In this episode, we break down why the popular phrase “happy wife, happy life” is silently destroying relationships — and eroding men’s confidence in the process. What starts as good intentions often turns into self-abandonment: saying yes when you mean no, hiding your opinions, tolerating disrespect, and prioritizing her happiness at the cost of your own integrity. We explore how this people-pleasing dynamic kills attraction, creates resentment, and ultimately leads to emotional disconnection. You’ll learn why your partner doesn’t actually want a yes-man, how trying to fix her emotions backfires, and what it really means to be a confident, grounded man in a long-term relationship. If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, constantly trying to keep the peace, or wondering why your relationship feels off — this conversation will help you take your power back. 👉 Watch now to reclaim your integrity, speak your mind without guilt, and rebuild the respect you’ve lost — both from her and from yourself. What’s one moment where you realized you were prioritizing her feelings over your values? Drop it in the comments — let’s open up a real conversation around confidence, honesty, and self-respect in relationships.

Get free access to my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building course (worth $130) and connect with like-minded men when you join Brojo here… all for free! https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about ---- Most people live under comforting illusions about psychology, motivation, love, and even hope. But after 20+ years of coaching, probation work, and studying real human behavior, I’ve learned that the truth is much darker—and much more liberating once you face it. In this video, I break down the dark truths about human psychology that nobody wants to hear. You’ll learn why psychology isn’t really a science, why people aren’t motivated to succeed (only to repeat themselves), and why “love” isn’t a feeling at all but a pattern of behavior. I’ll expose why your thoughts and feelings don’t define who you are—your actions do—and why free will may not be what you think it is. We’ll also look at the big picture: why hope often crushes more than it helps, why humanity can’t be saved, and why that shouldn’t stop you from living a powerful, meaningful life right now. This isn’t about pessimism—it’s about clarity. When you see people as they really are (including yourself), you stop wasting energy on illusions and start building integrity, confidence, and resilience. 👉 Question for you: Which of these dark truths hit you hardest—and why? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Red Pill ideology claims to reveal the “truth” about women, dating, and masculinity — but does it actually work? As a confidence coach who’s worked with men for years, I’ve seen firsthand how Red Pill beliefs destroy relationships, lower self-esteem, and lead to bitterness and isolation. In this video, I break down the 10 core claims of Red Pill philosophy — from hypergamy and “high value men” to frame control, emotional suppression, and the belief that all women are manipulative — and I test each one against science, psychology, and real-life results. This isn’t an emotional rant or a hit piece. It’s a rational, evidence-based challenge for men who feel stuck. If you’ve tried Red Pill and still feel lost, angry, or alone, this might be the perspective shift you need. You’ll also learn healthier, more honest alternatives — ones that build real confidence, deepen relationships, and lead to genuine peace of mind. 👉 Question for you: Have Red Pill beliefs helped you… or held you back? Be honest. Share your experience in the comments — I read every one. And if you're ready to ditch the bitterness and build true self-worth, subscribe for more content like this.

Why do so many "nice guys" struggle with confidence, boundaries, and resentment? Because they’ve been taught that anger is dangerous, shameful, or weak — and they’ve been suppressing it for years. In this episode, I break down why repressing anger doesn’t make you a better man — it makes you resentful, anxious, depressed, and, eventually… explosive. You’ll learn how repressed anger creates passive-aggressive behavior, self-loathing, and even destructive outbursts. More importantly, I’ll show you how to express anger healthily — without hurting people, and without losing control. Anger isn’t the problem. It’s power. It’s fuel. It’s the emotional fire that helps you stand up for yourself, set boundaries, and live with courage. And if you’ve been people-pleasing your whole life, learning to express anger is one of the most powerful transformations you’ll ever experience. ⚠️ If you feel like you’re stuck, emotionally numb, or constantly walking on eggshells, this episode will give you a way out. 👉 Let me know in the comments: How has anger shown up in your life — and what happens when you try to express it? Let's talk.

