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F*CK Trauma Podcast
Candice Tamara
54 episodes
2 days ago
The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
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The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
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F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 49: The Real Reason You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People (and How to Finally Stop It)

If you have an anxious attachment style or find yourself constantly attracting emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or inconsistent partners, this episode will change everything.

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In this powerful episode, Candice Tamara reveals the real reason you keep repeating the same relationship patterns — and why it’s not about them being avoidant or unavailable, but about the mirror of your own fears, wounds, and self-concept.

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You’ll learn:✨ How your fear of abandonment, rejection, commitment, vulnerability, and being “too much” creates emotional unavailability within yourself.
.✨ Why every partner is a mirror reflecting your beliefs, attachment wounds, and nervous system state — not your worth.
.✨ How to heal anxious attachment patterns at the root so you can finally attract and hold secure, consistent love.
✨ The exact mindset and embodiment shifts Candice used to go from anxious and avoidant dynamics to being securely loved and chosen.

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This episode will help you see relationships differently - not as something happening to you, but as a reflection of what’s ready to be healed within you. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop attracting people who abandon you.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠⁠

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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2 days ago
47 minutes 23 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 48: Tranform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption

If you struggle with anxious attachment and relationships that feel like a rollercoaster… this episode will change EVERYTHING.
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Because no matter how hard you try, you can only attract what you believe you deserve and the Law of Assumption shows you exactly how to shift that.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down how your assumptions about love, connection, and self-worth create the relationship dynamics you keep ending up in - even the ones you hate.
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I’ll share the exact mindset and healing shifts that helped me go from anxious and overlooked… to engaged to a secure, loving partner.

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You’ll learn:✨ What the Law of Assumption actually is (beyond the “think positive” stuff)
.✨ How your subconscious beliefs are choosing partners for you
.✨ Why avoidants and pullbacks keep showing up (it’s not your fault)
.✨ How to reprogram your self-concept so secure love becomes your new normal
.✨ The exact approach I’ve used with clients to transform their relationship patterns

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This isn’t spiritual bypassing.
.This is trauma-informed manifestation - for people who grew up in survival mode.

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You are not at the mercy of old patterns or past.
.You can change your assumptions…
.and your entire relationship reality will change with them.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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1 week ago
50 minutes 3 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 47: Why They Pull Back After Intimacy (Even When They Really Like You)

Have you ever noticed that every time you get closer to someone, emotionally or physically - they suddenly pull back?

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If you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel like a nightmare. You start wondering: Did I do something wrong? Were they just avoidant? Did I scare them off?

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about why they pull back after intimacy - and how this pattern has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you, but not in the way you think.

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You’ll learn:
✨ What’s really happening when avoidants distance after intimacy
✨ How your inner state creates that push-pull dynamic
✨ Why anxious attachment gets triggered when things feel good
✨ The mindset shift that stops the cycle - so intimacy brings you closer, not apart

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This one’s raw, honest, and deeply freeing - because once you see that you hold the power to change it, you’ll never fear vulnerability again.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.
This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠

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2 weeks ago
30 minutes 47 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 46: 3 Ways Anxiety Sabotages Your Relationships (Even When They’re Good)

If you live with anxious attachment, you might think anxiety only shows up in toxic relationships - but it can sabotage healthy love too.

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In this episode, I’m sharing three real moments when my own anxiety tried to push away the secure relationship I’d worked so hard to manifest.

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You’ll learn:
✨ Why certainty and consistency from a partner can actually feel unsafe to an anxious nervous system
.✨ How hyper-independence and fear of losing control can push them away when things get serious
.✨ Why big milestones (moving in, proposals, marriage) can trigger past trauma and make you want to run - even when love is good
.✨ Practical ways to regulate your nervous system, change the story in your head, and stop sabotaging the healthy love you deserve

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If you’re tired of overthinking, pushing good partners away, or testing people to see if they’ll stay - this episode will help you feel safe to receive love without losing yourself.

Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠⁠⁠

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠

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1 month ago
34 minutes 16 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 45: 7 Tough Truths About Avoidants (That I Wish I Knew Sooner)

Struggling with anxious attachment and tired of avoidants pulling away?


This episode is not what you think. And it’s exactly what you need to hear.

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If you’ve ever spiralled after being ghosted, obsessed over why they suddenly pulled away, or questioned whether you’re too much, this is your wake-up call.

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But be warned:This isn’t the same surface-level advice telling you to “just act cool” or “don’t double text.”

