your story with us (anonymously) : https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

Theme: Dismantling the God Complex in Legal Leadership

Chapters

00:00 The Illusion of Authority

02:33 The Myth-Making Machine

05:22 Recognizing the God Complex

10:16 The Psychology Behind the Throne

12:10 Combat Strategies for Toxic Leadership

15:30 Closing Thoughts and Next Steps

Sound Bites

"Your boss is not a god."

"Respect is earned, not demanded."

"You are not disposable."

Takeaways

• Your boss's approval is not the holy grail of validation.
• The legal profession often creates a myth around authority figures.
• Self-worth should not be tied to professional performance.
• Toxic leadership is a systemic issue, not an individual flaw.
• Gaslighting can manifest in workplace dynamics.
• Recognizing the God complex is the first step to empowerment.
• Documenting experiences can provide clarity and validation.
• Setting boundaries is crucial in toxic environments.
• Building external validation helps combat negative leadership.
• Planning an exit strategy can empower employees.

Keywords

toxic leadership, legal culture, God complex, empowerment, workplace dynamics, professional validation, self-worth, gaslighting, mental health, career strategies

We’ve all heard the warnings: never cry at work, you’ll look weak. But is that really true?

In this episode of 'I Am The Advocat', LawBooBoo discusses the often-taboo subject of crying at work, challenging the myths surrounding workplace emotions. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing emotions as valid responses to stress and the need for a more human-centric workplace culture. Through mythbusting, personal stories, and practical advice, the episode advocates for emotional honesty and the creation of supportive environments where individuals can express their feelings without fear of judgment.

Share your story anonymously https://tally.so/r/31gXXM

Theme: Crying at Work — Myths, Reality, and What to Actually Do About It.

Chapters

00:00 Crying at Work: A Universal Experience

01:46 Myths About Crying in the Workplace

09:04 The Real Impact of Emotions

10:39 Practical Steps for Emotional Honesty

13:41 Closing Thoughts: Embracing Humanity at Work

Sound bites

"Emotions are information."

"Crying at work is a normal human response."

"You're not failing at being strong."

Takeaways

• Crying at work is a universal experience that many face.

• Myths about crying being a sign of weakness are harmful and untrue.
• Emotions provide valuable information about our mental state.
• Healthy workplaces encourage emotional expression rather than suppressing it.
• Ignoring emotional responses can lead to burnout and disengagement.
• Authenticity in emotions builds trust and connection among colleagues.
• Leaders should model emotional intelligence and vulnerability.
• Creating psychological safety is essential for a healthy work environment.
• Emotional honesty can improve communication and relationships at work.
• Everyone has a story about their emotional experiences at work.

Keywords

crying at work, workplace emotions, emotional intelligence, mental health, professional environment, workplace culture, authenticity, emotional honesty, mythbusting, human experience