Learn more about Kijuan and get links to all his socials here: https://ameymotivation.com/ In this powerful episode of the Brojo podcast, Dan Munro sits down with Kijuan Amey, a U.S. Air Force veteran whose life took a dramatic turn on May 5, 2017. At just 25 years old, Kijuan was thriving—building a career he loved, starting a business, and chasing his dream of becoming a pilot. But one tragic motorcycle accident changed everything, leaving him blind and with life-altering injuries. Rather than giving in to despair, Kijuan chose a different path: resilience. In this candid and inspiring conversation, he opens up about waking from a coma, discovering the truth about his condition, and facing the emotional and physical toll of starting over. From rock climbing and downhill skiing to public speaking and writing a book, Kijuan proves that limits are often self-imposed—and meant to be broken. His message is clear: don’t focus on what you’ve lost—focus on what you can still do, and do it with everything you’ve got. 👉 Kijuan’s story will challenge your excuses and light a fire under your goals. Drop a comment below: What’s one challenge you’ve been avoiding that you now feel ready to face after hearing this? Let’s talk about it. 👇 --- Tired of being "too nice" and getting disrespected? It’s time to step up and build real confidence, integrity, and assertiveness. Join The Integrity Army, a private men’s community designed to help you break free from Nice Guy Syndrome and become the confident man you’re meant to be. Get FREE access to my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building courses when you join. Connect with like-minded men leveling up in life, relationships, and business. Stop waiting—start your transformation today! Join now https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about

If you constantly feel anxious at work, overloaded with tasks, or stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing—this video is for you. Many Nice Guys struggle with setting boundaries, both in the workplace and with family. The result? They get walked all over, burned out, and feel like they’re never good enough. In this episode, we break down: ✔️ The real reason your boss keeps piling work on you (and why you can’t say no) ✔️ Why people-pleasing makes you less respected, not more ✔️ How manipulative or critical parents keep you stuck in self-doubt ✔️ Practical strategies to set boundaries and regain control of your life The hard truth? If you don’t change your approach, people will keep taking advantage of you—because they can. But once you start prioritizing yourself, everything shifts. You’ll gain respect, reduce stress, and finally start living life on your own terms. 💬 QUESTION FOR YOU: Where do you struggle the most—at work or with family? Drop a comment below and let’s talk about it! --- Tired of being "too nice" and getting overlooked? It’s time to step up and build real confidence, integrity, and respect. Join The Integrity Army, a private men’s community designed to help you break free from Nice Guy Syndrome and become the confident man you’re meant to be. Get FREE access to my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building courses when you join. Connect with like-minded men leveling up in life, relationships, and business. Stop waiting—start your transformation today! Join now https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about

Ever catch yourself feeling jealous of confident, successful men? You see them taking risks, speaking their minds, and getting what they want—while you feel stuck, hesitant, and full of self-doubt. That feeling of envy isn’t just frustration; it’s a clue. It’s showing you exactly where you’re holding yourself back. In this video, we’ll break down: ✅ What envy really means (and why it’s not as bad as you think) ✅ The biggest lie envy tells you—and how it keeps you stuck ✅ The difference between admiration, inspiration, and envy ✅ How to flip envy into motivation instead of self-pity ✅ 3 powerful questions to challenge your envy and take action The truth is, the men you admire aren’t special. They’ve just taken steps you haven’t—yet. And today, you’re going to learn how to start taking those steps yourself. 💬 Comment below: What’s one thing you’ve envied in another man, and how are you going to take action on it? Let’s break free from the envy trap together. 👇🔥

Most Nice Guys think anger is a problem—something to suppress or feel ashamed of. But what if anger is actually the key to confidence, assertiveness, and a meaningful life? In this episode, we dive deep into the hidden power of anger and why suppressing it leads to depression, resentment, and passive aggression. You’ll learn: 🔥 Why Nice Guys struggle with anger and how it sabotages their self-respect 🔥 The real reason you feel stuck, frustrated, or unmotivated 🔥 How to channel anger into confidence, courage, and boundary-setting 🔥 The difference between healthy anger and destructive rage If you've ever felt like a pushover, struggled to stand up for yourself, or exploded after holding things in too long, this video is for you. Anger isn’t the enemy—it’s your greatest untapped resource. Watch until the end to learn how to express it in a powerful, constructive way. 👉 Comment below: What’s your relationship with anger? Do you suppress it, explode, or use it effectively? Let’s talk.