.This is the truth that will set you free.

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In this raw, no-BS episode, I reveal 7 tough truths about avoidants that most people will never tell you - because they haven’t lived it, or they’re still stuck in the same patterns.

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Inside this episode:

  • The real reason they pulled away (and how your energy shifted first)

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  • Why it’s not about them abandoning you - it’s about you abandoning yourself

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  • How anxious attachment manifests as self-rejection, not just “neediness”

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  • Why even when you stop texting… you might still be energetically chasing

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  • What it actually takes to stop attracting avoidants - for good

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Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠⁠

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠

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1 month ago
21 minutes 21 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 44: Will They Come Back? The Truth About Getting an Ex Back

If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing, “Will they come back?” after someone pulled away, ghosted, or ended things - this episode is for you.

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When you have an anxious attachment style, the loss feels unbearable. You replay every text, every moment, and convince yourself that if they came back, it would finally prove you’re wanted, chosen, and enough.

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But here’s the truth: chasing them only pushes them further away. In this episode, I share why your anxious patterns are manifesting abandonment, why no-contact rules and text tricks don’t work, and how to shift your self-concept and energy so that love - whether with them or someone better — has no choice but to come back to you.


Inside, you’ll learn:
★ Why anxious attachment makes you feel so desperate when they leave


★ The real reason chasing, texting, and overthinking never works


★ How to stop obsessing over them and rewire your self-concept


★ Why changing your energy makes love reflect back to you differently


★ How to embody being chosen, secure, and unforgettable

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Want to go deeper?My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠

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Connect with me on Instagram ⁠@candicetamara_⁠

Ways to work with me: ⁠Click here⁠

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1 month ago
22 minutes 19 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 43: The Real Reason They Pull Away (It’s Not What You Think)

If you have an anxious attachment style and keep finding yourself stuck in painful push-pull dynamics, this episode is going to shift everything.

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You keep asking, “Why do they always pull away just when things are going well?”
.And the internet keeps telling you “They’re just avoidant.”
.But in today’s episode, I’m giving you the real reason they pull away and it’s not what you’ve been told.

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I’m walking you through:✨ The micromoment where your anxious energy subtly changes—and starts pushing them away
.✨ Why your nervous system is expecting abandonment (and how that expectation gets reflected back)
.✨ The reason love feels easy with people you don’t like, but chaotic with the ones you do
.✨ The subconscious identity that’s keeping you stuck in hot-and-cold relationships
.✨ How to stop abandoning yourself—so they stop abandoning you

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We’re not blaming them. We’re not blaming you. We’re taking your power back.
.And if you’re ready to finally end the cycle of people pulling away, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Want to go deeper?
My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now

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Connect with me on Instagram @candicetamara_

Ways to work with me: Click here

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1 month ago
27 minutes 31 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Bonus: Guided Tapping for Anxiety in Love (with Brad Yates)

This is a special bonus guided tapping session from my full conversation with Brad Yates (Episode 42).

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In this 10-minute video session, Brad leads us through tapping for:
.✨ Calming anxiety in love and relationships
✨ Releasing fear and overthinking
✨ Reconnecting with self-worth and peace

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For best results, use this tapping everyday for 21-30days for deep transformation.

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If you’re listening on Spotify, you can watch the full video here in the app.
.If you’re listening on Apple or another platform, this will play in audio - but if you’d like to watch and tap along, head to YouTube


For the full interview with Brad, go back to Episode 42.

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2 months ago
10 minutes 41 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 42: Why We Sabotage Ourselves (and How to Finally Stop) with Brad Yates

Why do we keep sabotaging the very things we want most — love, success, money, and happiness?

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In this powerful episode of the F*CK TRAUMA podcast, I sit down with the legendary Brad Yates, the creator of over 1,600 tapping videos that have helped millions clear anxiety, fear, and self-doubt.

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Together, we dive deep into:💜 Why self-sabotage is actually misguided self-love
💜 How anxiety in love is your nervous system trying to protect you
.💜 The hidden ways fear blocks you from money, success, and being seen
.💜 The truth about self-worth (and why you’re already enough)
.💜 Why resistance shows up right before your biggest breakthroughs

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Plus - Brad guides us through a live tapping session for love and anxiety that you can join in real time. (If you can, watch this one on video to tap along with us!)

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This is more than a conversation about EFT. It’s a conversation about freedom, self-love, and reclaiming the life you deserve.


