STOP Leading Backwards! Transform Your Coaching from the "Dance Floor" to the "Balcony" with Executive Coach Zafer Achi
Ever feel like you’re doing everything right—you've got the technical expertise, the tools, the game plan—but your team still feels disconnected? You're not alone. In this electrifying episode, we dive deep with Zafer Achi, a veteran executive coach and Co-Chair of Cultivating Leadership, who reveals the single biggest mistake most leaders and coaches make: trying to lead others before truly knowing and leading themselves.
Zafer breaks down his own powerful journey from being a technically brilliant leader who puzzled his teams ("We don't know who he is") to becoming a master of developmental coaching. This isn't just theory; this is the tactical framework you need to accelerate growth—both for yourself and your athletes/team members.
What You'll Discover in This Must-Listen Episode:
The "Backward" Leadership Trap: Why focusing on team management and technical fixes before self-awareness leaves your team feeling unheard and generates "scar tissue.
"Trust vs. Transparency: The crucial difference between sharing everything you know and sharing who you are—and why only one builds deep trust and connection.
The Player-Coach Mindset: Learn the game-changing metaphor of the "Balcony and the Dance Floor" (coined by Ron Heifetz) and how to instantly shift from being caught up in the action to observing the dynamics.
Free Yourself from Rigid Beliefs: Discover how to identify values and principles you are "subject to" and learn the profound liberation that comes from holding them as options for choice.
The 3 Pillars of Self-Awareness: Zafer reveals the simple, daily practices (mirrored by top performance psychologists) that leaders can use to "take the balcony on their inner life."
Turbocharge Team Development: Find out why a functional team is actually the ultimate accelerator for individual growth and how to structure collective "Balcony Moments" that metabolize conflict and unlock collective potential.
Whether you're a sports coach, a CEO, or a team captain, this conversation is your blueprint for moving beyond the mechanics of leadership to the mastery of human development. Hit play and start leading from the Balcony!
🔗 Guest Link: Learn more about Zafer Achi and his work at Cultivating Leadership. https://www.cultivatingleadership.com/team-member/zafer-achi
🎙️ Can't Connect with Today's Athletes? You're Not Alone! | Communication Specialist Betsy Butterick on Coaching Gen Z & Gen Alpha
🤯Are you a coach feeling the fatigue? Do terms like "entitled" and "soft" sneak into your conversations about your team? You are experiencing the generational shift that is pushing coaches out of the profession, and this episode is your urgent, actionable roadmap back to success and joy.
We sit down with Communication Specialist and "The Coaches' Coach," Betsy Butterick, to discuss her transformative new book, Kids These Days. Betsy unpacks why the old ways of coaching are no longer effective and how you can bridge the widening gap with Gen Z and Gen Alpha athletes without sacrificing your standards.
Here’s a sneak peek at what you'll learn in this must-listen episode:
🔥 Why Coaching Feels Impossible Right Now: It's "One More Thing" Fatigue: Coaches are drowning in responsibilities outside of the sport, and connecting with modern athletes feels like the final straw.
The Blame Trap: How fixating on "Kids These Days" or "Coaches These Days" as the problem prevents any real solutions.
The Technology Chasm: Why athletes today are fundamentally different from previous generations, and how the internet has shaped their expectations and development in ways you might not realize.
💡 Game-Changing Shifts for Modern Coaches: From Accommodation to Collaboration: Stop feeling like you have to accommodate every demand. Learn how to master the art of co-creation, which is key to boosting engagement, ownership, and accountability.
It’s Not Impossible, It’s Unpracticed: The skills you think athletes should have are simply unpracticed. Discover your incredible opportunity to use sport to teach them how to "do hard better".
The Power of Asking: The best coaches at every level avoid lectures and use strategic questions to effectively reach and teach the modern athlete. We break down the subtle language shift you need to make today to avoid athlete conflict.
🛠️ Action Items for Leaders: How to Level Set Expectations to reduce conflict and increase the likelihood of success before the season even starts. Why Self-Reflection is the necessary first step—if you don't know your own triggers and resistance, no strategy will work. Whether you coach a high school team, an elite college program, lead in the boardroom, or are simply raising Gen Z/Alpha kids, this episode will transform the way you communicate and connect. Don't let the joy of coaching fade! Tune in now to learn the essential strategies for success in the modern sports landscape.
Get the Book! 📖Kids These Days by Betsy Butterick is available for pre-sale now!
