I analysed EVERY SINGLE interaction between Carrie Bradshaw & Mr.Big.

You’re welcome.

I chat about the sunk cost fallacy, why Carrie could never ever leave Big alone. I also talk about avoidant & anxious attachment styles & push / pull dynamics.

#keithurban #nicolekidman #wizardliz #cheating Talking about Nicole Kidman, Keith Urban & the wizard liz situation.

References https://aeqworld.com/2025/05/05/why-women-take-on-the-role-of-mother-in-a-relationship/https://jamestobinphd.com/the-maternalizing-dynamic-in-romantic-relationships/https://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/a68121738/keith-urban-nicole-kidman-relationship-timeline/https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/celebrity/nicole-kidman-keith-urban-divorce-cocaine-clause-prenup-sobriety-942984-2025100100:00 - intro02:43 - nicole & keith20:25 - wizard liz & landon

Im back! This week I took a lil deep dive into the world of pronatlism & also discussed the rise of childfree by choice content.References* “How many parents regret having children and how it is linked to their personality and health: Two studies with national samples in Poland” — Konrad Piotrowski et al. (2021) — https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34288933/* “Development and validation of the Parenthood Regret Scale” — Piotrowski, Mikolajczak, Roskam (2023) — https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37796606/* “Population growth is limited by nutritional impacts on pregnancy success in endangered orcas” — Wasser et al. (2017) — https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5491047/* “Prevalence and incidence of postpartum depression and environmental factors: the IGEDEPP cohort” — early/late PPD incidence study — https://arxiv.org/abs/2008.10382* “Beyond Baby Blues: The Child Penalty in Mental Health in Switzerland” — Nora Bearth (2024) — https://arxiv.org/abs/2410.20861* “Parenthood, Childlessness, and Well-Being: A Life Course Perspective” — D. Umberson (2010) — https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3159916/* “A Systematic Review of Life Satisfaction Experiences Among Childfree Adults” — Stahnke, Cooley, Blackstone (2022) — https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/10664807221104795* “The Quality of Life and Satisfaction with Life of Women Who Are Childless by Choice” — Bień et al. (2017), Poland — https://www.aaem.pl/The-quality-of-life-and-satisfaction-with-life-of-women-who-are-childless-by-choice%2C72530%2C0%2C2.html* “Kids or no kids – men and women are equally satisfied across almost the entire lifespan” — Humboldt-Universität study (2024) — https://www.hu-berlin.de/en/press-portal/nachrichten-en/december-2024/nr-241219* “Mammalian reproduction: an ecological perspective” — F. H. Bronson (1985) — https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3882162/https://besjournals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/2688-8319.12303* “Animal reproduction under extreme environments” — Parraguez, VH et al. (2024) — https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10940524/* “Environmental constraints on reproductive performance of farmed deer” — G. W. Asher (1996) — https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0378432096015011* https://erik-engheim.medium.com/feminism-didnt-kill-the-fertility-rate-430d34f46f86* Selective Gestation: The Racial Politics of American Pronatalism — Veronica Agudelo. Covers how demographic decline talk by Musk, Vance, others is tied to race and national identity anxieties. Columbia Political Review* Getting paid to have children: Hungary’s ‘carefare’ regime — Analysis of Viktor Orbán’s regime of incentives + how it’s tied to xenophobia, “native” Hungarian identity, and exclusion of migrants / non-Christian families. The Loop* Viktor Orbán’s Hungary: The Erosion of Reproductive Rights — Analysis by Population Matters of Hungary’s policies: tax exemptions for women with many children; how the framing emphasizes “native births” and casts migrants / queer families as ‘other’. Population Matters* Population Bomb, Great Replacement Theory, and Pronatalism — Kyla Rosin, Biopolitical Times. Explores the overlap between conspiratorial demography (Great Replacement) and modern pronatalist movements. Center for Genetics and Society* https://www.thegoodtrade.com/features/living-alone/#:~:text=Dolan%20explains%20this%20in%20reference,the%20happiest%20population%20of%20all.* https://www.goodto.com/wellbeing/relationships/men-stress-women-out-more-than-kids* https://youtu.be/LHgjYz5oAZk?si=Po0I2ygAHbLVZCnUhttps://youtu.be/Hnd1Taw4CEE?si=33m1eh2bbb2GtnEvhttps://youtu.be/v_iiB4IbVaw?si=JvtGtyCOtxc62uxVhttps://youtu.be/Mxn2n3yrWKI?si=yHE_k2Mh6knxf6aA00:00 - intro06:08 - Pronatalism 39:48 - childfree content58:36 - nature knows best

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feel like I BARELY scratched the surface & might do a more in dept video in the future :)

In this video i speak about the seemingly insignificant & sometimes hidden costs associated with being a woman. I talk about the pink tax, the time that goes into maintaining an appearance, the invisible second shift & the halo effect.