Connect with Brad Yates

Youtube: TAP WITH BRAD

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Try Brad's FREE: Tap Into Best Self Program

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Watch Candice's free masterclass to begin your journey to becoming secure here:

FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You⁠

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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⁠WATCH NOW⁠

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2 months ago
59 minutes 58 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
S1 EP4: How I Created My Dream Relationship (and How You Can Too)

In this deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how I went from anxious attachment and relationship anxiety to creating the secure, committed partnership I had always dreamed of.

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It’s a love story that starts with my beautiful cat, Bleu, and ends with meeting my partner - but more importantly, it’s a roadmap for how you can call in a healthy, lasting relationship without games, anxiety, or chasing.

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Inside, I share the three exact shifts I made and the practical tips, questions, and exercises you can use too to finally feel safe to love, be loved, and keep the healthy love you create.

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If you’ve been stuck attracting emotionally unavailable partners, overthinking every text, or wondering why “love” feels so unstable for you - this episode will help you change the patterns for good.

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This is Episode 4 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on the other episodes to get the full experience.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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WATCH NOW

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2 months ago
40 minutes 23 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
S1 EP3: How to build SELF-WORTH (So You Stop Chasing Love)

If you're tired of chasing love, overgiving in relationships, or settling for breadcrumbs - this episode is for you.

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In this episode, Candice dives deep into the real reason you feel stuck in love: low self-worth.

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You’ll learn:

✨ The sneaky signs you have a self-worth wound (you might not even realise it)
.✨ Why your relationships mirror what you believe you deserve
.✨ How the “fixer identity” keeps you manifesting people to fix
.✨ The #1 belief anxious attachers must shift to stop chasing love
.✨ 4 powerful ways to rebuild your self-worth from the inside out

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If you constantly feel too much or not enough, struggle to set boundaries, or stay in situations hoping to be chosen - this episode will open your eyes and give you practical steps to shift.

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Because when you believe you're worthy, everything changes - and love finally feels secure.

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🔥 Want to take your healing to the next level?
Join the WORTH AS F*CK workshop to fully rewire your self-worth & become magnetic in love.

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💥 This is Episode 3 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 & 2 if you haven't already.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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👉 Watch now: ⁠⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com...⁠⁠

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3 months ago
19 minutes 29 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
S1 EP2: I Manifested a Breakup (& How You Are Too) | Your Secure Era Series

What if I told you your breakup wasn’t random… you manifested it?

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In this vulnerable (and wildly eye-opening) episode, I share the story I’ve never told publicly before - the exact moment I realised I had manifested my own heartbreak… word. for. word.

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And how it taught me the truth about anxious attachment, self-concept, and why you keep attracting people who can’t choose you.

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And before you panic - this isn’t a “it’s your fault” kind of story.

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This is a “your trauma has been scripting your love life and no one told you” story.


I’ll walk you through:
✨ How your self-concept is shaping your relationships
✨ Why ghosting, breadcrumbs, and rejection aren’t coincidences
✨ The moment I flipped my story—and manifested my dream relationship instead

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If you’re tired of heartbreak, patterns, and being “too much” for love - this is for you.

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💥 This is Episode 2 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 if you haven't already. coming up next: why self-worth is everything, and the real story behind manifesting secure love.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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👉 Watch now: ⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com...⁠

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3 months ago
28 minutes 40 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
S1 E1: Your Secure Era: Why Your Love Life Keeps Repeating Itself

If you feel stuck in the same relationship patterns—ghosting, breadcrumbing, over-giving, fixing, or chasing emotionally unavailable people—this episode will change everything.

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In this powerful season opener, Candice Tamara shares her raw story of anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, and the childhood trauma that shaped her love life. But more importantly, she reveals the deeper truth: your love life is not random—it’s a mirror of your subconscious beliefs.

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This is the beginning of Your Secure Era—a groundbreaking new podcast series that blends self-concept, Law of Assumption, and trauma healing to help you rewire the patterns keeping you stuck.

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You’ll learn:
✨ Why your dating or relationship life feels like a loop


✨ What your childhood taught you about love—and how it’s still running the show


✨ The truth about manifesting avoidants, ghosting, rejection, or one-sided relationships


✨ How to stop fixing, proving, or people-pleasing in love


✨ How to shift your self-concept (and your relationships) from the inside out

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Whether you're dating, in a situationship, or in a long-term relationship that leaves you anxious, this is your first step to becoming secure.

