Episode 261 of It’s You’re Probably Right takes Avril Lavigne’s question—“Why you have to go and make things so complicated?”—and answers it with 20 universal truths for relationships.

00:01:06 – Theme of the Episode
Why do we make relationships so complicated? From riddles and crumbs to silence and excuses—love isn’t meant to be this messy.

00:01:51 – The Promise
20 universal points you can use in any situation with anyone. Each one is simple, practical, and designed to cut through confusion.

00:02:41 – Welcome & Housekeeping

00:03:32 – Point 1: Boundaries Matter More Than Intentions
Intentions without respect mean nothing. Boundaries protect you—enforce them clearly.

00:06:07 – Point 2: Respect Shows in Time, Not Words
Anyone can say they care. Time and consistency reveal the truth.

00:08:52 – Point 3: Mixed Signals Are Still Signals
Confusion is not neutral—it’s avoidance. Treat mixed signals as a no.

00:11:08 – Point 4: Overgiving Creates Imbalance
Giving too much only enables takers. Balance effort to protect your value.

00:14:28 – Point 5: Crumbs Aren’t Commitment
One text, one call, one gesture—crumbs don’t equal real investment.

00:18:15 – Point 6: Avoidance Isn’t Neutrality
Dodging hard talks and intimacy is a choice—not “just space.”

00:21:01 – Point 7: Intimacy Without Reciprocity Is Empty
Physical closeness without respect and consistency is hollow.

00:23:09 – Point 8: Excuses Are Red Flags
“It’s bad timing” or “I’m not ready” often hide disinterest.

00:24:55 – Point 9: Your Worth Isn’t Up for Negotiation
You’re not a bargain deal. If they can’t see your value, move on.

00:28:29 – Point 10: Absence Reveals More Than Presence
How they act when you’re not around says more than their performance when you are.

00:31:24 – Point 11: Professionalism Protects You
Blurring lines in shared spaces creates imbalance—respect yourself first.

00:32:37 – Point 12: Don’t Decode Crumbs
Points 13–15

00:35:27 – Point 13: Healthy Relationships Are Mutual
Partnership means both people initiate, plan, and invest. If only one person is doing the work, it’s not a relationship—it’s a project.

00:38:14 – Point 14: Silence Is Communication
No reply is still a reply. Silence says: “You’re not a priority.” Listen to it, don’t excuse it.

00:41:03 – Point 15: Over-Explaining Your Value Is a Trap
If they don’t see your worth, convincing won’t change their mind. Value needs recognition, not persuasion.

00:44:26 – Point 16: Consistency Is the Real Test
One sweet gesture doesn’t matter—patterns matter. Consistency is the proof of real care.

00:47:36 – Point 17: Respecting Your Own Time Is Power
Stop chasing. Keep your schedule. Let people rise to meet your time, not consume it.

00:50:42 – Point 18: Don’t Mistake Attention for Affection
Likes, glances, compliments—they feel good, but affection is steady and invested. Don’t confuse the two.

00:53:26 – Point 19: Relationships Reveal Character
Stress and pressure show you who people really are. Believe what’s revealed, not the mask.

00:56:34 – Point 20: Clarity Beats Chemistry
Attraction is powerful, but chemistry without clarity is chaos. Choose clarity every time.

01:00:24 – Recap of All 20 Points
Quick review: boundaries, respect, mixed signals, excuses, silence, consistency, clarity, and more—20 universal truths to simplify relationships.

01:03:17 – Closing Thoughts
When love feels complicated, it’s because we’re ignoring the obvious. These points strip away confusion and bring you back to truth: clarity beats complication every time.

Points 16–20Final Recap & Closing01:05:01 – Thank You & Sign-Off
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