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In a world of intense social media messaging and traditional "man box" expectations, how can coaches connect with and lead young male athletes effectively? In part 2 of our conversation with Kip Ioane of Teams of Men to explore a coaching philosophy that goes beyond yelling and wins. Kip shares powerful stories and actionable strategies for using vulnerability as a strength, co-creating a positive team culture, and helping athletes find their authentic selves. This isn't just about coaching a better game—it's about building better men.Kip discusses a new approach to coaching young male athletes that focuses on emotional intelligence and challenging traditional masculinity, often referred to as the "man box." Instead of relying on old-school, aggressive coaching methods, the conversation highlights the importance of fostering self-awareness, creating a safe space for difficult conversations, and empowering athletes to question harmful messages they receive from society, music, and even family members. The episode also explores the power of vulnerability from coaches and the importance of co-creating team culture with the athletes themselves.Learn more about Teams of Men: https://www.teamsofmenmembership.group/Join the TOC Coach Community- Get your 7 Day Free Trial https://www.skool.com/toccoach/aboutSubscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter so you don’t miss the notes to this and every episode! https://www.tocculture.com/newsletter Learn More and Apply for the next TOC Coaching Retreat: https://www.tocculture.com/retreat Listen to the Culture Builders Podcast: Youtube | SpotifyInterested in booking TOC for a team meeting/consultation? Click here→ https://www.tocculture.com/contactTOC Coaching & Culture Certification : https://www.tocculture.com/offers/3FEMNae2/checkoutLearn More about TOC and how we can help enhance your coaching experience https://www.tocculture.com/Learn More about Besty Butterick and her work with coaches! https://betsybutterick.com/Follow Us On Social MediaSubstack: https://substack.com/@jpnerbuntocInstagram- https://www.instagram.com/tocculture/ TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@tocculture Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/@tocculture
Join us for a powerful conversation with Kip Ioane, founder of Teams of Men, as he shares his journey from basketball coach to advocate for a new vision of masculinity. Triggered by a series of unsettling incidents, Kip realized that traditional coaching methods weren't enough to prepare young men for the real world.In this episode, we dive into the concept of the "man box"—the rigid set of societal expectations that can leave men feeling lonely, angry, and isolated. Kip explains how coaches can use their unique platform to challenge these harmful norms, not by adding more to their plate, but by shifting their focus.Join the TOC Coach Community- Get your 7 Day Free Trial https://www.skool.com/toccoach/aboutSubscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter so you don’t miss the notes to this and every episode! https://www.tocculture.com/newsletter Learn More and Apply for the next TOC Coaching Retreat: https://www.tocculture.com/retreat Listen to the Culture Builders Podcast: Youtube | SpotifyInterested in booking TOC for a team meeting/consultation? Click here→ https://www.tocculture.com/contactTOC Coaching & Culture Certification : https://www.tocculture.com/offers/3FEMNae2/checkoutLearn More about TOC and how we can help enhance your coaching experience https://www.tocculture.com/Learn More about Besty Butterick and her work with coaches! https://betsybutterick.com/Follow Us On Social MediaSubstack: https://substack.com/@jpnerbuntocInstagram- https://www.instagram.com/tocculture/ TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@tocculture Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/@tocculture
You’ve heard the quote, "By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail," but how much time do you spend preparing your team's culture? In this episode, hosts JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterick break down why an intentional plan for your culture is just as critical—if not more so—than your tactical systems. They reveal the biggest excuses coaches use to avoid this essential work and share actionable strategies to build a strong foundation. Learn how to align your staff, connect with your athletes on a deeper level, and proactively engage with parents to create a culture that can withstand the pressures of a long season.3:06 - Common Obstacles7:26 - Top 3 Foundational Practices11:58 - The Power of Expectations14:55 - Co-Creating Standards21:11 - The Dream Manager25:58 - Engaging Sports ParentsJoin the TOC Coach Community- Get your 7 Day Free Trial https://www.skool.com/toccoach/aboutSubscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter so you don’t miss the notes to this and every episode! https://www.tocculture.com/newsletter Learn More and Apply for the next TOC Coaching Retreat: https://www.tocculture.com/retreat Listen to the Culture Builders Podcast: Youtube | SpotifyInterested in booking TOC for a team meeting/consultation? Click here→ https://www.tocculture.com/contactTOC Coaching & Culture Certification : https://www.tocculture.com/offers/3FEMNae2/checkoutLearn More about TOC and how we can help enhance your coaching experience https://www.tocculture.com/Learn More about Besty Butterick and her work with coaches! https://betsybutterick.com/Follow Us On Social MediaSubstack: https://substack.com/@jpnerbuntocInstagram- https://www.instagram.com/tocculture/ TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@tocculture Youtube- https://www.youtube.com/@tocculture
In this episode, we sit down with veteran coach Eoin Roche to explore the nuanced world of athletic development. Eoin, known for his work with various teams from youth development to senior inter-county, dives deep into how he leverages one-on-one sessions and film analysis to unlock player potential.