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💥 This is Episode 1 of the Your Secure Era series—coming up next: how you’re (unconsciously) manifesting breakups, why self-worth is everything, and the real story behind manifesting secure love.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method👉 Watch now: https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com...

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3 months ago
22 minutes 44 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 41: Why You're Not Being Chosen—And How to Change That

If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people… if you're stuck in the same relationship patterns… if you constantly feel unseen, unchosen, or not enough—this episode is for you.


Today, I’m joined by self-concept coach Courtney in Savannah for a raw, powerful conversation about the real reason you feel anxious in love. Spoiler: It’s not about them—it’s about your self-concept.


We dive into:
✨ How your childhood wounds shape who you believe you are in love
✨ Why your self-concept creates a loop of rejection, abandonment & chasing
✨ How Courtney transformed her marriage by healing her beliefs about being chosen
✨ What it actually takes to stop outsourcing love and validation
✨ Practical tools you can use today to shift your identity and feel secure in yourself


This conversation is everything I wish I’d known years ago—and I know it’s going to change the way you see your relationships forever.


Because you were never unworthy—you were just taught to believe you were. And it’s time to take your power back.


Connect with Courtney on Instagram


🎁 FREE GIFT: Want to break free from overthinking?
Leave a quick review or rating, screenshot it, and DM me on Instagram @candicetamara_
I’ll send you my 4-step method, The Overthinking Cure, for free.


👇 Let us know your biggest takeaway—tag me and @courtneyinsavannah on Instagram so we can celebrate you.


🔗 Want to go deeper? Here’s your next step:🎓 FREE Masterclass: How to Move from Anxious to Secure in Love➡ ⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/signuptomasterclass⁠


💖 Heal Your Anxious Attachment & Become Secure in Love🔥 Join my signature program: Anxious to Secure in Love➡ ⁠https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/copy-of-anxious-to-secure-in-love-1⁠



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7 months ago
1 hour 5 minutes 42 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 40: The #1 Sign You Need a Boundary (And Why You Ignore It)

Anxious attachment makes boundaries feel impossible—but your body is already telling you when you need one. If you feel guilty saying no, over-explain yourself, or feel resentful after helping others, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn:
✅ The #1 sign you need a boundary (and why most people ignore it)
✅ How to trust your body’s signals instead of self-abandoning
✅ Why anxious attachment makes boundaries feel so hard
✅ A simple 4-step method to set boundaries without guilt

💡 Boundaries don’t push love away. They protect it. Let’s dive in.

🔗 Want to go deeper? Here’s your next step:
🎓 FREE Masterclass: How to Move from Anxious to Secure in Love
➡ https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/signuptomasterclass


💖 Heal Your Anxious Attachment & Become Secure in Love
🔥 Join my signature program: Anxious to Secure in Love
➡ https://www.candicetamaracoaching.com/copy-of-anxious-to-secure-in-love-1


📲 Come say hi on Instagram! → @candicetamara_


💬 Did this hit home? Screenshot this episode & tag me on IG with your biggest takeaway!


🔥 🎁 Get The Overthinking Cure for FREE! 🎁
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7 months ago
11 minutes 18 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 39: How to Date Like a Securely Attached Person (No More Games!)

If you have anxious attachment, how do you date without overthinking, chasing, or fearing rejection?


Most dating advice is designed for people playing games—“Wait three days to text back” or “Act like you don’t care.” But when you're securely attached, you don’t need tactics—you move with confidence, ease, and trust.


In this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ The biggest shifts when you date as a securely attached person
✅ How to stop chasing & start choosing from self-worth
✅ Why secure people don’t overanalyze texts or wait for validation
✅ How to naturally attract commitment—without forcing it
✅ A powerful client success story (from anxious to secure in 30 days!)


🔑 If you have anxious attachment, this episode will show you how to shift into secure energy and start dating with confidence.


💖 Inside ⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠, I help you shift out of overfunctioning and upgrade your self-concept so love flows effortlessly.


DM me on Instagram (@candicetamara_) with your biggest takeaway—I’d love to hear from you! 💬


🎧 Listen now & start receiving the love you deserve!


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8 months ago
29 minutes 27 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 38: How Hyper-Independence Is Sabotaging Your Love Life (And How to Stop)

Are you too independent in love? If you’re always the one doing everything—giving, fixing, over-explaining, and struggling to receive—your hyper-independence might be sabotaging your love life.