Emotional pain is unavoidable—but how you handle it determines your confidence, resilience, and overall well-being. Most “Nice Guys” have been taught to suppress their emotions, thinking that sadness, anger, or anxiety make them weak. But real strength comes from facing these feelings head-on without letting them control you. In this video, I break down how to stop fearing emotional pain and start using it as a tool for personal growth. You’ll learn: Why suppressing emotions creates suffering (and how to stop) A simple technique to process feelings without overthinking them How to turn emotions like anger, sadness, and fear into productive action Why labeling emotions can make them worse—and what to do instead By the end, you’ll have a clear roadmap for handling emotional pain in a way that builds confidence and self-respect, rather than keeping you stuck in Nice Guy habits. 💬 What’s the hardest emotion for you to deal with? Drop a comment below—I read every one and would love to hear your thoughts! --- Tired of being "too nice" and getting overlooked? It’s time to step up and build real confidence, integrity, and respect. Join The Integrity Army, a private men’s community designed to help you break free from Nice Guy Syndrome and become the confident man you’re meant to be. 🔥 Get FREE access to my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building courses when you join. 💪 Connect with like-minded men leveling up in life, relationships, and business. 🚀 Stop waiting—start your transformation today! 🔗 Join now https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about

Build Your Confidence and Integrity - join the FREE Brojo Self-Development Community on Skool here!  https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491 --- In this episode, we discuss manipulation, defining it as controlling or influencing someone, which can be neutral or malicious depending on intent and outcome. Manipulation is constant and subjective, occurring when someone changes behavior in response to emotional discomfort. It's vital to start recognizing manipulation by its impact on quality of life and engage in strategies like maintaining original plans, questioning intentions, and being assertive. We'll look at the importance of endurance and making manipulation uncomfortable for the manipulator.

Build Your Confidence and Integrity - join the FREE Brojo Self-Development Community on Skool here! https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491 Ask Dan Anything: In this session, we focused on Nice Guy Recovery questions, including: When to stop identifying as a Nice Guy and realise you’ve moved on from that label. How to stop ruminating over your ex and move on with your life. How to get unstuck from always needing others to guide you, and learn to decide for yourself the right way forward. How to deal with the uncomfortable situation of having to keep seeing someone who hurt you in the past, and how to navigate past the awkwardness and potential manipulation. Dealing with the difficulty of losing friends while you develop yourself and outgrow them.

Dan Munro outlines his Philosophy of Integrity in full for the first time. This philosophy emphasizes individual self-discovery and the absence of rigid rules. Integrity is defined as consistency and honesty, while confidence is described as a deep-seated belief in oneself. The philosophy posits that increasing integrity leads to greater confidence and a better life. Munro identifies core values as subjective principles guiding your behavior in a way that will improve your confidence and the lives of those around you, such as honesty, courage, and responsibility. He stresses the importance of aligning your everyday actions with your values, continuous adaptation of your values, and the rejection of instant gratification for long-term benefits. Munro also highlights the influence of various philosophers and thinkers on this philosophy. At the end, you will get a step by step practical guide for living by with integrity: Action Items [ ] Identify your core values. [ ] Create a guiding principle or definition for each value. [ ] Test and measure how well you are living by your values, and refine them as needed. [ ] Treat each day as an opportunity to experiment with living more by your values. [ ] Use the 3x model of curiosity, honesty, and respect to continuously enhance your wisdom about living with integrity.