00:00 - intro

01:09 - the pink tax

03:31 - the lifetime beauty bill

06:04 - beauty as a part time job

08:47 - the invisible second shift

12:23 - the halo effect

Chillpeach - Taiyaki : • [no copyright music]

Sources

• UN Women Data Hub – “Unpaid Care and Domestic Work” global time‑use database (updated 2023)

• Advanced Dermatology – “2024 Beauty Spending & Grooming Habits Survey” (U.S. panel, n≈1 000)

• OECD Time‑Use Surveys – average daily unpaid care split, 2019 synthesis

• USC Dornsife Center – “Invisible Workload & Fair Play” study on cognitive labor (2024, n=322 mothers)

• Journal of Marriage & Family – 2025 national time‑diary analysis of cognitive labor share

• Washington Post – Feature: “The CEO of the Household” (Sept 2024)

• ILO – “Care Work and Care Jobs for the Future of Decent Work” global brief (2018)

• Oxfam International – “Time to Care” report (2020) estimating $10 trillion unpaid‑care value

• Harvard / MGH (Etcoff et al.) – “Cosmetics as a Feature of the Extended Human Phenotype” experiment (PLOS One, 2011)

• Seton Hall University – 2023 trust‑game study on makeup and cash transfers

• Wong & Penner – “Gender and the Returns to Attractiveness” wage‑panel study (Research in Social Stratification, 2016)

• Harvard Business Review – Meta‑review of appearance and earnings across 65 studies (2019)

• Healthline – “How Often Should You Get a Haircut?” (2023)

• Salon Today – “Average Service Times in U.S. Salons” (2022 industry survey)

• UCLA Labor Center – “Nail Files” report on salon‑goer frequency (2023)

• European Wax Center – Client timing & cadence guidelines (2024 FAQ)

• Herzig, Rebecca – Plucked: A History of Hair Removal (2015; lifetime cost calculations)

• Forbes – Joan Michelson, “Women Retire With 70 % of Men’s Wealth” (Mar 30 2022)

• HerMoney – “Why It Costs $300 K More to Be a Woman” (2023 analysis)

• Ellen Taaffe (LinkedIn) – “The Hidden Costs of Being a Woman” post (2024)

• TheJournal.ie – “Pink Tax: Why Irish Girls Pay More” (May 2016 price scan)

• UNICEF / UN Women – “The Gender Snapshot 2023” (care‑work projections to 2050)

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I missed last week wehh wehh wehh

see you next week :)

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Leave questions or topic suggestions here ~

https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

This week I answered one of your questions!

"I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and for most of it, I’ve found myself constantly overextending and giving more than I receive. I try so hard to be the perfect partner!!!! always accommodating, always putting his needs first, even at the expense of my own health and happiness. I stay quiet when he insults me or mistreats me because I don’t want to rock the boat or create conflict. Whenever I try to express how I’m feeling or speak up for myself, I’m made to feel like I’m the problem, like I’m too demanding, too sensitive, or too much to handle. I’ve started noticing these patterns and realising I can’t keep doing this to myself, but I’m scared of what might happen if I change how I behave. What if he pulls away? I’m so used to trying to keep everything smooth, but it’s taking a toll on me. I’m torn between standing up for myself and maintaining the peace, and I don’t know what to do. How do I break this pattern without sabotaging the relationship, or should I even try?"

as usual its a long winded answer :)

love you see you soon x

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Welcome back :)This week I chat about the connection between reading fiction, particularly lit fic, and strengthening empathy. I discuss the difference between mens and womens preferences when it comes to reading, how much we read and what types of books we choose.I also discuss the importance of empathy in nature, which humans forget we are part of, how survival of the fittest actually means survival of whoever works best together, which requires empathy & care.*ೃ༄ 𖦹 Bit of a mish mash swirly video! 𖦹 𓂃 ོ☼𓂃Hope you enjoy :) https://www.science.org/doi/abs/10.1126/science.1239918https://www.arts.gov/stories/blog/2025/men-women-split-reading-real-and-persists-amid-historical-rate-declineshttps://humanrewritten.com/p/the-empathy-recession-why-empathyhttps://news.umich.edu/empathy-college-students-don-t-have-as-much-as-they-used-to/https://communications.yale.edu/sites/default/files/08.09.2016_the_best_reason_for_reading_book_lovers_live_longer_scientists_say._the_washington_post.pdf00:00 - intro01:38 - the fiction gender gap09:51 - the space between stories14:16 - empathy is a thread20:27 - reading as medicine

Donate - https://gofund.me/11bc...