Discover why a one-size-fits-all approach doesn't work in coaching, and how adapting your methods to individual athletes, even using technology to connect with quieter players, can lead to significant breakthroughs. Eoin shares his powerful insights on objective post-game analysis, stressing the importance of data and film over personal biases to find the true story of a performance.
You'll also hear about his innovative approach to introducing performance analysis to young athletes, proving that early exposure can create "sponges" eager to learn. Perhaps most importantly, Eoin reveals the vital role of building genuine relationships with players. Learn how showing you care and are invested—through your hard work and commitment—builds invaluable credibility and earns player buy-in.
Whether you're a seasoned coach, an aspiring analyst, or just passionate about sports, Eoin's practical wisdom on balancing data, human connection, and making the game fun will resonate deeply.
Key Discussion Points:
Adapting coaching for individual needs
Leveraging technology for film review and player engagement
The power of objective data vs. personal biases in analysis
Introducing performance analysis to youth athletes
Building credibility and relationships with players
Making coaching and learning enjoyable
Don't miss this engaging conversation that goes beyond the playbook to explore what truly drives
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In this special episode, we're making a huge announcement that's been in the works for a long time. We're thrilled to officially launch the TOC Coach Community, a new platform and partnership between TOC and SAVI.Join us as we sit down with Tyler and Mark to discuss our personal coaching journeys, the lessons learned from influential mentors, and the powerful "Venn diagram" that brought our philosophies together. We dive deep into why we're moving beyond transactional coaching to a transformational experience that empowers leaders.Discover how the TOC Coach Community combines the best of both worlds:TOC's proven leadership and culture coursesSAVI's engaged community and simple, implementable systemsWe'll share how this platform offers more than just content—it's a supportive home for coaches. You'll get access to seven online courses, hundreds of digital resources, and live training, but most importantly, a team of peers and mentors who help you navigate challenges and define success beyond the scoreboard.Whether you're a first-time coach or a seasoned veteran, this partnership is designed to help you thrive on the journey.Join the Community: Sign up for the new TOC Coach community https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about
Join us for a fascinating conversation with Eoin Roche, a seasoned Hurling coach from Ireland, as he reveals his innovative strategies for athlete development and performance analysis. Eoin, who seamlessly combines coaching with analytical insights, explains why this integrated role is crucial for clarity and effectiveness, especially in amateur sports like GAA where time is precious.
Learn how Eoin tackles the challenge of engaging diverse athletes in film sessions, advocating for brief, impactful reviews over lengthy ones. He dives into the importance of establishing core "principles of play" to ensure consistent messaging, and shares powerful techniques like leveraging player-led presentations, strategic questioning ("Why?" and "What did you see?"), and constructive feedback.
This episode is packed with practical wisdom for any coach, sports leader, or athlete looking to optimize learning, build confidence, and drive sustained performance. Tune in to transform your approach to team development!
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Join hosts JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterick as they tackle the most complex and vital element of a winning team: trust. We break down the four pillars of trust, discuss why it’s so hard to maintain in today’s sports environment, and share practical, actionable advice for coaches and leaders at every level. In this episode, we dive into the incredible story of legendary coach John Wooden, a man who chose his integrity over his dream job. His unwavering commitment to his word serves as the perfect starting point to explore a key question for all leaders today: How do you build a culture of trust when the world of sports feels more transactional than ever?In this episode, you’ll learn:✅Why the transfer portal and short-term contracts make trust building a minefield.✅How to navigate difficult conversations with athletes about playing time and commitment.✅The four foundational elements of a trusting relationship.✅A simple and powerful activity to help your team understand their own "trust languages."✅How to build a transparent and trusting relationship with your athletic administration.Whether you coach a youth team, a high school squad, or a college program, this episode will equip you with the tools to inspire a deeper level of commitment and a stronger team bond.Listen now to create a coaching culture built on a foundation of genuine trust.Get the notes for this and every episode:Subscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox weekly newsletter at tocculture.com.Check out Betsy's blog: www.BetsyButterick.com#CoachingCulture #Trust #Leadership #TeamBuilding #CoachJohnWooden #SportsPsychology #TeamCulture #PodcastForCoaches
Join us for a transformative conversation with David Durand, founder of Real Development (realdevelopment.org), as we dive deep into the psychology of coaching modern athletes. This episode challenges traditional views on "softness" and reveals how building true resilience starts with understanding the athlete's nervous system.
