In this episode, Sarah shares how to honor endings with intention and grace, so you can find peace, closure, and the strength to open a new beginning. You’ll learn simple ways to release what’s over, reclaim your energy, and trust that letting go is part of your growth.

In this episode, breakup coach Sarah Curnoles shares how to move through emotional pain instead of numbing or avoiding it. You’ll learn the difference between clean pain and dirty pain, and the five key skills to help you heal: awareness, tolerance, regulation, self-compassion, and thought questioning. Listen in to discover how sitting with your feelings can ease your suffering and open the door to peace and joy again.

This is the final step to moving on and getting over your ex. You want to stop focusing so much on the past and instead learn how to create a future that gets you more excited than your ex. Here is your exact guide to how, even if you don't feel ready yet.

Love her or hate you, you can't deny that Taylor Swift is the Breakup Queen. She has taken her very public breakups and turned them into her own personal transformations as well as her empire. In honor of her new album release, here are some lessons I've learned from watching Taylor Swift manage her breakups.

Are you stuck replaying your breakup on a loop—thinking about your ex, the last fight, or every red flag you might’ve missed? In this episode, Sarah shares why ruminating thoughts happen, why they don’t actually solve anything, and how to finally break free from the cycle. You’ll learn the powerful first step to stop living in the past, how to reflect without beating yourself up, and the key skills that help you detach, heal, and create a future you’re excited about.

Think you’re “confused” about why your ex did what they did? You’re not. In this tough love episode, Sarah unpacks how confusion is really a convenient shield from feeling the deeper pain of heartbreak—and why answers won’t set you free, but courage will.

In this episode of Breakup Peptalks, Sarah shares why detaching from your ex feels so hard — and why it’s not your fault but your biology. She explains how dopamine, serotonin, and even “emotional muscle memory” keep you hooked, and how to rewire your brain for neutrality instead of obsession. With practical tools like journaling, nourishing routines, and celebrating small wins, Sarah shows you how to unhook from the past and free up your energy for what’s next.

After a breakup, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself. For women, that often looks like shame for having given everything to the relationship. For men, it can mean feeling stripped of the pride and roles that defined them as a partner, husband, or father. In this episode of Breakup Pep Talks, Sarah helps you uncover who you are without external titles or roles. You’ll learn how to separate external identity markers from the gifts that come naturally from within you — and why those unique strengths are the foundation of rebuilding your confidence. Sarah walks you through practical tools like creating a strengths inventory, logging daily wins, and taking a “curiosity audit” to reconnect with your natural gifts and interests. Think of it as strength training for your identity: every rep helps you become stronger, more grounded, and more you.

Breakups don’t just break your heart — they hijack your nervous system. If you’ve been lying awake at night, replaying every conversation, or struggling to focus at work, you’re not broken. You’re in survival mode. In this episode, I’ll show you why your body reacts this way after a breakup and share three simple nervous system resets that actually work: a cross-body hug, Navy SEAL box breathing, and quick bursts of movement. These aren’t about being “soft” — they’re about taking back control so you can sleep, focus, and start rebuilding your life. Listen in, practice one of these tools twice a day this week, and notice how much calmer and stronger you feel.

Today's episode is a reframe for your perspective on your breakup. Your breakup is not a tragic ending but an exciting new direction in your life story. In this episode, I discuss how to use travel as a tool for healing and stepping into becoming the main character of your story.

If you ever wanted to get your ex back, listen to this first. I'm not going to tell you what to do, I'm going to help you ask better questions to understand what's happening in your mind and body underneath so that you can solve for the right problem before deciding what you really want.

If It Keeps Happening, It’s Not an Accident If you’re asking yourself, “Why does this keep happening to me?” It’s because it’s not done teaching you yet. Pain can be your greatest teacher, if you’re ready to pass the course. In this episode, learn how to recognize and break patterns of dating the same type of person over and over.

The key points are: Trust is a belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. It involves vulnerability and is earned over time through consistent actions. What are the areas where you trust easily (labeled "green") versus areas where trust is difficult (labeled "yellow" or "red"). This provides insight into your trust patterns. Identify the original rupture of trust, acknowledging any unresolved pain, and releasing the unhelpful beliefs formed as a result. We repeat what we don't repair. Practice discernment - choosing carefully who to share vulnerabilities with and observing how they respond. This builds trust through informed choices, not blind faith.

The key points are: The traditional "no contact" approach is not a one-size-fits-all solution, as some people have to continue interacting with their ex-partner. Instead, the speaker recommends the process of "detachment." Detachment involves decreasing your desire for the relationship and ex-partner, practicing detachment as an ongoing process, setting boundaries to protect your heart, and creating a vision for an exciting future. The speaker encourages the listener to make the decision to detach before feeling ready, as this will help move them out of the painful "limbo" state. Helpful techniques include making a list of things you won't miss about your ex, talking to a "text buddy" instead of reaching out to your ex, and visualizing a positive future. By taking control of the detachment process, you can move forward in a healthy way after the breakup, rather than getting stuck in obsession and pain.

Over the past year, Sarah Curnoles has faced challenges in her own coaching business, including losing consulting work and clients. Sarah went through a period of panic, shame, and self-doubt when her business hit a rough patch. She struggled to follow her own advice about self-compassion and getting out of a "tailspin." To overcome this, Sarah had to work through her feelings of shame and regret, simplify her schedule, and reconnect with the things that bring her joy. She also reached out for support from coaches. Sarah shares this personal story to encourage listeners to take responsibility for getting themselves out of difficult situations, by practicing self-acceptance, letting go of what doesn't serve them, and creating a vision for the future they want. She is offering free 30-minute "coffee chats" to connect with listeners and provide support, as she wants to build a strong community to help people through life's challenges.

We've all been there. We think we're doing great and we're over the ex. And then suddenly it hits us and we can't stop crying, ruminating, and hyper-focusing on the ex. It's like Day 1 of the breakup all over again. I'm here to tell you that your progress wasn't a fluke, all is not lost, and there is hope.

Life Coach Sarah Curnoles discusses the concept of "resistance" - the tendency to hang onto the past and avoid facing the pain of a relationship ending. She shares her own experience with resistance, and explains how it prevents people from looking towards the future and creating a new, better life for themselves. Sarah encourages listeners to get clear on what they truly want in their future, rather than focusing on how to recreate the past relationship. She offers a free coaching consultation to help people work through the resistance and start building the life they desire. This episode provides practical advice and support for healing from a breakup and embracing the possibilities of the future.

The key points are: Morning and evening routines can provide structure, support, and self-care during difficult times like a breakup. They help regulate mood, emotions, and sleep. Morning routines should include consistent wake-up times, hydration, gentle physical movement, and mindful activities like reading or journaling. This helps set a positive tone for the day. Evening routines should focus on winding down, reflection, and preparing for restful sleep. This can include screen time limits, relaxing rituals, and planning for the next day. Routines should be approached as an experiment, starting small and gradually building consistency. Forgiveness is important if a routine is missed.