More of a yap video not as structured or planned out!

Maybe i will do a more deep dive researched video about the objectification of women in media?!?

I am very flip floppy in this because I really feel like there are so many other things to be talking about (palestine & literally WW3).

As much as I avoid celebrity culture as much as possible & do not let it influence me in anyway, sabrina carpenter still influences many girls & women so that shouldnt be ignored.

I am still certain that my time & energy could be better used elsewhere so I kept this one short!

See you soon

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Donate to Adam, Karim & Wassim :) - https://gofund.me/11bc4f21

Welcome back :)

This week I spoke about white feminism, apolitical girlboss capitalistic tiktok feminism etc :)

https://www.instagram.com/kate_bhakti/

See you next week :) x

REFERENCELINKS

https://restofworld.org/2021/palestine-social-media-silence/

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2017/04/150522/girlboss-netflix-true-story

https://www.dazeddigital.com/fashion/article/35671/1/problematic-nasty-gal-netflix-series-sophia-amoruso-girlboss-lawsuits

https://goodonyou.eco/how-ethical-is-boohoo/

https://www.theringer.com/2017/04/29/tv/the-problem-with-girlboss-feminism-98f48bb6aa16

https://roundtable.beloit.edu/2025/04/09/chappell-roan-activist-or-queer-capitalist/

https://twssmagazine.com/2021/06/19/florence-given-and-coffee-table-feminism/

https://journals.sagepub.com/home/SMS

ALTERNATIVE SHOPPING

https://www.shoplikeyougiveadamn.com/en-ie

MY INSPIRATIONS & TEACHERS! :

https://substack.com/@parismwendwa

https://www.instagram.com/theslumflower/

https://www.instagram.com/paris.mwendwa/

https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/?hl=en

https://nmaahc.si.edu/audre-lorde

https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/wizard_bisan1/?hl=en

https://www.theslumflower.com/

https://substack.com/@nergiz

Music - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSWYAclv2I8&list=PLQwRmTwWx0ubcpv0SkHroupj1LqW5_Va5

00:00 - intro

01:26 - what is white feminism

06:21 - lean in

10:29 - individualism = empowerment ?

18:35 - TikTok feminism

27:22 - aesthetic of empowerment

32:21 - the politics white feminism refuses to touch

36:05 - matriarchal ecosystem

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Welcome back :)Went on another ranty poo about the healing industry!I speak about ~Spiritual bypassing~The politics of avoidance~Spirituality as a tool for emotional control ~The commodification of healing reinforces capitalist patriarchy~Spiritual abuse disproportionately targets women~The myth of individual liberation~Collective care~Gaza, genocide, silence & neutrality~Healing that brings us back to earth~Radical embodimenthttps://www.instagram.com/kate_bhakti/https://www.crybabysomatics.com/Music - Chillpeach - Purple: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWNx0VQJjMY&t=35s00:00 - intro05:46 - spiritual bypassing11:37 - the politics of avoidance17:04 - spirituality as a tool for emotional control25:06 - the myth of individual liberation30:05 - gaza, genocide, silence & neutrality 34:18 - Radical embodiment

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Welcome back :)This week is a dive into -female rage-how men and women are perceived when they express anger-how we've been conditioned to be palatable & agreeable-the medical cost of suppressing emotions-the healing world role in perpetuating this idea & convince women to silence themselves into 'regulation'Sources :https://news.asu.edu/20151027-study-shows-angry-men-gain-influence-and-angry-women-lose-influencehttps://gap.hks.harvard.edu/closing-emotion-differential-impact-male-versus-female-attorneys-expressing-anger-courthttps://digitalcommons.georgiasouthern.edu/honors-theses/29/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/201807/how-female-attorneys-anger-may-disrupt-their-advancementhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.ca/books/108113/when-the-body-says-no-by-gabor-mate-md/9780676973999http://youtube.com/watch?v=G4zFMRlMEb400:00 - intro 01:25 - double standard06:28 - wellness culture & the policing of our emotions15:27 - the medical cost of suppressing our emotions21:39 - embodied rage

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Welcome back :)

This week is audio only again. I answered one of your submissions!

“Help! I've been dating this guy for six months. We do everything couples do — we talk all the time, we sleep together, he’s met my friends, we go on trips — but he refuses to call me his girlfriend. He says he ‘doesn’t believe in labels.’ I really like him, but I’m tired of feeling like I’m auditioning for something he won’t even name. What do I do?”

We cover

-detachment

-situationships

-performative nonchalance

-being unbothered

-casual sex

-ambiguity

-being a chill girl

-being conditioned to be overly focused on romantic partnership

keeping it light and breezy as usual.

love you, see you next week.