This episode discusses the challenges of self-love and acceptance, emphasizing the importance of treating oneself kindly.  We'll explore the common struggle everyone has with stress, pressure, and societal expectations, which often lead to self-loathing and coping mechanisms like overworking, substance abuse, and people-pleasing. True self-love involves reducing stress, being kind to oneself, and recognizing your achievements, searching for a balanced approach, free from the extremes of high pressure or complete apathy, looking for self-compassion and realistic expectations. Practical solutions include reframing thoughts, focusing on controllable aspects, and fostering genuine connections.

In this AMA, I answer the following questions about confidence: What's the best way - strategies, methods - to really get to know myself and like myself? How can people stop defining themselves - their actions, life view etc. - by the Nice Guy Syndrome ? Any suggestions and advice for a work confrontation with a colleague who tries to control me? How to push through with Radical Honesty without backing down when they're resistant?

This episode  discusses the psychology of self-confidence, emphasizing that it can be learned and is not innate. It outlines 21 traits crucial for building confidence, starting with bravery and courage, which involve facing and expanding past fear. It highlights the importance of radical honesty, assertiveness, and respect, and also stresses the need for self-awareness, curiosity, and optimism. I advice against people-pleasing and encourages ruthlessness when necessary. This episode promotes a resourceful mindset, emotional stability, and relentless pursuit of long-term goals.

Dan Munro discusses parenting styles and their impact on child confidence. He recommends Lighthouse, Free Range, and Gentle parenting, emphasizing autonomy, emotional validation, and respect. He criticizes strict and Tiger parenting for fostering dishonesty and misery. Munro also warns against helicopter parenting, which can lead to fragility. Key principles include challenging children to solve problems, validating emotions, and setting healthy boundaries. He stresses the importance of honesty, self-awareness, and physical health. Munro highlights the need for parents to model behavior and avoid hypocrisy, aiming to raise confident, autonomous children.

[#248] Psychopathy: The Darksides and Downsides to Not Giving a Fuck by Dan Munro & Mike Wells

Being attached to outcomes - results or reactions that are outside of your direct control - causes more suffering than just about anything else you'll ever encounter. Tragically, you're doing this without needing to! In this podcast, I explore the concept of having an emotional attachment (a hopeful expectation) to results that you prefer, and why this is both unnecessary and unhelpful when it comes to building self confidence. We'll explore how to live with integrity and pursue your goals without hoping that things will go "well" and being able to enjoy the process rather than depending on winning.

I've got a new podcast for you that's here by popular demand. The last podcast I did was with the honest psychopath Jackson Noble, and I got a lot of inquiries about his partner Teagan. People wanted to know what it was like for her to be with an open psychopath, to be in a loving relationship with him, to observe him as a father and a partner, and to know if it's possible to have a healthy and loving relationship with somebody with Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD). Well, Teagan has gracefully agreed to be interviewed and to talk about her experiences openly and honestly. She also identifies as neurodivergent and believes she has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). And yet she says their relationship is "99% healthy". Together we explored what it means to love when you don't experience emotions deeply, how safe it is to be in a relationship with a psychopath, and how that compares to her previous relationships with neurotypical men. Let's meet her and hear her fascinating story.

Dan Munro and self-aware psychopath Jackson Noble (a.k.a. "Jack the Ripper") engage in a thought-provoking discussion on various topics, including psychopathy, childhood trauma, moral codes, self-doubt, and how to stop caring what other people think of you. They share their personal experiences and insights, often highlighting the complexities of psychopathy traits and issues and the importance of navigating them ethically and responsibly. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the need for honesty, self-trust, and long-term thinking, as well as the importance of protecting children from harm. Overall, the conversation is both introspective and informative, offering valuable insights into the human psyche and the importance of empathy and self-awareness. Check out Jackson's links for his book and social media here: https://linktr.ee/jax.theripper