David explains how to identify when an athlete is truly "unable" due to dysregulation or internal struggles like perfectionism, rather than simply being "unwilling." He advocates for a coaching philosophy that prioritizes helping athletes regulate before pushing their boundaries – stretching them for growth, not stressing them into shutdown.
Key topics covered:
The Nervous System & Resilience: Why it's the foundation for bouncing back stronger.
Decoding Athlete Behavior: Understanding the roots of "unwillingness" in stress and perfectionism.
Choice vs. Obligation: Empowering Gen Z through autonomy and understanding their unique desires.
Practical Tools for Coaches: Simple yet powerful shifts in breathing, language, and non-verbal cues to create a high-performance, high-safety environment.
This is a must-listen for any coach, parent, or leader looking to cultivate not just better athletes, but more resilient and self-aware individuals.
Connect with David Durand and explore his work at realdevelopment.org and grab his book, "Bet On It," on Amazon.
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Are you a coach struggling to connect with Gen Z athletes? Do you wish your team had better emotional regulation on and off the court? In this insightful episode, we sit down with David Durand, founder of RealDevelopment.org and author of "Bet On It," to explore a revolutionary approach to coaching that goes beyond traditional skill development.
David, a former basketball coach with a background in clinical psychology, shares his journey to understanding the profound link between an athlete's mental state and their performance. Discover why he believes athletes are often "biologically unable" rather than just "unwilling," and how focusing on their nervous system can unlock their true potential.
Learn about David's powerful BET Method (Breath, Eyes, Touch) – three practical pathways to help athletes regulate their emotions, improve focus, and build deeper connections. We discuss how coaches can use intentional questions to foster athlete awareness, create environments that support co-regulation, and implement simple team rituals that dramatically reduce stress and enhance performance.
Whether you're coaching a youth team or an elite squad, this episode offers actionable insights into building more resilient, self-aware, and high-performing athletes. Don't miss this game-changing conversation that will transform how you lead and connect with your team!
Key Takeaways You'll Learn:
Why understanding an athlete's psychological state is as crucial as their physical skills.
How to differentiate between an athlete's "unwillingness" and their "biological inability."
Practical strategies using Breath, Eyes, and Touch to regulate individual and team nervous systems.
The power of co-regulation and how a coach's own emotional state impacts the entire team.
Simple team rituals that foster belonging and reduce performance anxiety.
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Website: https://realdevelopment.org/
Book: "Bet On It"
In a special live coaching call, host JP Nerbunn works with John Newman-Gonchar, a Division I head women's volleyball coach. The conversation is a raw and vulnerable exploration of the struggles many coaches face: balancing a demanding career with family life while rediscovering the initial passion and joy that led them to the profession.
John reveals a deep-seated feeling of being pulled in a hundred different directions, which he believes detracts from his ability to give his best to his team and his family. The session focuses on challenging John’s core beliefs, particularly the idea that being a serious, high-performing coach is incompatible with being lighthearted and joyful. Through powerful questions and reflections, the discussion helps John identify his personal vision for his "best self"—a coach who is both intense and serious about his craft, and simultaneously joyful, lighthearted, and emotionally present. The episode concludes with John committing to specific, actionable steps to bring this new, aligned version of himself into his upcoming season.
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Are you a coach looking to unlock your team's full potential, especially during those critical halftime moments? In this insightful episode, we sit down with Eamon Devlin, founder of Minute 9, a consultancy dedicated to transforming how sports teams communicate under pressure. Eamon provides actionable advice, from using anonymous surveys to "stop, start, continue" frameworks, and even unique ideas like videoing halftimes for objective review.
Whether you're a seasoned head coach or an aspiring leader, this episode will equip you with fresh perspectives and practical tools to foster better communication, elevate player performance, and truly make halftime for the players.
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Ever wondered what really goes on during halftime, and if those intense locker room talks actually work? In this insightful episode, we sit down with Eamon Devlin, founder of Minute Nine, a consultancy revolutionizing how sports teams communicate under pressure.