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welcome back :) audio only this week!

a few days ago I asked on my instagram stories if anyone wanted to yap about somatics, healing, relationship, trauma, self doubt, criticism, attachment ect! So I am answering two of your questions in this episode!

If you have any questions or podcast suggestions, leave them here :) ~ https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

See you next week x

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Welcome back :)

This week I did some research into the European witch trials, the malleus maleficarum book & the first woman who was burned at the stake in Kilkenny, Ireland, Petronilla De Meath.

It’s very clear that the women accused of being witches, were actually just existing outside of the prescribed roles the state & church had assigned to women

* pretends to be shocked *

Her Kind: The Gripping Story of Ireland’s First Witch Hunt - Book by Niamh Boyce

Is the book I mentioned & referenced.

See you next week :) x

⁺₊⋆ ☀︎ ⋆⁺₊+𖦹 Welcome back :) About two weeks ago, the Josh Pieters documentary on Lily Philips popped up on my YouTube suggested.I wanted to do a little dissection on the documentary. But I will absolutely not be tearing down, ripping into, shaming or belittling Lily in any way, shape or form.This is a discussion on the industry, the problem with choice feminism & sxual embodiment.Everything is just my opinion and perspective & as always, I am open to conversation & having my mind changed :)Watch the documentary here : https://youtu.be/mFySAh0g-MI?si=M_6CQIeH3oUG5XgzXxx

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Welcome back to girl bones :)

Audio only version this week as I am very terribly busy, frolicking in Portugal.

This week, I answered on of your submitted questions :

~

Im having a really difficult time with my self love journey. I feel like theres always other things i should be focusing on instead of myself like other people have it way harder than me so why am i trying to put more time and energy into myself? I think the whole self love movement has been taken over by narcissism.

~

If you have a question / podcast suggestion, you can leave here here https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

See you next week sweetie pies

:)

Welcome back to girl bones, a weekly deep dive chat with me :)

ALSO! I changed the name of this podcast to 'girl bones'.

This week i went down a slippery slope to ask why are we so afraid of ageing? In a world obsessed with youth, women are taught to fear getting older...as if wrinkles, wisdom & experience make us invisible, undesirable & unworthy. But this fear isn’t natural, it’s a construct designed by patriarchy to keep women chasing an impossible standard.I explored the Maiden, Mother & Crone, Jungian archetypes that describe cycles of a womans life, through the eyes of the patriarchy.Audio - https://open.spotify.com/show/6lAN3X5...My website - https://www.crybabysomatics.com/

Music - Chillpeach - In Dreamland :    • [no copyright music] 'In Dreamland ' ...  Lots of Love :) x00:00 - intro 00:58 - why are we so afraid of ageing?03:34 - patriarchy08:26 - maiden13:22 - mother18:41 - crone25:47 - a privilege denied to many

Welcome back :)This week I took a super deep dive into the netflix show adolescence, through the lens of being a mother to a 12 year old boy & also a feminist!I sectioned my deep dive into 5 parts- male aggression- 'good guy' complex- (not so) subtle misogyny- walking on eggshells- father figuresI covered a lot in this episode & if any of it affected you, I will leave some resources for support.Ireland - Womens Aid - Phone: +353 1 678 8858 Email: info@womensaid.iehttps://www.womensaid.ie/get-help/support-services/Rape Crisis Centre - 1800 77 8888https://www.drcc.ie/services/helpline/UKhttps://www.womensaid.org.uk/https://rapecrisis.org.uk/https://refuge.org.uk/

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Welcome back!

This week I go into a lil deep dive about the spiritual / crunchy to right wing / alt-right pipeline.

How do so many yoga teachers, shamans, healers, psy-trancers, ayahuasca takers, wellness influencers & holistic health coaches end up spouting anti feminist, anti lgbt & anti modernity rhetoric?

Downward dog to Donald Trump????

How did so many people end up there?

~ topic suggestions / questions you'd like me to answer on the pod ~

https://www.crybabysomatics.com/podcast

See you next week :)

xx

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Welcome back :)

This week I do a little mini deep dive into the concept of 'digital gardening' & commonplace books which is a creative way to be more slow & intentional with our content consumption & help us end the dreaded doomscroll...

If we spend 3 hours a day in front of a screen, that adds up to 10 years in total over our lifetime!

I LOVE taking notes so starting my paper garden has been such a fun way to bring more intention & space into my social media consumption.

If you are enjoying the podcast so far, I will be a cheeky bitch & ask for a rating on spotify!

⁺ Article that I referenced ⁺ ~ https://maggieappleton.com/garden-history/

See you next week x