In this episode of the F*CK Trauma podcast, we’re breaking down:
🔥 Why hyper-independence is a trauma response (not just a personality trait)
🔥 How being “the strong one” is keeping you from the love you truly want
🔥 Andreea’s powerful transformation—how she stopped chasing and was effortlessly pursued
🔥 The self-concept shifts that let love flow to you instead of you working for it
🔥 A mini-challenge to help you step into receiving mode today


🚀 If love feels exhausting, this episode will change everything.


💖 Inside Anxious to Secure in Love, I help you shift out of overfunctioning and upgrade your self-concept so love flows effortlessly.


DM me on Instagram (@candicetamara_) with your biggest takeaway—I’d love to hear from you! 💬


🎧 Listen now & start receiving the love you deserve!


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8 months ago
44 minutes 16 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 37: Navigating Friendships as an Anxious Attachment Style

Friendships can feel just as triggering as romantic relationships when you have an anxious attachment style—especially when dealing with avoidant friends who seem distant, inconsistent, or hard to read. If you’ve ever felt like you’re the one putting in all the effort, overthinking their responses, or questioning your place in a friendship, this episode is for you.


In today’s episode, I’m getting personal. I’ll be sharing my own experiences navigating friendships as someone with an anxious attachment style and the powerful mindset shifts and strategies that have helped me build healthier, more secure relationships.


✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ How to stop overanalyzing your friendships and build real confidence.
✔️ The truth about avoidant friends—and how to stop taking their behaviour personally.
✔️ Communication & boundary-setting tips to create more balanced, fulfilling friendships.
✔️ How to rewire your attachment style and shift from anxious to secure.


Friendships should feel safe, supportive, and reciprocal, not like you’re constantly chasing connection. If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start feeling at ease in your relationships, let’s dive in.


🎧 Listen now and let me know: Have you ever struggled with an avoidant friend? DM me on Instagram @Candicetamara_ or leave a review with your thoughts!


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9 months ago
49 minutes

F*CK Trauma Podcast
Ep 36: How Anxious Attachment Blocks Money & How to Fix It with Helena Grace

In this transformative episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, we’re diving into the surprising connection between anxious attachment styles and your relationship with money.Special guest Helena Grace, a renowned money mindset expert, shares her proven strategies to help you remove subconscious money blocks and unlock financial abundance with ease.💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ How anxious attachment influences your financial habits and self-worth.✔️ Practical mindset shifts to move from scarcity to abundance.✔️ The role of unresolved trauma in shaping your money mindset.✔️ Self-soothing techniques to ease money-related anxiety.✔️ Steps to build a secure, thriving relationship with money.If you’ve struggled with limiting beliefs about money or felt held back by emotional patterns, this episode offers actionable tools to help you heal and grow. Break free from money blocks, rewire your mindset, and step into financial empowerment today.



Connect with Helena:

Instagram

Youtube


Helena’s free money magnet meditation


Helena’s Abundance And Success Accelerator Toolkit (to help you release hidden money blocks)



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10 months ago
48 minutes 12 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
EP 35: Embracing Self-Love as Anxious Attachment: Sarah's Path to Authenticity

In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah, a former student of my Anxious to Secure in Love program. Sarah shares her inspiring journey of doing the inner work to heal her anxious attachment. By overcoming self-abandonment, she built a secure and loving relationship with herself, which transformed her relationship with her partner. Not only that, but Sarah also found the courage to quit her job, start her own business, and begin living life on her own terms instead of for others. Her story is a testament to the power of prioritising self-growth and self-love.


Topics Covered in This Episode:

  • Breaking free from anxious attachment and rediscovering yourself
  • Reconnecting with your inner child and nurturing your emotional needs
  • Practical strategies for cultivating self-love and true self-acceptance
  • Creating and maintaining healthy, secure relationships
  • Embracing growth, change, and stepping into your authentic self
  • The transformative power of mentorship and guidance
  • Facing fear and discomfort as the gateway to lasting transformation


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11 months ago
31 minutes 33 seconds

F*CK Trauma Podcast
The podcast your inner child wishes you heard sooner. Hosted by trauma and mindset coach Candice Tamara, F*CK TRAUMA* is where cycle-breakers come to heal, rewire their identity, and build relationships that feel safe, secure, and soul-deep. This is your space to stop chasing love, break anxious patterns, and become the version of you who feels chosen—by you first. It’s the show that turns your triggers into triumph—and your pain into personal power. Expect raw stories, powerful mindset shifts, and no-BS truth bombs that hit deeper than therapy. You’re not broken. You’re becoming.