Eamon, a former lawyer, shares the personal story that led him to analyze halftime communication and why traditional "blow-ups" often do more harm than good. Discover why the most successful teams embrace brevity and clarity in their messages, and how focusing on player well-being can lead to better second-half performances.
Whether you're a coach, athlete, or simply curious about peak performance, Eamon's perspective will challenge your assumptions and offer fresh insights into leadership and team dynamics.
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JP Nerbun and Nate Sanderson shared personal anecdotes from their coaching careers, discussing initial successes, humorous mistakes, and impactful learning experiences. They reflected on how their coaching philosophies evolved from a naive, highly intense approach to a more balanced understanding of their role, acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of their early methods. The hosts underscored the significance of player relationships, particularly during difficult moments, and the continuous journey of self-improvement and adaptability in coaching.
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In Part 2, Coach JT Toczynski dives deeper into the specific culture-building activities he implements with his high school basketball team. He emphasizes the importance of fostering vulnerability, community engagement, and mental toughness. JT shares details about "speed dating" for new players, "hero and hardship" circles for deeper connection, annual community service at a senior home, and "Hell Day" exercises designed to push mental and physical limits.
A significant part of the discussion revolves around JT's personal growth as a coach, specifically his journey to become more demanding while maintaining strong relationships with his players. He candidly shares his "immunity to change" — his fear of not being liked or replicating negative past experiences — and how he actively worked to overcome this. A particularly impactful story highlights a difficult, yet breakthrough, exit interview where vulnerability and embracing silence led to a strengthened relationship with a challenging player.
The conversation concludes with JT detailing his system for maintaining high standards in practice through behavioral accountability and empowering captains. He also reflects on the shift from a "fixer" mentality to allowing players to process emotions, and his ongoing "north star" of being a demanding coach whose players will ultimately respect and appreciate the challenging experience.
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This podcast episode features an insightful conversation with high school basketball coach Jonathan "JT" Toczynski, tracing his evolution from a transactional to a transformational coach. Starting as a freshman coach in 2018, JT shares his initial struggles, pivotal "aha" moments, and intentional strategies for building a thriving team culture centered on joy, care, and trust. His journey highlights the power of self-reflection, continuous learning, and courageous application of new coaching philosophies.
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In this episode of The Coaching Culture Podcast, hosts JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterick tackle the pervasive "win-aholic" mentality in sports. They explore the inherent tension coaches often feel between the relentless pursuit of victory and the deeper purpose of athlete development and creating positive experiences. The discussion highlights that while winning is integral to sports, an over-focus on it can lead to burnout, damaged relationships, and a loss of joy in coaching. The hosts unpack how to integrate the desire to win with a clear sense of purpose, emphasizing truth-telling, understanding individual motivations, and teaching crucial psychological skills to navigate pressure.
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What does it truly take to build a national championship program? Join us for an incredibly candid conversation with Rob Dow, head coach of the NCAA National Championship-winning Vermont Men's Soccer team. In this powerful episode, Coach Dow pulls back the curtain on how he cultivated a culture of unwavering belief, even when it meant "shaking the underdog" mentality out of his players – and himself. He shares a deeply personal story about leading with vulnerability and fostering an environment where his athletes feel safe to be authentic. Discover the team's unique mantra, "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time," and learn about their intentional strategies for building a strong brotherhood, combating homesickness, and maintaining core values amidst success. Whether you're a coach, leader, or simply interested in what drives elite performance and genuine human connection, this episode offers invaluable lessons on leadership, resilience, and the relentless pursuit of greatness.
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Join us for an inspiring conversation with Rob, the head coach of the University of Vermont's national championship soccer team. In this episode, Rob takes us behind the scenes of their incredible journey, revealing that their success was built on far more than just tactics.
Discover how Rob fosters a deep connection between his team and the vibrant Vermont community, viewing UVM Athletics as the state's "Real Madrid." He shares his philosophy of embracing diversity, nurturing individual strengths, and building authentic relationships that extend beyond the field. Learn about the intentional rituals that forge a strong team identity, like no-phone trivia at team meals, and how a focus on empowerment over over-coaching allows his players to thrive instinctually.
Rob's humility and commitment to continuous learning shine through as he discusses how he gathers insights from community leaders and continually seeks to improve. This episode is a masterclass in purpose-driven leadership, offering invaluable takeaways for anyone looking to build a resilient, connected, and ultimately victorious team.
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